SuperDorkLori
SuperCarLori
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So, little about me:
I'm awkward. Not in a cute way.
I am a loner, but enjoy socializing here.
I'm witty, but at times it takes me a moment to configure an apt response, by which time everyone else has moved on...
I'm a tad insecure, in the back of my mind I'm feeling like 'get to the point, Lori, nobody gives a *kitten* about who you are' which I realize is untrue, but I like to avoid confrontation with that *kitten* in the back of my mind
Anywho, point is..my OH thinks, and this is rational, that I'm engaging in addictive behavior by spending the time I spend socializing on here. Which, logically, I get it. I totally get it, I engage in addictive behaviors. I was an addict for seventeen years, I get it. See, he'd be like OH GOD, WHY WOULD YOU TELL STRANGERS THAT? Well, because I don't give a *kitten* what people think about what I've done. The good ones will be interested in me because of who I am NOW, and my past helped sharpen me.
But, anyway...I like to socialize. I like the back and forth of debate. And I like it from the safety of my home. I don't hang out with people, I don't go to the club. I don't do the gym.
I'm effectively anti-social in real life.
But I digress. He says it's feeding my eating disorder to spend the time I spend here. I call *kitten*. I quit other forms of social media, because...oh just because reasons. (Pm me, maybe I'll explain)
So...could I do keto without mfp? Um, hell yes.
Do I want to? Hell no.
I like you guys. Granted, my personality is not for everyone, but I feel like I've found enough of my tribe to be able to freely express my pov, and be considered valid.
Maybe he's feeling a bit left out...
I just wanted some opinions, because I've considered backing away...because I could...what do you think? Could hanging out here be considered disordered?
I'm awkward. Not in a cute way.
I am a loner, but enjoy socializing here.
I'm witty, but at times it takes me a moment to configure an apt response, by which time everyone else has moved on...
I'm a tad insecure, in the back of my mind I'm feeling like 'get to the point, Lori, nobody gives a *kitten* about who you are' which I realize is untrue, but I like to avoid confrontation with that *kitten* in the back of my mind
Anywho, point is..my OH thinks, and this is rational, that I'm engaging in addictive behavior by spending the time I spend socializing on here. Which, logically, I get it. I totally get it, I engage in addictive behaviors. I was an addict for seventeen years, I get it. See, he'd be like OH GOD, WHY WOULD YOU TELL STRANGERS THAT? Well, because I don't give a *kitten* what people think about what I've done. The good ones will be interested in me because of who I am NOW, and my past helped sharpen me.
But, anyway...I like to socialize. I like the back and forth of debate. And I like it from the safety of my home. I don't hang out with people, I don't go to the club. I don't do the gym.
I'm effectively anti-social in real life.
But I digress. He says it's feeding my eating disorder to spend the time I spend here. I call *kitten*. I quit other forms of social media, because...oh just because reasons. (Pm me, maybe I'll explain)
So...could I do keto without mfp? Um, hell yes.
Do I want to? Hell no.
I like you guys. Granted, my personality is not for everyone, but I feel like I've found enough of my tribe to be able to freely express my pov, and be considered valid.
Maybe he's feeling a bit left out...
I just wanted some opinions, because I've considered backing away...because I could...what do you think? Could hanging out here be considered disordered?
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Hanging out here could be considered "disordered" if it were interfering with other areas of your life (work, health, relationships, etc.). Anything taken to extremes can be unhealthy and/or considered addictive behavior.
That said, you sound like you are a classic introvert, and I see nothing wrong with that. I'm in the same boat. I get most of my social interactions online, and I'm comfortable with that. Once a month a group from work goes to happy hour, and I enjoy that now that I know more of the people who go. At first it was nerve wracking wondering if I was saying the right things and engaging appropriately. And I completely identify with your statement "I'm witty, but at times it takes me a moment to configure an apt response, by which time everyone else has moved on." That is why it is so much easier to socialize in the context of a forum like this, where we can think, carefully word our responses, and edit as needed before posting.
Only you can determine whether you spend "too much" time here. I hope you are keeping it at a healthy level, because I sure would miss your posts if you stopped hanging out with us!6 -
The time I spend I've been treating much like a reward...I'll do these dishes, then spend five minutes, I'll jump on the trampoline, then spend five minutes..etc. Except for my morning silent coffee/wake up time, which I spend here.
I don't think it's anywhere near as ridiculous as facebook, which I used to spend hours a day! I literally deleted that. There were other reasons, but I watch Mr. Jones, some of you will catch that drift.2 -
Uh... How did OH get on the committee to decide how you spend your time? Self-nominated and self-elected?
OK... Is your time with your LCD buds causing you to:
1. Eat too much?
2. Eat unhealthy foods?
3. Not learn about scientific progress in the areas of nutrition and metabolic health?
4. Not learn from experiences others have had following similar paths?
5. Not support others who could benefit from your knowledge, compassion, and cheerful, positive ways?
6. Acquire new health problems?
7. Gain weight?
8. Need more meds?
9. Have occasional diarrhea?
Last one is a trick question... answer doesn't matter (Actually, none of them matter - it's self-graded!)
You're the best - Please Don't Leave!
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Yeah, he's one of those nurturing, daddy knows best, borderline control freak types. I enjoy rebelling Lolol.
I love the points you make. Thanks for the diarrhea.3 -
It's clear his motivation is concern for you, but perhaps it is coming from a place, like you said, where he feels kind of left out. I think my hubby feels that way a bit, too. I used to get up on weekend mornings, make my coffee, load up whatever MMORPG we were playing together and hang with him on the game, but now I socialize with you guys. He's over there on his game, and I haven't played in weeks now, but he hasn't said anything to me about it. Personally, I feel that it's more positive for me to come here and talk with you guys, read things, learn things, find recipes, and meet some kindred spirits, than it is to don my pixel self and run around casting magic at pixel creatures. I don't judge him for wanting to spend his time that way, but I consider it like I'm taking a break from that.
He gets that this is important to me, and I'm sure your hubby gets that, too. Maybe he is just worried that you spending time here makes you more obsessed with what you're eating? I've actually been thinking about backing off on tracking every single thing for that very reason. It's not the social time we spend, it's the time spent obsessing over every little bite, every gram of carbs, every calorie, what do I weigh today, is it the same after a take a dump or did I actually crap off 3/4 of a pound? Etc..
I probably sound nuts, too. SuperdorkZenwenner over here.
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He's ALWAYS self electing/nominating. Total opposite, let's be real here, we both have control issues lol.
It's so cute. <sarcasm0 -
Yeah, he doesn't get my RPG addiction either. Such is life. We, together, form one whole functioning adult.
He obsesses over motorbikes and muscle cars. I obsess over books, Elder Scrolls and MFP.
Nah, I don't obsess over food choice, I know what to eat, and how much.
He's never had food/body image/adipose collection issues, so he doesn't really understand. He does have some mommy issues, and I think he disagrees with anything that takes attention from himself. Not totally healthy, but I have my share of disturbances, so no judgement.0 -
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SuperCarLori wrote: »Yeah, he's one of those nurturing, daddy knows best, borderline control freak types. I enjoy rebelling Lolol.
Bingo! hahahaa... you win!1 -
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gah, now i note that i shouldve posted a link.
youre pickin up what im puttin down, right?0 -
All of my face to face friends aren't comfortable around me anymore. So, interaction with them has become very infrequent. Apparently it makes them look at themselves in a way they choose to deny.
This forum has become my source of friends! I know that none of you would give me a bag of chocolate for Christmas (as my supposed "bff" did last year!!)!! I enjoy being among like minded people, even if it in this online fashion. I consider the support here to be outstanding!
My husband hears me speaking of many of you as one would friends, and doesn't complain about the time I spend here. Heck, he's thankful for the results I've been able to achieve through the use of this forum too!8 -
My two cents: there are good addictions and bad addictions. This forum is a good one! I think Mr.CarLori is concerned for your well-being tinged with a little jelly.5
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I concur.1
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I'm much more comfortable typing than speaking. In person I'm very awkward, have a harsh voice, and seemly don't have a lot in common with my age group. I have a few good friends but honestly I sometimes get a touch of social anxiety around them!
Maybe I'm not good typing either. I've made it sound as if I'm a perpetual angst ridden teenager??? The horror lol.
Anyway the point I was trying to make is that I don't think having online forum friends is a bad thing. I guess if you were on here 24/7 and stopped working and spending time with your family it could be however it sounds like you have a good balance. Plus selfishly we are glad to have you.3 -
I, too, am quite an introvert. I find social occasions exhausting, although I do like to go out and do / see things. For me, the LCHF forum is a social activity & I look forward to "hearing" from the folks here.3
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Idk what to say except we be who we be, everyone has a past, and I too could give 2 $h!+$ less what people think bout me....with that bieng said, ahem, SupercarLori- I think you are the effing bomb to be honest!!!!!!! Have a nice day nah, ya hear!4
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I'm much more comfortable typing than speaking. In person I'm very awkward, have a harsh voice, and seemly don't have a lot in common with my age group. I have a few good friends but honestly I sometimes get a touch of social anxiety around them!
Maybe I'm not good typing either. I've made it sound as if I'm a perpetual angst ridden teenager??? The horror lol.
Anyway the point I was trying to make is that I don't think having online forum friends is a bad thing. I guess if you were on here 24/7 and stopped working and spending time with your family it could be however it sounds like you have a good balance. Plus selfishly we are glad to have you.
Lol, I thought you were describing me there for a second. Lolol1 -
KetoLady86 wrote: »Idk what to say except we be who we be, everyone has a past, and I too could give 2 $h!+$ less what people think bout me....with that bieng said, ahem, SupercarLori- I think you are the effing bomb to be honest!!!!!!! Have a nice day nah, ya hear!
That's the nicest thing ever. Thank you, darlin.0 -
Another totally anti-social introvert here! But my hubby is also anti-social and has lots of his own online friend, so he's super supportive of my MFP habits and loves hearing my stories about my online friends and is thrilled that my online habit has resulted in a happy, healthy new me.
I hope your OH can see the positive impact this group has had for you and be a little more supportive!3 -
i agree @PaleoInScotland i mean, he's come a long way from the guy who made me cry two years ago with ragging on me for eating bacon instead of fruit. i had to put his *kitten* in check a couple of times, and now that he sees im being persistent and consistent, and i havent died, its better.4
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Not dying is always good.
I'm another introvert. I get my chatty fixes here and would miss you if you were gone. So, for purely selfish reasons, do stay.
Great book for us introverts: http://www.quietrev.com/quiet-the-book/2 -
ill go order it from my library asap!! thank you all for your kindness. it was wonderful.0
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I've found this particular group to be a very unique gathering of individuals. There's something very right about it that I can't explain. At times in the beginning I was a bit obsessed and here a lot, it's been a year and a half now and I come and go mostly. In the winter I'll probably be obsessed again cuz it's cold here and not much else to keep busy.
You see I've found different people thrive in different types of social interaction. For some local friends they speak with on a daily basis is what they need. I personally don't, I have my family and have had some other friends at times but not for great lengths. I think my personality is different from others, I can't be in fake friendships I can't stand selfishness and I expect as much given as I put in. On here there are so many different people with different experiences that you can find people you bond with easily and wish lived closer, and others you can be goofy with. It's a fun mix and I feel healthier than not having anyone to connect with.4 -
@SuperCarLori I know this isn't what you meant, but I can't help it:
https://youtube.com/watch?v=-oqAU5VxFWs
I agree with everyone above. If you start *kitten* up because you're on here, it's a problem. Otherwise, please stay. 1 -
I personally think you are awesome and would miss you were you not your self sung dorkiness. Just sayin...2
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Another introvert here... Don't go! Tell OH (what does that stand for anyway?... my brain replaces it with "Other Human") to get his own friends. :P1
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anewlifeat40 wrote: »Another introvert here... Don't go! Tell OH (what does that stand for anyway?... my brain replaces it with "Other Human") to get his own friends. :P
I believe it means other half.
My mind makes it as Over Head lol
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OH = Oh H3ll!
because MFP's shoving *kitten* in there never makes any sense to me.
Introvert here also. I only have one or two very close friends at a time. My DH (darling husband) and I do almost all our fun stuff (travel, sports, etc) just the two of us - he's also an introvert. I always have liked my own company and really prefer it that way. I like to be in groups so large you are insignificant and technically alone, or actually by myself.
Sounds like your OH just wants you to spend more time with him.1 -
I know, but we both work from home, so if we spend more time together we'll need one of those double toilets Lololcanadjineh wrote: »OH = Oh H3ll!
because MFP's shoving *kitten* in there never makes any sense to me.
Introvert here also. I only have one or two very close friends at a time. My DH (darling husband) and I do almost all our fun stuff (travel, sports, etc) just the two of us - he's also an introvert. I always have liked my own company and really prefer it that way. I like to be in groups so large you are insignificant and technically alone, or actually by myself.
Sounds like your OH just wants you to spend more time with him.2
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