Would you date me?

My profile pic on here is the one I use on POF and I don't have much luck with messages, or get messaged by men only looking for sex or men who aren't single only looking for sex. I am wondering based on my profile pic alone, would you want to message me if you were on there looking? Not trolling for compliments ... just trying to figure out if my pic has something to do with the lack of, and quality of messages I am receiving. Thanks everyone for your feedback!
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  • Moe4572
    Moe4572 Posts: 1,430 Member
    I think your pic is fine, but is it the only one you have up? Because most men want to see more than one pic-they ARE visual creatures, and the other request is a full body pic, because in a head shot you can hide alot..........not saying you are, but that is the theory.......
  • raige123
    raige123 Posts: 352
    I think your pic is fine, but is it the only one you have up? Because most men want to see more than one pic-they ARE visual creatures, and the other request is a full body pic, because in a head shot you can hide alot..........not saying you are, but that is the theory.......

    Have up 8 pics ... a few full body pics, head shots and a pic of me with a dolphin in Mexico lol. Just wondering if my profile pic should maybe be a different one.
  • jkandktmom
    jkandktmom Posts: 1,010 Member
    I do like it I also like pictures 2 and 5 on your page. Make sure you have picture 3 on youre profile, it shows your comitment to fitness. That will attract a certain type of guy.

    Also, if you want post your profile we would love read it if you want!
  • dbrightwell1270
    dbrightwell1270 Posts: 1,732 Member
    I do like it I also like pictures 2 and 5 on your page. Make sure you have picture 3 on youre profile, it shows your comitment to fitness. That will attract a certain type of guy.

    Also, if you want post your profile we would love read it if you want!

    I agree with including a picture that shows you're into fitness but I would recommend that it NOT be picture 3. The main reason is that you are showing your race time and your race bib includes your name and number (I assume your name is Donna). It would be easy for someone in your area to figure out what race that was and to back track the race results to find somone named Donna with that race time and bib number.
  • RunIntheMud
    RunIntheMud Posts: 2,645 Member
    I'm assuming the pic of you with the dolphin is a bikini pic? Most of the time when I see a man shirtless online I don't take him seriously and assume they are just after sex. Most of the time they'll prove me right. I've heard from a lot of men that a bikini shot is the female equivalent.
  • Follow_me
    Follow_me Posts: 6,120 Member
    I like the pic you have showing right now. You look like a happy girl and you are pretty. I'm not looking for sex and I sure would send you a message! I can't understand why you're not receiving message from genuine guys. I seriously can't. ???

    But that first pic on the second row.... yikes. It's cool for this site but I'm not so sure about POF.
  • TyTy76
    TyTy76 Posts: 1,761 Member
    No.
    You're Canadian.
  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member
    you have a lovely smile...but the photo is really light/whited out...do you have something with better lighting?

    also, get off POF. that place is filled with creepers.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,026 Member
    No, I wouldn't. You are pretty, but your profile tells me too much about what you have went through and little about who you are. It is riddled with a lot of negativite things that have happened to you which makes me feel as if you dwell on these things and let them define you and it would mean a lot of baggage. So if your profile is in anyway similar on POF, I would read and move on.
  • jkandktmom
    jkandktmom Posts: 1,010 Member
    I do like it I also like pictures 2 and 5 on your page. Make sure you have picture 3 on youre profile, it shows your comitment to fitness. That will attract a certain type of guy.

    Also, if you want post your profile we would love read it if you want!

    I agree with including a picture that shows you're into fitness but I would recommend that it NOT be picture 3. The main reason is that you are showing your race time and your race bib includes your name and number (I assume your name is Donna). It would be easy for someone in your area to figure out what race that was and to back track the race results to find somone named Donna with that race time and bib number.

    Ok, I get that. I don't do races.... maybe I should... but it hink it's a great shot without the race times.
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    No.
    You're Canadian.

    Please, you would be all over her!
  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member
    also, on your profile, you say you have a boyfriend. if that's the case, you might want to rethink things.....
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,026 Member
    also, on your profile, you say you have a boyfriend. if that's the case, you might want to rethink things.....

    Yeah, probably lol.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,064 Member
    I like your picture!

    I've had an online dating profile for three months. I've gotten 3 emails only. One from a way younger guy that I had no interest in, and one from a 40 year old man (sorry but creeping on a 22 year old is sketchy) and the last was from a nice guy that I did email back. Oh and that was back in June, and yeah I log on most days.

    I mean, I get where you're coming from. I don't think I'm all that unattractive. But the lack of ANYTHING makes me feel like a big turd and kinda kills the self-esteem. I didn't think I was that awful. My advice is this: you are probably doing nothing wrong. You are attractive. And men are stupid.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,026 Member
    Men are not stupid.
  • Laces_0ut
    Laces_0ut Posts: 3,750 Member
    I'm assuming the pic of you with the dolphin is a bikini pic? Most of the time when I see a man shirtless online I don't take him seriously and assume they are just after sex. Most of the time they'll prove me right. I've heard from a lot of men that a bikini shot is the female equivalent.

    lol i have never heard any guys say that a bikini pic in a profile means a woman is trolling for sex.

    bikini pics are an excellent way to see how attractive someone is.


    to the OP...if that is the only pic in your profile i'd move on...head shots just dont cut it. also..what do you write on your bio? that can scare off a lot of people. and finally isnt POF pretty much just a hook up site anyway? try a better online dating site.
  • raige123
    raige123 Posts: 352
    also, on your profile, you say you have a boyfriend. if that's the case, you might want to rethink things.....

    Where on my MFP profile does it say that? I have been single again for almost 2 months. Just went to re-read it and I don't see it?
  • raige123
    raige123 Posts: 352
    I do like it I also like pictures 2 and 5 on your page. Make sure you have picture 3 on youre profile, it shows your comitment to fitness. That will attract a certain type of guy.

    Also, if you want post your profile we would love read it if you want!

    You'll have to copy the link to your address bar but it should work ... and yes I know it's long but I'm trying to weed out those only looking for sex, lol.
    http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=57195819
  • Laces_0ut
    Laces_0ut Posts: 3,750 Member
    also, on your profile, you say you have a boyfriend. if that's the case, you might want to rethink things.....

    Where on my MFP profile does it say that? I have been single again for almost 2 months. Just went to re-read it and I don't see it?

    "Why I want to get in shape

    Initially this said for my son and to find love. I have to ammend this now that I have a boyfriend. :) "

    in the future when you want to find a word or phrase hit ctrl+f that will pop up a search window...type in what word(s) you want and it will highlight them.
  • sam308lbs
    sam308lbs Posts: 1,939 Member
    nevermind :cry: