My Birthday is Postponed!

Daisyboohoo

I have been sharing a bit a few weeks ago about the "not-so-nice" time we are going through... And I am not going to bore you with my 'sad' story.... Things are just pretty much ****ty (sorry for the word, but it best describes my life) at the moment. Here in South Africa, like I am sure in your country also, we celebrate Christmas as a very special day! Usually there is a special Christmas meal, a tree with decorations and gifts... Well, for us Christmas 2013 had nothing of those things...

My birthday is coming up at the end of this month and I must be truly honest - I am dreading it! I really do not want to celebrate a birthday in our current situation, so this week-end I came up with a plan... I am planing to postpone my birthday..... I intend to notify my family and friends... and this is the message I intend putting out there.... Please do not judge me for doing this, I just really want to enjoy a happy day, and with things like they are at the moment, it is not going to be a happy day! And believe me, my hubby and I are working very hard to turn things around and get to a place where things will be better, but in the meantime.....

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My Birthday is Postponed!

Just want to inform you that my birthday will be postponed until further notice, but at least for six months... Currently if am planning to have my birthday - for this year only - around 30 July 2014... I am doing this NOT because I'm putting off turning hmmm 47, but because where I am right now is not a happy place and it is not how anyone should have to spend their birthday!

I will be canceling all my birthday celebrations (nothing planned anyway) - just makes me feel better to cancel it - makes me not hope in could-have-been's - the disappointment will also not be so big if it didn't happen!

So, if you want to wish me a happy birthday on 30 January, that is fine but just know, is will not be my birthday, at least not this year. I will be celebrating later at a date TBA.

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So, my dear MFP friends... You don't (really) know me and I do not (really) know you... be honest... do you think this is stupid? I am just someone who will enjoy feeling special and will enjoy doing something special for my birthday, and with the way things are at the moment, it will not be special...

annwyatt69

I am SO sorry for all that you are going through. I can honestly say that I understand some of it. Financially, my sons and I know having nothing. We spent time homeless, lived in our vehicle (which we were blessed to have!) and in tents. At one point, we lived in our church, due to the kindness of a man who turned over the keys. We spent years with no Christmas tree, no gifts, and being very "Scroogy." There was no money for these things and my sons, from about 10 years old on, had nothing. Very sad when you cannot give your children gifts for Christmas or birthdays. Obviously, my birthdays and Christmas gifts also went without. For the first time in 8 years, this year, we had a tree (cost all of $39!) We each gave each other one gift apiece. We felt blessed this year to be able to do SOMETHING. Financially, we still live with little, as I and my oldest son are both on disability (government money, which is next to nothing.) My younger sons are in college and, for the most part, we survive on their college loans. Sad will be the day when those come due and need to be paid back. For us, it is what it is. I pray for you that things get better. It is so hard not having, especially when you are used to having. I'm a person with champagne taste and don't even have a beer pocket book. As my dad used to say, "if it took a nickel to get around the world, I couldn't even make out of my own back yard."

Agate69

Perhaps you could celebrate just the day for the joy of having lost 38+ kilos. You may not be in a celebratory place financially, but your health must be improved. It is ok to postpone a family celebration, but take time to sit quietly and reflect how far you have. Come on this weight loss journey. For me deciding to rejoice in the moment and choosing to look forward keeps me sane.

Better tone alive with family who love than to be dead and grieving the loss. I will be wishing you a birthday wish on Jan 30

stroynaya

Unless you normally host a big party for your birthday every year, I would skip the formal message and just let people who inquire know more informally.

Other than that, I can only echo what Agate69 said and suggest you celebrate the positives like your awesome weight loss.

Hope things get better soon and Happy Birthday!