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  • JennBrown83
    JennBrown83 Posts: 131 Member
    wow...haven't been on the boards for a while and the amount of responses is just...wow! thanks for taking the time to ready and respond, everyone. Thanks for explaining your own personal experiences and not getting all pissy about like people on other site might have... this is why i love MFP and all the people here, 90% friendly people willing to talk honestly about themselves, their lives and their experiences, so again thanks!
  • Bonita_Lynne_58
    Bonita_Lynne_58 Posts: 2,794 Member
    I agree that sexuality is a continuum, and that labels are for food. I think we're all born with the capacity to love other people, as well as having a biological sex drive that makes us desire sexual relationships with people we find attractive. I don't think that anyone is 100% limited in their ability to see one gender or the other as attractive. I think a lot of homophobia comes from people who are uncomfortable with the little part of themselves that is attracted to their own gender. ("Methinks thou dost protest too much," as they say...)

    No matter what your orientation, you're going to have no attraction at all to the vast majority of people you meet, regardless of their gender. Gender is one of the things that you find attractive in a potential mate, but it's only one.

    This is what I believe. I could never have found the words to express it so well.
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    (Side Note: I just realized ... I've only ever dated redheads and this exists all the way back to my first ever crush [that's Ginger, of course]. Maybe I'm wrong -- maybe in reality I'm just a ginger-sexual.)

    I love you. So much.

    I identify as bi-sexual, I think the more appropriate label for me is pan-sexual but few people I know actually know what that means anyway, so I (generally) don't use it, to the irritation of on RL friends...anyway, my point it:

    I continue to identify as bi even when In a relationship, however, I am poly and I've never been in a fully monogamous relationship.
  • CakeFit21
    CakeFit21 Posts: 2,521 Member
    This thread is really interesting to me. It never even occurred to me to change my "label" even though I am married to a man. I've always just thought of myself as bi who is married to a man. I never really thought of it as something I COULD change. Although, I will say that after reading many responses I think I would more accurately be described as pan-sexual. I've always just been attracted to the person regardless of gender.
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