December 12
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Mrs_Hoffer
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Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes?
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day?
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank?
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day?
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank?
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Since we have more holidays coming up I thought this could be useful for those who have to deal with food pushers. These guidelines also apply to drink pushers. To be honest I'm not really on board with #2 as we're all adults here and under absolutely no obligation to provide reasons for why we don't want to eat or drink something. But you all know your friends and family better than I do so perhaps having a ready made reason in mind prior to attending any social events could be useful. But, I'm sort of a hard *kitten* and don't put up with people and their nonsense.
#3 also doesn't work for me because if I don't want to eat something "today" then I surely don't want to eat it later. But again ... if it's a helpful in your situation it is another way to deal with difficult situations. You can always toss it later.
I have a bit of a reputation amongst friends and family as being a picky eater so nobody bothers me about food. I'm not actually a picky eater as I'm open to eating a wide range of food but I don't like to eat junky food or overly sweet things. However, I have had issues with drink pushers. One friend in particular hates it when I won't drink with her. Whatever. Not my problem.
So the take away here:
No, thank you is a complete sentence.
Your life, your choice.
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Love this!
I observed naturally normal weight friends. My favorite was my healthy kidney donor at a lovely celebratory lunch in her honor with a homemade cake by hostess, who passed her a piece, “Oh, none for me, thanks!” And passed it to the lady next in line.
No reason
No apology
I use it ALL the time now
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DEC 12
Exercise ✅ [2 h walk]2 -
12/12/2021
Exercise – yes
Tracking – yes
Calories – yes
Pass days – 0
@LazyBlondeChef – a timely reminder. My family all know that I watch what I eat and don’t push food although they will offer cakes etc and often I will take a small portion – perhaps share a slice of cake with someone else. When eating out at a friends’ house I will take a very small portion and turn down added cream on dessert or dressing or sauce on savoury dishes.
I have had friends try to insist that I should eat more – “you don’t want to get too thin” “you have to eat something” etc, but I ignore them and try not to be rude in response. Why do people think they can comment on my eating habits? I’m slimmer and, more importantly, healthier than most of them. The one plus point of the pandemic is not having to go to parties where people push calorie- heavy food at me.
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Definitely a timely topic.
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pass day
all caught up in my posting - I seriously thought of just restarting again in January and dropping out of December, but I told myself I will just adjust and deal with it. However, I got all Christmas shopping done and Christmas decorating done. So life can start to get back to normal. Honestly, I am not sure what normal is at this moment, but I can get back to rebuilding my life, which is my "normal" at the moment
Plus it is a double good day today because the chiefs won and the raiders lost! Go Chiefs!!7 -
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@LazyBlondeChef
Great topic. I use that ‘none for me, thanks’ line. Mind you, I do occasionally indulge. It’s a choice.4 -
A quick check in (again). Love this post as well as yesterday. 🥰
I agree that #2 is awkward. In some situations maybe the convenience of it has greater worth, but if that's the case why are you even there to begin with? 🤷♂️
For me it's not about having only inappropriate food available. I have yet to be in a situation where I can't eat ahead or simply wait. It's about tracking, sometimes I can't weigh or measure, and can in some cases make a best guess I am comfortable with, other times I know I can't and know I wasn't able to "accurately" track. I do try to be as in line as possible and not use it as an excuse to go "hog wild".
Today was like that. I did not go hog wild. I did not track. I suspect I broke my calorie allowance but don't know. So today is a great big NO for me. I'm cool with that. Not cool with how out of whack every waking hour is, and not looking forward to the couple weeks of festive f-ing holidays of this coming up. Hoping the kids become even approachably manageable soon, with minimal financial and sentimental loss of things. They are clearly over the freaking moon right now with all of the excitement and schedule changes.
Back to regular world now. Carry on. Love you all and happy holidays (I mean that, I still have a big love for this time of year).4 -
Quick check in to say pass day #3 and I feel gross about it, so looking forward to the fresh start tomorrow. Will need to check in again to go over the food pusher post again. I def need help with that 😬8
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yes for 3
0/3 pass days
Better day but ate 2 large meals instead of 3 medium sized, feeling a little stuffed.3 -
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It took the folks in my office awhile to realize that it was fine to snack on staff mtg goodies with out me. I would just politely decline and that’s hard also but it works and people get the message. Remember you are the one who controls what goes in your mouth OMG I need to follow this advice!!
Did rowing and some flexibility off to a good start tracked logged kitchen closed other then a drink5 -
Dec 12:
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Pass Days Used: 2/3
Oh @LazyBlondeChef what a terrific topic! This one hits close to home for me as well. I've told this group before about my bestie (25 years!) who constantly harasses me about not needing to lose any more weight and that I'm nothing but skin and bones! Seriously????? (I'm 160, for heaven's sake - I'm seriously NOT wasting away to nothing!) It makes me downright mad because she will push junk and sweets and alcohol on me non-stop when I go visit her. If I say no thanks, she'll say "please don't tell me you're STILLLL dieting!!"Sometimes she doesn't even ask me - she just brings me a brownie (or whatever) and puts it in front of me on the coffee table. THAT really pushes my buttons and I'll let it sit there all afternoon - just because. I usually will make an excuse to leave and head home shortly after that.... because it just never stops.
Lately I've tried telling her that I'm NOT dieting.... I'm just trying to maintain and NOT GAIN any of my weight back.... but she will say something like "but it's the holidays! It's the time of year to indulge! You can go back on your diet in January!" It's so frustrating. I used to have a few beers with her hubby while I was there (she doesn't drink because of medication that she's on), and sometimes now they'll bring me a beer even when I've said that I don't want one. I've let that sit on the table until it got warm as well.
And to be honest, I don't hardly go over to visit her any more. I call on the phone occasionally, and just use the excuse that I'm just very busy. My hubby and I will occasionally meet them out somewhere for dinner, but it's just not even enjoyable to go visit her any more.6 -
December 12, 2021
Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes? Yes
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day? Yes
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank? Yes
Habits to maintain this month:
Kitchen Closed? Yes
Did you go "nuts" with nuts today? No (10 days -free)
Within Sugar macro today? Yes (10 days)
Pass day 0/3 (this is for accountability to myself and my records).
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December 12 - Pass day #12
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Mrs_Hoffer wrote: »Dec 12:
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Pass Days Used: 2/3
Oh @LazyBlondeChef what a terrific topic! This one hits close to home for me as well. I've told this group before about my bestie (25 years!) who constantly harasses me about not needing to lose any more weight and that I'm nothing but skin and bones! Seriously????? (I'm 160, for heaven's sake - I'm seriously NOT wasting away to nothing!) It makes me downright mad because she will push junk and sweets and alcohol on me non-stop when I go visit her. If I say no thanks, she'll say "please don't tell me you're STILLLL dieting!!"Sometimes she doesn't even ask me - she just brings me a brownie (or whatever) and puts it in front of me on the coffee table. THAT really pushes my buttons and I'll let it sit there all afternoon - just because. I usually will make an excuse to leave and head home shortly after that.... because it just never stops.
Lately I've tried telling her that I'm NOT dieting.... I'm just trying to maintain and NOT GAIN any of my weight back.... but she will say something like "but it's the holidays! It's the time of year to indulge! You can go back on your diet in January!" It's so frustrating. I used to have a few beers with her hubby while I was there (she doesn't drink because of medication that she's on), and sometimes now they'll bring me a beer even when I've said that I don't want one. I've let that sit on the table until it got warm as well.
And to be honest, I don't hardly go over to visit her any more. I call on the phone occasionally, and just use the excuse that I'm just very busy. My hubby and I will occasionally meet them out somewhere for dinner, but it's just not even enjoyable to go visit her any more.
@Mrs_Hoffer
Me too… it is so sad, but you are right, it’s not enjoyable. Towing the line is difficult enough without the pressure (for me).
Hugs,
🌸Maddie3 -
Using Pass Day 2 today. Rest day from exercise and started to track but got lazy and stopped late afternoon. Within calories? Maybe, maybe not.
Back to the 3 rules tomorrow. 
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I had a friend tell me (and several others) “As you get older, it’s important to have extra weight because if you get sick, you’ll need.”
I replied, because yes I’m tired of this from her, “I here a lot of folks say this, but I’ll have to check the research..” at which point she interrupted me, “..I don’t care if there is or is not research..I’ve known folks who got sick & lost a lot of weight & couldn’t put it back on.”
I just changed the subject.
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Dec 12
✅✅✅ my appetite is in a good place. Seems cold weather really is still my friend. No idea why. Maybe the hot tea?
Even jogged a bit - softly 😃4 -
@SummerSkier
I use the concept behind your marble technique all the time but focusing on my averages. “Keeping it in perspective”
I might need to find our childhood marbles 4
