Do you believe this.......

Meghan0116
Meghan0116 Posts: 1,268 Member
You will meet someone when you least expect it

When you stop looking so hard, it will happen

etc.

Blegh.
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  • Myslissa
    Myslissa Posts: 760 Member
    You will meet someone when you least expect it

    When you stop looking so hard, it will happen

    etc.

    Blegh.

    Blah Blah....it just like the crap they feed you about it being in the last place you look....well why in hell would you keep looking if you find it?
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    No,while it can happen I don`t think that is anywhere close to being accurate.
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    Not in the slightest bit.
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    nope. i think most people have to put some measure of effort into it otherwise they miss things. those statements are probably true for those "love at first sight" type encounters but of all the couples i know, that type thing only happened to 1 of them.
  • Meghan0116
    Meghan0116 Posts: 1,268 Member
    That is what attached people tell me when I ***** about being single. Pretty sure the universe isn't interested enough in me to have that happen. lol
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    You will meet someone when you least expect it

    When you stop looking so hard, it will happen

    etc.

    Blegh.

    Well, I believe it to the extent that I never leave home thinking I'm about to run into the love of my life, so I'm not expecting it at any given moment.

    But in a larger sense, I'm 29, I'm single, and I don't want to be. So of course I am expecting to meet someone in the near future. I can't change that. And it is pretty much always people who are married or otherwise attached who come up with that garbage, anyway.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    That is what attached people tell me when I ***** about being single. Pretty sure the universe isn't interested enough in me to have that happen. lol

    I would bet that most if them will tell you that they met someone on their own without the help of anyone too.
    What I have heard a lot over the years and almost universally untrue,a friend,family member,somebody brought them together.
    Maybe the intention was not a relationship but regardless they didn`t just run into a guy/gal on the street and swept them off their feet like they want to think they did.
  • JThomas61
    JThomas61 Posts: 892
    I believe in it 1,000,000%~ ! Been there done that and have the T shirt to prove it! :drinker:
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    I like the sentiment of it, but in reality who knows?
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    This may be more true with women, but guys have to be a little more proactive. If I didn't try or keep my eyes open I wouldn't date at all.
  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    Nope.

    I don't believe that there is one person for everyone either.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    No... maybe that's somebody's story but not necessarily true for everybody.
  • scapez
    scapez Posts: 2,018 Member
    No... maybe that's somebody's story but not necessarily true for everybody.

    It's my story. :flowerforyou:
  • MyTime1985
    MyTime1985 Posts: 456 Member
    No way.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    No... maybe that's somebody's story but not necessarily true for everybody.

    It's my story. :flowerforyou:

    See, I'm not sure if I've found true love just yet (but it's definately true LIKE :bigsmile: ) and I was dating, not really looking for something serious or for a boyfriend. It just happened. I didn't expect it at all... BUT, I was on a dating site which means I was looking.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Well, I think it can happen that way. I believe in love at first sight. But i think it is a rather overused cliché to make single people feel better :huh:
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    No... maybe that's somebody's story but not necessarily true for everybody.

    It's my story. :flowerforyou:

    See, I'm not sure if I've found true love just yet (but it's definately true LIKE :bigsmile: ) and I was dating, not really looking for something serious or for a boyfriend. It just happened. I didn't expect it at all... BUT, I was on a dating site which means I was looking.
    So your point is moot.

    I think to a certain extent.
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    Well, I think it can happen that way. I believe in love at first sight. But i think it is a rather overused cliché to make single people feel better :huh:

    There's no love at first site. There is infatuation, but not love. Unless you're simply loving someone for their looks.
  • Tropical_Turtle
    Tropical_Turtle Posts: 2,236 Member
    love   /lʌv/ Show Spelled [luhv] Show IPA noun, verb, loved, lov·ing.
    noun
    1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
    2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
    3. sexual passion or desire.
    4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
    5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?

    lust   /lʌst/ Show Spelled[luhst] Show IPA
    noun
    1. intense sexual desire or appetite.
    2. uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.
    3. a passionate or overmastering desire or craving (usually followed by for ): a lust for power.
    4. ardent enthusiasm; zest; relish: an enviable lust for life.
    5. Obsolete .
    a. pleasure or delight.
    b. desire; inclination; wish.


    With those being said - eh I dont believe in love at first site. Lust at first sight is much more accurate. I do believe there is someone for everyone (if you want them in your life - it is a decision) if my sloth of an uncle can find someone. And no I do not believe you will meet someone when you least expect that. I have heard that for years and now almost 40 with NOTHING I wanted so much for in life (marriage, family etc) So NO I dont believe the crap spewed by others who are where they want to be or have what they have longed for.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Well, I think it can happen that way. I believe in love at first sight. But i think it is a rather overused cliché to make single people feel better :huh:

    There's no love at first site. There is infatuation, but not love. Unless you're simply loving someone for their looks.

    Well, I can only speak from experience and it's happened to me, so......nothing to do with looks, or infatuation. Just an overwhelming feeling of this is the 'one' as soon as I met him. Can't explain it, but who can explain why they feel love for someone anyhow? And 5 years later, I still feel the same about him. But obviously, its not reciprocated :cry:
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I don't believe in love at first sight either...

    It can be lust or lust with amazing chemistry... but I think love takes time to bloom.
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    Well, I think it can happen that way. I believe in love at first sight. But i think it is a rather overused cliché to make single people feel better :huh:

    There's no love at first site. There is infatuation, but not love. Unless you're simply loving someone for their looks.

    Well, I can only speak from experience and it's happened to me, so......nothing to do with looks, or infatuation. Just an overwhelming feeling of this is the 'one' as soon as I met him. Can't explain it, but who can explain why they feel love for someone anyhow? And 5 years later, I still feel the same about him. But obviously, its not reciprocated :cry:

    Yeah, still not possible imo.
    I'm sorry to hear though.
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    I don't believe in love at first sight either...

    It can be lust or lust with amazing chemistry... but I think love takes time to bloom.

    Which is why I'm pouring some miracle grow on our date :D:love:
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    I have heard that for years and now almost 40 with NOTHING I wanted so much for in life (marriage, family etc) So NO I dont believe the crap spewed by others who are where they want to be or have what they have longed for.

    Yeah, I certainly wouldnt sit around waiting for it to happen :yawn:
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    Well, I think it can happen that way. I believe in love at first sight. But i think it is a rather overused cliché to make single people feel better :huh:

    There's no love at first site. There is infatuation, but not love. Unless you're simply loving someone for their looks.

    Well, I can only speak from experience and it's happened to me, so......nothing to do with looks, or infatuation. Just an overwhelming feeling of this is the 'one' as soon as I met him. Can't explain it, but who can explain why they feel love for someone anyhow? And 5 years later, I still feel the same about him. But obviously, its not reciprocated :cry:

    damn these FL's or whatever yours was.... :explode: :brokenheart: :cry:
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I don't believe in love at first sight either...

    It can be lust or lust with amazing chemistry... but I think love takes time to bloom.

    Which is why I'm pouring some miracle grow on our date :D:love:

    I know what miracle grow is... but I just pictured a Ch-ch-ch- chia pet.
  • j4nash
    j4nash Posts: 1,719 Member
    I think it's more that you're fed up with the dating scene when the "it'll come along when you least expect it scenario" takes place.. this presents better grounds for your chances of something working out because you're less emotionally involved in the whole damn mess because you're sick of it and don't put as much pressure on yourself for success.. and also you don't act all cray cray in the beginning and raise the warning flag alerts that scares people off.. and you also don't give two ****s about the dating formalities and generally skip them and jump straight into hanging out where you and the other person are more comfortable,
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Honestly... I think I've stopped believing in love and relationships all together. The best and happiest I have ever been was single. I had to work for everything I have and I'm not willing to take care of anyone, but me (and my kids, of course) anymore!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I think it's a nice way of telling single people to shut up and quit whining about being single.
  • scapez
    scapez Posts: 2,018 Member
    love   /lʌv/ Show Spelled [luhv] Show IPA noun, verb, loved, lov·ing.
    noun
    1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
    2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
    3. sexual passion or desire.
    4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
    5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?

    lust   /lʌst/ Show Spelled[luhst] Show IPA
    noun
    1. intense sexual desire or appetite.
    2. uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.
    3. a passionate or overmastering desire or craving (usually followed by for ): a lust for power.
    4. ardent enthusiasm; zest; relish: an enviable lust for life.
    5. Obsolete .
    a. pleasure or delight.
    b. desire; inclination; wish.


    With those being said - eh I dont believe in love at first site. Lust at first sight is much more accurate. I do believe there is someone for everyone (if you want them in your life - it is a decision) if my sloth of an uncle can find someone. And no I do not believe you will meet someone when you least expect that. I have heard that for years and now almost 40 with NOTHING I wanted so much for in life (marriage, family etc) So NO I dont believe the crap spewed by others who are where they want to be or have what they have longed for.

    Hey, I'm 45. Never married but plenty of LTR's. I never thought it would happen to me either...and to be quite honest, believed in it even before I found it (though to be fair I was starting to have serious doubts!)