The men in our group who won't date ladies with kids

catherine4211
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haha good one! Love it!0
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I won't. Not my thing. Tried it once, it's not worth it and doesn't fit my lifestyle. There are several reasons too.0
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:noway:0
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never tried it so I can't say its a good or bad thing but each their own0
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Send PM and I'll talk.0
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Send PM and I'll talk.
Hell, you can ask here. I have no problem answering0 -
Seriously, ask away.0
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Yeah, let's talk...0
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Whew...I can`t get into trouble with this one! :drinker:0
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If you met a girl who you got along with better than any other girl your whole life would you be able to overlook the no kids thing? I'm asking because this is my situation right now. We've been hanging out and he flat out told me I'm wonderful, we got along so well, I'm awesome, blah blah blah. But then said he can't be in a relationship with someone who has kids. Can my awesomeness out-do this feeling he has???0
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you'll have to ask him that.0
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you'll have to ask him that.
Well I did. He said he doesn't want to lead me on but for right now he can't see it. But doesn't want our friendship and fun to change. We've been having an absolute blast. I have put my feelings on hold but I do have them and don't want to hold on to any hope if there is none. The way he looks at me I see hope that he could overlook it. But could it be that he's just a really sweet guy? I've never dated a sweet guy before.0 -
I understand the issue of instant fatherhood and the concerns but I also can`t imagine walking away from a lady I felt that way about.
Maybe I will get myself in trouble afterall.0 -
If you met a girl who you got along with better than any other girl your whole life would you be able to overlook the no kids thing? I'm asking because this is my situation right now. We've been hanging out and he flat out told me I'm wonderful, we got along so well, I'm awesome, blah blah blah. But then said he can't be in a relationship with someone who has kids. Can my awesomeness out-do this feeling he has???
Speaking on my behalf. No, it won't change. I wouldn't be able to get over it. It's a deal breaker.0 -
I understand the issue of instant fatherhood and the concerns but I also can`t imagine walking away from a lady I felt that way about.
Maybe I will get myself in trouble afterall.
It's simple really. No matter how awesome the girl, I can't do kids. I just can't. It is an absolute deal breaker. Regardless of how many feelings I have or how awesome she is.0 -
I'm not a man... but to me.. sounds iffy. Iffy because he knew you had kids before starting this. So apparently he knew and only wanted to have fun (nothing serious) and then you started having feelings for him and asked him.
Or he didn't mind you having kids but now is using that as an excuse to not commit.
I'm not sure but that's what I'd think.0 -
If it was something that he couldn't overcome why would he date you in the first place? That's what I would be asking him. If he wasn't upfront about that and is just telling you that now after spending time together then I would think that he likes having fun with you, but doesn't see anything long term coming of it.
Of course, I could be way off...just my opinion :flowerforyou:0 -
I guess I need to keep my glimmer of hope that he'll change his mind inside and keep looking. It's going to be tough because we get along so well. I just don't want to be looking at him with rose colored glasses. He's not perfect by any means but we are a great match. Well I guess that's not true but you know what I mean. It will break my heart to not have him in my life.0
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I'm not a man... but to me.. sounds iffy. Iffy because he knew you had kids before starting this. So apparently he knew and only wanted to have fun (nothing serious) and then you started having feelings for him and asked him.
Or he didn't mind you having kids but now is using that as an excuse to not commit.
I'm not sure but that's what I'd think.
Dating or hanging out?
To you, is there a difference? To me, there is so it depends on that I suppose.0 -
And yes he knew I had kids. We were friends. I knew we were friends. When I met him he had a girlfriend. I never had any intention of letting things get to this point. But then they broke up. He never ever tried anything while they were together - we just talked alot. Saw each other at the gym. Nothing inappropriate.0