Why do I keep giving up and going back!?

kellyb1285

I really succeeded with friends from MFP to boost me on...I do soooo well and think yea this is me... Then I give it up and I'm way back up to my starting weight. I'm so so fed up with this I want to change but find the motivation so hard with a full time family, full time management role in my job and life....
If anyone is in same position or even been there and has advice please feel free to add me...I'm actually at the point where I'm Considering the only option is a gastric band.

Thanks for reading
Kelly, I'm Scotland, UK

Byronic_Ryu

When you mean give up, do you mean the primal/paleo diet or just with weight management in general? I have to be on a strict diet similar to primal and it is very hard because I am permanently disabled with severe illnesses. I don't have a lot of support in real life so I can't really ask someone to help me make meals or to cook for me. Keeping recipes and meals simple, using kitchen tools that help save time and labor (such as a food processor), and keeping a pros and benefits list has helped me stay on track most of the time.

Songbird1104

Kelly, don't give up on yourself. You've had success with primal/paleo, so you know that surgery is not the "only option". I personally know about a dozen people who got some type of weight loss surgery, and every single one of them - except for one - has gone back to or exceeded their starting weight because they never changed their eating habits and coaxed their stomachs to stretch over time. If a person doesn't change their eating habits pre-op, they won't change them post-op once they get back to normal. So already having had experience and success changing your diet, I know you can do it and find a system that works for you!

Maybe it would help to prepare stuff ahead of time? I also have a full time family and it is not easy to eat well, especially when running errands and the temptation is there to grab a fast lunch. But planning ahead can make a huge difference in diet! Bring salads to work, blend up smoothies or make up bunch of mini quiches and freeze them for breakfast, etc. A little bit of preparation makes the whole week easier, I promise. You can do this! I too have had great success with primal/paleo and then fell off the wagon, but am getting back on now. It is frustrating, I know, because we wish it were easier. The truth is it IS extra work, but anything that is worth doing is worth working for, and we both know it's so rewarding! You can do it, Kelly!

bostonwolf

Also, think about WHY you keep failing. Is there something mentally getting in your way? You might need to get your head straight (figuratively speaking) first and then the rest will follow much easier.

Personally, I try to change my mindframe for "I need to do..." to "I will do..."

I also try to plan as much of my eating as possible. I'll make a big crockpot of Paleo chili, stew, whatever and then freeze portions. I can usually get about 10, which is two weeks worth of work lunches. I'll also bring a 1.5oz bag of nuts (that I measure from a bigger bag into snack bags) and a few pieces of fruit in case I get hungry before or after lunch. Then dinner is protein and some veggies. The less you have to think, the less of an option you give yourself the more likely you are succeed. I sometimes just pre-log my food for the entire day.

When I get into trouble is when I get lazy and don't have food options ready at hand. That happens to everyone, so don't fret it and don't let it cascade. Just say "hey, I *kitten* up today and that's OK. Tomorrow morning I'm back in the saddle." And then do it.

I'd also purge your house of anything that might be a temptation and, if necessary, avoid restaurants until you get your new habits locked in. That usually takes a few months. For me this part also meant limiting time spent with friends who I knew would push me to do things that were outside of the plan and counter to my goals. Find friends with the habits and body that you want and emulate them.

Good luck, you can do this without surgery

joybedford

Hi I know how you feel I too had great success with paleo but my husband isn't very supportive and criticised me regularly. I have lots of health problems which I know are helped by paleo but it's just getting back into it. Personally I find breakfast really difficult I just don't like eating cooked things for breakfast. I need to get back into this though my weight is creeping up and my health has deteriorated rapidly in the past 4 months. I have gone from running half marathons and lifting weights regularly to struggling to walk the dog. I hate what I have become and this is affecting my mental health too. Good luck to us both.

Gianfranco_R

joybedford wrote: »

Hi I know how you feel I too had great success with paleo but my husband isn't very supportive and criticised me regularly. I have lots of health problems which I know are helped by paleo but it's just getting back into it. Personally I find breakfast really difficult I just don't like eating cooked things for breakfast. I need to get back into this though my weight is creeping up and my health has deteriorated rapidly in the past 4 months. I have gone from running half marathons and lifting weights regularly to struggling to walk the dog. I hate what I have become and this is affecting my mental health too. Good luck to us both.

Probably you are not very hungry in the morning, you may consider just to skip breakfast, at least occasionally.
That being said, in summer my favorite breakfast is melon and prosciutto (even if the latter is not really paleo because very high in sodium).
Banana pancakes in the weekend
Some ideas:
http://paleo.com.au/80-paleo-breakfast-ideas/

homesweeths

Joy, my situation sounds a lot like yours except the husband part. My husband will eat whatever I cook, so I guess if there's any blame for my long slide down from the good paleo/ primal did for me, it's all on me.

I've been struggling with a refrigerator that freezes everything. I finally convinced dh, I think, that the expense of repair would be better money spent than the veggies I throw out because they froze or spoiled (if I left them on the counter instead of "refrigerating" and didn't use them in a day or two). I've stopped buying tender greens, which is a bummer because salad is such a great meal in the summer.

I hope we can get a repair person out soon, and it's an easy fix...

KarlaYP

Remember that even with weight loss surgery your food choices have to change to sustain the weight loss that comes from the surgery. Many people convince themselves (me included) that they can eat whatever they want because they can't eat much of it. At first this is true, but it becomes easier to eat foods after a while, and the weight creeps back on. The only successful weight loss surgery outcomes are when people change their food choices!

Good luck to you!