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RowdysLady

So, I have to tell someone... I lost my job Friday. A job I'd had over a year with no issues because a new Director came in and decided she didn't like remote employees. So I, who lives in East Texas, lost my job in Atlanta, Ga because this woman wants her employees under her thumb all the time. I'm not speculating because she told me just that. I had worked as a contractor for over a year and her boss hired me as perm the week she started and she had always been angry about it. Just as my 90 days as a perm employee came up, she fired me.

I'm fortunate in that I'm pretty employable and I have already gotten my resume out to new companies but honestly, I can't get past the anger I feel over the situation. I'm so angry that she got away with it. I don't think trying to fight it is worth it since even if they did retain me, she'd be so angry she'd find a way to fire me later. So I let it go.

I can't sleep now at night because I lay there worrying - will I really find a new job? (in the light of day I know I will) How will I pay my bills until I do find a new job? (Yep, stuff is already behind now because I'm trying to conserve). Will I find another work from home position? (probably not, that was a pretty sweet deal)...and on and on...

I really do know it will be ok. I know I'll find work. I know I won't lose my house or land. I know I'll do great with the new position etc. Anyway, I though that maybe getting it out in the open with people other than family would help me sleep better tonight. This is the most supportive bunch of people and I feel completely safe in sharing this personal detail with all of you. Thanks for allowing me to do that.

LINIA

I agree, sharing helps---and you'll be able to more easily step forward now that you've vented.

During our journey we do meet or are exposed to people who have a "bone to chew"...in your case, and i'm guessing, she must have someone in mind for your position. Perhaps a relative, who knows.
I always think in these situations, there are facts that we're just not aware of having an impact.

Stay strong and take good care of yourself.

KenSmith108

I'm sure everything will work out for you.



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RowdysLady

Thank you both! I know in the light of day it will be fine...but boy these sleepless nights are killing me! You ever have a recurring bad dream as a kid and your parent told you to share it and it'd go away? That's what I'm hoping my post does for me. Appreciate the support so much!

karebear5891

Everything will work out. Even with your (justified) anger, it's plain to see that you have a realistically positive view of the situation. I think it's healthy to have a good balance of realism and positivity. I hope it works out for you sooner rather than later, and keep your chin up! I'm glad you vented here, b/c it helps to let things out. I've been screwed over by my company a couple times. Unfortunately, my options were either sell my house and move, make my life even harder, or suck it up and deal. Fortunately, it all worked out in the end, when I kept a positive attitude, and they wound up giving me back everything I took away only in a better position. I know that's not entirely possible in your situation, but it can often work out for the better later on. At the time, my boyfriend of over a year up and moved across the country with 2 weeks notice and I lost all my job benefits in about a month. I was in a bad place, but I persevered and it got better. I got my benefits back with better hours at a better office (and got to keep my build up of vacation time b/c it was the same company), and I met someone new that helped me find my self confidence, again. Not trying to take over your feed, but I hope my story with a similar experience helps.

canadjineh

Here's reviews of the top online job search engines. You are more likely to find a company that appreciates remote employees this way. You will come out of this with flying colours! Concentrate on taking deep breaths when you notice you are feeling tension from thinking about the situation. ((((hugs))))
http://www.reviews.com/job-sites/job-search-engines/

RowdysLady

Thanks for sharing @Karebear5891

@canadjineh Thanks for the link. Every option helps!

kpk54

When one door closes another door opens. Trust me. It is true. Been there with corporate downsizing. Something better is waiting for you to find it.

morrowsarah

You will find something soon. I'm so sorry your boss was such a pain.....that's ridiculous. Good luck! Keep your chin up.

KarlaYP

Bless your heart for your stress! I'm so sorry for your problem! Thankfully you have a degree that is fairly stable, and desirable. I understand the desire to work from home. Maybe applying with the larger insurance carriers who hire RNs to keep contact with their patients... Best of luck with your job search!

Btw: I would be very ticked off too!

LemonMarmalade

So so sorry you had to deal with that!!! Even though you know you will be ok and have counted your blessings, at first it is such a shock! I don't have the answers and I live just far enough away from ATL that I can't go give your boss the "stank eye" look for you! I wish they had that emoji...Lol But! I am praying for you and your family. No doubt you will come out of this experience all the better for it!!

SamandaIndia

Hugs and success on the job hunt. We have massive reorganisation right now so I can relate to what you are experiencing. Wishing you sleep and continued courage.

becwana

I'm sorry that has happened to you.
I have been made redundant 3 times in my life.
The first time I was only 19 and spent my payment in lieu on a trip to Australia - blew all my money but it was worth it.
The second time I came out of a profession I hated and temped - I was placed in a youth advice centre and was given opportunities to retrain, discovered I lived helping people and met some of the best friends I've ever had.
The final time I applied for and got a better paid job that I enjoy more and has way more opportunities and have made even more brilliant friends. My point is......
Sometimes things that seem really bad actually turn out to be amazing. I am grateful for every time I was made redundant as it moved me on to new experiences and people.
Go with the flow, see where life takes you next - you will be fine xx

Sarahb29

I'm sorry that happened to you. I've seen people lose their IT jobs because they were sent offshore and it's a tough thing to watch. Big companies wanting to save a few bucks so they made people in our group train their replacements that went offshore. Scary with all these trade bills like NAFTA and the TPP just ship off jobs elsewhere.

It's tough but you'll get through it and find something else. I'm not sure what you did for work but I really like online tutorial sites like lynda.com to bring my training up to speed when I'm job hunting. There's basic classes for the new versions of microsoft office, outlook and there's general "how to get the promotion" type of videos, or if you want something complex there's programming tutorials on there too. All sorts of things!

Best of luck!

arkansasteriann

stress in the middle of the night is the very worst. ugh! I hope you find your dream job soon. Best of luck to you.

Shells918

RowdysLady wrote: »

So, I have to tell someone... I lost my job Friday. A job I'd had over a year with no issues because a new Director came in and decided she didn't like remote employees. So I, who lives in East Texas, lost my job in Atlanta, Ga because this woman wants her employees under her thumb all the time. I'm not speculating because she told me just that. I had worked as a contractor for over a year and her boss hired me as perm the week she started and she had always been angry about it. Just as my 90 days as a perm employee came up, she fired me.

I'm fortunate in that I'm pretty employable and I have already gotten my resume out to new companies but honestly, I can't get past the anger I feel over the situation. I'm so angry that she got away with it. I don't think trying to fight it is worth it since even if they did retain me, she'd be so angry she'd find a way to fire me later. So I let it go.

I can't sleep now at night because I lay there worrying - will I really find a new job? (in the light of day I know I will) How will I pay my bills until I do find a new job? (Yep, stuff is already behind now because I'm trying to conserve). Will I find another work from home position? (probably not, that was a pretty sweet deal)...and on and on...

I really do know it will be ok. I know I'll find work. I know I won't lose my house or land. I know I'll do great with the new position etc. Anyway, I though that maybe getting it out in the open with people other than family would help me sleep better tonight. This is the most supportive bunch of people and I feel completely safe in sharing this personal detail with all of you. Thanks for allowing me to do that.

Being angry is a normal response. I got laid off from a job and a company I thought I'd retire from. It's been 8 years and I've had better job and it still pisses me off.

Take a bit of time to feel those feelings and then tackle your job search as if it were your job.

If you worked from home you're likely to be disciplined, so just take that work time and turn it into job search time.

Get your resume together, references and an elevator speech (90 seconds about you and why you should be hired). Then start looking. A lot of companies are hiring remote employees these days so you might be able to find something.

PM me if you need help or just an ear. I've been a job/employee coach for many years. No charge. It is a gift to help others.

RowdysLady

Thank you again to everyone! I love the encouragement so much. Because I do so much contract work I have placement companies in my back pocket and I'm sure something will open soon. I'm one of those people that always keeps my resume up to date because I am always doing something new. If I didn't update it as I went along I'd forget what needed to be added!

In the grand scheme of things I'm fortunate and employable so that's all good. I appreciate reading that others think my being upset is normal. This has helped a lot.

nvmomketo

(((hugs)))
You sound like you have a great attitude about it! It isn't fair. It is annoying and scary but future prospects look fine. I hope you get something new soon so you can get rid of this worry quickly.

DittoDan

What do you do for a living? Or what are your skills?

Dan

RowdysLady

@DittoDan I'm an RN with an MHA. Since 2007 I've worked in the Quality/Risk/Clinical Doc. Improvement arena.

PamamaJane

Okay, I've debated with myself whether or not to post this. If you don't get my sick sense of humor, just ignore me. Here goes --

You wrote before about some jerk in a red pick-up. Well, now you've had to deal with his mother!

Sorry, I told you it was sick.

mandycat223

From the perspective of age 70 (48 of them spent in Corporate America) I can tell you that if even one-tenth of the things I've agonized over had actually happened I'd either be a bag lady, in jail or dead.

And, if it's some small comfort, turds like that boss eventually get their just desserts, even when it takes WAAAAAY longer than it should. (Unless you're Larry Ellison, of course.)

SamandaIndia

@mandycat223 love your message. Made me smile.

RowdysLady

PamamaJane wrote: »

Okay, I've debated with myself whether or not to post this. If you don't get my sick sense of humor, just ignore me. Here goes --

You wrote before about some jerk in a red pick-up. Well, now you've had to deal with his mother!

Sorry, I told you it was sick.

Love it!

RowdysLady

mandycat223 wrote: »

From the perspective of age 70 (48 of them spent in Corporate America) I can tell you that if even one-tenth of the things I've agonized over had actually happened I'd either be a bag lady, in jail or dead.

And, if it's some small comfort, turds like that boss eventually get their just desserts, even when it takes WAAAAAY longer than it should. (Unless you're Larry Ellison, of course.)

Thank you. You are correct of course!

DittoDan

RowdysLady wrote: »

@DittoDan I'm an RN with an MHA. Since 2007 I've worked in the Quality/Risk/Clinical Doc. Improvement arena.

Is this a job where you evaluate hospital practices? Or how can you work for a hospital from afar?

Dan

RowdysLady

@DittoDan I typically manage a group of people or am director of a department that analyzes medical records during the inpatient stay to ensure the providers have accurately captured all of the diagnoses with the most accurate specificity and acuity. Most medical records are electronic these days, so yes, the work can be done from afar. In my last role I provided analytics and education for the front line staff.

RowdysLady

Thanks for all the words of encouragement! I wanted to post an update: I start my new job Monday back with my contract company but for another hospital system. I'll still get to work remotely and I'll be making a lot more money than I did at the perm job in Atlanta. Everything does work out, doesn't it? Maybe now I'll stop obsessing over how people can get away with doing things like that. Thanks everyone! This site is such great support in so many ways!!

retirehappy

RowdysLady wrote: »

Thanks for all the words of encouragement! I wanted to post an update: I start my new job Monday back with my contract company but for another hospital system. I'll still get to work remotely and I'll be making a lot more money than I did at the perm job in Atlanta. Everything does work out, doesn't it? Maybe now I'll stop obsessing over how people can get away with doing things like that. Thanks everyone! This site is such great support in so many ways!!

The upside of contracting is there is always some work, some where and these days a lot of it is remote. Glad you found something so quickly. As for that person who fired you, she probably hates her job! And that kind of karma has a way of coming back around.

Next time you're at the Canton Trade Days, have a turkey leg and think of me. They don't have them around here.

KarlaYP

Congratulations on the new job, and the raise to go with it!!

DianaElena76

Yay! So glad for your happy ending... or beginning!