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toots99
toots99 Posts: 3,794 Member
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What are some of yours? I just can't date someone who is a poor tipper. I'm a waitress dammit. If you're taking me out, that's something I WILL notice.
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  • becoming_a_new_me
    becoming_a_new_me Posts: 1,860 Member
    I don't like poor tipper, men with really ragged fingernails (for obvious intimate reasons), and One-Uppers (the guy who has done it all, and better than everyone else)
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    -Already having kids
    -Having cats
    -Inattention to personal hygiene in some fashion
    -Rudeness
    -Inflated sense of self worth
    -Lateness
    -Disregard for others
  • toots99
    toots99 Posts: 3,794 Member
    Lateness, yes! "If you're ten minutes early, you're on time. If you're on time, you're late!"
  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    Excessive alcohol drinker, smoker, drugs, cheater, liar .. lol.
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    Excessive alcohol drinker, smoker, drugs, cheater, liar .. lol.

    Also dealbreakers to me as well. Good points!
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Lateness, yes! "If you're ten minutes early, you're on time. If you're on time, you're late!"

    I'm always on time, very seldom early........my fave quote about this:


    Punctuality is a virtue of the bored!! :laugh:


    Seriously, lateness as a dealbreaker??? I'm not going to date you cos you got here on time/5 mins late????

    WTF??? :laugh: :laugh:
  • flimflamfloz
    flimflamfloz Posts: 1,980 Member
    I think I tick all the deal breaker boxes so far. Pretty much. :grumble:
  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    Lateness, yes! "If you're ten minutes early, you're on time. If you're on time, you're late!"

    I absolutely HATE this saying. That is just untrue. You tell me to be there at 7pm, I am there at 7pm. Not 6:50, 7pm. If you want me there at 6:50 .. tell me 6:50. I don't want to sit there for 10 minutes waiting for someone. lol
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    What are some of yours? I just can't date someone who is a poor tipper. I'm a waitress dammit. If you're taking me out, that's something I WILL notice.


    Yeah, I like generous guys. I feel that if you are generous with money, you're generous of spirit, which accounts for a whole lot of values and standards that I like in a person. It doesnt have to be a lot of money, just a thought and an action :bigsmile:

    I think my biggest dealbreaker is black/bad teeth tho. I can't think of kissing someone with bad teeth :noway:

    Also not into alcoholics or drug addicts. Dont mind smokers as I used to smoke myself, so have a certain empathy.
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    My approach to time is simple. 7 means 7.

    A few minutes late won't bother me. More than 10 or 15 minutes late without a text msg or a call will bother me.

    Time is also culturally sensitive as well. If I'm outside the US, my approach to time adapts to local culture.
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    Smoking, drugs, wanting more kids (presumably with me), and/or still being married.
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    Lateness, yes! "If you're ten minutes early, you're on time. If you're on time, you're late!"

    I've always made a point of ringing the doorbell on the minute I'm due (no need to stress the lady out by being early). But if we're meeting in a public place, I'll often arrive early.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Smoking, drugs, wanting more kids (presumably with me), and/or still being married.

    you dont mind a lush then?? :laugh: :wink:
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    I think I tick all the deal breaker boxes so far. Pretty much. :grumble:

    So, you're a smoker, an alcholic, a drug addict, you dont tip, you know it all and you have bad teeth and BO???

    Nice! :laugh:
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    Smoking, drugs, wanting more kids (presumably with me), and/or still being married.

    you dont mind a lush then?? :laugh: :wink:

    Regular drinking isn't going to be a no go. I enjoy wine regularly. But I guess if I noticed the behavior was troubling, I'd probably not stick around.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Lateness, yes! "If you're ten minutes early, you're on time. If you're on time, you're late!"

    I've always made a point of ringing the doorbell on the minute I'm due (no need to stress the lady out by being early).

    I'm taught to do this in my job too!! (sub 'client' for 'lady'). I'm a kitchen designer. Early is considered rude/inconvenient!! :ohwell:
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    -Already having kids
    -Having cats
    -Inattention to personal hygiene in some fashion
    -Rudeness
    -Inflated sense of self worth
    -Lateness
    -Disregard for others

    You know, the kids thing has been a deal breaker for me in the past. Especially when there is constant drama with the other parent. Basically everything but the cats.....
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    Lateness, yes! "If you're ten minutes early, you're on time. If you're on time, you're late!"

    I've always made a point of ringing the doorbell on the minute I'm due (no need to stress the lady out by being early). But if we're meeting in a public place, I'll often arrive early.

    Ditto. And I have dated people that showed up at the house 20+ mintues early, I'm ready but seriously.
  • Lift_This_
    Lift_This_ Posts: 2,756 Member
    Always being late(more than 15 minutes),
    poor hygiene,
    poor tipping (we all work hard for that money),
    drugs,
    smoking,
    always taking about former SO's,
    still married or still with a SO
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    hrm, I got wayyyy too many I think if I'm looking for a relationship. But if its something short, I could literally care less

    for a relationship

    - too self-involved. AKA: "me me me me me"
    - Blaming others for your problems: "That B**ch said this and that and my mom is the reason I'm always depressed"
    - Over confidence: You got breasts...we get it. Get over yourself, you dont make the rules just because of them
    - No show of respect for family: Every family got problems. However, unless I call you "my girl", you telling me how much of a C**t your sister/mother is only makes me respect you less and I dont date people I dont respect
    - User: I (thanks to a buddy who owns most of the strip clubs in the town) am very used to girls who use people for stuff. I know when you actually need me or when you're trying to use me
    - "I'm always right" : No honey, you're not

    I am happily single btw, I would rather be single than be with somebody who I know I wont be for a long time.
  • Katefab26
    Katefab26 Posts: 865
    -Doesn't want kids
    -Atheist
    -Confused by the difference between confidence and arrogance
    -Smoker

    I'm sure there are more, but I don't want to be too negative!!! I'm also totally happy single atm. Being with the wrong person is much much worse than being alone!
  • j4nash
    j4nash Posts: 1,722 Member
    - Stupid all all the things under that umbrella
    - Smoker
    - Weak minded
    - Fiscally Irresponsible
    - Unmotivated
    - On any type of antidepressant medication
  • flimflamfloz
    flimflamfloz Posts: 1,980 Member
    I think I tick all the deal breaker boxes so far. Pretty much. :grumble:
    So, you're a smoker, an alcholic, a drug addict, you dont tip, you know it all and you have bad teeth and BO???
    Nice! :laugh:
    You forgot to say I'm a liar. So who knows if what I've said is true, or if I am even a liar?! :huh:
  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    - Stupid all all the things under that umbrella
    - Smoker
    - Weak minded
    - Fiscally Irresponsible
    - Unmotivated
    - On any type of antidepressant medication

    On any type of antidepressant medication? lol .. that is odd .. how does one casually ask if one is on said medication?
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    I don't have a LOT of dealbreakers anymore, the only two necessities being honor God and financially responsible, but I don't want someone who smokes.

    and I don't think the antidepressent thing is odd... my ex suffers from PTSD (he wasn't always the jerk I portray here sometimes), and quite a few of his family are on antidepressants. Those things fry your minds after a few years, and part of what scares me about a future relationship is the knowledge that you have no idea whose mind will still be strong and whose won't in 10-15 years.
  • j4nash
    j4nash Posts: 1,722 Member
    - Stupid all all the things under that umbrella
    - Smoker
    - Weak minded
    - Fiscally Irresponsible
    - Unmotivated
    - On any type of antidepressant medication

    On any type of antidepressant medication? lol .. that is odd .. how does one casually ask if one is on said medication?

    Surprisingly it will come up in a conversation. Especially if the person can't live without it. Just previous experience. I can't deal with someone who has that kind of dependency. I'm all for treatment, just not for me, especially when alcohol is involved.
  • kimi131
    kimi131 Posts: 1,058 Member
    Bad grammar and spelling are big turnoffs for me. Hey, I'm an English teacher, give me a break :wink: . I like a guy who can write a paragraph.
  • Moe4572
    Moe4572 Posts: 1,428 Member
    Excessive drinking
    Drug use
    Doesn't like kids
    Still married....
  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    Lateness, yes! "If you're ten minutes early, you're on time. If you're on time, you're late!"

    I'm always on time, very seldom early........my fave quote about this:


    Punctuality is a virtue of the bored!! :laugh:


    Seriously, lateness as a dealbreaker??? I'm not going to date you cos you got here on time/5 mins late????

    WTF??? :laugh: :laugh:

    Yes lateness is a total deal breaker as it shows disrespect for the other persons time. Everyonce in awhile is fine but a person that is hibitually late has no chance. Not that I want them there 10 minutes early but if we are meeting some place at 7 I expect you to be there no later then 7:05 and if they are picking me up at my house up to 15 minutes late is acceptable. If you are running later then this just let me know. I have a good friend that is always a half hour late or more and I have come to understand that 7 means 7:30 to her but it drives my type A control freak personality up a freaking wall.
  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    - lateness (see previous post)
    - heavy drinker
    -addicted to porn
    -Mama's boy
    -bad tipper
    -rude (especially to people in the service industry)
    -people the cultivate drama to feel special
    -must love animals
    -wants more kids
    -non-sports lover

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