Meeting Like Minded Singles
scapez
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Hi all - I promise to try to make this group as lively as I can. Bear with me. :P
Here's something I wouldn't mind discussing - as a single adult, what are your challenges as far as getting to know new people, both inside and outside of the fitness realm? For example, I would love to get to know other singles in my hometown (suburb of Pittsburgh, PA) but I'm not sure of the best way to do it.
It would be great to meet up with people for workouts, happy hour, dinner, plays, whatever!
Here's something I wouldn't mind discussing - as a single adult, what are your challenges as far as getting to know new people, both inside and outside of the fitness realm? For example, I would love to get to know other singles in my hometown (suburb of Pittsburgh, PA) but I'm not sure of the best way to do it.
It would be great to meet up with people for workouts, happy hour, dinner, plays, whatever!
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I like to find common ground, unfortunately for me or fortunate depending on how you look at it. I work with and workout with women in thier 20s. Very few have their stuff together at 20 or have already had kids and a divorce or two.
Someone who has experienced life would be great and a bonus if they don't talk about themselves 24/7.0 -
This is kind of what I was hoping for with this post - sharing different ways of meeting others that we typically don't interact with. You said you're not clicking with the people you know now- do you ever try ways of getting to know new people?0
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It's hard to meet single men. Most men in my age group are looking for very young girls who wouldn't give them a second look unless they had money.
I would love to meet single men in my area to go hiking with. The weather is really nice right now for out door activities. 0 -
That's the thing - how DO we meet others without coming across as pathetic lonely goobers? I would LOVE to have exercise and/or running buddies!!! I was wondering if anyone here had any success with meetup.com (or any other sites like that).0
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I'm on a dating site right now. It's really hard to meet someone that I can connect with in my area. I live in Arizona and I'm in a rural area. The more promising guys are in the valley about 35- 50 minutes away or more. I receive emails telling me if only I lived closer. I don't think an hour drive is too bad. I really don't wish to move right now at this time. I am open to traveling or even meeting them half way. But I don't want to appear desperate. On line dating is very difficult. I would like to think that I'm worth the drive. 0
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I live out in the middle of nowhere too so meeting someone is a challenge.
It seems that long marrieds break up but always end up with someone else that has just broken up.
A camaraderie thing maybe.0 -
I go out to events like cycling, running, hiking, hoping to meet like minded women. I think that I would like to form a friendship and get to know the person before ever turning it into an intimate relationship.0
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I think that I would like to form a friendship and get to know the person before ever turning it into an intimate relationship.
I think this is the best way, hands down.0 -
I meet people everywhere! I can't go to the grocery store without meeting someone new. I try to have a fun attitude wherever I go and strike up converstion with just about anybody.0
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I live out in the middle of nowhere too so meeting someone is a challenge.
It seems that long marrieds break up but always end up with someone else that has just broken up.
A camaraderie thing maybe.
I hear ya there!! Not alot of people in my town! And most of them know you and you know them so there is also history there to deal with either good or bad!!0 -
I am finding it quite hard! I have primary custody of two kids, so that naturally minimizes my 'getting out there time'. I am a full time student at a small private college...no prospects there. My social circle is made up nearly entirely of couples. There are no single guys at church over the age of like 20. I get out for drinks or things with my girlfriends sometimes, but they're all happily settled so it's not a flirty or attention drawing sort of atmosphere. I try to look my best when I'm out and about anywhere, but it's not like guys seem to notice me at all...which is a shame, because I am one helluva nice person, I think. Oh well, maybe it's just not the right time anyway. 0
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So this weekend I briefly checked out fitness-singles.com and it almost looks like it might be promising. I haven't thoroughly looked to see if there is any kind of membership fees or whatever, but I may just give it a go at some point. It's gotta be better than POF, right?!?!? :laugh:0
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whats POF?0
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whats POF?
plentyoffish.com - free dating site.0 -
I just heard about a group in my area that plans outings for singles like hiking and museums. I think I might look into that, something other than the online dating stuff.0
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I meet people everywhere! I can't go to the grocery store without meeting someone new. I try to have a fun attitude wherever I go and strike up converstion with just about anybody.
This is so me right now, everywhere I go I meet new people. Smiling is infectious and it attracts people.0 -
I'm hoping to fall back on friends trying to set me up!0
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i'd like to meet someone...
...who can spell, use proper grammar, and who has a decent vocabulary. although capitalization and punctuation obviously isn't a major focus.
...who does not have or want children in the immediate future.
...who has or likes large dogs.
...who is affectionate without being smothering.
...who drinks but does not smoke.
...who texts daily or maybe every other day, but not unnecessarily often.
...who is arrogant and maybe a little selfish.
...who is hilarious, sarcastic, and intelligent all at once.
...who appreciates art.
...who limits phone conversations to times when texting simply will not do.
...who is financially, emotionally, mentally and physically independent.
...who does not need me, but wants me.
...who appreciates me and finds me adorable, not bothersome.
...who has an insatiable libido.
...who is ambitious.
...who does not underestimate me.
...who probably doesn't exist.
....thus i have given up searching.0 -
i'd like to meet someone...
...who can spell, use proper grammar, and who has a decent vocabulary. although capitalization and punctuation obviously isn't a major focus.
...who does not have or want children in the immediate future.
...who has or likes large dogs.
...who is affectionate without being smothering.
...who drinks but does not smoke.
...who texts daily or maybe every other day, but not unnecessarily often.
...who is arrogant and maybe a little selfish.
...who is hilarious, sarcastic, and intelligent all at once.
...who appreciates art.
...who limits phone conversations to times when texting simply will not do.
...who is financially, emotionally, mentally and physically independent.
...who does not need me, but wants me.
...who appreciates me and finds me adorable, not bothersome.
...who has an insatiable libido.
...who is ambitious.
...who does not underestimate me.
...who probably doesn't exist.
....thus i have given up searching.
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Is there an application process? LOL0 -
I know that in the Houston area there is a web site (and I can not for the life of me remember the name right now) that is for singles but it isn't a dating site. It is all about hooking up with people to do fun activities. Hiking, Music events, Sporting events, etc. I haven't been on it but I am sure that there is probably something like that in a lot of cities.0
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I know that in the Houston area there is a web site (and I can not for the life of me remember the name right now) that is for singles but it isn't a dating site. It is all about hooking up with people to do fun activities. Hiking, Music events, Sporting events, etc. I haven't been on it but I am sure that there is probably something like that in a lot of cities.
events and adventures?0 -
I live in a university town so it seems like the only place to meet people is either at a bar or WalMart. I never go to bars and WalMart...well...I did meet my last boyfriend in the produce section....sounds like it should've been the start to something meaningful (if nothing other than another sappy chick flick). It ended with him being too afraid of being a responsible adult. PS - we had planned to meet the next night for dinner and a movie but bumped into each other at WalMart....it wasn't like a chance meeting of a stranger. I know....I know.....the movie in everyone's mind just ended right? ha!0
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I meet people everywhere! I can't go to the grocery store without meeting someone new. I try to have a fun attitude wherever I go and strike up converstion with just about anybody.
This is so me right now, everywhere I go I meet new people. Smiling is infectious and it attracts people.
I'm friendly and cheerful...I genuinely like people, for the most part, and I let it show. So, right or wrong, I'm going to go out on a limb and say my body type and lack of confidence might be an issue...I'm improving both, whether it gets me a date or not, but I'm curious for the results.0 -
I know that in the Houston area there is a web site (and I can not for the life of me remember the name right now) that is for singles but it isn't a dating site. It is all about hooking up with people to do fun activities. Hiking, Music events, Sporting events, etc. I haven't been on it but I am sure that there is probably something like that in a lot of cities.
events and adventures?
that's the one!0 -
There is a website called grubwithus where you go to dinner with a group of people. It is not specifically for singles but I was thinking about giving it a try0
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i'd like to meet someone...
...who can spell, use proper grammar, and who has a decent vocabulary. although capitalization and punctuation obviously isn't a major focus.
...who does not want children.
...who has or likes large dogs.
...who is affectionate without being smothering.
...who drinks but does not smoke.
...who texts daily or maybe every other day, but not unnecessarily often.
...who is arrogant and maybe a little selfish.
...who is hilarious, sarcastic, and intelligent all at once.
...who appreciates art.
...who limits phone conversations to times when texting simply will not do.
...who is financially, emotionally, mentally and physically independent.
...who does not need me, but wants me.
...who appreciates me and finds me adorable, not bothersome.
...who has an insatiable libido.
...who is ambitious.
...who does not underestimate me.
Oh I have not given up that he is out there.. somewhere. right?0 -
I know that in the Houston area there is a web site (and I can not for the life of me remember the name right now) that is for singles but it isn't a dating site. It is all about hooking up with people to do fun activities. Hiking, Music events, Sporting events, etc. I haven't been on it but I am sure that there is probably something like that in a lot of cities.
events and adventures?
that's the one!
Be careful with Events and Adventures. There was an article in one of the papers around here that they had a class action lawsuit brought against them. They are charging to JOIN the company and then, you have to pay for the events on top of that. And the cost to join is something ridiculous, like $1,000/year. Really??
I joined some meet-up groups via www.Meetup.com .. it's a great site and many locations have groups already started. I'm an Event Organizer for the Valley Forge Sports and Rec group. You definitely meet a wide variety of people in that way. I met my best friend through an event sponosered by a meet-up (he's my non-boyfriend boyfriend at the moment. It is hard to meet people, I will have to agree. Plenty of Fish seems to just be a plain old hook-up site, while Match isn't much better.
Anyone try eHarmony? I've heard mixed reviews and my experience was awful, but that was in 2004.0 -
My challenge right now is that I don't want to. But I might want to in the future. When I'm happy with myself again. Until then, I'm not going to let anyone else be happy with me, either! It made me reluctant to join this group, but why not? I expect to be around this site for a year or two, maybe by then I'll have changed my mind.
Which brings me to the problem of meeting someone online, never a good thing in my experience, and distance is usually an issue. Trying to meet someone in the rightwing southern US is no picnic, either. I'm a femi-liberal, I'm sure Rush Limbaugh and his many adherents around here would not approve!
Which brings me to the issue of whether or not I want to even stay in this area for much longer. Which I don't. My primary reason for losing weight is to prepare myself for a future skedaddle. I hate this place, have ever since I moved here. Which makes dating an issue, too.
So yeah, everything about where I live is a nightmare. Sure, I could lose the weight and go pick some 20-something up, they're always prowling for a fling, but it wouldn't last, and it probably wouldn't be worth the hassle. But oh well, the option is there, I suppose. Being single is pretty good most of the time, but one thing certainly is lacking.0 -
Interesting... The title of this discussion is; "Meeting Like Minded Singles". Seems like everybody on this site is like minded to some degree. And the members of this group are supposedly single. So allow me to introduce myself and you'll meet a like minded single right here on "My fitness Pal". LOL.
I'm Phil.0 -
Interesting... The title of this discussion is; "Meeting Like Minded Singles". Seems like everybody on this site is like minded to some degree. And the members of this group are supposedly single. So allow me to introduce myself and you'll meet a like minded single right here on "My fitness Pal". LOL.
I'm Phil.
Ha ha, You took the words right outta my mou.... err, fingers. :bigsmile: I'm Celia.0
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