You can't help who you're attracted to, right?
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I am in a similar position right now. Nice guy (no not a wimpy guy), but no physical attraction for me whatsoever. I want to be with someone that doesn't want to keep his hands off and I want to feel the same for him. If its not there, its just not there.0
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I am annoyed by him and I don't even know him.
The Nice Guy Defined
While the nice guy is an agreeable person, he's got no control over his life. He allows women to come into his life, he agrees with them on everything, and hopes and prays that these women will like him for being so agreeable. It's so important for women to like him, so he's Mr. Agreeable.
Mr. Agreeable never gets the girl. He never gets the second date after the first because he's boring. What being so agreeable tells a woman is that you do not have enough self-respect to stand up to your own values. You don't think enough of yourself to own your identity, so you become accommodating, inoffensive and boring. You become the boring nice guy nobody wants to date. When you’re attracted to a woman, you do everything you can to please her. She's got a cold? You’ll bring her cold medicine. She tells you she's got a headache tonight? You drive her home. She tells you that she can't see you this weekend, you'll say, “Oh, that's OK. We'll get together whenever you're ready.” You don't have a plan. You're wishy-washy on everything you do. You're Mr. Whatever-You-Want-To-Do.
Read more: http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice_600/608_why-do-nice-guys-finish-last.html#ixzz1tGwUiKX0
Wow! Thanks for that! I almost brought her some cold medicine! That B*tch can get her *kitten* out of bed and get her own damn cold medicine. . I've got porn to download!
LOL
My honey would buy me cold medicine... and I made him soup when he was sick. These are normal things to do for someone you care about. Like Carl said, this is more of an insecure emotionally unstable guy.. not a real nice guy.0 -
Perhaps there should be two definitions of a nice guy:
The one that is a walk over.......
and the one that is just ............nice!
Personally, I never use the term 'nice guy' for the former, so you're alright Carl......rawr!!! :laugh:0 -
Attraction to me is more than liking someone's personality or liking someone's looks. Either you are feelin' it or you aren't. There are so many facets to attraction, and a lot of them are just chemical-pheromones, hormones, etc. I don't know how you grow to be attracted to someone, though I can see how you find yourself surprised to be attracted to someone that is not physically your type. Something isn't gelling. May or may not have anything to do with if he's too nice or boring. The energy is not there. No harm in telling him that you think he's cool but you don't think you have a romantic future.0
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Don't be that hard on her.I am annoyed by him and I don't even know him.
The Nice Guy Defined
While the nice guy is an agreeable person, he's got no control over his life. He allows women to come into his life, he agrees with them on everything, and hopes and prays that these women will like him for being so agreeable. It's so important for women to like him, so he's Mr. Agreeable.
Mr. Agreeable never gets the girl. He never gets the second date after the first because he's boring. What being so agreeable tells a woman is that you do not have enough self-respect to stand up to your own values. You don't think enough of yourself to own your identity, so you become accommodating, inoffensive and boring. You become the boring nice guy nobody wants to date. When you’re attracted to a woman, you do everything you can to please her. She's got a cold? You’ll bring her cold medicine. She tells you she's got a headache tonight? You drive her home. She tells you that she can't see you this weekend, you'll say, “Oh, that's OK. We'll get together whenever you're ready.” You don't have a plan. You're wishy-washy on everything you do. You're Mr. Whatever-You-Want-To-Do.
Read more: http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice_600/608_why-do-nice-guys-finish-last.html#ixzz1tGwUiKX0
Wow! Thanks for that! I almost brought her some cold medicine! That B*tch can get her *kitten* out of bed and get her own damn cold medicine. . I've got porn to download!
Put the cold medicine on your c0ck, and everyone is happy! (she's gotta deserve it)
(LOL :laugh: your answer cracks me up)0 -
Okay, so I guess I know what I've gotta do...so how do I do it? Over the phone? In person? Slowly back things off? Or rip off the band-aid?0
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Okay, so I guess I know what I've gotta do...so how do I do it? Over the phone? In person? Slowly back things off? Or rip off the band-aid?
If you respect him and like him as a person then give him respect and do it on the phone or in person. Its so disrespectful to do it by text or just back off, thats how players do with women that they just railed on a one night stand and never want to see them again. Just talk to him and hopefully he wont get hurt. However you do it, you need to do it soon before he talks about you to his friends and family and thinks there is something special between you too. I wish you luck.0 -
Okay, so I guess I know what I've gotta do...so how do I do it? Over the phone? In person? Slowly back things off? Or rip off the band-aid?
band-aid. in person.0 -
Okay, so I guess I know what I've gotta do...so how do I do it? Over the phone? In person? Slowly back things off? Or rip off the band-aid?
Over the phone :flowerforyou: Text is a bit impersonal for someone you've had a few dates with. In person is a bit too personal for someone you've just dated a few times. Backing off is just cowardly. No idea what you would do with a band aid :laugh: I say the phone is about right :flowerforyou:0 -
i vote for over the phone. in person is just weird cus you'd have to set up what he would think would be a date but would obviously not be a date0
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I am annoyed by him and I don't even know him.
The Nice Guy Defined
While the nice guy is an agreeable person, he's got no control over his life. He allows women to come into his life, he agrees with them on everything, and hopes and prays that these women will like him for being so agreeable. It's so important for women to like him, so he's Mr. Agreeable.
Mr. Agreeable never gets the girl. He never gets the second date after the first because he's boring. What being so agreeable tells a woman is that you do not have enough self-respect to stand up to your own values. You don't think enough of yourself to own your identity, so you become accommodating, inoffensive and boring. You become the boring nice guy nobody wants to date. When you’re attracted to a woman, you do everything you can to please her. She's got a cold? You’ll bring her cold medicine. She tells you she's got a headache tonight? You drive her home. She tells you that she can't see you this weekend, you'll say, “Oh, that's OK. We'll get together whenever you're ready.” You don't have a plan. You're wishy-washy on everything you do. You're Mr. Whatever-You-Want-To-Do.
Read more: http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice_600/608_why-do-nice-guys-finish-last.html#ixzz1tGwUiKX0
Wow! Thanks for that! I almost brought her some cold medicine! That B*tch can get her *kitten* out of bed and get her own damn cold medicine. . I've got porn to download!
Now thats some funny Sh@t.. I'm so telling my next girlfriend to get her own medication from now own I got porn to download hahahahah...0 -
i vote for over the phone. in person is just weird cus you'd have to set up what he would think would be a date but would obviously not be a date
That's what I was thinking...0 -
You're going to hurt his feelings. Do it now rather than later though if you're 100% sure. Just tell him you're not interested in pursuing something right now. Keep it simple but leave no ambiguity.
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The last girl I dated, we hung out for at least a couple months before she started backing off a bit. I sensed something was off because she never really seemed like she wanted to hang out. So I texted her about it and she just said she was trying to take things slowly and get to know me. I said no biggie, we only hang out like once a week, but whatever.Okay, so I guess I know what I've gotta do...so how do I do it? Over the phone? In person? Slowly back things off? Or rip off the band-aid?
Over the phone :flowerforyou: Text is a bit impersonal for someone you've had a few dates with. In person is a bit too personal for someone you've just dated a few times. Backing off is just cowardly. No idea what you would do with a band aid :laugh: I say the phone is about right :flowerforyou:
She texted me a week later said she didn't think things would work out. I told her I kind of got the hint and she could have told be that a week ago when I asked. And she could kindly go **** herself.
I don't care if someone does it over text, just be honest with me when I ask about it.0 -
You're going to hurt his feelings. Do it now rather than later though if you're 100% sure. Just tell him you're not interested in pursuing something right now. Keep it simple but leave no ambiguity.
^^^ This ^^^
I'm in this exact situation, only it's me in love with my best friend but he doesn't see me that way.
He pulled the whole "I'm not interested in pursuing something right now". This is a ****ty statement because you actually are leaving room for hope. Tell him straight up that you do not feel the same way as him. I could never get my best friend to tell me that, I know he didn't want to hurt my feelings. But instead, I am still hung up on him because he constantly leaves room for my interpretation. Be CRYSTAL CLEAR.0
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