When is it appropriate to set up a date or exchange numbers

Carl01

Honestly I think that is so completely wrong it isn`t funny and read some reviews of this book.
It is almost viewed as sacred by many but was almost universally derided by both men and women reviewing it.

I watched this with the 2nd guy I dated since becoming single and, from his perspective, the movie was dead on.

if the gal is letting the most recent dating movie dictate her behavior, I am probably not going to be into her once I get to know her. Why is it that advise that says run for the hills if you see this is good advise but the three date rule from Sex and the City is abhorred?

I dunno... I never had a problem with the 3 day rule, lol...or at the very least, the "recipricate" rule (if he takes a week to respond, you do)

3 date rule,totally different.

I just bet in this case if a lady on here posted a thread saying a guy she had only recently become acquainted with just asked for her phone number (which can make her address findable) she would be told not to give it out yet.

dbrightwell1270

3 date rule,totally different.

Completely disagree. They are both absolutely worthless principles based on a pop culture movie/tv reference.

JanieJack

3 date rule,totally different.

I just bet in this case if a lady on here posted a thread saying a guy she had only recently become acquainted with just asked for her phone number (which can make her address findable) she would be told not to give it out yet.

oops!:blushing: uh, yeah, I guess I'm not a supporter of that one, lol! :blushing:

I would tell her to give out the number. My cell is plastered all over the internet (real estate), PLUS I wanna meet someone in person as soon as possible, so I have no trouble giving my number to whoever asks. And I recommend that other ladies do so as well to avoid wasting time online, building an emotional attachment, with a guy they discover in person they’re not compatible with. If not their own number than Google Voice or Kall8 or some other number they can direct to their cell.

Edited to add: That said, when I first became single I was scared to give my number out because it felt like "too much too soon."

mrmanmeat

Maybe she saw "He's not that into you" where they say when a guy gives you his number instead of asking for yours he's not really interested...?

Honestly I think that is so completely wrong it isn`t funny and read some reviews of this book.
It is almost viewed as sacred by many but was almost universally derided by both men and women reviewing it.

As to the point,it is my interpretation of things that a lady is going to be very uncomfortable with a guy asking for private info like that.
It seems to me to be a basic no no so early on.
To suggest not doing it means he isn`t interested just makes me question how much value one should put in the authors opinions.

Dude, that movie was spot on. To a T

Carl01

Maybe she saw "He's not that into you" where they say when a guy gives you his number instead of asking for yours he's not really interested...?

Honestly I think that is so completely wrong it isn`t funny and read some reviews of this book.
It is almost viewed as sacred by many but was almost universally derided by both men and women reviewing it.

As to the point,it is my interpretation of things that a lady is going to be very uncomfortable with a guy asking for private info like that.
It seems to me to be a basic no no so early on.
To suggest not doing it means he isn`t interested just makes me question how much value one should put in the authors opinions.

Dude, that movie was spot on. To a T

I have not seen it nor read the book,just some excerpts from that and reviews which were not flattering.
No doubt there are certain things that will apply to some,blind squirrel/nut issue but I also know full well some of what he says as an "authority" on men do not apply to me and am sure many others as well.
No one is going to be able to group a gender like that.

Just look here...will use the ladies as an example because there are far more that post then guys.
More often then not several will take completely opposite views on things.

My observation on self help books and such is everyone wants to find things that they like,find ways to morph behaviors into things they like or want to believe and then ignore all that are not so pleasant.
I look at them as okay if done with honest introspection but if only for validation then a waste of time.