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CassieBinTC
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QOTW: Let's talk goal this week...............Do you have a specific BIG goal in mind? If so do you break it down in to smaller goals for sanity? Have you hit any of your goals? Do you use a reward system for yourself?
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  • rabidhamster87
    rabidhamster87 Posts: 74 Member
    edited January 2018
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    QOTW: Let's talk goal this week...............Do you have a specific BIG goal in mind? If so do you break it down in to smaller goals for sanity? Have you hit any of your goals? Do you use a reward system for yourself?

    I weighed 160 lbs in 9th grade (16 years ago!) and I think I was happiest with my body at that point in time, so I would love to get back down to 160 again! It's a healthy BMI for me at 5'8, but it's also 237 lbs to lose... which can definitely be daunting, so I have set small and medium sized goals for myself along the way.

    Back in 2010 I lost 101 lbs, going from 335 to 234 and I was really happy at 234/size 18 too. I felt like my body had a lot more of an hour-glass shape and because I was going to the gym so much I had a lot more energy and felt stronger too. In the back of my mind, I feel like I'm not making REAL progress until I'm back in the 230's, so that's become my "medium" goal. (Even though it's still a pretty darn big one!)

    In the meantime, I'm rewarding myself for every 10 lbs I lose. I think I've posted it on our original thread before, but I'm letting myself spend $1 for every pound I lose, so I bought something worth $10 at 10 lbs, $20 at 20 lbs, and I've already picked out my $30/30 lb reward too! ha.

    I have a lot of non-scale goals too though. I want to be able to do "normal" things like go into the attic without worrying the ladder won't hold my weight, go on a plane without asking for a seat-belt extender (or worrying they'll make me buy an extra ticket!), and just walk the 2 blocks from my car into work every day without getting winded. (Pathetic, I know.) I want a lab coat that fits me at work, I want to get back down to at LEAST a size 18 so that I can start shopping in regular stores again instead of topping out at 30 in the plus sized stores, I want to feel pretty at our wedding in June 2019, and I want to stop telling my fiance we can go to Disney World "next year" because I'm afraid I won't be able to ride the rides.

    Ultimately, I just want to be healthier. My dad had a heart attack and died in August 2016 at the ripe old age of 56... and it will always break my heart that he was taken from us so early. I want to have kids of my own to build a relationship with like the one he had with me and my fiance is getting his vasectomy reversed TOMORROW, so we'll be trying to conceive soon, but I don't even know if I can at this size or if we do, if I'll have a healthy pregnancy and baby. I also want to be able to keep up with a toddler and I don't want to have a kid only to leave them in 20 something years... or less! I want to be able to spend as much time with them as I can.


    In a way, because my main goal is to be just be a healthier me, it's almost like I successfully meet a goal every time I make a better decision like choosing salad over pizza or chores over video games.
  • sarahchmielarz
    sarahchmielarz Posts: 5 Member
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    My big goals are to get down to 175 lbs and to continue a healthy diet and exercise regimen even once I get there. In my head I break this down to every ounce lost is a step in the right direction. I don't really have any other true goals - I'm just trying to be healthier and live a longer, better life.
  • pugsrmypatronus
    pugsrmypatronus Posts: 16 Member
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    It's great to see everyone's goals as it gives me ideas as well! I guess my large goal is to make it to 200 pounds but I haven't been at that weight in a long time (as I can't even remember when I was that weight) so I'm just thinking about losing but not reaching any number yet.

    I guess some of my goals feel superficial and some seem super serious which is ok. Some of my serious goals are:
    • Improve my health and reduce risk of stroke and heart attacks since I'm genetically at a high risk for both
    • Feel better when I'm being active which will help with my job as well
    • Reduce my emotional attachment/challenges around food. I'm in recovery from an eating disorder so food and eating have always been a bit challenging and I'd like a healthier relationship with it.
    My more non-serious things are:
    • less anxiety with flying and being kicked off a plane
    • being able to wear all the work tshirts I get. Working at a non-profit you get a lot of tshirts for various events and I always hate wearing them as they never fit as well as I'd like
    • Feel confident and secure in myself to start dating again
    • Actually wearing some of the clothes I've saved over the years
    • Being able to mentally stick it to one of my doctors who hasn't been very nice about my weight or ability to lose weight

    I don't really have a reward system but I did get some gift cards for Christmas and I'm saving them up till I drop a few sizes. Again, it was so great to read everyones goals as it seems like there are some reoccuring topics and I'm glad we can all be here to support each other!
  • rabidhamster87
    rabidhamster87 Posts: 74 Member
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    [*] Being able to mentally stick it to one of my doctors who hasn't been very nice about my weight or ability to lose weight

    This is such a big one! Every time I get sick or something happens I DREAD going to the doctor because I feel like no matter what's wrong with me, they're just going to blame it on one thing... and maybe my weight is a contributing to factor to health issues... As a matter of fact, it probably is! But even when I've gone in for a SINUS INFECTION, I've been told I need to lose weight and eat healthier. Like, no, really? I wish doctors were interested in addressing the underlaying psychological issues that can lead to this kind of weight more than just adding to them by saying, "Exercise and eat healthier," and then sending you on your way with a judgemental look.

    I was so upset that my dad didn't go to the doctor until he was literally dying, but then when it's my turn to go, I don't want to go either because of this. It's a real problem.

  • pugsrmypatronus
    pugsrmypatronus Posts: 16 Member
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    [*] Being able to mentally stick it to one of my doctors who hasn't been very nice about my weight or ability to lose weight

    I was so upset that my dad didn't go to the doctor until he was literally dying, but then when it's my turn to go, I don't want to go either because of this. It's a real problem.

    UGH, I've totally had the sinus thing happen too and in the moment, you just want someone to help, not lecture about something that isn't related! I think lots of people feel this way unfortunately and it can have such real consequences. I have to get an infusion every two weeks for a disease I have so I see a doctor (the one who I really want to stick it too!) pretty often but I feel so uncomfortable around her because of our past discussions that I avoid bringing up things that I need to. One of my goals for 2018 was to build a medical team around me that's supportive of my goals and my health. It's been tough finding folks who I feel comfortable with but so far, I've found a few good specialist so positive movement! Hope you can find someone who you may like better soon!
  • bdferguson1
    bdferguson1 Posts: 9 Member
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    Hi all!! I am so happy to find people that have alot of weight to lose like myself! I am 28 years old with a 5 year old daughter. I started in Sept. 2017 at 328lbs. After years of trying to lose weight on my own, never getting passed the first 10 lbs, and then gaining it all back plus more, I decided to start going to a weightless clinic. I follow a low carb diet (75g of carbs per day/25g each meal), get a B12 shot every 2 weeks, and take vitamins and an appetite suppressant.

    As of this morning, I weighed in at 296! My first goal was to get under 300. My first big goal is to hit 50 lbs lost! And hopefully lose a pants size, since that still hasn't happened yet. My ultimate goal is a healthy bmi, so around 155.i definitely break it up into smaller goals so it doesnt get so overwhelming, but I don't reward myself because I'm scared it will make me feel like I can take a break. And I don't wanna risk a week off messing me up.
  • CheezWhiz88
    CheezWhiz88 Posts: 116 Member
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    Hi! I posted in the other form too but was a little late to the party! For the QOTW: I have a bigger goal in mind which is to get back down to 190 which I was at years ago. While that is not where I would like to end up, at least being there would mean I got back to where I last left off with my weight loss. My husband and I would like to start a family, but being over 300 pounds really scares me, and for a healthier and easier pregnancy, I want to drop some serious pounds. I am setting smaller goals for myself that are more attainable so I don't get overwhelmed by this looming number I need to lose. As a reward, for every pound I lose, that's one dollar I can use toward buying baby stuff. I wanted my reward to directly correlate with one of the big reasons I am on this journey. At 350, this is the heaviest I have ever been and I was terrified to step on the scale to see it, but I wanted to know where I was starting so I couldn't lie to myself anymore about the seriousness of my situation. Thank you to everyone sharing their stories; knowing there are others battling alongside me is greatly comforting.
  • rabidhamster87
    rabidhamster87 Posts: 74 Member
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    @CheezWhiz88

    I was so excited to read your post!! I'm trying to lose weight for the same reason. We want to try for a baby soon too. I'm also almost the same weight as you (366 this morning) and I'm even using the same reward system for myself! Every 10 lbs I buy something for our future nursery/baby worth the amount of weight I've lost so far. (At 10 lbs I got a cute faceplate for the nursery light switch, at 20 lbs I bought child-proof cabinet locks, and now at 30 lbs I bought a cute wall clock that's shaped like the sun and a cloud.) It seems like we're even close to the same age if the 88 part of your username is your birth year like mine is! I think it's fate that we should be friends.
  • CheezWhiz88
    CheezWhiz88 Posts: 116 Member
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    @rabidhamster87

    "Did we just become best friends?" (Stepbrothers quote). We definitely have similar stories! I actually was born in 81, so I am a little older than you (my soccer number used to be 88). I told my husband my reward idea and he teased me a little about being "crazy for babies," but said he thought it was a great idea, and he knows that I can't walk into any store without strolling through the infant section, so having a reward system based around my excitement for starting a family seemed like a great incentive. (Your baby items sound adorable by the way!) Hopefully we can motivate each other along-I can always use a friend :)
  • jules81
    jules81 Posts: 83 Member
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    My main goal is 140 lbs - miles away.
    MY Goal this year is to get to 250 LBS that will be a loss off over 68 lbs THIS year - which I think is a reasonable goal.
    My goal is to be around for my 5 year old son.

    Xxx
  • rabidhamster87
    rabidhamster87 Posts: 74 Member
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    jules81 wrote: »
    My goal is to be around for my 5 year old son.

    That's a fantastic goal! I know your son will appreciate it.
  • evilfairies
    evilfairies Posts: 98 Member
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    I have so many big picture goals! I want to hike without feeling the need to hurl myself off the side of the mountain, I want to be able to shop in a non-plus size clothing store, but most of all I just want to be healthy.

    BUT looking at long term goals is so frustrating for me! I always read the success stories on here and think "I want that!" but when I look at where I am now and where I want to be, I kind of shut down.

    So to keep myself on track, I can only look at what's in front of me. This week, I plan on cooking 2x (I NEVER cook so this is a big challenge for me). And then I plan exercise a few days ahead. As for weight, I only try to look at 10 lbs down the line. It's much better for me to think, ok, I just need to lose 3 more lbs to reach my goal, instead of thinking, ok, I just need to lose another 150.
  • gin_rummy
    gin_rummy Posts: 222 Member
    edited January 2018
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    Hi all! So I started at 364(+)lb and am currently bobbing around 328-329.

    At the moment my goal is 252lb. That's 18 stone (being British I was raised measuring my weight in stone rather than lb or kg!) and I haven't weighed that "little" since I was 18 years old.

    It's still well into the 'morbidly obese' BMI category but it is literally the least I have weighed as an adult, and that fact gives it more realism than the 'healthy' weight I haven't seen since I was in primary school (at which point it was of course not the least bit healthy!) Also at 18 (both stone and years!) I led a pretty active life, for example when I started uni I walked minimum 4 miles a day and sometimes 12 or more just to get to lectures/classes - and this was no problem to me. Now......well I do sometimes push myself to 4 or 5 miles in a day but it's a struggle and slow going, and generally reserved for holidays!

    I have decided to give myself a reward at every whole stone (1 stone is 14lb FYI). At the moment this will be things like treating myself to theatre tickets, but what I really look forward to is getting below 19 stone, as that is the weight limit for a lot of adventurous activities that I've only recently developed the confidence to picture myself doing.

    Theoretically I should be able to achieve my goal this year, but it's nearly a month in and I've made zero progress so far :/ Admittedly there's been a lot of disruption this month including having surgery and starting a new job.....but I really need to find a way to make this work again!
  • CheezWhiz88
    CheezWhiz88 Posts: 116 Member
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    bmeadows380:

    You deserve all those things you wish for, no matter what size you are. Wishing you the best of luck on your continued journey- we'll be cheering you on!
  • Mellykay88
    Mellykay88 Posts: 306 Member
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    @bmeadows380 thank you for sharing! Your story sounds so much like mine. I also grew up in a small church school and was the fat girl in my class. I sort of learned to block out the teasing. By junior high, I’d just pretend I didn’t hear the comments. I weighed 242 lbs in the 7th grade. I joined the basketball team, and was actually starting to slim down, but my mom made me quit because she didn’t want me going to away games. After that I gained weight quickly. I was 280 by 8th grade and didn’t get on another scale until a little over a year ago.

    I’m also *almost* to a size 22W which is the smallest size I’ve worn since probably the 9th grade.

    I am so great full that we have this group. It’s the first time I’ve felt like I was around people who really understand how I feel.
  • rabidhamster87
    rabidhamster87 Posts: 74 Member
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    @bmeadows380 Thank you for sharing your story! That couldn't have been easy to type out, but I think you'd be surprised to learn how many of us have things in common with you! I'm an introvert too and DEFINITELY have a lot of self-esteem problems. "Pig in a dress" is exactly how I feel when I wear dresses! I wore a dress to my grandma's funeral in November and I was so busy trying to stay hidden in the pew to even properly grieve :(

    And I totally agree with this: "When I hear all the fat jokes and harsh comments made about 'fatties' in social media and on Youtube, it just makes me wither and want to pull in on myself; it definitely doesn't encourage me to reach out."

    It seems like so many people preach about how "fat acceptance" is unhealthy, but I've never EVER felt like people thought my fatness was acceptable. The only thing I've encountered is fat hate! Which just leads to self-loathing and definitely doesn't make me feel like I deserve any better or motivate me to try to be better...

    But as far as dates go, you should try online dating! I had to kiss a few frogs before I met my prince, but eventually I did. My fiance and I met on OkCupid and we've been together for over 3 years now. It's worth a shot, right??
  • gin_rummy
    gin_rummy Posts: 222 Member
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    @bmeadows380 big hug from here! I think we can all empathise with your story, and that's what makes this group so remarkable!

    I've been on the 100+ to lose groups vefore but even there, so many people have starting weights that are less than my target weight! This group is already helping me loads just being surrounded (even virtually!) by people who understand. Start of this week I was almost ready to give up but now I'm raring to go again!

    So thanks to everyone for being so supportive and for sharing your stories