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The men in our group who won't date ladies with kids

catherine4211
catherine4211 Posts: 954 Member
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  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    haha good one! Love it!
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    I won't. Not my thing. Tried it once, it's not worth it and doesn't fit my lifestyle. There are several reasons too.
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    :noway:
  • nammer79
    nammer79 Posts: 751 Member
    never tried it so I can't say its a good or bad thing but each their own =)
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    Send PM and I'll talk.
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    Send PM and I'll talk.

    Hell, you can ask here. I have no problem answering :D
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    Seriously, ask away.
  • jaxdiablo
    jaxdiablo Posts: 580
    Yeah, let's talk...
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,452 Member
    Whew...I can`t get into trouble with this one! :drinker:
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 954 Member
    If you met a girl who you got along with better than any other girl your whole life would you be able to overlook the no kids thing? I'm asking because this is my situation right now. We've been hanging out and he flat out told me I'm wonderful, we got along so well, I'm awesome, blah blah blah. But then said he can't be in a relationship with someone who has kids. Can my awesomeness out-do this feeling he has???
  • dbrightwell1270
    dbrightwell1270 Posts: 1,732 Member
    you'll have to ask him that.
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 954 Member
    you'll have to ask him that.

    Well I did. He said he doesn't want to lead me on but for right now he can't see it. But doesn't want our friendship and fun to change. We've been having an absolute blast. I have put my feelings on hold but I do have them and don't want to hold on to any hope if there is none. The way he looks at me I see hope that he could overlook it. But could it be that he's just a really sweet guy? I've never dated a sweet guy before.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,452 Member
    I understand the issue of instant fatherhood and the concerns but I also can`t imagine walking away from a lady I felt that way about.

    Maybe I will get myself in trouble afterall.
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    If you met a girl who you got along with better than any other girl your whole life would you be able to overlook the no kids thing? I'm asking because this is my situation right now. We've been hanging out and he flat out told me I'm wonderful, we got along so well, I'm awesome, blah blah blah. But then said he can't be in a relationship with someone who has kids. Can my awesomeness out-do this feeling he has???

    Speaking on my behalf. No, it won't change. I wouldn't be able to get over it. It's a deal breaker.
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    I understand the issue of instant fatherhood and the concerns but I also can`t imagine walking away from a lady I felt that way about.

    Maybe I will get myself in trouble afterall.

    It's simple really. No matter how awesome the girl, I can't do kids. I just can't. It is an absolute deal breaker. Regardless of how many feelings I have or how awesome she is.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,856 Member
    I'm not a man... but to me.. sounds iffy. Iffy because he knew you had kids before starting this. So apparently he knew and only wanted to have fun (nothing serious) and then you started having feelings for him and asked him.
    Or he didn't mind you having kids but now is using that as an excuse to not commit.

    I'm not sure but that's what I'd think.
  • Jules0336
    Jules0336 Posts: 137 Member
    If it was something that he couldn't overcome why would he date you in the first place? That's what I would be asking him. If he wasn't upfront about that and is just telling you that now after spending time together then I would think that he likes having fun with you, but doesn't see anything long term coming of it.

    Of course, I could be way off...just my opinion :flowerforyou:
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 954 Member
    I guess I need to keep my glimmer of hope that he'll change his mind inside and keep looking. It's going to be tough because we get along so well. I just don't want to be looking at him with rose colored glasses. He's not perfect by any means but we are a great match. Well I guess that's not true but you know what I mean. It will break my heart to not have him in my life.
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    I'm not a man... but to me.. sounds iffy. Iffy because he knew you had kids before starting this. So apparently he knew and only wanted to have fun (nothing serious) and then you started having feelings for him and asked him.
    Or he didn't mind you having kids but now is using that as an excuse to not commit.

    I'm not sure but that's what I'd think.

    Dating or hanging out?

    To you, is there a difference? To me, there is so it depends on that I suppose.
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 954 Member
    And yes he knew I had kids. We were friends. I knew we were friends. When I met him he had a girlfriend. I never had any intention of letting things get to this point. But then they broke up. He never ever tried anything while they were together - we just talked alot. Saw each other at the gym. Nothing inappropriate.

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