Plans for the holidays
onsickmom
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Hello.....Wanted to know about your plans for the holidays and share ways to get thru sober or just have that glass of wine at a gathering....Give your thoughts!!!!!
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Thanks for starting this group. I'm trying to limit my drinking to less than 1 glass of wine weekly. I've been drinking MUCH more than that in the last six months. Since I'm on hormonal suppression drugs after breast cancer I'm really not supposed to drink at all since they can affect the liver. Anyway...let's see how I do in the month of December.0
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You will do GREAT!!!!! Just think one day at a time... I'm sad to hear of your health issue.. Hopefully without alcohol your body can heal better...0
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Made it thru another day...I've had pretty bad post acute withdrawal...Nausea..upset stomach..anxiety..panic... Agitated...I so can't wait until this all gets past me....I feel pretty worthless some days....Just hunker down in my room in the dark...Hiding from me....No way to live....I've gotta find the strength to get past my fears....Feeling real flu like today!!! 96 days.....But along side of this I'm also doing taper off prescription medication....I don't want it in my life anymore...Pray for me to get thru...now I'm sweating like a pig and I'm not moving.....Ughhhhh....Getting hair done at one today...I may not go....It's been a year since I've colored my hair...I was excited..nos I'm dreading being in a bright room with people talking....Afraid to panic in public....I'm driving myself crazy.....oh boy0
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I found you!!!1
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Well hello!!!!! Glad you found me!!!!! It's day 6 of Dec already ...I'm on day 98 of Sobriety...Been a roller coaster ride...I'm not worried about my holiday events...My husband's family are non drinkers...Tea and soda.... Of course I haven't had caffeine since may 20th..that in itself I crave!!!!! And mom cooks for the school district and does catering too...Boy can she put on a meal...Most stuff I can't eat...Just my luck....How's everyone doing ???? Let's catch up!!!!0
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@onsickmom.. on my calendar it is Dec. 5th... ha... i will need that extra day for shopping, or some other last minute thing that i say every year, that i will have done by the 20th. One of the reason it is hard for me with this journey, is both sides of our family are drinkers.. So, Christmas is always beer infested. I don't have my side this year, so that is nice because I do not like to host for so many people. I have 7 siblings and my husband has 11.0
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@blwelch1 I didnt have my glasses on when I looked at me phone for the date..LOL...Its the 5th ..Wow thats alot of shopping to do..I understand having it both ways..I grew up 2000 miles from where I am now and my family was all drinkers and drug users...Im here now and my husbands family are non drinkers..Usually I would bring alcohol and conceal it in a fountain soda cup..And sneak out the back door to keep filling my cup...I didnt fool any one..I thought I was...But as usual I would have too much and get diarehha of the mouth...I feel embarrased now..I shouldnt..Im an alcoholic...Im just sober now..I have to be...I dont really have a choice any more..My last 2 beers are still on the top shelf of my fridge...When I do die Id like to have them dumped out over my ashes....A final fairwell if you will....No....I will proubly dump them on my one year sober anniversary...I feel for you ....If you wanna be sober for holidays you could maybe try some cherry juice and a sparkling water...Might be really good..Then you will remember everyone elses silly stuff..Im happy this day has reached its end..Kids are asleep..Im trying to catch up on e.mails and stuff before starting my Jason stephenson meditation addiction Ive started...I think it every night..What on earth am I gonna do if the power goes out and I cant hear him?????? LOL my brain over thinks and reacts to simple stuff so crazy sober..I couldnt give a rats behind before...Now its all coming at me....Oh boy...AND NO I CANT SPELL...I burned that brain cell...1
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when i click on this topic, i see 3 different posting. Is there one that we should go to?0
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I plan on having 1 glass of wine on Christmas and one on New Year. I think that should be enough.0
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Sounds like plenty.....I can't have just one anything.....it would be one glass..one bottle..one more trip to the store....And that's how it would go for me.....lol0
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I can't believe it's Dec 13 th already!!!!! Winter just got going and is moving thru quickly..Still sober!!!!!! I have a doctor's appt today...I dislike going....But I gotta do it...?Found a sitter for the little ones and my daughter is gonna drive me....She has a 3 month old baby girl...So that little warm bundle should put a smile on my face!!!!! Hope your all well....0
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December is going by quickly... but i like that, because i hate cold weather.0
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I agree...Cold weather is awful....The darkness too....Sunny days just seem to lift the spirits...I know you been kinda watching me in this journey...I suffer bad anxiety and panic....I decided not to go with a medication....Instead I stopped taking my antacid..And am eating more often in small amounts...And doing skip days on the statin....So far it seems to ease up the major anxiety....Strange????? But whatever works...Will keep ya posted...
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I agree, whatever works even if it is unconventional is always good. I have mild anxiety/depression which I do take medication for. (Maybe that's why it's mild) duh. I did hear on the news yesterday that statins are showing promise in testing with warding off Alzheimer's. What meditation tapes did you say you listen to?0
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Jason Stephenson....he's on YouTube....He had a variety....But all with such a soothing voice.I can not sleep without listening to at least two...I usually make a play list....The one that really gets me is surrender meditation letting go.....Hits home....Tell him I sent you...I've actually been e.mailing with him a little bit...He just started a live session on Sundays but I'm in the USA...he's in Australia.....So i miss it...he records it to so we can listen later...I guess we all have that one voice or style of meditation....I've tried hundreds so far...He don't annoy me...lol..... I wish he could just sit and read me a book all night....I can't meditate by myself..I must do his guided meditation...Or my brain never shuts up...I decided to skip the station again tonight....my cholesterol is good so I don't see any reason why I can't just stop.....Yes I tried reading the warnings on line....Hello anxiety.....But I think those stories are for persons who still have high cholesterol and eat fried foods still...I will see how it goes and have doc run my lipids again in Feb.....make sure I'm clear....Don't you go reading That stuff...lol.....And I heard it can cause early dementia????? All I know is I'm sick of pills and booze running my life...The bull is a tough ride....IM HOLDING ON TIGHT!!!!!!! Goodnight......Thank you0
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Station.....was supposed to say simustatin..0
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Made it thru day 14 of Dec without issue yet.....I'm hopeful the worst has passed!!!!! Hope your all well!!!!!!!!0
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Do you notice that when you stop drinking, your weight goes down?1
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I'll be spending Christmas Eve and most of Christmas Day at my mom's house with family. My mom is completely against drinking so I won't have a hard time saying "no" when there isn't even anything in the house to say "yes" to.
I had committed to staying sober for November except my birthday and didn't manage to do that but I just realized that I haven't had any alcohol since November 25 and now we're halfway through December. I've told my best friend that I'm cutting back as much as possible and she's being completely supportive. We are planning a New Year's Eve party and I know I will drink then but I think it will be like last year when we made fun mixed drinks and just sipped them all night. We did a 1920s theme and had a lot of fun finding recipes for actual cocktails from the 20s.1 -
@rachelr1116 .. you are doing fantastic, and yes it is easy to not drink when their are no drinks in the house.
your New Years Eve party sounds like fun. Way to stay strong 0 -
My stopping antacid seems to be helping....I'm getting more nutrition....I don't wanna jink myself but anxiety is down ALOT....And I'm taking a multi vitamin now too...Hope I'm right....That anxiety was tearing me a new one.....holy moly....I stopped that statin.....Tonight will be fourth night....no odd side effects as of yet...108 days sober today!!!!! Praise God!!!!!!! Thanks to all here supporting the cause....Weather you slip up or not.....We're here to support one another!!!!!!1
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Yes....one more day done !!!!!! Best gift I've ever gave myself and family!!!!!1
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Dec 17th.......Still sober....How's everyone doing this month?0
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Dec 18 th.....Still going !!!!!!!! Still having some anxiety issues but that will pass over time..I waited to long to get sober!!!! I'm paying for it now...Used to be so easy to just stop a month or two...This time was no joke!!!!! Worst type of withdrawal!!!! But I'm surviving....Gonna live a whole lot longer...I sure hope along the way I can help just one person...just one... I'm here for any and all... Best to you!!!1
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I am not doing so hot. I feel so stressed out and have no time to exercise or do anything for myself. By the end of the day I just want to relax and have a drink. Usually one or two but I have always been a lightweight but now my body can't handle any amount.
I need more ideas on how to unwind without the "help" of alcohol. I feel SO FRUSTRATED lately.0 -
@tamera_g I use an adult coloring book with fine point sharpie markers...And at bed time I listen to Jason Stevenson meditation.... Sometimes I just sweep the floors....Takes my mind off my extreme stress...I totally understand...My daughter said today for me to get a word search ....So I'm gonna try that too...I do enjoy coloring....It's very relaxing...Or if you do crafts maybe grab supplies and plan a time every day if you can to spend an hour winding down with that...I'm rooting for you...YOU GOT THIS....KEEP TRYING....OX1
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I wanted to add...I use to be a lightweight too....Then built up a tolerance...And then a reverse tolerance....I could drink just one and throw it up...Was my body telling me something was wrong but I didn't listen to it...I just kept on...Until it just about killed me...I didn't have a choice to get sober really....Well I did....but if I had I wouldn't be writing to you now....I would be dead...I don't know your history...But I'm 53 and spent my life with alcohol..From the very moment I was conceived....drunk egg..drunk sperm... Whisky in my baby bottles to sleep.?.And at age 4 started drinking the feel good red juice in moms fridge..Me and my brothers...So I am a true born alcoholic!!!!! When I got sober this time I went thru pure hell....... Convulsions... seizures... tremors... Hallucination..Bloody vomit and diarrhea....BAD SICK!!!!!!! If you can find a way now in your life to learn to cope with your stress...I URGE YOU PLEASE!!!!!! FIND A WAY!!!! It will take a toll on you....Already is...Most don't live to tell their story....You just read about people like myself in the papers...FOUND DEAD!!!!! I didn't wanna die drunk..So I am fighting this with all I got...I suffer panic attacks...Oh how I hate them...Yet it's a constant reminder of why I chose to never drink again....Fear and panic can't kill you....But alcohol will....can...does..And if it don't put you in your grave you become one of the walking dead...Just numb to all things that are YOUR LIFE!!!!! I hope and pray you will find your way...DEMAND!!!!! A minute to yourself..Put you number one....We do do much for others...Now is the time to be selfish!!!!! Take it....oxox1
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