FWB now wants Relationship
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All these view points are interesting.0
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Hmmm some of these response are great. I have had FWB before and currently have 2 now. The one thing I've noticed is each FwB situation is different. Take the 2 now. 1 guy is a long term friend that really is my buddy. We meet up at the bar and if neither of us has any other plans and are both in the mood we go home together. Then he leaves....... Number 2 however is completely different. We spend tons of time together talking watching movies or hanging out the bar. He is usually over atleast 2/3 times a week and he has slept over multiple times. The difference between the 2 one is truely a friends and the second one is still in that gray area where we will evenrually see whats going on. However as long as your happy with it dont stress it
I can relate. One has become a friend and another is for fun mostly. It is hard not to get emotionally involved but somehow it seems to be working for me over the last few years. It is almost like a dating relationship without the commitment.0 -
I dont want to accidentally hurt anyone, thats all
I dont feel like im being cold, I feel like Im protecting him by limiting how intimate we are with each other.
I wouldnt treat someone this way if it was someone I was dating or falling for, this is just for taking the edge off without the need for a relationship.
Im not cold just because I spent so long being partial to no strings attached with one partner.
Im not cold
Im careful 0 -
I dont stay for breakfast after sex because its a kind of bonding time after sharing something like that and I never wanted my fwb's to bond with me on that level, for fear that they might develop feelings for me.
If my FWBs had been guys I really liked, that I wanted to sleep over and have breakfast with and snuggle, then they wouldnt have been FBuddies, they would be someone I liked...
Im going to go have a complex in that corner over there now
All this time I thougth I was being nice by not manipulating anyone or leading them on, turns out Im just heartless.0 -
yeah, just one. And I can't 'just' do the sex and go! yuk! Has to be the whole being together - go for drinks, cook dinner, sleep, cuddle, chat, laugh............etc. - for the time that you're together. Otherwise, he's not a 'friend' with benefits, he's just a *kitten* buddy! I think there are two definitions......
This! My roommate has been hooking up with this guy pretty regularly (like they know each other's schedule and sometimes she leaves work for a nooner when he has to work night shift, etc) and she would go and come back in less than an hour some nights...I mean, talk about getting yours and coming home lol. Where's the substance? I would rather take care of myself and save the gas :P0 -
All this time I thougth I was being nice by not manipulating anyone or leading them on, turns out Im just heartless.
NOPE NOPE NOPE, you're just doing the right thing. Of course, you would be perceived as "cold" because the man is stereotypically the one who's in that role. Gender roles are RIDICULOUS!0 -
Well, I think I'm certainly not in the right place to judge anyone, I just think you live your life the way you think is appropriate and you made the choices that you thought were the best at the time. So I think you're alright, and those choices certainly are understandable.If my FWBs had been guys I really liked, that I wanted to sleep over and have breakfast with and snuggle, then they wouldnt have been FBuddies, they would be someone I liked... Im going to go have a complex in that corner over there now
All this time I thougth I was being nice by not manipulating anyone or leading them on, turns out Im just heartless.
People from different walks of life will make different choices, so your choices are as unique as your life.
People here are just offering a different perspective, which doesn't make those choices you made wrong.
I think it was a win-win situation, I'm sure these guys didn't complain of your "company" while it lasted either.0 -
Yes happened to me not long ago. I had the same reaction. "you were fun, but not relationship material"0
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I dont stay for breakfast after sex because its a kind of bonding time after sharing something like that and I never wanted my fwb's to bond with me on that level, for fear that they might develop feelings for me.
If my FWBs had been guys I really liked, that I wanted to sleep over and have breakfast with and snuggle, then they wouldnt have been FBuddies, they would be someone I liked... Im going to go have a complex in that corner over there now
All this time I thougth I was being nice by not manipulating anyone or leading them on, turns out Im just heartless.
You are not heartless, I totally get what you are saying. I have had an FWB for about 6 months now. We meet up, do our thing and I leave. No muss no fuss. And NO KISSING. Too intimate. Hell I do not even call him by his name when we are together and he has a fake identity in my phone to keep the nosy people at work from knowing what's up.0 -
Two. Both of whom recently got the boot. :-(
I keep one for two or three months and then switch. Break time. No gettin used to me.
No hanging out with my friends. First time you try to overstay your welcome cause my friends show up is the last time we sleep together.
No coming to my house.
I'm gone before you wake up.
I dont want breakfast.
Dont touch my hands or face.
Dont look me in the eyes as though you think Im beautiful.
Do NOT tell me Im beautiful.
Do not snuggle me.
Do not ask me to order you food or cook for you.
We can get drunk though.
This situation is to fulfill a need, with someone as sexually squeaky clean as I am, and we know we can get each other off. To scratch an itch, not look for love. This has been my MO since 2005.
A lot of people seem to not like this list, but I would love to have a friend who I could just have fun with, no strings attached! I'm not a very, for lack of a better phrase, 'lovey dovey' kind of person in general, and somehow I always end up dating the guys who want to get suuuuper serious. I'm crazy busy at this point in my life and just want a sexy friend who's on the same page as me :laugh: So thanks, I'll be keeping this list in mind.0 -
* looks at profile *A lot of people seem to not like this list, but I would love to have a friend who I could just have fun with, no strings attached! I'm not a very, for lack of a better phrase, 'lovey dovey' kind of person in general, and somehow I always end up dating the guys who want to get suuuuper serious. I'm crazy busy at this point in my life and just want a sexy friend who's on the same page as me :laugh: So thanks, I'll be keeping this list in mind.
* finds out she lives in the USA *
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Two. Both of whom recently got the boot. :-(
I keep one for two or three months and then switch. Break time. No gettin used to me.
No hanging out with my friends. First time you try to overstay your welcome cause my friends show up is the last time we sleep together.
No coming to my house.
I'm gone before you wake up.
I dont want breakfast.
Dont touch my hands or face.
Dont look me in the eyes as though you think Im beautiful.
Do NOT tell me Im beautiful.
Do not snuggle me.
Do not ask me to order you food or cook for you.
We can get drunk though.
This situation is to fulfill a need, with someone as sexually squeaky clean as I am, and we know we can get each other off. To scratch an itch, not look for love. This has been my MO since 2005.
A lot of people seem to not like this list, but I would love to have a friend who I could just have fun with, no strings attached! I'm not a very, for lack of a better phrase, 'lovey dovey' kind of person in general, and somehow I always end up dating the guys who want to get suuuuper serious. I'm crazy busy at this point in my life and just want a sexy friend who's on the same page as me :laugh: So thanks, I'll be keeping this list in mind.
I don't think you have to be lovey dovey or even cuddle... but why the heck would anyone want to get in something that involved these rules... I'd feel like a stunt c*ck0 -
I don't think you have to be lovey dovey or even cuddle... but why the heck would anyone want to get in something that involved these rules... I'd feel like a stunt c*ck
Can't :laugh: Stop :laugh: Laughing :laugh: At :laugh: This :laugh: Line!!!!!!0 -
I don't think you have to be lovey dovey or even cuddle... but why the heck would anyone want to get in something that involved these rules... I'd feel like a stunt c*ck
:laugh: really??? men have feelings?? :laugh:
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I don't think you have to be lovey dovey or even cuddle... but why the heck would anyone want to get in something that involved these rules... I'd feel like a stunt c*ck
:laugh: really??? men have feelings?? :laugh:
No that's a myth! However why would anyone agree to enter something with a list of rules, especially if it's suppose to be fun?0 -
I don't think you have to be lovey dovey or even cuddle... but why the heck would anyone want to get in something that involved these rules... I'd feel like a stunt c*ck
:laugh: really??? men have feelings?? :laugh:
A stunt c*ck would have to be very special and do some very special tricks. Death defying tricks....seriously......0 -
I don't think you have to be lovey dovey or even cuddle... but why the heck would anyone want to get in something that involved these rules... I'd feel like a stunt c*ck
:laugh: really??? men have feelings?? :laugh:
No that's a myth! However why would anyone agree to enter something with a list of rules, especially if it's suppose to be fun?
LOOK I APOLOGISED.
WTF
I set it up to avoid hurting anyone.
I didnt say no kissing, no sex, no laughing, no eating, no drinking, no pot, no sportscenter, no oral, no trash tv, no goofing off, no wrestling, no orgasms, no spontaneity
All I didnt want was the little things that make two people who are sleeping together start falling in love.
And I never tell them the list!
I just dont put myself in the situation where those things will happen.
I dont want them hanging out with my friends because, Im not trying to make mutual ones.
No coming to my house - means I usually show up there, like orgasm delivery! And they wouldnt complain if i had on some kind of crazy get up or nothing under my coat.
I'm gone before you wake up, means they can shower and chill before work without having someone in their bed staring at them. I know I hate that if I dont have feeings for the person. You never have to 'try and get me up and out'
I dont want breakfast, which I explained because I dont want to bond over a meal after sex with someone that I dont want to cultivate feelings with. We can totally have coffee though.
Dont touch my hands or face- which i clarified as holding hands and touching my face in that lovey dovey way- I just simply dont allow this to happen if I feel they may do it.
Dont look me in the eyes as though you think Im beautiful. I keep a light hearted joking demeanor with the guy about love and romance so if he did actually d that- we'd both bust out laughing.
Do NOT tell me Im beautiful. same as above.
Do not snuggle me. Im not looking for human comfort with a FWB. Im fine. I like my space.
Do not ask me to order you food or cook for you. Cause Im not your girlfriend or even someone who may possibly become her.0 -
I don't think you have to be lovey dovey or even cuddle... but why the heck would anyone want to get in something that involved these rules... I'd feel like a stunt c*ck
:laugh: really??? men have feelings?? :laugh:
No that's a myth! However why would anyone agree to enter something with a list of rules, especially if it's suppose to be fun?
LOOK I APOLOGISED.
WTF
I set it up to avoid hurting anyone.
I didnt say no kissing, no sex, no laughing, no eating, no drinking, no pot, no sportscenter, no oral, no trash tv, no goofing off, no wrestling, no orgasms, no spontaneity
All I didnt want was the little things that make two people who are sleeping together start falling in love.
And I never tell them the list!
I just dont put myself in the situation where those things will happen.
I dont want them hanging out with my friends because, Im not trying to make mutual ones.
No coming to my house - means I usually show up there, like orgasm delivery! And they wouldnt complain if i had on some kind of crazy get up or nothing under my coat.
I'm gone before you wake up, means they can shower and chill before work without having someone in their bed staring at them. I know I hate that if I dont have feeings for the person. You never have to 'try and get me up and out'
I dont want breakfast, which I explained because I dont want to bond over a meal after sex with someone that I dont want to cultivate feelings with. We can totally have coffee though.
Dont touch my hands or face- which i clarified as holding hands and touching my face in that lovey dovey way- I just simply dont allow this to happen if I feel they may do it.
Dont look me in the eyes as though you think Im beautiful. I keep a light hearted joking demeanor with the guy about love and romance so if he did actually d that- we'd both bust out laughing.
Do NOT tell me Im beautiful. same as above.
Do not snuggle me. Im not looking for human comfort with a FWB. Im fine. I like my space.
Do not ask me to order you food or cook for you. Cause Im not your girlfriend or even someone who may possibly become her.
No need to apologise... it's your life! Your list just wouldn't be for me0 -
which is fine as well but im not cold.
im not.0
