forever alooone!
shaybethxo
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so some of you may have read my post the other day about my 'dilemma' and i took all of your advice etc.
now, a guy i met online, turns out his picture is really old. he is also about 50lbs heavier, much beardier and alot spottier. these may all be superficial things, but it completely put me off him. is this bad? coupled with his bad grammar and constant use of random words, i dont think he and i are meant to be! hah.
so now i'll be forever alone! except a guy from work has me by the loins! he is so cute and lovely, just want to... well yeah.
got me thinking, is there one guy in your life you only find physically attractive?
just a bit of a rambling post really sorry guys!
how's everyone's day?
now, a guy i met online, turns out his picture is really old. he is also about 50lbs heavier, much beardier and alot spottier. these may all be superficial things, but it completely put me off him. is this bad? coupled with his bad grammar and constant use of random words, i dont think he and i are meant to be! hah.
so now i'll be forever alone! except a guy from work has me by the loins! he is so cute and lovely, just want to... well yeah.
got me thinking, is there one guy in your life you only find physically attractive?
just a bit of a rambling post really sorry guys!
how's everyone's day?
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I prefer the term forever available. (:laugh: )
Yeah. There are many women that I only find physically extremely attractive but I find them uninteresting or feel no connection.
Or sometimes the girl is alright but she's got too many problems in her life and I don't want to deal with it (so many "alternative women" I'm talking to are bags of unsorted problems which is why they ended up being alternative in the first place).
I think I will be forever available because of my too high standards.
Bah. A shame that my superior gene pool will be lost for the human species. :smokin:
No it's not bad to not be attracted to your guy. It happens, and it's normal.0 -
On to the next. It is not uncommon to find people that use old pictures online and it is not superficial of you to be put off by someone that lied.0
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i wouldnt appreciate old photographs either because it makes me think they think they have something to hide. i dont understand people who do stuff like that because the truth will be discovered when you meet them.
an my prospects are pretty low at the moment. i rarely see guys i'm even remotely physically attracted to much less mentally, emotionally or spiritually attracted to.. i dont think i have high standards though, especially not where looks are concerned0 -
I prefer the term forever available. (:laugh: )
ha! yeah i like it, love your pic too!
also, yeah i think it was the pictures thing the most. why have pictures of you not wearing glasses when you actually do wear glasses? it's not an issue if you do, just don't like! same goes for being overweight, spotty, ginger, etceteraaa!
ps the ginger thing is a joke. don't wanna be hated!0 -
I think I wall also be forever availabe because of my high standards. I wish I wasn't so shallow. And its not that I even go after 'traditional' good looks. But just cute to me.I prefer the term forever available. (:laugh: )
Yeah. There are many women that I only find physically extremely attractive but I find them uninteresting or feel no connection.
Or sometimes the girl is alright but she's got too many problems in her life and I don't want to deal with it (so many "alternative women" I'm talking to are bags of unsorted problems which is why they ended up being alternative in the first place).
I think I will be forever available because of my too high standards.
Bah. A shame that my superior gene pool will be lost for the human species. :smokin:
No it's not bad to not be attracted to your guy. It happens, and it's normal.0 -
I have been talking to a guy on match with curly red hair. He is adorable.I prefer the term forever available. (:laugh: )
ha! yeah i like it, love your pic too!
also, yeah i think it was the pictures thing the most. why have pictures of you not wearing glasses when you actually do wear glasses? it's not an issue if you do, just don't like! same goes for being overweight, spotty, ginger, etceteraaa!
ps the ginger thing is a joke. don't wanna be hated! 0 -
I have been talking to a guy on match with curly red hair. He is adorable.I prefer the term forever available. (:laugh: )
ha! yeah i like it, love your pic too!
also, yeah i think it was the pictures thing the most. why have pictures of you not wearing glasses when you actually do wear glasses? it's not an issue if you do, just don't like! same goes for being overweight, spotty, ginger, etceteraaa!
ps the ginger thing is a joke. don't wanna be hated!
haha, aww! yeah i'm not anti ginger, i was a ginger kid! i also love rupert grint... swoon!0 -
I prefer the term forever available. (:laugh: )
ha! yeah i like it, love your pic too!
also, yeah i think it was the pictures thing the most. why have pictures of you not wearing glasses when you actually do wear glasses? it's not an issue if you do, just don't like! same goes for being overweight, spotty, ginger, etceteraaa!
ps the ginger thing is a joke. don't wanna be hated!
Glasses are an odd one to be upset about because there are so many people that wear glasses depending on the current situation like driving or reading. There are also a lot of people like me that switch a lot between glasses and contacts.0 -
Listen,just because one guy did not meet expectations and was clearly not being honest does not mean every guy is doing the same.
Just keep sorting it all out and be yourself.0 -
My standards are also way high. I've found one guy who meets them... and well, I'm holding out hope that he comes back around. Otherwise I swear I'm destined to be alone *sigh*
In college, a roommate of mine and I made a deal that if we were both still single by the time we turned 40 we'd become nuns together. She got married this year... I'm super happy for her and all but *double sigh*0 -
why have pictures of you not wearing glasses when you actually do wear glasses? it's not an issue if you do, just don't like! same goes for being overweight, spotty, ginger, etceteraaa!
Spotty??
What's that mean?
I'm curious how far is too far to the group when it comes to hiding things like glasses...? I don't fault someone for not posting pics with glasses as many people wear contacts during the day and glasses at night. I look at it like makeup. I wear makeup all day long and wash it off at night. But there's no way I'm gonna put a pic of me without makeup on my dating site profile.
In my case, hair is the big deal. My profile has mostly pictures of me with my hair straightened out and long, the way I prefer to wear it during weekends or during winter when it's not so humid. I do have one "truth in advertising" photo of me with my hair styled curly, which is how I wear it during the week because of the humid summers here. Guy last week told me it makes me look like two totally different people. I get a TON of attention when I use the straight pic as my profile pic. Almost none when I (briefly) tried to use the curly pic.
What do you guys think? Are hair, glasses, stuff like that dealbreakers?0 -
Sorry
I can sympathize and I don't think that's superficial at all. If you're not attracted to someone, you're not attracted to someone.
My dad told me the other day that this guy we go to church with had been asking around about me. Now, I met this guy ONCE and all I said to him was, "Hi, I'm Laura. Nice to meet you." But apparently my parents think he is interested in me, the problem is he is not attractive to me at all and my standards for looks is not that high. Also, I know he is looking to get married and I DEFINITELY do NOT want to get married. My mom was like, "Give him a chance, he seems like a nice guy." I'm sorry, I rather be home alone than on a date leading some poor guy on that I'm not even attracted to.0 -
this! someone will come alongListen,just because one guy did not meet expectations and was clearly not being honest does not mean every guy is doing the same.
Just keep sorting it all out and be yourself.0 -
why have pictures of you not wearing glasses when you actually do wear glasses? it's not an issue if you do, just don't like! same goes for being overweight, spotty, ginger, etceteraaa!
Spotty??
What's that mean?
I'm curious how far is too far to the group when it comes to hiding things like glasses...? I don't fault someone for not posting pics with glasses as many people wear contacts during the day and glasses at night. I look at it like makeup. I wear makeup all day long and wash it off at night. But there's no way I'm gonna put a pic of me without makeup on my dating site profile.
In my case, hair is the big deal. My profile has mostly pictures of me with my hair straightened out and long, the way I prefer to wear it during weekends or during winter when it's not so humid. I do have one "truth in advertising" photo of me with my hair styled curly, which is how I wear it during the week because of the humid summers here. Guy last week told me it makes me look like two totally different people. I get a TON of attention when I use the straight pic as my profile pic. Almost none when I (briefly) tried to use the curly pic.
What do you guys think? Are hair, glasses, stuff like that dealbreakers?
I wear glasses. I mostly wear them before going to bed but I do have them. Doesn't it bother me? Nah. I actually find girls wearing glasses more attractive than those that don't. Probably the nerdy/geeky stigma that goes with it. Hair isn't a problem for me either unless it's a radical change. I'm talking like having hair to being completely bald kind of a change.0 -
in dating sites you have to put your best pic..but not a super old photo that dates back to the 80's lol
chemistry is important as well as physical attraction afterall,
the 1st thing that gets us interested in a guy or girl is their physical appearance right?0 -
Yeah. Very interesting points actually.I'm curious how far is too far to the group when it comes to hiding things like glasses...? I don't fault someone for not posting pics with glasses as many people wear contacts during the day and glasses at night. I look at it like makeup. I wear makeup all day long and wash it off at night. But there's no way I'm gonna put a pic of me without makeup on my dating site profile.
In my case, hair is the big deal. My profile has mostly pictures of me with my hair straightened out and long, the way I prefer to wear it during weekends or during winter when it's not so humid. I do have one "truth in advertising" photo of me with my hair styled curly, which is how I wear it during the week because of the humid summers here. Guy last week told me it makes me look like two totally different people. I get a TON of attention when I use the straight pic as my profile pic. Almost none when I (briefly) tried to use the curly pic.
What do you guys think? Are hair, glasses, stuff like that dealbreakers?
I'd say if you wear your glasses 20% of the time, then contact the rest of the time, don't bother. If you wear your glasses constantly, if you're going to go on the date with your glasses and the person is going to see you with your glasses all the time, basically put a pic of your bloody glasses. Same goes with make up and all the rest.
Now, I think on average glasses and curly hairs are inferior (in terms of dating pool) to no glasses - straight hair, by a small margin. So are long hair for a man (vs short hair). Now, you still get the odd weirdo that will fancy that "a lot" (read fantasize about it) and say they swear by it, but it's not the lowest common denominator (which means: does not please everyone and anyone). Not that we all would want to look like the lowest common denominator, mind you.
So I don't think they are dealbreakers, just not as good. Hiding them can often be a dealbreaker though, showing them can sometimes be a dealmaker.
If you have your curly hair most of the time, I would still put most pictures of you with curly hair (so that people understand they will see you "most of the time" with curly hair, and yet sometimes with "straight hair"). From what you say, you seem to have done the reverse?0 -
so some of you may have read my post the other day about my 'dilemma' and i took all of your advice etc.
now, a guy i met online, turns out his picture is really old. he is also about 50lbs heavier, much beardier and alot spottier. these may all be superficial things, but it completely put me off him. is this bad? coupled with his bad grammar and constant use of random words, i dont think he and i are meant to be! hah.
so now i'll be forever alone! except a guy from work has me by the loins! he is so cute and lovely, just want to... well yeah.
got me thinking, is there one guy in your life you only find physically attractive?
just a bit of a rambling post really sorry guys!
how's everyone's day?
Nothing wrong with that. I'm currently in a dilemma where I met a guy on POF (Plentyoffish) and we haven't yet met in person, but I was attracted to his pictures on the website. He added me on Facebook and I saw his other pictures (his "real" ones that others take) and he looks nothing like he projected himself to be on POF. He has thin lips and a really feminine face. I have decided not to meet him in person and he's freaking out on me.
I unfortunately have a very specific type. I like white men from 6'0'-6'4", anywhere from 190-260lbs (I prefer them chunky yet solid), blonde, brown, or jet black hair, blue, green, or hazel eyes, with a masculine face. I live in Southern California, and there is a serious shortage of men that have this appearance. I might as well move to the Midwest.
I know everyone says that personality counts first and blah blah blah...sorry, I know that's a fallacy. We as humans are bound to look at what we are attracted to physically and then form a bond with their personality. It's just how we're wired.
I wish people would be more realistic on dating sites. I once had a disastrous date with a guy who told me that he was 6'3"...he was actually 5'4" and embarrassed the hell out of me in a public place by crying and throwing a fit when I refused to kiss him.0 -
I wish people would be more realistic on dating sites. I once had a disastrous date with a guy who told me that he was 6'3"...he was actually 5'4" and embarrassed the hell out of me in a public place by crying and throwing a fit when I refused to kiss him.
:noway: O.M.G!!!! If this wasnt so tragic, it would be funny! :laugh: No scrap that, it's hilarious!!
WTH was he thinking??? Some real weirdo's about eh :flowerforyou:0 -
I wish people would be more realistic on dating sites. I once had a disastrous date with a guy who told me that he was 6'3"...he was actually 5'4" and embarrassed the hell out of me in a public place by crying and throwing a fit when I refused to kiss him.
:noway: O.M.G!!!! If this wasnt so tragic, it would be funny! :laugh: No scrap that, it's hilarious!!
WTH was he thinking??? Some real weirdo's about eh :flowerforyou:
Best dating fail I've heard in a while0 -
In my case, hair is the big deal. My profile has mostly pictures of me with my hair straightened out and long, the way I prefer to wear it during weekends or during winter when it's not so humid. I do have one "truth in advertising" photo of me with my hair styled curly, which is how I wear it during the week because of the humid summers here. Guy last week told me it makes me look like two totally different people. I get a TON of attention when I use the straight pic as my profile pic. Almost none when I (briefly) tried to use the curly pic.
What do you guys think? Are hair, glasses, stuff like that dealbreakers?
Personally, I dont care if you wear glasses or have curly hair! I'm not that fickle. If somebody can't see beyond a hair style then I dont really want to date them anyhow. That's like saying have a pic of your hair in whatever style you wear it. For me that could be one in a pony, one in a bun, one down, one to the side, one in bunches...................etc
Gimme a break! :laugh:
Glasses wise, nobody wears them in bed :bigsmile:
The only exception to the hair thing would be a guy that's gone from hair to zero hair!! Complete and irreversible change of appearance! Like, you can have straight or curly hair any time, like I can!! It's a 30 min blowdryer job. A guy can't go back to hair without a transplant - big difference :huh:now, a guy i met online, turns out his picture is really old. he is also about 50lbs heavier, much beardier and alot spottier. these may all be superficial things, but it completely put me off him. is this bad?
No, this isn't bad. A similar thing happened to me once. A slim 33 year old guy with curly hair turned into a bald, beer bellied 42year old ! I mean, I would have walked straight past him if he hadn't called out my name! He DID tell me his pic was 9 years old, but Jeez, he looked COMPLETELY different.
But the point is, if you fancy someone, you fancy them. If you dont. you don't!!
I would never feel guilty about human attraction :flowerforyou:0 -
* Adjusts glasses *Personally, I dont care if you wear glasses or have curly hair! I'm not that fickle. If somebody can't see beyond a hair style then I dont really want to date them anyhow. That's like saying have a pic of your hair in whatever style you wear it. For me that could be one in a pony, one in a bun, one down, one to the side, one in bunches...................etc
Gimme a break! :laugh:
"HellooooooooooooooOOOOO!"
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* Adjusts glasses *Personally, I dont care if you wear glasses or have curly hair! I'm not that fickle. If somebody can't see beyond a hair style then I dont really want to date them anyhow. That's like saying have a pic of your hair in whatever style you wear it. For me that could be one in a pony, one in a bun, one down, one to the side, one in bunches...................etc
Gimme a break! :laugh:
"HellooooooooooooooOOOOO!"
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Some strange people in North London :laugh:0 -
Hahahahahahahahahaha! :laugh:0
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Ginger fro. Legend0
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I wish people would be more realistic on dating sites. I once had a disastrous date with a guy who told me that he was 6'3"...he was actually 5'4" and embarrassed the hell out of me in a public place by crying and throwing a fit when I refused to kiss him.
:noway: O.M.G!!!! If this wasnt so tragic, it would be funny! :laugh: No scrap that, it's hilarious!!
WTH was he thinking??? Some real weirdo's about eh :flowerforyou:
LOL Yeah this happened to me 4 years ago.
Days later he texted me to apologize and say that he was just trying to guilt me into kissing him.
He then told me that he was a virgin and had never even kissed at girl (at 20 years old!!). He dared to ask me to take his virginity.
Riiiiight. Because I'm totally dying to sleep with the guy who bawled like a baby in the street in front of his neighbors and tried to stop me from leaving....I nearly ran him over trying to get away.
Talk about Forever Alone. lol0 -
I wish people would be more realistic on dating sites. I once had a disastrous date with a guy who told me that he was 6'3"...he was actually 5'4" and embarrassed the hell out of me in a public place by crying and throwing a fit when I refused to kiss him.
:noway: O.M.G!!!! If this wasnt so tragic, it would be funny! :laugh: No scrap that, it's hilarious!!
WTH was he thinking??? Some real weirdo's about eh :flowerforyou:
LOL Yeah this happened to me 4 years ago.
Days later he texted me to apologize and say that he was just trying to guilt me into kissing him.
He then told me that he was a virgin and had never even kissed at girl (at 20 years old!!). He dared to ask me to take his virginity.
Riiiiight. Because I'm totally dying to sleep with the guy who bawled like a baby in the street in front of his neighbors and tried to stop me from leaving....I nearly ran him over trying to get away.
Talk about Forever Alone. lol
oh wow. the whole situation just wow. In terms of height, I'm 6'3. I wonder if I did the same thing but in the opposite way how would a girl react. In other words say I am 5'6 or something on my dating profile and then I meet the girl. :devil:
lol probably not happy.0 -
oh wow. the whole situation just wow. In terms of height, I'm 6'3. I wonder if I did the same thing but in the opposite way how would a girl react. In other words say I am 5'6 or something on my dating profile and then I meet the girl. :devil:
lol probably not happy.
hahaha probably!0 -
I wish people would be more realistic on dating sites. I once had a disastrous date with a guy who told me that he was 6'3"...he was actually 5'4" and embarrassed the hell out of me in a public place by crying and throwing a fit when I refused to kiss him.
I want to hit that guy for giving short guys a bad name. Being 5'4" as a guy is already annoying enough without him tainting life for the rest of us.0 -
Being 5'4" as a guy is already annoying enough without him tainting life for the rest of us.
LOL .. you are still taller than me!! lol0 -
Being 5'4" as a guy is already annoying enough without him tainting life for the rest of us.
LOL .. you are still taller than me!! lol
And me!
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