Why are chicks so cray?
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To some extent, the fact that they are hot and single should be a signal. It's not like guys won't flock to hot women. If no other guys are willing or able to take her off the market, that should send up big red flags that she is probably the problem.
This is true, to a large degree. There are hot women who are single because they don't like *kitten*, and, let's just put it out there, the singles market is full of them. But those women are pretty easy to spot; they speak, dress, and behave a little differently than the hot crazy chicks.
Honestly, and I hate admitting this when looking at men. If they are insanely attractive, but very active on their Match profiles...I'm generalizing, but there is a better chance they're trolling for sex than actively searching for a good relationship.
Sad that we categorize things like this... :ohwell:
Good thing I'm questionably attractive and not horribly active on my dating profile.
How you doin?
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Honestly, and I hate admitting this when looking at men. If they are insanely attractive, but very active on their Match profiles...I'm generalizing, but there is a better chance they're trolling for sex than actively searching for a good relationship.
Sad that we categorize things like this... :ohwell:
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Really? I am active on my profile, unfortunately I am not insanely attractive, but I am honestly looking for a relationship and not trolling for sex. I will say though, I have met more than a few women on match who I am convinced are using it solely for booty calls. Nothing wrong with that especially the ones who are upfront and honest about it, but it was an eye opener for me. Not that women have bootycalls but that people are spending money on a dating site to be used for quick hookups vice finding someone for a relationship.0 -
Honestly, and I hate admitting this when looking at men. If they are insanely attractive, but very active on their Match profiles...I'm generalizing, but there is a better chance they're trolling for sex than actively searching for a good relationship.
Sad that we categorize things like this... :ohwell:
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Really? I am active on my profile, unfortunately I am not insanely attractive, but I am honestly looking for a relationship and not trolling for sex. I will say though, I have met more than a few women on match who I am convinced are using it solely for booty calls. Nothing wrong with that especially the ones who are upfront and honest about it, but it was an eye opener for me. Not that women have bootycalls but that people are spending money on a dating site to be used for quick hookups vice finding someone for a relationship.
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But how do you know when a guy is looking for a relationship for real or just for sex. I am learning more and more that dating sites are full of fibbers.
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But how do you know when a guy is looking for a relationship for real or just for sex. I am learning more and more that dating sites are full of fibbers.
When you don't put out and they still stick around.0 -
To some extent, the fact that they are hot and single should be a signal. It's not like guys won't flock to hot women. If no other guys are willing or able to take her off the market, that should send up big red flags that she is probably the problem.
This is true, to a large degree. There are hot women who are single because they don't like *kitten*, and, let's just put it out there, the singles market is full of them. But those women are pretty easy to spot; they speak, dress, and behave a little differently than the hot crazy chicks.
Honestly, and I hate admitting this when looking at men. If they are insanely attractive, but very active on their Match profiles...I'm generalizing, but there is a better chance they're trolling for sex than actively searching for a good relationship.
Sad that we categorize things like this... :ohwell:
It reminds me of George Clooney in Up in the Air when he tells his co-worker that when you're flying you should always get in line behind Asians at security because they pack light and they love slip-on shoes. The girl says "That's racist," and he says "I'm stereotyping. It's faster."
I just get tired of guys saying "I thought she was looking for something serious" about a girl whose profile is full of pictures of her drinking and/or kissing other girls. Cut the crap. You thought she was hot and probably easy. "Serious" was not factored into the decision to message her. That doesn't mean you have to troll for ugly chicks, but don't expect me to commiserate with you when you're not even trying to date women with whom you could actually have a grown-up relationship.0 -
But how do you know when a guy is looking for a relationship for real or just for sex. I am learning more and more that dating sites are full of fibbers.
When you don't put out and they still stick around.
I had this conversation with a male friend over the weekend. He said some men will hang around a long time just to hit it and quit it(of course, his definition of "a long time" to wait for sex is a month or two), so don't think if he hangs around when he's not getting any that he actually likes you. He says you will know when he starts doing little things that show he cares about you, like getting your oil changed, filling up your gas tank, making a concerted effort to include you in activities with his friends, etc.0 -
^^^^ I agree with you JQ. There is a fine line, I obviously have to be attracted to someone but yes over the years (and I have been single now for about 5 years) Ive learned a lot on online dating profiles. The party girls are not my thing anymore and it does get easier to spot. So yeah the why is she crazy when her entire lifestyle and picture profile screams crazy is a silly question.
And I dont know how to differentiate between who is looking for a relationship and who just wants to get laid yet...If I figure it out, I will let you all in on the secret.0 -
^^^^ I agree with you JQ. There is a fine line, I obviously have to be attracted to someone but yes over the years (and I have been single now for about 5 years) Ive learned a lot on online dating profiles. The party girls are not my thing anymore and it does get easier to spot. So yeah the why is she crazy when her entire lifestyle and picture profile screams crazy is a silly question.
And I dont know how to differentiate between who is looking for a relationship and who just wants to get laid yet...If I figure it out, I will let you all in on the secret.
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tired of guys saying "I thought she was looking for something serious" about a girl whose profile is full of pictures of her drinking and/or kissing other girls. Cut the crap. You thought she was hot and probably easy. "Serious" was not factored into the decision to message her.
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To some extent, the fact that they are hot and single should be a signal. It's not like guys won't flock to hot women. If no other guys are willing or able to take her off the market, that should send up big red flags that she is probably the problem.
Wait are you saying none of us are hot?0 -
To some extent, the fact that they are hot and single should be a signal. It's not like guys won't flock to hot women. If no other guys are willing or able to take her off the market, that should send up big red flags that she is probably the problem.
Wait are you saying none of us are hot?
Is that a fat joke?
LOL jk. That's my favorite line to use on people.0 -
Okay, I have an honest question, because I hear this kind of thing from men a lot.
Is there really never an indication that these chicks are not what you're looking for maybe BEFORE they "break it down" for you?
I think a lot of men overlook red flags because they think the woman is super hot.I had this conversation with a male friend over the weekend. He said some men will hang around a long time just to hit it and quit it(of course, his definition of "a long time" to wait for sex is a month or two), so don't think if he hangs around when he's not getting any that he actually likes you. He says you will know when he starts doing little things that show he cares about you, like getting your oil changed, filling up your gas tank, making a concerted effort to include you in activities with his friends, etc.
this too!0 -
Honestly, and I hate admitting this when looking at men. If they are insanely attractive, but very active on their Match profiles...I'm generalizing, but there is a better chance they're trolling for sex than actively searching for a good relationship.
Sad that we categorize things like this... :ohwell:
Really? I am active on my profile, unfortunately I am not insanely attractive, but I am honestly looking for a relationship and not trolling for sex. I will say though, I have met more than a few women on match who I am convinced are using it solely for booty calls. Nothing wrong with that especially the ones who are upfront and honest about it, but it was an eye opener for me. Not that women have bootycalls but that people are spending money on a dating site to be used for quick hookups vice finding someone for a relationship.
I actually work with people like that, using it instead of the bar.
I'm active on my profile and while I don't consider myself to be ugly, I'm no Miranda Kerr.
The guys I speak of could be stunt doubles for David Beckham.
But this is my own hang up, having grown up with very attractive men that were very goal oriented on finding the next lay.
These men may be perfectly legit.
And then they email me and I call shenanigans!! 0 -
i hear this so often from guys who who are primarily picking girls because they are hot without any personality vetting. and then they want to lump all women together as crazy or flakey when they are picking crazy and flaking women :laugh:
so to answer the OP's question chicks are so cray because you are. we tend to attract or go after our own reflections.
maybe start looking within to figure out why your picker is off.
PS. someone constantly talking on their phone during a date is unacceptable. if they cant devote 1 hour to be with you, pay attention to you or get to know you, then you should immediately scratch them off your list of potenials0 -
we tend to attract or go after our own reflections.
Ouch. But so true.0 -
Is it so much for me to expect a man to be ridiculously good looking, charming, smart, able to spell and put together correct sentences, be successful, and have a sense of humor?
Heheheheh.0 -
In defence of gorgeous guys (can't believe I'm typing this) some of the most attractive men I've ever known have also been the nicest
Now I think of it, girls too! 0 -
Is it so much for me to expect a man to be ridiculously good looking, charming, smart, able to spell and put together correct sentences, be successful, and have a sense of humor?
Heheheheh.
Do you make the guys you meet offline take a spelling test? If so, I'd be screwed. I am co-dependent with my spell check.0 -
Ok, so being led around by the nose... 1 date with roller derby girl, and 3 dates with bellydancer girl (who I'd known for 2 years). I'm over both of them already, I'm just venting.
I'm not putting any more effort into either of those ladies. They will still be friends, but I will not be pursuing them, they can chase me if they want me.
I feel like I'm being completely misunderstood with what I'm looking for when I say interesting...
I want a woman with a social life, who is intelligent, caring, giving, interested in similar things to what I'm interested in, has traditional thoughts on relationships (wants a family), I am attracted to, and doesn't expect to be taken care of. I really don't think that's too much to ask, they don't have to be "hot" (which I never used as a descriptor for the women, I said attractive), nor do they have to be in an exotic entertainment industry, that's just what I'm exposed to regularly due to what I do outside of work.
Just getting some clarification out there.
I totally misunderstood you, then. You sound like a good guy, you'll find what you're looking for. But I notice you're a gamer, and MMOs can suck up a lot of time that could have been used in face to face socializing. Nothing wrong with being a gamer, I've been one for many years, but if you're on the prowl, getting out there, and by that I mean hanging out in public places with your friends, is probably going to make your search easier.
Best of luck, the world doesn't have enough good, down to earth, family oriented men. So get out there and someone will come along shortly.
I can relate with the gamer/MMO too. I'm pretty darn social behind a keyboard but face to face in person not so much. but I'm working on it.0 -
I'd like every guy I date to complete the DAS (Dysfunctional Attitude Survey) but whenever I've jokingly brought it up, the guy runs away......0
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