You stole my man!!!
BelMckenzie
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So I have started to see this guy i met through a meet up group. We met about 2 weeks ago, saw each other 3 times since and talk 6 days a week. Anyways we have a meet up on Thurs where he basically peed on me stayed around me the whole night- we flirted, he had his hands on me most of the night. Well I'm new to this group apparently he is liked by several of the woman (2 for sure that I know of) possibly more since his meet up page is filled with women introducing themselves. So I saw someone out from the group last night and the first time she said to me was "you stole my man". Now I'm confused/scared I'm really starting to like him and he does most of the pursuing but I'm scared of getting hurt from him if there are so many woman that apparently like him. He totally makes me smile and gives me butterflies so I could fall hard for him which means i could get hurt so much more. Anyone got some good advice in these situations or should I just go with the flow?
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Sounds to me like he is dating... some people only date one at a time till they find a relationship and some play the field till they find the right one. I'd say pull back a little, flirt with some other members of the "meet up" (<--- what is a meet up?) and see if he pursues you.0
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Meetup.com- you find different groups and go meet new people.
From my understanding the woman who said that only sees him at meet ups and doesn't even have his number.
Oh- another guy there was hinting for me to give him my numbers- I was drunk not paying attention but my guy told me afterwards.
Thanks for the perspectative since that was what I was thinking was going on.0 -
Stop and go no farther until you talk to him about what he is looking for.0
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I think he is dating a few people possibly so yes if you want to turn this into an exclusive relationship you need to have that chat with him.
Keep in mind though, that woman could just be a blowhard and wants something from him more than flirting and he isnt interested. Sounds like she has no connection to him outside of her hope chest and is trying to get you to move out of the way.
Next time she does that you should start a huge catfight in the middle of the meet up! It will solve nothing but it would be a great story to share with us here!!!0 -
Stop and go no farther until you talk to him about what he is looking for.
Won't it to be soon for that??? I have only known him for 2 weeks but I'm seeing him tomorrow.0 -
I think he is dating a few people possibly so yes if you want to turn this into an exclusive relationship you need to have that chat with him.
Keep in mind though, that woman could just be a blowhard and wants something from him more than flirting and he isnt interested. Sounds like she has no connection to him outside of her hope chest and is trying to get you to move out of the way.
Next time she does that you should start a huge catfight in the middle of the meet up! It will solve nothing but it would be a great story to share with us here!!!
Sorry I'm not the type of lady to start a fight- I would rather back off but I don't think he has anything with her.0 -
i'd talk to him. it's possible he's doing the same thing with other women as he is with you. definitely talk to him and wait to see what he says until setting yourself up for any potential backlash and eyeball scratching0
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Stop and go no farther until you talk to him about what he is looking for.
Won't it to be soon for that??? I have only known him for 2 weeks but I'm seeing him tomorrow.
I think so, really at this point he owes you nothing... it sounds like you have had a few good times at these meet ups, but nothing official... I think you would have to get a few dates in with him before you go asking that.
Also I agree with Will, a good cat fight is a must!0 -
Stop and go no farther until you talk to him about what he is looking for.
Won't it to be soon for that??? I have only known him for 2 weeks but I'm seeing him tomorrow.
I think so, really at this point he owes you nothing... it sounds like you have had a few good times at these meet ups, but nothing official... I think you would have to get a few dates in with him before you go asking that.
Also I agree with Will, a good cat fight is a must!
Yeah we have only gone on 2 dates do far with tomorrow being a third. I usually like to see where things are going but I'm a little nervous about what she said last night. She then texted a mutual friend later that she was just kidding and that we make a cute couple which me and him are just seeing each other.
I am talking to other guys but I don't have much interest in them.0 -
Stop and go no farther until you talk to him about what he is looking for.
Won't it to be soon for that??? I have only known him for 2 weeks but I'm seeing him tomorrow.
I think so, really at this point he owes you nothing... it sounds like you have had a few good times at these meet ups, but nothing official... I think you would have to get a few dates in with him before you go asking that.
Also I agree with Will, a good cat fight is a must!
Yeah we have only gone on 2 dates do far with tomorrow being a third. I usually like to see where things are going but I'm a little nervous about what she said last night. She then texted a mutual friend later that she was just kidding and that we make a cute couple which me and him are just seeing each other.
I am talking to other guys but I don't have much interest in them.
If she doesn't have his #, he's not her man. Sounds like she's just jealous.
Go for it.0 -
^^ this. She is just bitter and twisted. Take no notice of her! :flowerforyou:0
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Drama happens. Stand your ground. Seems like a whole lot of nothing at this point.0
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Stop and go no farther until you talk to him about what he is looking for.
Won't it to be soon for that??? I have only known him for 2 weeks but I'm seeing him tomorrow.
No,because right now you are falling for this guy and even though I have no way of knowing it your description of the circumstances suggests he is in it for casual fun.
I can get that a guy might miss signals that one lady could be interested but you say at least two besides you,if he is not trying to get to a single one now then my take is that he likes the ego boost,maybe is looking for non commitment relationships or is just a player.
Look at the big picture rationally.0 -
I'm still wondering if the "basically peed on me" is a typo or legit? Is that what you young kids are doing these days?0
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I'm still wondering if the "basically peed on me" is a typo or legit? Is that what you young kids are doing these days?
No I was serious since he made it known that I was his when we went out. So like a male dog marking his territory thats how he was like with me at this event.0 -
You could say Girl X says I stole you from her and see what reaction you get. This may open the door for a conversation about dating.0
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... reminds me of HS, honestly. That ONE cute guy that everyone wanted, and in their imaginations had. Doesn't mean that their visions have any basis in reality. He's pursuing you, let him pursue.0
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You could say Girl X says I stole you from her and see what reaction you get. This may open the door for a conversation about dating.
I'm tempted to talk to him about this but as odd as it is- I'm the female that gets hit in the most in the group too. I'll see if I feel like approaching the subject tomorrow.0 -
I'm still wondering if the "basically peed on me" is a typo or legit? Is that what you young kids are doing these days?
No I was serious since he made it known that I was his when we went out. So like a male dog marking his territory thats how he was like with me at this event.
Hmm, I'd probably use a different analogy lol.0 -
Stop and go no farther until you talk to him about what he is looking for.
Won't it to be soon for that??? I have only known him for 2 weeks but I'm seeing him tomorrow.
No,because right now you are falling for this guy and even though I have no way of knowing it your description of the circumstances suggests he is in it for casual fun.
I can get that a guy might miss signals that one lady could be interested but you say at least two besides you,if he is not trying to get to a single one now then my take is that he likes the ego boost,maybe is looking for non commitment relationships or is just a player.
Look at the big picture rationally.
From my understanding (through the mutual friend). The other girls like him but have nothing close to what I have with him(nothing out of the meet up groups or even his number). Both of those ladies were there thurs night and when i moved away from him- he followed me, when
I introduced myself to a new guy, he introduced himself to me. It was odd but he made sure I knew that he wanted to be there for me that night so I know he is interested in me, but I think there is another lady in the mix.
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Stop and go no farther until you talk to him about what he is looking for.
Won't it to be soon for that??? I have only known him for 2 weeks but I'm seeing him tomorrow.
No,because right now you are falling for this guy and even though I have no way of knowing it your description of the circumstances suggests he is in it for casual fun.
I can get that a guy might miss signals that one lady could be interested but you say at least two besides you,if he is not trying to get to a single one now then my take is that he likes the ego boost,maybe is looking for non commitment relationships or is just a player.
Look at the big picture rationally.
From my understanding (through the mutual friend). The other girls like him but have nothing close to what I have with him(nothing out of the meet up groups or even his number). Both of those ladies were there thurs night and when i moved away from him- he followed me, when
I introduced myself to a new guy, he introduced himself to me. It was odd but he made sure I knew that he wanted to be there for me that night so I know he is interested in me, but I think there is another lady in the mix.
On my phOne- excuse my grammar
Just go with it. You'll never know until you try. Who knows, he could end up being as awesome as I am
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I'm still wondering if the "basically peed on me" is a typo or legit? Is that what you young kids are doing these days?
No I was serious since he made it known that I was his when we went out. So like a male dog marking his territory thats how he was like with me at this event.
Hmm, I'd probably use a different analogy lol.
Yeah it just an analogy I used since it made it very known to everyone that I was with him- at least that how I felt he was acting. Seriously, young kids?? I'm only 2 years younger than you.0 -
Stop and go no farther until you talk to him about what he is looking for.
Won't it to be soon for that??? I have only known him for 2 weeks but I'm seeing him tomorrow.
No,because right now you are falling for this guy and even though I have no way of knowing it your description of the circumstances suggests he is in it for casual fun.
I can get that a guy might miss signals that one lady could be interested but you say at least two besides you,if he is not trying to get to a single one now then my take is that he likes the ego boost,maybe is looking for non commitment relationships or is just a player.
Look at the big picture rationally.
From my understanding (through the mutual friend). The other girls like him but have nothing close to what I have with him(nothing out of the meet up groups or even his number). Both of those ladies were there thurs night and when i moved away from him- he followed me, when
I introduced myself to a new guy, he introduced himself to me. It was odd but he made sure I knew that he wanted to be there for me that night so I know he is interested in me, but I think there is another lady in the mix.
On my phOne- excuse my grammar
Just go with it. You'll never know until you try. Who knows, he could end up being as awesome as I am
You are pretty awesome new friend! I'm not too worried, I know there are plenty of fish in the sea just wish I could find the right one, but don't we all??0 -
I'm still wondering if the "basically peed on me" is a typo or legit? Is that what you young kids are doing these days?
No I was serious since he made it known that I was his when we went out. So like a male dog marking his territory thats how he was like with me at this event.
Hmm, I'd probably use a different analogy lol.
Yeah it just an analogy I used since it made it very known to everyone that I was with him- at least that how I felt he was acting. Seriously, young kids?? I'm only 2 years younger than you.
haha, I'm wise beyond my years??
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Stop and go no farther until you talk to him about what he is looking for.
Won't it to be soon for that??? I have only known him for 2 weeks but I'm seeing him tomorrow.
No,because right now you are falling for this guy and even though I have no way of knowing it your description of the circumstances suggests he is in it for casual fun.
I can get that a guy might miss signals that one lady could be interested but you say at least two besides you,if he is not trying to get to a single one now then my take is that he likes the ego boost,maybe is looking for non commitment relationships or is just a player.
Look at the big picture rationally.
From my understanding (through the mutual friend). The other girls like him but have nothing close to what I have with him(nothing out of the meet up groups or even his number). Both of those ladies were there thurs night and when i moved away from him- he followed me, when
I introduced myself to a new guy, he introduced himself to me. It was odd but he made sure I knew that he wanted to be there for me that night so I know he is interested in me, but I think there is another lady in the mix.
On my phOne- excuse my grammar
Just go with it. You'll never know until you try. Who knows, he could end up being as awesome as I am
You are pretty awesome new friend! I'm not too worried, I know there are plenty of fish in the sea just wish I could find the right one, but don't we all??
Yeah, although maybe some of us have. Report back0 -
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Yeah, although maybe some of us have. Report back
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So you want me to report back whether he is interested? I may wait a little while for the "talk"0 -
Yeah, although maybe some of us have. Report back
No, a report on date/meetup #3.
So you want me to report back whether he is interested? I may wait a little while for the "talk"0 -
Stop and go no farther until you talk to him about what he is looking for.
Won't it to be soon for that??? I have only known him for 2 weeks but I'm seeing him tomorrow.
No,because right now you are falling for this guy and even though I have no way of knowing it your description of the circumstances suggests he is in it for casual fun.
I can get that a guy might miss signals that one lady could be interested but you say at least two besides you,if he is not trying to get to a single one now then my take is that he likes the ego boost,maybe is looking for non commitment relationships or is just a player.
Look at the big picture rationally.
From my understanding (through the mutual friend). The other girls like him but have nothing close to what I have with him(nothing out of the meet up groups or even his number). Both of those ladies were there thurs night and when i moved away from him- he followed me, when
I introduced myself to a new guy, he introduced himself to me. It was odd but he made sure I knew that he wanted to be there for me that night so I know he is interested in me, but I think there is another lady in the mix.
On my phOne- excuse my grammar
Okay but be cautious,don`t ask me why but my gut feeling is that you are being played.
Hopefully I am wrong.0 -
Okay but be cautious,don`t ask me why but my gut feeling is that you are being played.
Hopefully I am wrong.
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Great! Where are the decent guys hiding then?0 -
Yeah, although maybe some of us have. Report back
No, a report on date/meetup #3.
So you want me to report back whether he is interested? I may wait a little while for the "talk"
It would be date#3- now that makes me nervous since I have not made it pass #3 since being single with someone I'm interested in. But I'll report back
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