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daylitemag
daylitemag Posts: 604 Member
edited December 1 in Social Groups
I have noticed that many of us post various food confessions from time to time (i.e. I just ate an entire bag of Oreos and now I hate myself). I know that personally it can be helpful if I say outload or in print my struggle. For one thing it is a distraction from whatever is concerning me and secondly the support of others is powerful.

I don't expect that everyone should suddenly drop everything to come support me, but just writing it out I find helpful.

I will start off. I adopted this WOE a little over six months ago. I've lost 70 lbs and feel great. However, recently I have had some "slippage" in my resolve. I'm not right off the rails but I'm struggling a bit. I have been eating too many nuts of late. Lots of peanuts and cashews. I know these are good choices from a carb perspective, but too many is not good. I'm eating them at night when I'm not hungry and for me this is a bad sign. It represents a slide back to bad habits. So, tonight I am NOT going eat any nuts and instead I'm confessing here my weakness. I'm going to try to re-commit and get back on plan. Hope you all are having a good keto-day. Cheers, Greg
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  • danidanibobani
    danidanibobani Posts: 125 Member
    Me too! Nuts are my downfall! I had a major slip with macadamia nuts a while back and now I'm back at it with a box of mixed nuts my husband insisted we get. I don't even like cashews and I've been wolfing them down. So, tomorrow, no more nuts! I'm with you!
  • GaleHawkins
    GaleHawkins Posts: 8,159 Member
    danidanibobani wrote: »
    Me too! Nuts are my downfall! I had a major slip with macadamia nuts a while back and now I'm back at it with a box of mixed nuts my husband insisted we get. I don't even like cashews and I've been wolfing them down. So, tomorrow, no more nuts! I'm with you!

    Raw unsalted tree nuts are my go to food after nearly every meal for a while now. I go with the raw and unsalted so I am not eating them for the salt taste. $20-$30 of bulk nuts will last me about a week. Because macadamia nuts are so filling and not so high in sugar is my go to because they help fill the fat requirements of my macro.

    Clearly we all have different tastes and macro needs. I do think we often crave foods due to the body hoping we will give it some missing nutrient/mineral but not all agree.

    dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2923675/What-food-cravings-say-chocolate-sweets-meat-stodgy-carbs-provide-crucial-clues-health.html

  • daylitemag
    daylitemag Posts: 604 Member
    @kathrout1973 I know exactly what you mean. I too have been overweight (I remember vividly the day my Dr. casually referred to me being "morbidly obese" ) my whole adult life. I've gained and lost 100s of pounds and have also wondered if I am unconsciously sabotaging myself.

    @Panda_Poptarts I can relate as well to emotional eating. For me I seem to eat if I'm happy OR if I'm feeling depressed. In general, I've never been able to pin point any specific reason for falling off the wagon. The best I can figure is that I simply lose focus and simply slide back into old and familiar habits. After all it is much easier to just eat what you want, when you want than it is to remain focused. I feel like I have to be constantly on my guard for the rest of my days otherwise I will just end up right back where I started at 300± lbs
  • StephieWillcox
    StephieWillcox Posts: 627 Member
    Last night I ate profiteroles (which I rationalised to myself as "only" 40g carbs).

    It's upsetting to me that I seem to have no self-control. It's not even like I can blame someone else - I was the one that bought them in the first place to "share" with my husband as a treat.

    I AM NOT A DOG, I DO NOT NEED TREATS.

    Gah.

    Every day is a struggle, the only thing I am consistent with is lifting weights and that's because it's fun and I find it mentally extremely useful. I need that sort of dedication to be part of my nutrition too.
  • Sandee_Bee
    Sandee_Bee Posts: 21 Member
    @daylitemag I know the feeling, I have binged many times. Please put it behind you and truck on! On the nuts.. I need to stop buying them. I eat too much and they make me crave crunchy, salty snacks. Good luck!
  • daylitemag
    daylitemag Posts: 604 Member
    @Sandee_Bee I think I have to stop buying them too. I find myself justifying it because I need more sodium in my diet and I try to buy the salties nuts I can find. LOL!

    I'm actually pretty sure that I am some sort of addict who can't control what he eats. It's the only logical explanation for a lifetime bad eating decisions that seem to control me rather than the other way round.
  • Midnightgypsy0
    Midnightgypsy0 Posts: 177 Member
    I only have 5 words....
    Plain salted rippled potato chips.
  • Sandee_Bee
    Sandee_Bee Posts: 21 Member
    @daylitemag Some of us are definitely addicts. I've been overweight since I was a toddler..
  • auntstephie321
    auntstephie321 Posts: 3,586 Member
    I broke down and had a regular bagel breakfast sandwich this am, instead of making one with my oopsie rolls like I did the last two days. It was partially my Benadryl hangover that guided me this morning, and the struggle getting ready made me too irritated to cook something. Yeah I'm making excuses. Its proving to be a rough week and I'm not sure I'll ever get past the food comfort when things are stressful.
  • KnitOrMiss
    KnitOrMiss Posts: 10,103 Member
    Last night, after two unplanned days of intermittent fasting, I was still hungry after dinner. My guy has a Mississippi Mud Chocolate Creme Cake. I joked with him that I was temped to cut off the bottom inch or two and let him have the frosted/nutty junk and just eat the cake, which in moderation, I've included periodically while still maintaining decent losses.

    I finally felt like I was back in control of my inner sugar junkie/insulin monster, and I wanted something else and I was thinking low carb stuff, but I knew it would still trigger me. Then he starts going on about the cake needs to be eaten as it's close to date, and next thing I know, between us, we've wiped out HALF OF THE DAMNED CAKE - him eating the tops, me the bottoms...

    Like really? I was making decent progress, only minor sugar cravings and crap...and FACEPLANT. I was so mad, because I was hostage-negotiating with myself the whole time. It's okay, no frosting, I only want a few bites, blah blah blah. I forgot to get on the scale today until I was half dressed, and I was already running late, so no time to get undressed and weigh and all that.

    I've been including some workouts in, and the IF had happened naturally, but I think the lower than normal calories affected my food satiety settings or something... So frustrating, and now this morning, my stomach is upset, I've been in the bathroom off and on for way longer than normal, and all my brain/body/addictive chemicals are trying to get me to do is find some carbs in which to faceplant further. SIGH
  • krazyforyou
    krazyforyou Posts: 1,428 Member
    I myself am a sugar junkie, its doesn't matter as long as its sugar
  • auntstephie321
    auntstephie321 Posts: 3,586 Member
    @knitormiss (((hugs))) <3 eat some fat, that usually helps me. heck drink some heavy cream, you won't feel much like eating after that lol
  • Jan93L
    Jan93L Posts: 178 Member
    I thought I could handle some low carb wrap breads over the last few days , but they have triggered carbs cravings. Last night I found myself polishing off half a bag of Sun Chips and 8 ginger snaps. Ugh! Haven't had that many carbs , grain based , things for months. Trying to get back on track today. I don't know which came first , the " feeling sorry for myself, lonesome blues" or the grain triggered cravings.
  • Wakey618
    Wakey618 Posts: 160 Member
    I don't even know what to say here. I am up & down & up & down. It's 10:30 a.m. and I've had almost 1,000 calories and who knows how many carbs. Pot luck at work, only 10' away from me. Why don't I give a *kitten*? So disgusted with myself and all I can think about is going back for more...
  • kimmydear
    kimmydear Posts: 298 Member
    My youngest wanted to make cupcakes together. No problem, I don't care at all about the cake. But the frosting somehow got licked off 2-3 of those cupcakes. There's my confession!
  • Wakey618
    Wakey618 Posts: 160 Member
    kimmydear wrote: »
    ...the frosting somehow got licked off 2-3 of those cupcakes...
    LOL!!!

  • vilenski193
    vilenski193 Posts: 49 Member
    I love you all that you are so honest !!! I have been having the last two days a Pringles fest!!!! Stress is definitely the culprit and trying to go a little less fat!!! No that we have confessed all our sins and weight go away right
  • squeekersmom
    squeekersmom Posts: 107 Member
    I can't have any treats around me. Yesterday I was at the park with my daughter and grandchildren, my daughter brought my granddaughter donut holes. Before I knew it I had one in my mouth?? Did I enjoy it ,,no. But I had to have it. Same as a small handful of bits and bites...I grabbed the bag and dipped my hand in. I cannot control myself yet. I did stop after that though. Asked myself what the heck am I doing,,,and went to play with the kids. No self control.
  • LowCarbInScotland
    LowCarbInScotland Posts: 1,027 Member
    baconslave wrote: »
    daylitemag wrote: »
    I have noticed that many of us post various food confessions from time to time (i.e. I just ate an entire bag of Oreos and now I hate myself). I know that personally it can be helpful if I say outload or in print my struggle. For one thing it is a distraction from whatever is concerning me and secondly the support of others is powerful.

    I don't expect that everyone should suddenly drop everything to come support me, but just writing it out I find helpful.

    I will start off. I adopted this WOE a little over six months ago. I've lost 70 lbs and feel great. However, recently I have had some "slippage" in my resolve. I'm not right off the rails but I'm struggling a bit. I have been eating too many nuts of late. Lots of peanuts and cashews. I know these are good choices from a carb perspective, but too many is not good. I'm eating them at night when I'm not hungry and for me this is a bad sign. It represents a slide back to bad habits. So, tonight I am NOT going eat any nuts and instead I'm confessing here my weakness. I'm going to try to re-commit and get back on plan. Hope you all are having a good keto-day. Cheers, Greg

    Am I contagious?
    The saying, "It all started with the nuts..." came from me.
    Or at least I say it a lot. A large sigh usually follows. It helps though that my quite recent bout of food poisoning...well it began to manifest finally (food poisoning can take up to 72 hours to finally wreck us) after I had eaten a bunch of peanuts and cashews. I don't think I'm going to eat them again too soon. The lava burps tasted like them. :confounded: I'm sure I'll find something else to get in trouble with. rolleyes_2011.gif


    daylitemag wrote: »
    @Sandee_Bee I think I have to stop buying them too. I find myself justifying it because I need more sodium in my diet and I try to buy the salties nuts I can find. LOL!

    I'm actually pretty sure that I am some sort of addict who can't control what he eats. It's the only logical explanation for a lifetime bad eating decisions that seem to control me rather than the other way round.

    There are definitely addictive personalities. My mother has one. And I do. I got rid of, mostly, the sweets (I seriously go into a fog where I see myself grabbing and stuffing stuff in my face, hiding the eating and wrappers--addictive behavior without a doubt), so then I use the nuts, if I manage to kick the nuts for a time, it's then the booze. I was addicted to social media, broke away, then I read free Kindle books until my eyes about fell out and my husband about ripped his hair out. Now I low-carb/nutrition/fitness obsess. At least with this last one, it has a positive side that spils over into my family. And I've instituted a NO books or screens after the kids go to bed, so hubby is happy.
    I do have a point. People like us need to find somewhere to channel our addiction tendencies that not only contains it, but makes it net a positive. I'm still working on the food part. I think that I'm working it out, though. It's a process. :blush:
    But the other part, I've got a handle on.

    We have to figure out how to hack our brains so that it's not "the House" that always wins; it's US. You not buying the nuts at all, that's a brain hack. One of mine is that I pre-log my entire day the night before. I find I just follow the easy path right in my face. And then if I get "hungry" after I've eaten it all, then I chew gum. Gum in the mouth avoids hand-stuffing-food-in-the-mouth. Bedtime is a cup of stevia sweetened Sleepytime Tea or Cinnamon Apple Spice (brain thinks I've had a sweet). Once I'm in bed, I'm good. I'm not going to go downstairs and risk ridicule from the other-half to raid the kitchen. It takes being crafty and ruthless with ourselves, and being willing to try different strategies. Thinking outside the box will reward you with greater mastery of parts of yourself you thought were going to rule you forever. It takes time, and some failure then regrouping, but it's so worth it.

    Humans are going to screw-up. It's what we do best. But it isn't the mistake that defines us, it's how we recover from it and what we do with the aftermath that makes us.

    I am definitely a food addict. I smoked cigarettes from age 15 to 25. One day I decided to quit and I did, cold turkey, no smoking cessation aids, I've never had another cigarette to this day. Some days I wish I could quit food, quitting is easier than trying to moderate my behaviour. I went through a heavy drinking phase for a few years in my early 20's, but when I was done, it was no biggie, I never felt that urge and overwhelming drive to drink the way I do with food.

    That's why this woe works well for me, I've basically quit carbs. I eat some, but my limits are so restrictive that it's easy to say no, I can't eat that.

    However, my confession is 28 processed cheese crackers in two days for a whopping 40 carbs from wheat flour. I couldn't tell you when I had a flour product last. I'm usually at 15-25 net carbs most days and it's from veg and dairy products and broth, I don't touch grains as its a slippery slope for me.

    I didn't feel well for a couple of days and hadn't eaten much other than some broth and scrambled eggs, so hunger was catching up to me. I still wasn't well and didn't have the energy to prepare a proper meal, so I resorted to a box of Gouda crackers I had recently purchased, topped with salami. 4 crackers in and I decided I needed 4 more, followed by 4 more. Shamefully I put them away and repeated the same process the next day until the whole box was done. Fortunately they only had 1.4 g carbs each, but the fact that they were low carb just made it easier for me to justify stuffing my face with them.

    Thank goodness my blood sugar hasn't been impacted much. I've been walking a lot lately, so that probably helped. But those crackers are not allowed back in my house.
  • Time2LoseWeightNOW
    Time2LoseWeightNOW Posts: 1,730 Member
    Right with you!! , except mine has been a box of Little Debbie peanut wafer bars...you know the ones? Like StephieWilcox said she did, I bought them for my husband....sure..... I did!! Did he get any of them...I think not! 'cause I was in there every night eating one... They came in singles...with white chocolate coating the springtime version.... I WILL NOT buy any more...for him .....lol 'cause he can't eat them fast enough to keep me out of them..
  • Time2LoseWeightNOW
    Time2LoseWeightNOW Posts: 1,730 Member
    @vilenski193.... I can't have Pringles anywhere near me...or it's over!! : )
  • gettinthere
    gettinthere Posts: 529 Member
    I've been so incredibly happy with this WOE and have lost 18lbs since the end of March. Saturday was my BFF's bday BBQ and I did well until the coconut cake came out...so I had a small sliver and tried to move on. The next day she brought the rest of the cake over for my kids....but guess who got into the coconut frosting (yep, me)! So I finally tossed it in the trash. But last night I made cookies with my son...and after a long day of dealing with family stress I started in on the cookie dough...then proceeded to have a whole baked cookie! I finally just went to bed, disappointed that now it's been 3 days this week of caving in. Today's a new day, thanks for starting this!!
  • auntstephie321
    auntstephie321 Posts: 3,586 Member
    Wakey618 wrote: »
    I don't even know what to say here. I am up & down & up & down. It's 10:30 a.m. and I've had almost 1,000 calories and who knows how many carbs. Pot luck at work, only 10' away from me. Why don't I give a *kitten*? So disgusted with myself and all I can think about is going back for more...

    don't be disgusted with yourself. we are only human and lots of food tastes really good. try changing your mindset on how this works. it's not an all or nothing deprivation stage of life. this is your life, its going to be everyday, make the best choices you can most of the time. if you find yourself every single day going to stuff that is going to affect you reaching your goals, then that's a issue that needs working through. but one day of stuffing your face with things that taste yummy but you don't want to allow yourself to eat currently, is not going to ruin things.

    I know in the beginning the first thought when we slip up is, why can't I do this, why am I sabotaging myself. but think about it, there are healthy fit people out there that eat cupcakes from time to time, they just don't live off them, then they get back to their healthy lifestyle. I think often times starting out we are so eager to change that its really all or nothing. I know I'm like that personally and its taken me years of success and failure to learn that I'm going to eat chocolate and ice cream and Italian bread, I am, there is no way around it. I will never stop eating that stuff (of course if it caused a reaction to me like this f'ing poison ivy did, then I'd never look at it again)

    so I eat it, I still track, I'm not perfect, some days I don't want any crap others I do, and I work it in and have success regardless. maybe not as fast but I need it but its hopefully going to be sustainable for me in the long run.
  • auntstephie321
    auntstephie321 Posts: 3,586 Member
    Time2LoseWeightNOW wrote: »
    @vilenski193.... I can't have Pringles anywhere near me...or it's over!! : )

    cheddar sour cream baked lays for me. I used to buy them and portion them out into little baggies. now I just don't buy them unless I plan to eat the entire bag. oh and doritos, those are for special occasions lol. as a teen I ate one of the medium sized bags of those every single day.
  • Wakey618
    Wakey618 Posts: 160 Member
    auntstephie321 wrote: »
    Wakey618 wrote: »
    I don't even know what to say here. I am up & down & up & down. It's 10:30 a.m. and I've had almost 1,000 calories and who knows how many carbs. Pot luck at work, only 10' away from me. Why don't I give a *kitten*? So disgusted with myself and all I can think about is going back for more...

    don't be disgusted with yourself. we are only human and lots of food tastes really good. try changing your mindset on how this works. it's not an all or nothing deprivation stage of life. this is your life, its going to be everyday, make the best choices you can most of the time. if you find yourself every single day going to stuff that is going to affect you reaching your goals, then that's a issue that needs working through. but one day of stuffing your face with things that taste yummy but you don't want to allow yourself to eat currently, is not going to ruin things.

    I know in the beginning the first thought when we slip up is, why can't I do this, why am I sabotaging myself. but think about it, there are healthy fit people out there that eat cupcakes from time to time, they just don't live off them, then they get back to their healthy lifestyle. I think often times starting out we are so eager to change that its really all or nothing. I know I'm like that personally and its taken me years of success and failure to learn that I'm going to eat chocolate and ice cream and Italian bread, I am, there is no way around it. I will never stop eating that stuff (of course if it caused a reaction to me like this f'ing poison ivy did, then I'd never look at it again)

    so I eat it, I still track, I'm not perfect, some days I don't want any crap others I do, and I work it in and have success regardless. maybe not as fast but I need it but its hopefully going to be sustainable for me in the long run.

    o:) Excellent - thank you!!!
  • Panda_Poptarts
    Panda_Poptarts Posts: 971 Member
    @daylitemag Thanks for the reply! I'm really in the same boat as you. As soon as I cave once, the rest of the day is a major battle. I also seem to be a constant grazer. It's challenging to stay out of the kitchen. Moreso because I work from home, so I'm always like 50 feet from food LOL. I recognize that during periods of stress, I make many, many more trips to the kitchen for nibbles and bites. I do log what I eat, and I even weigh it, so that's good. I rarely go over my calorie goal, but the constant grazing makes me feel super out of control. I want to sit down to 3 square and a snack and be satisfied.
  • Time2LoseWeightNOW
    Time2LoseWeightNOW Posts: 1,730 Member
    Quote...isn't working for me for some reason...probably operator error...

    LOL @auntstephie321...yes, those are definitely off limits, too...well any kind of chip really.....since I am in a 12 step sorta' place while being recovering chipaholic.
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