Anyone here living with a significant other making it hard to learn and live healthier?
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yangpoua
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I'm trying to change my eating habits and make healthier choices when it comes to food but it's so hard when my BF doesn't really care about changing his life style. We've fallen into a habit of eating out a lot and gaining weight and I don't mind just changing for me but with no support from him, I find myself falling back into that bad habit. Anyone here with the same problem but has overcome it? How do you do it?
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Hubs and I eat out a few times a week. My rule is: they have to have a good salad. He can have whatever he wants, as long as I can get a good salad with a protein on it.
It's all about compromise!10 -
My hubs rolled his eyes and poked fun at my change in eating for awhile. I'm still eating clean 3+ years later. In March of this year, he has finally jumped on the bandwagon! No pushing or any comments from me about it.
It was small steps. When dinner was cooked, I only ate what was healthy no matter what. We slowly began buying organic fresh foods because I wouldn't eat anything that contained "crap" or was processed unhealthily. My dedication to staying clean convinced him I was serious about it and not going to revert back to my old ways.17 -
My husband is 67 years old, 100 lbs. overweight, Type II diabetic. He loves Chinese takeout food, pizza, all kinds of cheap frozen food crap with all the wrong things in it. Most recently, I made a deal with him: if he helps me with the dishes, I will make his favorite comfort foods in nice dinners every night (meaning not my preferred salads, vegetable stirfries, etc.) So I bought Hungry Girl's CLEAN AND HUNGRY cookbook, which is terrific btw, and I am trying to make his favorites but with some control of the ingredients and the calorie count. I don't know about him, but I am losing weight and feeling better!
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I do, I keep telling him, if I has pasta, potatoes or rice, don't ask me. He doesn't understand that. Luckily, chicken wings are an option and I can make that work. I try to do a steak with salad, or I make big meatballs with their spaghetti...It's so hard. On the weekends, he is all about drinking and whooping it up. Its a constant struggle for my mind. But this week, my second week, I finally lost 4 lbs. I am a perma grin and that just gave me more motivation. But now, its Friday again...I CAN DO THIS!9
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I'm from the the south where people believe in socializing with food and drinking. And I use to hang with the best of them. When I started to change my lifestyle 9 years ago because I was 100 lbs over weight it was hard. I just told myself this is my choice my life and my body. I don't tell people what to do with there's so do not tell me what to do with mine. My family would taunt me with food and sometimes win. But you have to put your foot down at some point. Just cause they eat the fried chicken doesn't mean you have too.16
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you have to come to terms that you are more important that making the wrong choices. once you do that, no one will be able in influence or sabotage your journey.5
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my significant other also makes horrible eating choices
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My husband and I are both over weight. I have been eating clean (90% of the time). He is completely against any and all food/diet changes that I am trying to make at home. He is type 2 diabetic and is non-compliant with his diet and meds. I asked him to not bring home junk food or pop anymore. I kid you not the next day he brought home a case of Pepsi and two bags of Doritos!3
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I asked him to not bring home junk food or pop anymore. I kid you not the next day he brought home a case of Pepsi and two bags of Doritos!
This is also what my husband does. I've stopped telling him I'm cleaning up my eating, or that I'm not eating certain foods because they would magically appear in my house shortly after.... It's an uphill battle!
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It's hard for sure when our significant other chooses not to eat the way we do. I'm doing it for myself and although I wish my husband would do it with me, he has to make that commitment for himself. It took news from the doctor to pull myself together and make the commitment to eat healthy for me. Having just finished the Advocare 24-Day Challenge which was extremely difficult but it changed my lifestyle of eating and having joined a fit club and am seeing results just in 30 days. We also have two teens which makes it even more difficult but I cook healthy meals and if the three of them don't like it, I tell them to make their own. They usually end up eating and often times liking what I made. We can all do it - it will take more commitment on our part but we must do it for ourselves.3
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I have been doing really well for the last three months. However my parents and my sister are here from out of state, and it has been really difficult to eat healthy when they are bringing in snacks, cakes, and other "crap" I am trying to avoid. I find that I have to keep that stuff out of my house or I will inevitably eat it. However, I did manage to grill and eat this last night for dinner: grilled wild salmon, grilled Portabella mushrooms, grilled yellow squash, grilled orange bell pepper, grilled green chilies, and shock top Honeycrisp apple wheat beer. Is beer considered clean eating?
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I know the feeling! While my BF is really supportive, he's a bit ignorant (bless that muppet, I love him!). I am cleaning up my eating, as I have found out I have intolerances to gluten and dairy, and my body cannot handle grease anymore (oh how I miss chips!). My BF says "you are doing so well!" which is lovely ... If he wasn't shovelling down a Double Quarter Pounder at the time.
He can eat whatever he wants and still remain really trim (though that doesn't mean he's healthy), and simple things like a burger or even a sandwich become out of my food groups. So he brings home sweets to try and make up for the fact he can eat McDonalds and I can't stop at one sweet, they have to all be gone! I've just cut a hard line - he doesn't eat sweets, so don't buy any, I don't want them.
Thankfully, he doesn't cook so that means dinner is always healthy (for the most part)2 -
My fiancé is not as supportive as I think he should be. I try to eat healthy and he gets mad like for instance if he is eating a greasy burger and I am having a salad he says that I am not spending quality time doing the things together. He can be so crazy sometimes. But the other night he said hey babe Im putting an apple pie in your bag for tomorrow and I said no babe am eating clean he said just a bite wont kill well my son walked and said she said no. She is on a mission stop trying to ruin it for her and he backed off immediately. I am so proud to have my son support me so fully.7
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I cook most of my meals on sundays and freeze them. I've been doing this for 3 weeks now. My bf is not supportive what so ever. In fact, he often comes home bringing me a burger and I feel bad for rejecting it but w.e I get over it. Now I count calories so it makes it easier that I cook and bring my food everywhere because I usually have calories left over. I do not cook all my meals because I take into account that there will be maybe one or two days of the week that we will go out. I am just mindful of what I eat when I go out to not go over my daily calories.
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When you're really ready to make changes, none of that will matter. No excuses will get in your way. That doesn't mean that you can't occasionally indulge or have a few bites but not daily.7
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Also, cook more meals at home. Meal prep a bit if it helps. And plan ahead for better options when eating out.2
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We don't eat out much, but we are both overweight. I'm trying to lose it, but he doesn't seem to care. it is REALLY hard when he comes home from work and sits next to me eating a WHOLE Box of cookies while I'm trying to choke down some fruit/veggies! Like seriously?! He knows I LOVE junk food... it tastes so much better than healthy food!
So yea, I totally understand what you're going through, and I'm right there with you.1 -
I know what your talking about my husband means well but it seems like he wants to bring in snacks a lot and we do go out to eat a lot. I am learning what is best for me and learning to say no. People sometimes in our life is so afraid of change and sometimes I think it is hard to get them on board. I am a Christian and having God in my life has help me so much. I am learning to do bible studies on healthy eating which help me change the way I look at food and people. I found out why I over eat and that was the first step I had to do before losing any weight.2
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we have only been together 1yr and 10mths, he is a total junk food eater, i wish i could change his habits but at 42 he is set in his ways, he only wants preboxed meals, slim jims, moutain dew, ets.....i have gained 40lbs since we have been together and i have to stop this insanity, i will not eat this with him any more...i have gone back to clean eating...he will either get on board or starve, i remind myself that its a habit for him from child hood, i feel its as hard for him to change his eating habits as it is for me to loose weight, its patterned in the brain, i feel the struggles...2
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I love junk food. My significant other keeps it in the house. I have a mantra that I repeat daily, "There will always be more chips (or crackers or candy or mac & cheese or cookies...). These are not the last ones on the face of the earth. You can always go to the store and get more if you want them. You do not have to eat these, today..." It's a lot of work. Be easier if the stuff stayed in the store. But dammit I can do it.6
