2014 Bride Check In
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I was thinking the same thing Cal!! I was talking to someone and as I was telling them what we've planned so far, I'm like. Hey, it's almost completely planned. Easier than I thought it would be from several states away. As for our bands I got one that matched my engagement ring. It looks like this. http://m.kay.com/en/kaystore/engagement---wedding/diamond-wedding-band-1-4-ct-tw-round-cut-14k-white-gold-991045725/100006/100006.100007.100011.
His looks like this but it isn't this one. http://m.kay.com/en/kaystore/engagement---wedding/mens-wedding-band-stainless-steel-25114030399/100006/100006.100007.100011
My dress is in and I have to pick it up next week
not sure where I'll hide it though.
Doing our tastings in February finally! I'm excited!
Having a little drama with my family though. When I refer to my mom and dad, they're not actually my parents. They are my foster parents. My bio dad and wife has been causing drama from the start and I had to sit them down and politely put them in their places. Well my dad believes my foster dad has no right to walk me down the aisle and basically said that he wants nothing to do with the wedding and blah blah blah. Doesn't hurt my feelings much since he's been in my life for the past 8 years when it's convenient for him. Well this whole fiasco occurred in June. I haven't spoken a word to him since. My step mom has texted me periodically but no full on convos. Well when I sent out STDs, she gave the wedding website information to my dads family in WI ( who I am not inciting due to the fact I've net them once) without my permission. So now they have every single detail and are prob expecting an invitation. Don't worry, they're not getting one. I did not let my step mom know it bothered me because I'm pretty sure that was her goal. So now, during thanksgiving month, I put "I'm thankful for..." Statuses each day. Well my second one was that I was thankful for my foster parents and what not. On the 13 or do day, my step mom texts me and pretty much asks why I post things on Facebook about my foster parents being my mom and dad and what not then goes on to say that my dad has been there all along too and "bought me things". I laughed my *kitten* off at this. Buying me things has nothing to do with being there and the fact she ha to balls to mention it was laughable. I guarantee you my dad couldn't tell you where I graduated college from. I met him in my 11th year of school. And since then I get a phone call every once in a while and invited on vacations with them. They missed both my high school and college graduations and have never been to any other life event. I did not respond to the text. Instead I asked my sister what they say about me behind my back and come to find out my step mom makes fun of me and talks all sorts of **** about me to her friends. Anyways I guess she was looking for a response and got mad when I didn't do she deleted me as a friend on Facebook and my dad did the same. So I'm on the fence about inviting them. I've taken the high road this entire time and its just working it into a circle. I wasn't planning on having any one walk me down the aisle to avoid a scene (which my dad said he would make) but I think I will regret not having my foster dad walk me. They've made no effort to reconcile differences and frankly, not having them there would make my life much simpler. So I'm not sure if I'm going to invite them. I'm going to invite my bro and sis regardless. I doubt my dad would let them come if they weren't invited but oh well. I'm also afraid that they will show up and cause a scene even if I don't invite them. Ughhhhh. Screw horrible family dynamics.0 -
Awww, @micqs, that sounds so rough. *hugs* You're strong, you'll make it through. Have you considered asking your foster dad to walk you down the aisle and include your bio dad in the ceremony in a much less important but still significant way? Maybe that would placate him enough to allow you to have the loving experience down the aisle with your foster dad. If you've never met his family in WI, no question you shouldn't invite them. They'll have to deal with it.
It's crazy how much drama a beautiful event like a wedding can bring out. I'm sending out Save The Dates soon, and I'm almost ripping my hair out trying to figure out who to invite. At this point it's impossible to not completely offend someone.
Don't feel bad about a bed and breakfast mini-honeymoon. First of all, that sounds adorable. Also, I've heard many couples just want to stay in bed all day and relax after such an incredibly overwhelming (but joyous) experience. Actually, since it's been really hard to stay under budget for me, one of my registries will be honeymoon-related. Hopefully, guests can buy us things like a nice dinner or a massage.
As for rings, I found out that the wedding band that matches my engagement ring isn't that much cheaper, and therefore, way too expensive for my budget. I'm sure I can find cheaper alternatives elsewhere, though!
@Cal28 I've been Pinterest-ing dress ideas for the past month or two, so at least I know what I'm looking for! I'm so excited and will try to space it out as long as I can.
And yes, I do kind of feel like this whole process is a bit too easy. It occasionally takes up plenty of mental energy, but besides deciding who to invite and mayyybe figuring out hotel blocks, everything has mostly just been fun. I'll let you know about how I fare dealing with the small details a month or two before the event, though.
For now, I have access to a lasercutter for a small fee. Soon, I'm getting free access for a month, so I'm going to go crazy cutting all the wedding-related things that month. I should start designing now!! Woohoo! Most cities have some sort of workspace with a lasercutter that you can use at an hourly rate.0 -
I know maybe distance wedding planning is the way forward :-)
Like your wedding bands micqs!
Mine is similar to this: http://www.brilliantearth.com/Nova-Wedding-Ring-White-Gold-BE2C8897F/ but had it made at work.
This is my OH's http://www.dora.com.au/rings/blends/F1893/index.php
Ooh exciting on the dress, how come you need to collect already? Sure it'll come in a cover so he won't be able to see it unless he goes out of his way to?
Wow lots of stress with the family, I think the guest are the hardest thing about it all! Big hugs! I'm sure you'll sort it out.
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Robin - Just Send the Save the Dates to the definite guests, you can always send the invites to more afterwards. That's what we did anyway, more on budget that not being sure on whether we wanted them there or not. But if you're not sure on them then they may get some plans in the meantime ;-)
Glad you're finding it all fun, have you thought about your hen do yet?
Great that you have access to a laser cutter, I'm in country Australia so not much access to much lol :-)
Have you seen 'PaperPanda' she does some amazing hand cut pieces, I so don't have the patience!!0 -
Hello Everyone! Just joining. Getting married late August. I've lost 30 pounds since Jan and need to lose another 30. The first 30 weren't that tough but now I'm fizzing out, losing my motivation and will power. With 8 months to go, I'm getting worried now because I need to lose and tone up and I know there is no quick-fix.
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Great going! 35lb is great.
I'm sure the New Year will bring some added motivation for us all as then we'll all be getting married THAT YEAR! Eek.
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Welcome JetWan! I think you can do it if you stay on top of everything and fight through the "fizzling" out phase I think I am currently going through it myself. Ive got about 15 pounds or so till I am at my wedding goal weight but 30 more for ultimate goal. Im working on a lifting program so Im assuming I am gaining muscle while losing weight but I am not quite sure how that works. Do you just do cardio or do you lift weight as well?
My update: Figured out centerpieces, just need to nail down the exact color candles, figured out ceremony decor, my invitations and RSVP cards are just about done. My friend is on a cruise so I guess I will need to wait a week till I can completely finalize and figure out where I am printing them off at. I need to ask her about escort cards though. I have an excellent idea but it involves the graphic she bought for the invitation.
I had an awful experience at Men's Wearhouse for the men's attire. The sales associate was so stale it was like talking to a brick. Her voice was like Rose from Two and a Half Men and she added a "hmmm" after EVERY SENTENCE. She was so unhelpful. But unfortunately, MW is the only rental chain on the East Coast so we went to a different store where the two associates were very helpful and actually offered suggestions. So we have our men's wear figured out Hubbies ring came in and it is fantastic!
I booked a salon and have a consult in Feb. I contacted the woman who does my foster parents hair and did my hair for four years. She opened up a salon and wellness center that is pretty awesome apparently. So that is done.
So now I am just stuck. I am not sure what else I need to do. I think it is all just small stuff. Do you girls have any suggestions on easily miss-able details that I should look into? I asked on Facebook and I've gotten some good guest perspective suggestions that I def. wouldn't have thought of.0 -
Thanks Micqs. Just doing cardio for now, not ready to start weight training yet. I think I'm going to move to more intense cardio though.
Good luck with the planning. I took the easy way out and went with an all-inclusive venue after I saw all the things I would have to pull together planning it myself. My hat off to you, wedding planning is a lot of work?0 -
Hey ya'll! September 2014 bride here! Going to start dress hunting in early February and really wanting to get down to at least 147 lbs (currently 157) so 10 lbs. Not impossible but after the holidays I have destroyed my discipline!
I'm nervous about dress shopping simply because I don't gain weigh in pretty curvy places but I have love handles and no butt unless I'm thin. I was at 138 lbs two years ago and loved my body. That was just in dieting so I know it is possible and I did some light jogging here and there. I've started jogging a few times a week just to gain some muscle.
So with that being said I'll take any advice and motivation ya'll can give me. I started back on track this morning with just a little breakfast casserole that I made in the crock pot Christmas Eve. Going to have a salad right before work (2p) and then a protein bar at work.
I'm so excited to have other women to talk to about weight insecurities and wedding plans! 0 -
Welcome!!!
Feel free to add me as a friend. Don't stress dress shopping . It's something to enjoy. 10 pounds is a very attainable goal! You can do it! We're here to help if you need to vent or ask questions! 0 -
Hey y'all!
I just got engaged 8 days ago and am going to be a late September early October 2014 bride! I have 62lbs to lose in 10 months-ish. I am freaking out a little because I want to feel beautiful in my wedding dress and right now I am pretty sure I would look like a marshmallow lol. Plus all my family lives in a different state so I will pretty much be planning this thing solo. My main motivation is that my MOH and one of my bridesmaid are both trying to lose 50lbs by my wedding also so I have a long distance supp ort system. But that is enough negativity for one post! Cheers to us brides- we can all do it 5lbs or 50lbs we have got this! :drinker:0 -
Hi everyone! Just joined today, though I've been engaged for a little over a year now. July 2014 bride, and things are starting to get real -- ordered the invites yesterday, dress is scheduled to ship next week, etc. Yikes! I'd love to lose ~20 lb by July, or ideally by my bachelorette party in early May. Glad to find this group!0
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Hi There! Just recently joined the group! My wedding is March 27th in Maui so less than 12 weeks here. My plan is to lose 15 to 20 pounds more from now to then. According to MFP if I eat 1200 calories a day with my 30 min cardio a day ill be there in no time! :-)
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You will not look like a marshmallow!!!! When are you going dress shopping?
Welcome to those planning from afar, quite a few of us doing the same. My wedding is the other side of the world & my bridesmaid is less than helpful! Luckily for the internet the rest is easier than anticipated.
Also aiming for 20lb (by mid April) Good Luck ladies! This is THE year!!! 0 -
LOL thank you. I am hoping to be at my goal weight by June and I will want to maintain for a month so I will probably be dress shopping in July if everything goes okay. That will give me 3 months for the dress to be taken care of. I'll just be ordering from somewhere like Davids Bridal or even online at Etsy. *sigh* I just don't know.0
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Hi everyone
I get married on 17th May THIS year (yes I am still enjoying saying that)
I want to lose another 15 lbs for my wedding. I got about 5 lbs short last year but have managed to put a load back on again since then.
I'm trying to improve my health as well as my weight this time so I'm trying to make better choices.
Is anyone else trying to drag their OHs along with them on their journey? My OH could do with losing about 1 1/2 stone but I am finding it very hard to motivate him.
I love him how he is but I want him to be healthy and I want him to feel comfortable on the beach on out honeymoon.0 -
Hi everyone
I get married on 17th May THIS year (yes I am still enjoying saying that)
I want to lose another 15 lbs for my wedding. I got about 5 lbs short last year but have managed to put a load back on again since then.
I'm trying to improve my health as well as my weight this time so I'm trying to make better choices.
Is anyone else trying to drag their OHs along with them on their journey? My OH could do with losing about 1 1/2 stone but I am finding it very hard to motivate him.
I love him how he is but I want him to be healthy and I want him to feel comfortable on the beach on out honeymoon.
I found with my OH that I needed to lead by example. As corny as that sounds. I kept tying to get him to do things and it sort of turned him off to everything. So I just kind of left it go. I did my thing, cooked differently, had him try new things, invited instead of telling him to do things. He eventually began requesting things, he joined his own gym, began to go running with me, etc. now he is much better shape than I am. HAHA.
The point is, you cannot force someone to do something. The best thing you can do is just show your OH and like I said, lead by example. 0 -
Hello there! Getting married April 18, 2014!! I'm looking for people to keep me accountable til then so I'm not fat on my wedding day!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: please add!!! :drinker: :drinker:0
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I'll just be ordering from somewhere like Davids Bridal or even online at Etsy. *sigh* I just don't know.
I'm an AVID online shopper (especially for shoes!!) however I really advise you against it for your wedding dress.
Other people may have had a different experience but all my 'dream' dresses from Pinterest did absolutely nothing for me when I tried them on. My dress is NOTHING like I imagined but I do feel really good in it. I'd really suggest going to a good bridal shop where they'll help you find the perfect dress for your body shape.
Once you have a good idea, you could always then get back online if you really wanted to x0 -
Hello Brides to Be.....I've been using my fitness pal for a while but, now I'm finally sticking to it! I only have 10 pounds to get to my goal weight but, I'm starting to get nervous I won't lose it by my May wedding! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! 0
