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Emiliebeauchamp
Emiliebeauchamp Posts: 228 Member
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I'm now 22 days sober but I'm always tired, frustrated and pissed off. I feel like calling in sick for the next 30 days. I just want to leave and find a quiet spot to be alone. Is this feeling going to get any better? Or should I follow my instincts and take a vacation from everything???

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  • _SantaClause
    _SantaClause Posts: 335 Member
    When our bodies are used to something for years and years, when we quit it, we for sure go through all sorts of symptoms.

    You are now being forced to deal with your emotions, instead of drowning them out, which I think is what is going on with you now.

    Every once and awhile I have days where I just want to be alone, and just be lazy. (okay, that's most days)

    Take some time to yourself if you can. You're on a road to something so much better.
  • jojokmack
    jojokmack Posts: 117
    I'm now 22 days sober but I'm always tired, frustrated and pissed off. I feel like calling in sick for the next 30 days. I just want to leave and find a quiet spot to be alone. Is this feeling going to get any better? Or should I follow my instincts and take a vacation from everything???

    Everyone has times when you feel like this. You are dealing with life without a 'crutch'. Keep motivated. Having a drink will not make things better,....not in the long run. In fact, it will make things a whole lot worse!
    On the flip side,.....when you start to feel more positive (give it time,....it will happen, I promise you that!).....you will KNOW that you are truly happy. Without the 'fake' boost that alcohol gives you. THAT is the BEST feeling in the world!. xxx :flowerforyou:
  • lemurcat12
    lemurcat12 Posts: 30,886 Member
    It will get better. I agree with the others who say that dealing with your emotions and everyday life without a crutch can get overwhelming at first -- it's not uncommon to have a go into a stage like that, especially after the first honeymoon period.

    One thing that helped me was just to take some time to be alone if you possibly can. I'd work in a little meditation time first thing in the morning (that may be when I consistently started getting up early in the morning just to have the alone time), and then when I got home from work I'd do the same before interacting with people. It wasn't a long time, but it helped a lot. If it's not possible for you at home, I'd imagine going to an outdoor place or some safe indoor space where you can be quiet and meditate or write down your thoughts about the day or some such might help.

    But yeah, the big thing is just to get through it--you'll start feeling more normal (and have a reference for what normal is) after a while.
  • Emiliebeauchamp
    Emiliebeauchamp Posts: 228 Member
    I've been talking about my feeling with my husband a lot. There are so many things that bothered me over the years but i'd just brush it off. Now I take the time to really think about it and talk it over so we can find a solution. I will book myself a week of vacation since I still have 2 weeks left. Maybe I can't go away for a whole week alone but I'll try to plan something relaxing every day while the kids are in school. I'm thinking a pedicure for one of those days and maybe a hike on another.

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