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Just ignore him Raige. You've done the right thing. The guy needs to move on, an he will eventually :flowerforyou:0
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Sounds to me like you did the right thing, if your heart isn't there it just won't happen. What he said seemed quite desperate though, I guess see how that goes but likely you'll have to give him the cold shoulder if he continues to make it weird
I'm going to have to give him the cold shoulder. He called last night and I foolishly answered and he had me on the phone for an hour and a half trying to convince me to rethink things. I've never been in this situation ... where I have ended things and the guy wants to hang on and "fight for us" (as he put it). I feel like a truly horrible person.
Fight for you? I would've laughed. You've been "dating" for two weeks!!0 -
Sounds to me like you did the right thing, if your heart isn't there it just won't happen. What he said seemed quite desperate though, I guess see how that goes but likely you'll have to give him the cold shoulder if he continues to make it weird
I'm going to have to give him the cold shoulder. He called last night and I foolishly answered and he had me on the phone for an hour and a half trying to convince me to rethink things. I've never been in this situation ... where I have ended things and the guy wants to hang on and "fight for us" (as he put it). I feel like a truly horrible person.
Fight for you? I would've laughed. You've been "dating" for two weeks!!
I know, screams desperate!0 -
I ended things with him tonight. I knew based on his feelings he would be hurt ... didn't expect what he said. He told me he has fallen for me and he isn't giving up and he will fight for me! I don't even know what to say to that. :frown:
Yeahhhh I had the same situation recently with an ex-boyfriend of mine that I've just grown out of. We initially started dating when I was about 17. 12 years ago!!! On and off for awhile. I was SO deeply in love with him at that time. Until he cheated on me and I found someone new and wonderful. I had gone back and forth a few years ago with my feelings for him and I think I just wanted to settle. At this point I'd rather be forever alone than settle for him. No offense to him, but I've realized he hasn't changed emotionally since I was about 18. I also don't find him as physically attractive as I used to. Now he's saying "I won't disappear on you" (like this other guy did) and that if he would want to be my "partner" if he got this new job because he would feel financially comfortable. I just can't do it. He has sent me a huge text message a few times expressing his feelings but.....I CAN'T! I have love for him because we've been close since a young age....but to just settle and marry and have kids with this person who I'm not "in love" with? I just can't. Better to rip off the Band-Aid now!0 -
Fight for you? I would've laughed. You've been "dating" for two weeks!!I know, screams desperate!
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^^^^ THIS.Fight for you? I would've laughed. You've been "dating" for two weeks!!I know, screams desperate!
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Even today he is still texting trying to see me. I tried to be nice about it ... but today put my foot down and was kind of harsh. His response? "I knew I didn't stand a chance" ... ugh ... how many different ways can you tell someone "I'm not interested" before they get it! :huh:0
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Even today he is still texting trying to see me. I tried to be nice about it ... but today put my foot down and was kind of harsh. His response? "I knew I didn't stand a chance" ... ugh ... how many different ways can you tell someone "I'm not interested" before they get it! :huh:
It is time to block him.0 -
Even today he is still texting trying to see me. I tried to be nice about it ... but today put my foot down and was kind of harsh. His response? "I knew I didn't stand a chance" ... ugh ... how many different ways can you tell someone "I'm not interested" before they get it! :huh:
I would be SO turned off at this point! Block/ignore for sure.0 -
Even today he is still texting trying to see me. I tried to be nice about it ... but today put my foot down and was kind of harsh. His response? "I knew I didn't stand a chance" ... ugh ... how many different ways can you tell someone "I'm not interested" before they get it! :huh:
It is time to block him.
Definitely!0 -
Even today he is still texting trying to see me. I tried to be nice about it ... but today put my foot down and was kind of harsh. His response? "I knew I didn't stand a chance" ... ugh ... how many different ways can you tell someone "I'm not interested" before they get it! :huh:
It is time to block him.
I don't think you can block txt's.0 -
I think you are desperate to be in a realtionship but only want it with guys that don't want you. Have you actually taken time to learn who you are without a guy in your life or do you just hop out of one relationship to another?
This post was really harsh, and unnecessary. God forbid a member of the 'Single Peeps' group wants to discuss her experiences as a single woman in the modern dating world in a forum designated for such activities. If you don't like Raige's posts, don't read them.
Personally, it's sentimentalities like this that have caused me to have a really sour taste in my mouth for this group. You all are exceptionally judgmental of anyone who posts here, but rarely bother to offer up any experiences of your own for which we could all judge in turn.
While I really do think this group suffers from an overall case of being too judgmental of people whose views fall outside of the group's "norms" I also think it would be smart for someone who seems to have a string of bad relationships to really take a break and focus on who she is and what she wants from life.
When I hated myself, I seemed to attract mostly jerks.
Fast forward 2 years: Last time I went on Match I attracted mostly decent guys. They weren't right for me, but they weren't all jerks either. What changed? My level of self contentment and my happiness.. And 15 pounds. I used to think it was the updated pictures with 15 pounds lighter that made the difference, but now I think it's actually the improved confidence and happiness that showed through in the pics.0 -
Even today he is still texting trying to see me. I tried to be nice about it ... but today put my foot down and was kind of harsh. His response? "I knew I didn't stand a chance" ... ugh ... how many different ways can you tell someone "I'm not interested" before they get it! :huh:
It is time to block him.
I don't think you can block txt's.
Pretty sure you can call your phone company and have them block a number entirely from your phone!
But if you can't maybe that is a sign that you need to be more discerning with who gets your number.0 -
Even today he is still texting trying to see me. I tried to be nice about it ... but today put my foot down and was kind of harsh. His response? "I knew I didn't stand a chance" ... ugh ... how many different ways can you tell someone "I'm not interested" before they get it! :huh:
It is time to block him.
I don't think you can block txt's.
Pretty sure you can call your phone company and have them block a number entirely from your phone!
But if you can't maybe that is a sign that you need to be more discerning with who gets your number.
I think Canada is different... but I could be wrong, since I have never tried...0 -
I think you are desperate to be in a realtionship but only want it with guys that don't want you. Have you actually taken time to learn who you are without a guy in your life or do you just hop out of one relationship to another?
This post was really harsh, and unnecessary. God forbid a member of the 'Single Peeps' group wants to discuss her experiences as a single woman in the modern dating world in a forum designated for such activities. If you don't like Raige's posts, don't read them.
Personally, it's sentimentalities like this that have caused me to have a really sour taste in my mouth for this group. You all are exceptionally judgmental of anyone who posts here, but rarely bother to offer up any experiences of your own for which we could all judge in turn.
While I really do think this group suffers from an overall case of being too judgmental of people whose views fall outside of the group's "norms" I also think it would be smart for someone who seems to have a string of bad relationships to really take a break and focus on who she is and what she wants from life.
When I hated myself, I seemed to attract mostly jerks.
Fast forward 2 years: Last time I went on Match I attracted mostly decent guys. They weren't right for me, but they weren't all jerks either. What changed? My level of self contentment and my happiness.. And 15 pounds. I used to think it was the updated pictures with 15 pounds lighter that made the difference, but now I think it's actually the improved confidence and happiness that showed through in the pics.
Agreed 100%0
