Do you have a Goal Weight? (and why??)
chinatowninchina
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I realised when reading some posts that I don't actually have a stopping Goal Weight!! I've been so much focused on just getting down somewhere, anywhere, below what I was previously that I never even thought about where I actually want to be, weight-wise at least! Even writing this I still don't to be honest. I've never been a thin person or at least in my eyes I've never been thin/slim at the time, though looking back at photographs I have been relatively slim.
So where do I want to stop loosing weight? When I met my very, very lovely second husband 18 years ago I was very light (for me at 5'4'' and not a tiny frame!) at 124 lbs, that was called the divorce diet and I ain't wanting that again! So where, oh where do I want to be weight-wise? Not 124 that's for sure as I'm no spring chicken now and over 60 you need some coverage IMO! How much coverage though, that's the question!
When I started in late September 2017 I was 184 now I'm 153 (at least today!) Do I in fact need a goal weight because right now I'm thinking that maybe I'm about there, though that's still 19 lbs more than what I was 18 years ago, but then strangely, I am 18 years older as well!!
Ideally I suppose I want to loose another 4 or 5 pounds which gives me some lee way (in my head at least!) for holidays and water weight gain. It may take me months but I can live with that. So I may be saying 148 lbs, who knows, not me it seems!
Where are other people with having a goal weight and why!!
So where do I want to stop loosing weight? When I met my very, very lovely second husband 18 years ago I was very light (for me at 5'4'' and not a tiny frame!) at 124 lbs, that was called the divorce diet and I ain't wanting that again! So where, oh where do I want to be weight-wise? Not 124 that's for sure as I'm no spring chicken now and over 60 you need some coverage IMO! How much coverage though, that's the question!
When I started in late September 2017 I was 184 now I'm 153 (at least today!) Do I in fact need a goal weight because right now I'm thinking that maybe I'm about there, though that's still 19 lbs more than what I was 18 years ago, but then strangely, I am 18 years older as well!!
Ideally I suppose I want to loose another 4 or 5 pounds which gives me some lee way (in my head at least!) for holidays and water weight gain. It may take me months but I can live with that. So I may be saying 148 lbs, who knows, not me it seems!
Where are other people with having a goal weight and why!!
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I started out in January and i was at 242. I am currently at 198, and my first goal was going to be 185, which would put me at the “overweight” BMI range, instead of obese. When i started, i thought 185 was going to be impossible. After talking to my doctor, she thinks I’ll be 185 by June9
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goodness that's one amazing weight loss, well done to you! I bet your doctor is very pleased with you you must be very proud of yourself as well and deservedly so!
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I first started out with one particular weight goal in mind, and I got there, and then went 20 below that. I regained that 20 plus 20 more and realized both going down and going back up that there was a weight range where I felt great and my loose skin filled out a bit so I liked my overall body appearance better.
That's my new goal range.
Right now, Ive got 20 pounds down to go. Still, I have lost 110 right where I am today....so I know I can do this and get to that sweet spot again. And I'm happy with the number I've chosen even though I had tried for that elusive sylphlike teenage weight. Oh well.
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I had a weight goal and it was the weight I had hovered around most of my adult life before I spent 8 or 10 years gaining 60 pounds.
I'm there. It's fine. Too bad it's not dispersed as it was when I was 24 but that was 40 years ago. 
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I use more of a goal size. I like to be a size 8-10. I'm 5'8" so that is slim enough for me.
For weight, I go for more of a goal weight range. Things change, time passes (dammit), bodies change so the actual weight that I look good at is determined by a number of factors.
When I was in my 20s, a size 8-10 was about 160-165 lbs. I was strong and lean with very little jiggle. Now? A size 8-10 is below 155 and has a lot more jiggle than that size used to have. I'm not as strong as I used to be. Less muscle and more fat, even at a lower weight.1 -
My first goal is to be under 200 lbs.
My second goal is to be 180 or less.
I don't really have a final goal weight per-say, just to fit nicely in all my clothes, to feel healthy, strong and at my best.4 -
In college I was 5'6" 125. I liked that. When I lost weight I decided to use the formula 5'=100Lbs, and 5Lbs per inch after that. so 5'6" 130 was my goal. I hit that, and stayed there for about 15 years. Then menopause. I gained about 10. I'd be happy at 135 going forward.5
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Do you know, what I like is that we all seem to really realistic about what our weight maybe should be roughly, and that some of us ain't spring chickens anymore!
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chinatowninchina wrote: »Do you know, what I like is that we all seem to really realistic about what our weight maybe should be roughly, and that some of us ain't spring chickens anymore!
I appreciate this too. I know I will never be the weight or size I was in my 20s. That's not realistic for me. So - happy, healthy, and fit feel like better goals. I'll be 35 in a few months and definitely don't expect my body to be the same as it was at 22.0 -
My first goal is to get below 200. My next next is to see about 166 because that will mark my 100 loss mark. After that my mind chose 145. Whether it stays at that number I will not know until I get closer.1
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In college I was about 110. At almost 5'8", that is way too thin. But I wasn't dieting to get there. I was just so lucky in that I could eat anything and it did not matter! Boy has that changed!! I started in January at 176, the highest I have ever weighed. Now I am at 151. My goal is 140. Ultimately I'd love to get down to 130, but I know at 140 I am a size 4 and that will make me very happy.1
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River_Goddess wrote: »My first goal is to be under 200 lbs.
My second goal is to be 180 or less.
I don't really have a final goal weight per-say, just to fit nicely in all my clothes, to feel healthy, strong and at my best.
Oh yeah, also, I'm 5'8 and have a lean mass of 165 lbs... so although 180 lbs seems high, it is actually a healthy weight for me (and looks really great on my frame ) 0 -
I'm 5'4" and my initial goal was to get down to "healthier", whatever that was (I'm 245). Recently though... I have a number goal... 150lbs. And then see what happens...1
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My weight loss goal wasn't very big--am almost there. I'm most interested in maintaining this lifestyle because every other way of eating I've tried has not helped me fight the munchies/eating out of boredom, etc. I will add back some net carbs and calories when I am 5 lbs below my goal weight.1
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Since my last time really at goal weight, give or take, I was at 140, 19 years old, foolishly getting married (we won't go there)...
Since then, I've had a miscarriage, a full term birth (DD is 17), adrenal fatigue, progesterone deficiency, hypothyroidism, PCOS, over a decade of plantar fasciitis, and goodness only knows what else I'm forgetting.
I, too, followed the "divorce diet," and lost nearly 50 pounds in 3-6 months, but it was a lot of muscle along with all the water, inflammation, and fat. There was a lengthy rebound period...
Long story short here - I do not truly know what it is to live in an adult body anywhere near a healthy BMI... So I don't have any realistic goal weight...
BUT, I try to always remind people that OLYMPIC BODY BUILDERS ARE CONSIDERED OBESE BY BMI STANDARDS - BECAUSE BMI DOES NOT TAKE BODY FAT PERCENTAGE OR MUSCLE VOLUME INTO ACCOUNT AT ALL...
To give perspective...someone cal look significantly "thinner" and "healthier" while being more than 20 pounds heavier...due to muscle tone, etc.
http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/
http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2013/09/26/an-update-with-staci-our-powerlifting-superhero-plus-academy-scholarships/1 -
I actually feel fortunate that I do not have a magic number in my head for a goal weight. I know too many people that obsess over a specific number and lose sight of some other really good stuff.
I never had a scale in my house until I started living with my BF about 7 years ago and I was around 150. I do have a pair of jeans that are kind of my marker that I wore before and around the same time. I had energy a-plenty, I slept well and overall felt good and strong. My divorce diet made those jeans much too big and lots of people commented that I looked "sickly", that was approximately 130.1 -
so many of us have done the divorce diet, it's not fun but it is effective!! Still I'll stick with second marriage contentment despite the weight gain!1
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Where to even start...once upon a time I have a goal weight of 135...which I managed...I was a size 7...so then I started lifting weights...and I went up to 150 and a size 3...which is actually really nice...then I wanted to get down to 20% body fat from 25% body fat...which I did staying between 145-150...and now I'm thinking maybe I'll just invent some measurement goals since that's way more stable than my weight anyway...I'm currently around 157, but my monthly subscription to Lucifer's waterfall is due soon, and I'll probably drop 5-8 lbs of water once that hits...so still 145-150 range and still a size 3 mostly, but some of my jeans I can take off without unbuttoning, so maybe more like a 2 1/2...not down to a 2 quite yet...
for me there will always be another goal...either to lift more, or to be more flexible, better endurance, or a smaller size...there is always room for improvement and after 21 years of diet and exercise I am well aware that if I stop trying to improve I will definitely not improve, it's that simple...life is too short to be stagnant...4 -
I wanna wear a bikini and belly button ring6
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@tcunbeliever
BWAH HA HA HA ... "monthly subscription to Lucifer's Waterfall" is too ... on the nose freaking perfect! Thanks for that.0 -
@cgcrutch you know when I was young, (a long long time ago) I was in France on holiday and 6 months pregnant and with a 15month old in tow, I wanted to go to the beach but didn't want to be seen in a bikini and some one said just come to the beach and look and what do you know there were all these women much much larger than me (and NOT pregnant!) and they were wearing bikinis. I decided there and then if they could I could, so what I'm saying girl, is get that bikini and that belly button ring!! 2
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@tcunbeliever I had to look that up online, may be age or maybe language divide!
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For me, I really want to get back to the weight I was when I FIRST thought I was overweight, which was a size 16 when I was 18 years old. I have no clue how much weight that was. Under 200. But above 160. So my goal right now is to get to 185 which is 90 lbs less than what I originally started at. But I want to keep going after that to probably between 150-165 because I want to see if I can, and what I look like. I don't think I'm meant to be that light, at 5'9", I'll probably look malnourished. So if I can get to 160, I may stop. Or I may keep going. I've got a long ways to go and I'm sure my goals and challenges will change over time.1
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@xDaniDragonflyx
Oh, wow... That is almost exactly what I've said to myself (change the numerical details...). All my friends in HS were a 0 or 00, and I was a size 8. I thought I was a fat cow.
Now they're all in the 12-16 range, and I still feel like a cow, but I'd give a lot to go back and talk with myself back then.
The 140 I weighed when I got married - if I got that thin now, I would look unhealthy, I know I would. My whole body shape has changed.
Since I started losing weight, I actually weigh about the same as I did in the "heaviest" looking pictures I have, BUT I'VE gotten rid of so much inflammation. I swear, inflammation itself looks like 50 pounds!!! From eating all the foods that hate my body...
So, all the hugs!!!2 -
Yeah I selected a goal weight based off charts for my height and age. I think its good to have goals and something to strive for. It keeps me motivated but I don't obsess over it. I need to lose 15-20lb more before I hit my goal. I might try to lose 5-10lbs more if I feel extra motivated or just chill in maintenance for a while and tone up through exercise. I'd rather not go into my 50s overweight and out of shape and want to have better health both physically and mentally moving forward.0
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This morning I was 151 - so 6 lbs of water down in a single day...this is why the scale is just such a pain in the rear.2
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I started Keto on September 18, 2017. SW 290 CW 254 GW - I keep changing... started out at 160, but now I'm thinking 150 would be a good goal. I think the perfect weight would be 130. I'm only 5'4". Why? Because I think I will be healthier, have more energy, it'll be easier to move around, and much easier on my joints.0
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GoLisaGoSD wrote: »I'm 5'4" and my initial goal was to get down to "healthier", whatever that was (I'm 245). Recently though... I have a number goal... 150lbs. And then see what happens...
I'm exactly your weight and height!
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xDaniDragonflyx wrote: »For me, I really want to get back to the weight I was when I FIRST thought I was overweight, which was a size 16 when I was 18 years old. I have no clue how much weight that was. Under 200. But above 160. So my goal right now is to get to 185 which is 90 lbs less than what I originally started at. But I want to keep going after that to probably between 150-165 because I want to see if I can, and what I look like. I don't think I'm meant to be that light, at 5'9", I'll probably look malnourished. So if I can get to 160, I may stop. Or I may keep going. I've got a long ways to go and I'm sure my goals and challenges will change over time.
I remember the last time I was 160. It was 1989. We had 2 sweet little girls and I thought I was FAT! I would KILL to be 160 again! LMAO I'm only 5'4". When I got married in 1984 I was 125# and size 10-12. I would love to be 150, I think... or 140. LOL We'll see where I can get to. I suspect I will need a tummy tuck and breast augmentation... with all the loose skin.1 -
KnitOrMiss wrote: »@tcunbeliever
BWAH HA HA HA ... "monthly subscription to Lucifer's Waterfall" is too ... on the nose freaking perfect! Thanks for that.
I know, rite!
I now have a new phrase!2
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