HELP!!!!

TabithaRose87

After having two kids and gaining 80lbs for each of them, I am nowhere near where I want to be..I have to lose 97lbs in order to be considered "healthy"..at this point it feels impossible, My husband is a wonderful man, but he can eat anything and workout and bam his stomach is gone. I don't have anyone who understands what it is like to have to look at yourself in the mirror every day, and want to cry!
I have let go of my favorite foods(pizza, grilled cheese etc) and have even been eating my veggies(I HATE veggies), Ive been working out, although not as often as Id like cause after working 8-5 every day, I am exhausted when I get home and I dont want to take away from quality time with my babies, they are only 1 and 3... Im feeling angry half the time because I feel like I can't eat what I want to eat, and I know if I give in I am going to hate myself, and it's not going to make feel any better. It's only been 2 weeks and I am losing my MIND AND MOTIVATION!!

Does anyone else feel this way? Any advice??

ALHicks

After having two kids and gaining 80lbs for each of them, I am nowhere near where I want to be..I have to lose 97lbs in order to be considered "healthy"..at this point it feels impossible, My husband is a wonderful man, but he can eat anything and workout and bam his stomach is gone. I don't have anyone who understands what it is like to have to look at yourself in the mirror every day, and want to cry!
I have let go of my favorite foods(pizza, grilled cheese etc) and have even been eating my veggies(I HATE veggies), Ive been working out, although not as often as Id like cause after working 8-5 every day, I am exhausted when I get home and I dont want to take away from quality time with my babies, they are only 1 and 3... Im feeling angry half the time because I feel like I can't eat what I want to eat, and I know if I give in I am going to hate myself, and it's not going to make feel any better. It's only been 2 weeks and I am losing my MIND AND MOTIVATION!!

Does anyone else feel this way? Any advice??

Oh my gosh am I so in your shoes. HOwever; my husband is a bigger man but he chooses not to really do anything about it so we fight constantly about my gym time. All I can tell you is that I feel like it is all a mind game. I keep a weight loss journal where I right down quotes and motivational items. I turn to that and find tidbits like "Nothing taste as good as being skinny feels" and I regroup. I tell myself this time I am going to be successful for my children. Think of how much you could do with them or for them if you were 97 pounds lighter. Plus there is a good chance your bad habbits could rub off on them. I was an over weight child and I dont wish that upon anyone especially my kids. As for the exercise I work some nights 10-7 and I have 2 four year old girls so I know about missing time with them. However; the way I justify it is that I am putting more years on the end of my life. I have a planner and every sunday I sit down and schedule 3 gym visits at an hour at least. On the other days I get up well before my kids and do an exercise video. I saw a quote on pinterest one day that said "A person busier then you is working out right now." so I remind myself of that everytime I want to say I am too busy. I also don't know if you are a religous person but the best quote I have for anything I face in life is Phil 4:13. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. I wish you all the best in the world and hope my ideas helped.

janet0513

I totally understand how you feel, but you can do this. Think about the reasons that you are doing it. You are doing a healthy thing for your body which will allow you to do more things with your kids. I've spent a long time being "jealous" of those who can eat what they want and lose weight easily. I need to be accountable for what I do and what I eat. I have found that my adding friends here and opening my diary, I am being more accountable. There are days that you will not do as well, but you stay accountable and start over the next day. It will be worth it in the end. I don't give up foods I like. Sure there are some foods that are a rare treat, but for the most part I can either fit them into my calories for the day or make a lighter, healthier version. Why not make a grilled cheese with light bread and either no butter or a spray like I can't believe it's not butter? Pizza - I have it all the time. Stick to thin crust, add veggies and easy on the cheese. Or have 1 slice and a salad or a lean cuisine pizza? If you are mad that you are giving things up, you are not going to stick with it. It takes a long time to develop good eating habits, after all how long did it take you to develop the bad ones? You will find it easier as time goes on and your body will not crave the junk. Try different veggies and different ways of preparing them, I'm sure you will find something you like. You can always add to other foods. I like to shred carrots and add to pasta sauce. For meatloaf I saute mushrooms, onions, peppers and carrots and throw them in the food processer and add to to the meat mixture. Check out skinnytaste.com, I use a lot of her recipes and the whole family eats it. For exercise, be creative. Walks at lunch or with the kids in evening. Playing with the kids can burn a lot, play sports, run, bike, swim. Think about how much fun you will have with those babies when you can get in there and play with them as they grow instead of watching from the sidelines. I wish you the best of luck. Feel free to add me if you would like and we can support each other. Remember, you are strong and you can do this!!!