Haters gonna hate?
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@melissa3555 "Now I dread telling anyone that I track my calories even though I don't think it is something I should have to be ashamed of.
Do you ever feel ashamed of using MFP?"
Never hide your shine for somebody else. I don't talk about it unless someone tells me that she is trying to lose weight, but I'm not going to hide it just to make somebody else feel better about herself. This is hard work, right? It's not as though, for most of us, we can eat whatever we want and laze about and remain thin. It's not as though I eat bon bons all day watching Downton Abbey. I watch Downton Abbey while I'm on the treadmill, and I try to eat pretty cleanly. Even Victoria Beckham has said that she works really hard to remain thin. Maybe one day your friend will realize that the reason you stay thin and healthy is because you DO use MFP.0 -
I had to tell people I have a medical condition that restricts a lot of foods. I do have interstitial cystitis though, and I do have to stay away from certain foods but the fact I had to trot out my condition to keep the snarky comments down sucks.
I've always been thin, my whole family tends to be underweight and I can't help my genetics. I can't put weight on for the life of me. So I get hate if I eat healthy and I get hate when I'm bulking. I can't win.0 -
I can understand what you're saying. People offer snacks at work, or bring in pizza and I'll often have to turn it down because I simply don't have the room in my diary. It might sound odd, but if I'm going to have treats or a calorie-heavy meal, I like to have them with my family rather than while sitting at my desk at work. It's gotten to the point that if I do have whatever they're offering at work, they make a huge deal out of it. I know it's all in fun, but it almost makes me feel worse than having to turn down whatever they're offering.
People are also always saying they don't understand why I'm still trying to lose weight since I'm "already so thin," but I haven't reached the point where I'm happy yet. Some don't get why I exercise like I do voluntarily. For that, I just tell myself that either they get it or they don't. Saying anything other than "because I love it" is pointless.
I'm happy with what I'm doing, I've met some great folks on MFP, and have discovered a side of myself that i never knew existed. Over time, it's gotten easier to just ignore "the haters," and just do my thang.
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I get the usual "Please tell me you're not trying to lose more weight?!!" if I happen to mention I'm headed for a run/workout or order a salad (no dressing lol) for lunch.
Um... no, I'm done losing weight, but I need to maintain it and build strength and 1. That means working out and 2. I actually like salad (and I hate dressings)!
I don't discuss my weight numbers at all or even my routine much. I'm 145cm tall (4'9) so my numbers are obviously much, much smaller than anyone who is normal height. Even when I started to lose weight, people would be telling me they'd love to be that size. They didn't take into consideration they were nearly an entire foot taller than me :grumble: 10kg on me is an awful lot different to 10kg on someone of average height.
"Please tell me you're not trying to lose more weight?!!" I used to get this a lot at work when I was at my fittest. It really, REALLY bothers me.
I don't understand why people feel entitled to make comments about someone's weight. I would never dream about walking up to a co-worker and family member about to eat a cookie and say "Please tell me you are not about to eat a THAT and gain anymore weight" So why is it OK to say things like that to a thin person?!?
I think it is jealousy and insecurities about their own body image. These type of comments certainly don't come from a place of love.
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I get this from pretty heavy older people both men and women at work too. I'm a very short person so no matter how much weight I gain or lose I probably look tiny to other people but that doesn't mean I'm health then. If I've lost 2-3 lbs people seem to notice and say, "you're not losing weight are you? You don't need to lose weight. Don't lose weight." First off it's not there business, I need to take care of my health regardless of what weight I look like outside, I could be unhealthy inside my body. People pushing cookies on me and I get comment all the time even if I've just gained weight recently about "Oh I can tell you've gained weight." and when I lose weight, "Your underweight, you need to gain weight, I need to lose weight, not you." It has to all be jealousy and boredom of their own un-ability to control themselves with eating a healthy balanced diet. let me tell you the people making these comment are the ones you eat nothing but fast quick box meals and junk at work. Hmmm I wonder. Should I take advice from you? no, don't think so. When I tell people i am pre-diabetic. They deny that it's possible for me and even if I am I don't need to change my eating. Yes I did, I used to eat so much junk and processed foods, and I just snacked on chocolate and ice cream constantly. Anyway, people are very frustration.0
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Yeah it's irritating. I have to turn people down a lot because I am also vegan. Some people are like, just eat it any way. Not very respectful, I'm not telling them what to eat.0
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My pet hate is, When you say to people 'Oh yeah i really wanna get fit for summer'
And people respond.. OMG YOUR SO SKINNY YOU DON'T NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT
Firstly, skinny is an offensive term, I am no way skinny i am proud of my muscly legs.
and secondly everyone has a different perception of how they are comfortable with their body, for me to feel fit and strong and healthy overrides any weight, or size i have to pick out in a shop!0 -
I'm new to the group but what an interesting 1st topic for me to read, I'm lucky as I work on a chilled dept in a supermarket so I'm pretty layered up at work but I do get a lot of, " your not still losing weight are you" well yes I am as I have jiggly bits I want tone up and I'm still in they higher end of my ideal weight bracket is what I'd like to say but I almost end up apologising for losing weight and end up telling them my weight to justify myself almost.
I only have 3 friends who I share my weight loss with really now but they understand what I'm still doing and encourage me to workout with my dumbells, more overweight friends like to tell me I'm stupid using MFP and so I no longer share my weight loss joy with them and they never say I look nice in the clothes I wear.
I'm just keeping on with my journey and I shall keep using MFP regardless.0 -
@dnamouse Yeah I love salad too drizzle it with EVOO and I am set0
