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  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Unless its complete creeper email I think everyone should have the balls/ovaries to reply with an email stating your not interested. Wouldnt you want the same?

    No!! Silence is golden :flowerforyou: I dont want to hear from some stranger/creep/freak/sycophant/narcissist/etc that he doesnt find me attractive. Just dont reply. What's the biggie?? You dont owe everyone on this planet a polite response or vice versa!

    Sometimes, the situation might warrant it (if he made an effort and looks kinda normal) but in general internet dating has become a harsh world. Getting all emotional over replying or getting a reply is kinda pointless :flowerforyou:
  • cfriend71
    cfriend71 Posts: 207 Member
    I know it may seem rude, but I think a non-response is the most appropriate. Why bother TELLING someone you're not interested in them? If you don't reply, then I'm pretty sure they can assume that you're not? Right? Why put salt in the wound? I know very well if someone doesn't reply to me, then I don't email them again, and I figure they are not interested, and that's perfectly fine with me. It's ok, that's why there is vanilla and chocolate ;)
  • cfriend71
    cfriend71 Posts: 207 Member
    To add to that - I get about 27- 30 emails a week on the site that I'm on, and I would say I'm interested in maybe 1 of them, or 2 tops in a good week LOL so answering every email could easily become a part time job if I had to reply to everyone I'm not interested in. It's life, people have different preferences. I'm not offended by that.
  • dixiech1ck
    dixiech1ck Posts: 769 Member
    I replied to one guy, saying I wasn't interested but good luck in his search (or something along those lines), he replied with "You know that before even talking to me? You are shallow and must had Daddy Issues" :huh: :laugh:

    I don't reply anymore.

    OHHHHHHHHHH I've gotten that one too!! I read your profile, we have ZERO in common (they like clubbing and doing drugs and this and that) -- so, why did you write me again?? No thanks.
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    It depends. IMO, if I were to message a guy and he doesn't respond back, it is obvious that he isn't interested. And that is okay if he isn't..I wouldn't stress over it and I would not think that was rude at all. It is up to you if you want to respond or not. :)

    ETA: I am not on any dating sites, but if I were I wouldn't not worry if someone didn't respond back.

    Lol I am still iffy to sign up for a dating site... oh wait I signed up for MFP ... nevermind :laugh:
  • saralynn594
    saralynn594 Posts: 321
    omgsh thats why they don't respond!! Harsh...way harsh. I'm such a catch too.
  • natvanessa
    natvanessa Posts: 230 Member
    Honestly if I message a guy and he is not interested, I would rather they DO NOT reply. I don't want to read a message of somebody telling me they are not interested! I just don't wanna know.

    Also, I do get a lot of messages from men I am not into, and I just don't respond either. I'm pretty sure they get the hint. never thought of it as rude really.
  • BondBomb
    BondBomb Posts: 1,781 Member
    Im in the ignore it camp.
    I get a ridiculous amount of emails per week. I would rather put my efforts into finding someone I like rather than explaining that I am not interested to the ones that I dont like.
    I have written to guys before that never responded. Oh well. I don't have to be everyones type and I don't really need to know why.
    The few I have responded to either took that to mean 'keep trying' or said something rude in return.
    My favorites are the Christians that say they are seeking a 'God fearing woman'. I am clear that I am an athiest and have responded that I don't think we are a match because of that. Then suddenly they are trying to convert me. ugh
  • Natx83
    Natx83 Posts: 1,298 Member
    Wow... I didn't realise this was the spineless group :laugh:

    I should clarify though it's different if they if they say something weird or you get heaps of responses. My dating site works different obviously as it gives you a reply rate :noway:
  • Natx83
    Natx83 Posts: 1,298 Member
    I know not responding is the norm but I think it is SOOOOO RUDE!!!! Just put it out there. That's better than not replying IMO. :flowerforyou:
    Eh, I feel like it is more rude to tell someone that I'm not interested even though all they said was "hi". Or should I engage them in conversation only to lead them on and let them down later?

    Honesty is the best policy as mother always told me :laugh:

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