Media Influence
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I agree that tv and movies has painted an unrealistic version of relationships. I would love to be swept off my feet by my prince charming that will be faithful, honest and true to me and only me. I am well aware that tv is fiction, but its still nice to fantasize about a dream world.0
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I'm surprised no one has mentioned this- I think the biggest think media portrays is that everyone thinks sex is no big deal. In any show I can think of, all of the characters are sleeping around. I can't remember the last time I saw a show where someone was waiting to be in a serious relationship first. It almost seems like the way they portray it, you sleep together first and decide if you really want to "date for real" later. I take sex seriously and that is NOT okay with me. Even the shows about teens have them all sleeping around.0
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I'm surprised no one has mentioned this- I think the biggest think media portrays is that everyone thinks sex is no big deal. In any show I can think of, all of the characters are sleeping around. I can't remember the last time I saw a show where someone was waiting to be in a serious relationship first.
One of the benefits of this board is learning how other people think. I had no idea so many people (men AND women) had such a casual attitude about sex. It helps me understand some of my past unsuccessful dating attempts.0 -
The media has actually backed up most of what my parents taught me when I was sixteen and they sat me down and said this is what you need to know about dating. Some things Ive learned from the media/society:
♥ dont try to have a serious or thought-provoking conversation with a guy as soon as he gets home from work. Give him a couple hours to get out of work mode, shower, pee, eat, do nothing for awhile, change, fart, relax, forget about his boss, check sportscenter - just leave him be. Relax, dont be so selfish.
♥ also- if you try to talk to him during the game- youre going to be disappointed. It would be like if he was trying to have a serious conversation with you 3 minutes after your BFFs showed up at the house and one had on an engagement ring and the other was waving plane tickets... he's just not going to have your needed attention at the moment. Dont expect his. And dont try to cram it all in during the commercials, he's either going to be answering texts, talking to his buds about the game or he's all wound up wanting to know what happens next, or its a new beer commercial. Relax, dont be so selfish.
♥ Calling names and cursing during an argument means you've lost, your point's been proven wrong, are a sore loser, and you dont have that much respect for the person that holds your heart.
♥ Be careful what you say in the heat of th moment, even if it was awful terrible and too far and he doesnt react- about 2 am- he'll be laying in bed stewing over what you said- it plants a seed that haunts him later. Dont haunt your man.
♥ Guys get sad and cranky and moody when they are lacking the essentials that babies need - not that they are babies- just that you know these are their basic needs still.. needs food, needs a poo, needs sleep, needs human contact, or is sick. If any of these things are happening and he's grumpy as **** and doesnt realise why... for goodness sake, take care of your man.
♥ You gotta have play time. Finding ways to turn chores into fun games, like jumping from sofa to sofa having a sock and towel war while folding laundry and avoiding the hot lava floor is awesome fun, but its also chores. Keep dating.
♥ Try to be the first one ready 50% of the time.
♥ Come up with a code phrase to signal to your man that you're totally over this party and want to jump in the car and give him a *kitten* asap
♥ Guys need compliments, reassurance and to be flirted with just as much as you do. Dont be the girl taht sits there and soaks up their affection - giving and taking makes it so much better... and far more genuine.
♥ NEVER CORRECT OR BELITTLE YOUR MAN IN PUBLIC, whether its your friends, his friends or the general strange public or even the interwebs. YOURE SUPPOSED TO HAVE HIS BACK. Thats no way to treat your #1. They dont have the same exact thinking patterns as we do, if you cut him down or act condescendingly toward him in public, he's going to question whether or not he can count on you. Dont be that b!tch.
♥ If you have a list that says you want someone who is financially stble, in good shape, loves beng active, loves traveling and continually tries to better themselves, is socially healthy and always fun at a party... then you better make damn sure that you are everything on that list as well... how sad would it be to meet that person and know that they are getting the short end of the stick cause all you were concentrating on was what you wanted... not what they might be looking for?
♥♥♥ i could go on and on with what Ive learned and how the media (combined with my parents' no-nonsense approach to the whole deal) has shaped how I see dating and love. I realize that I am affected by my own perception of what comes through my senses, but Im responsible for that.
Thanks for this^^^ I am now moving to NY and going to try and wooo you!0 -
I agree that tv and movies has painted an unrealistic version of relationships. I would love to be swept off my feet by my prince charming that will be faithful, honest and true to me and only me. I am well aware that tv is fiction, but its still nice to fantasize about a dream world.
I dont think that is dream world....I hope it is out there. Well except I would rather it be a princess vice prince!0
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