Would you date me?
raige123
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My profile pic on here is the one I use on POF and I don't have much luck with messages, or get messaged by men only looking for sex or men who aren't single only looking for sex. I am wondering based on my profile pic alone, would you want to message me if you were on there looking? Not trolling for compliments ... just trying to figure out if my pic has something to do with the lack of, and quality of messages I am receiving. Thanks everyone for your feedback!
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I think your pic is fine, but is it the only one you have up? Because most men want to see more than one pic-they ARE visual creatures, and the other request is a full body pic, because in a head shot you can hide alot..........not saying you are, but that is the theory.......0
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I think your pic is fine, but is it the only one you have up? Because most men want to see more than one pic-they ARE visual creatures, and the other request is a full body pic, because in a head shot you can hide alot..........not saying you are, but that is the theory.......
Have up 8 pics ... a few full body pics, head shots and a pic of me with a dolphin in Mexico lol. Just wondering if my profile pic should maybe be a different one.0 -
I do like it I also like pictures 2 and 5 on your page. Make sure you have picture 3 on youre profile, it shows your comitment to fitness. That will attract a certain type of guy.
Also, if you want post your profile we would love read it if you want!0 -
I do like it I also like pictures 2 and 5 on your page. Make sure you have picture 3 on youre profile, it shows your comitment to fitness. That will attract a certain type of guy.
Also, if you want post your profile we would love read it if you want!
I agree with including a picture that shows you're into fitness but I would recommend that it NOT be picture 3. The main reason is that you are showing your race time and your race bib includes your name and number (I assume your name is Donna). It would be easy for someone in your area to figure out what race that was and to back track the race results to find somone named Donna with that race time and bib number.0 -
I'm assuming the pic of you with the dolphin is a bikini pic? Most of the time when I see a man shirtless online I don't take him seriously and assume they are just after sex. Most of the time they'll prove me right. I've heard from a lot of men that a bikini shot is the female equivalent.0
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I like the pic you have showing right now. You look like a happy girl and you are pretty. I'm not looking for sex and I sure would send you a message! I can't understand why you're not receiving message from genuine guys. I seriously can't. ???
But that first pic on the second row.... yikes. It's cool for this site but I'm not so sure about POF.0 -
No.
You're Canadian.0 -
you have a lovely smile...but the photo is really light/whited out...do you have something with better lighting?
also, get off POF. that place is filled with creepers.0 -
No, I wouldn't. You are pretty, but your profile tells me too much about what you have went through and little about who you are. It is riddled with a lot of negativite things that have happened to you which makes me feel as if you dwell on these things and let them define you and it would mean a lot of baggage. So if your profile is in anyway similar on POF, I would read and move on.0
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I do like it I also like pictures 2 and 5 on your page. Make sure you have picture 3 on youre profile, it shows your comitment to fitness. That will attract a certain type of guy.
Also, if you want post your profile we would love read it if you want!
I agree with including a picture that shows you're into fitness but I would recommend that it NOT be picture 3. The main reason is that you are showing your race time and your race bib includes your name and number (I assume your name is Donna). It would be easy for someone in your area to figure out what race that was and to back track the race results to find somone named Donna with that race time and bib number.
Ok, I get that. I don't do races.... maybe I should... but it hink it's a great shot without the race times.0 -
No.
You're Canadian.
Please, you would be all over her!0 -
also, on your profile, you say you have a boyfriend. if that's the case, you might want to rethink things.....1
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also, on your profile, you say you have a boyfriend. if that's the case, you might want to rethink things.....
Yeah, probably lol.0 -
I like your picture!
I've had an online dating profile for three months. I've gotten 3 emails only. One from a way younger guy that I had no interest in, and one from a 40 year old man (sorry but creeping on a 22 year old is sketchy) and the last was from a nice guy that I did email back. Oh and that was back in June, and yeah I log on most days.
I mean, I get where you're coming from. I don't think I'm all that unattractive. But the lack of ANYTHING makes me feel like a big turd and kinda kills the self-esteem. I didn't think I was that awful. My advice is this: you are probably doing nothing wrong. You are attractive. And men are stupid.0 -
Men are not stupid.0
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I'm assuming the pic of you with the dolphin is a bikini pic? Most of the time when I see a man shirtless online I don't take him seriously and assume they are just after sex. Most of the time they'll prove me right. I've heard from a lot of men that a bikini shot is the female equivalent.
lol i have never heard any guys say that a bikini pic in a profile means a woman is trolling for sex.
bikini pics are an excellent way to see how attractive someone is.
to the OP...if that is the only pic in your profile i'd move on...head shots just dont cut it. also..what do you write on your bio? that can scare off a lot of people. and finally isnt POF pretty much just a hook up site anyway? try a better online dating site.0 -
also, on your profile, you say you have a boyfriend. if that's the case, you might want to rethink things.....
Where on my MFP profile does it say that? I have been single again for almost 2 months. Just went to re-read it and I don't see it?0 -
I do like it I also like pictures 2 and 5 on your page. Make sure you have picture 3 on youre profile, it shows your comitment to fitness. That will attract a certain type of guy.
Also, if you want post your profile we would love read it if you want!
You'll have to copy the link to your address bar but it should work ... and yes I know it's long but I'm trying to weed out those only looking for sex, lol.
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=571958190 -
also, on your profile, you say you have a boyfriend. if that's the case, you might want to rethink things.....
Where on my MFP profile does it say that? I have been single again for almost 2 months. Just went to re-read it and I don't see it?
"Why I want to get in shape
Initially this said for my son and to find love. I have to ammend this now that I have a boyfriend.
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in the future when you want to find a word or phrase hit ctrl+f that will pop up a search window...type in what word(s) you want and it will highlight them.0 -
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you have a lovely smile...but the photo is really light/whited out...do you have something with better lighting?
also, get off POF. that place is filled with creepers.
I changed the profile picture ... hopefully to something better.0 -
I do like it I also like pictures 2 and 5 on your page. Make sure you have picture 3 on youre profile, it shows your comitment to fitness. That will attract a certain type of guy.
Also, if you want post your profile we would love read it if you want!
You'll have to copy the link to your address bar but it should work ... and yes I know it's long but I'm trying to weed out those only looking for sex, lol.
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=57195819
that is very long...you need a tl;dr0 -
also, on your profile, you say you have a boyfriend. if that's the case, you might want to rethink things.....
Where on my MFP profile does it say that? I have been single again for almost 2 months. Just went to re-read it and I don't see it?
"Why I want to get in shape
Initially this said for my son and to find love. I have to ammend this now that I have a boyfriend. "
in the future when you want to find a word or phrase hit ctrl+f that will pop up a search window...type in what word(s) you want and it will highlight them.
OMG Thank you for pointing that out, lol. That relationship ended almost 2 months ago. This girl is single.0 -
thread title makes me think of...
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I think you need to change your profile. It's too long. And it's too negative.
Opening line:
"I'm giving this site another shot after quite a few bad experiences! You never know where your someone special is hiding! I'll be up front and let you know I'm just out of a longterm relationship so I'm not 100% sure on what I'm looking for!"
Personally, I'd stop reading after that. Sorry,I'm not the least bit interested in a guy that is just out of a relationship and not sure what he wants....... so I'm thinking a genuine guy looking for a relationship would think the same thing? Also, it's really not motivating to know that you've been played. It's not attractive and it's not comforting to a would be date.
Leave all the negativity and bad experiences out. Be positive. This is a new start. So let the reader feel that you're ready to start again?0 -
My profile pic on here is the one I use on POF and I don't have much luck with messages, or get messaged by men only looking for sex or men who aren't single only looking for sex. I am wondering based on my profile pic alone, would you want to message me if you were on there looking? Not trolling for compliments ... just trying to figure out if my pic has something to do with the lack of, and quality of messages I am receiving. Thanks everyone for your feedback!
I actually like #8 as a main pic. I also like 1, 2, 14. No on the bikini pic because you are with some dude. You look cute and happy, I'm sure you'll do great!
I also agree with Anna. I personally have a policy to avoid profiles that open on a negative note or have lots of negative overtones. See if you can write a new one using positive descriptors. Then, sit back and read it as if you are reading someone else's profile and see if it would attract you.
You really only have that first paragraph to grab someone's attention before they skip over or just skim for keywords like "no gag reflex". Try something non-conventional. Think like a novelist and suck them in right off the bat. Don't make it sound like a dating profile.0 -
This profile seems like 90% of the women profiles out there (not even mentioning your POF nickname, are you looking for your "KnightInShinyArmour73"?). It's crap to be frank.
And it's too defensive:
"If you have a girlfriend/wife and are in a relationship ... DO NOT message me! Stop pretending you're single! Are there actually single men in here?"
"I will admit as well I am a very picky person when it comes to men! I like what I like and I refuse to settle. Nobody ever should! That doesn't mean you have to be a model ... it means your personality will always dictate how I see you!"
"If you don't like tattoos, we won't get along!"
"I'm 420 friendly ... that doesn't mean I do it all the time but I do on occasion so if this bothers you, we won't work out."
"I love cuddling [...] No that doesn't mean you get free massages all the time ... that's a give and take. And also if you need to be the big spoon all the time, we won't work, lol."
"Sex ... I have a very healthy appetite for it but I don't sleep with guys I'm not with. You will end up waiting for it so if you're going to ask me out in hopes you will get in my pants ..."
It's like the carrot and stick strategy at every paragraph - "I do this, but you won't have it" - sounds fun! It only works well for donkeys though, so no wonder why the men you are attracting are just that: donkeys.0 -
I think you need to change your profile. It's too long. And it's too negative.
I agree with Anna & others on this. Not only did I find your profile to be very negative but also really demanding, and if that's the image before even talking to or meeting you, then most guys are likely going to assume you will be controlling once in a relationship. That doesn't mean any of what I said is who you truly are, but you asked for first impressions and that was mine.0 -
I would get rid of the 420 and sex stuff. Make a profile that you'd be okay with your boss or grandma seeing. There is no reason to mention drug use or sex straightaway. Leave some mystery.
It's the "in spite of" defense. Plenty of guys may discount you immediately for the 420 thing but if you wait to tell them they may like you "in spite of" that.0 -
It's the "in spite of" defense. Plenty of guys may discount you immediately for the 420 thing but if you wait to tell them they may like you "in spite of" that.
I like that concept and rely HEAVILY on it (not for 420, just for being me). 0
