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jenbit
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So FWB threw me for a loop this weekend... Out of nowhere he started asking me ,"so are you saying you want to date me" repeatidly.. My responce was "why do you want to know.".... He has pretty much asked me everyday WTF men opinion welcome from both sexes but espicially men .. Please and thank you :flowerforyou:
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Were you saying you wanted to date him?0
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He wants you to admit you want a relationship with him so he is more comfortable asking you to be in one with him.
Either that or he wants a meaningless ego boost. (I choose the first)0 -
^^ This that Roadie said...what caused that to start?0
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I'm kinda new here to "As single peeps turns" so you might need to flesh out the scenario.a little better cause your a little vague0
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I feel like I was just thrown into a conversation where I have no idea what is happening.
If you want better answers you should definitely add a bit more in the way of details
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yeah we need a little more information but from what I know about you two your friends where saying that he really likes you and that you guys hang out more than FWB do sometimes...
So maybe something was said by you or one of your friends?0 -
he wants more than fwb. men are easy when they want something.0
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he wants more than fwb. men are easy when they want something.
This. He is hoping your answer is 'yes'.0 -
Ok so a bit more information... We had been out drinking and dancing. We were hanging out with this older lady who took our hands and clasped them together (she was drunk lol ). She then asked me if he was my BF and we both laughed and said no... SHe then asked me why.? We didn't respond and just kinda danced away. Then we started talking about how everyone seems to think hes my boyfriend and thats when he asked me If I was saying I wanted to date him..... The next night we were out at the bar for a borthday party and he literally walked up to me and started making out with me infront of everyone.. He also asked me the question again last night twice.. I told him I hadnt really thought about it and he told me to think about it.... And yes we spend a crazy amount of time together. Usually around 3-5 days/nights a week0
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he wants you.0
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I think this has reached a critical point. You may need to decided what you want.
FWB arrangements have a shelf life.0 -
Yea when he kissed you in front of everyone he's putting it out there that he wants to change the dynamics of your relationship. If you want him to be your man You got em.0
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I think this has reached a critical point. You may need to decided what you want.
FWB arrangements have a shelf life.
Agreed .. He wants to change it. Get it gurl!!!0 -
I don't think he'd ask you that if he didn't want to date you. If you spend 3-5 nights together a week it kinda sounds like you are dating already.0
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What do you want?0
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Looks like it is time for you two to have the talk...He clearly wants something more (and lets face it you cant really call him FWB hanging out 3-5x a week and a lot of those sound like actual dates). He is asking you because he wants to know where it is going. I know the ladies on here are predominantly the ones to say they think their FWB's is turning into a real relationship etc but in this case your man wants something more and is hinting to you. So if that is the road you want to take good for both of you, if not then he will probably hang on as FWB for some time and casually bring it up again hoping you changed your mind.
Either way, time for the talk!!0 -
you spend 3-5 nights together a week
That's alot of benefits! lol .... just sayin .. lol0 -
I don't understand - what do you want our opinion on? He very clearly asked you if you wanted a relationship and that you should think about it. Seems pretty clear cut to me.0
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Basically... it's time to **** or get off the pot!0
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I don't understand - what do you want our opinion on? He very clearly asked you if you wanted a relationship and that you should think about it. Seems pretty clear cut to me.
LOL I just never figured him for this.... He is as big a flirt as I am. I just wondered if it sound to everyone else what it sounded like to me0 -
he told you to think about it he's basically asking you out and the public show was him also being forward in his own guy way0
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See thats why I came to you guys lol... I didn't want to be one of "those" girls who was reading more into it than there actually was. I do like the guy so we will have to see where this goes the next time we hang out. LOL which could be any day this week0
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3-5 times a week. You're already in a relationship.0
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I don't understand - what do you want our opinion on? He very clearly asked you if you wanted a relationship and that you should think about it. Seems pretty clear cut to me.
LOL I just never figured him for this.... He is as big a flirt as I am. I just wondered if it sound to everyone else what it sounded like to me
Haha, there's nothing to "read into" it was very clearly stated :P0 -
Sounds like he wants the relationship. The question is...do you?0
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agreed, he wants you big time :bigsmile:0
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you spend 3-5 nights together a week
That's alot of benefits! lol .... just sayin .. lol
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: No wonder you're always so happy Jenbit! :laugh:0 -
you spend 3-5 nights together a week
That's alot of benefits! lol .... just sayin .. lol
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: No wonder you're always so happy Jenbit! :laugh:
lol you made me :blushing: ....
As for dating him I really would have no problem with it. I just wished he would have asked me normally instead of throwing it all on me with the "you want to date me huh" thing ...
However this shows you that even confident guys can be unsure lol0 -
you spend 3-5 nights together a week
That's alot of benefits! lol .... just sayin .. lol
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: No wonder you're always so happy Jenbit! :laugh:
lol you made me :blushing: ....
As for dating him I really would have no problem with it. I just wished he would have asked me normally instead of throwing it all on me with the "you want to date me huh" thing ...
However this shows you that even confident guys can be unsure lol
So, you go from FWB to dating, rather than FWB to relationship? Ermm, why?? :bigsmile:0 -
you spend 3-5 nights together a week
That's alot of benefits! lol .... just sayin .. lol
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: No wonder you're always so happy Jenbit! :laugh:
lol you made me :blushing: ....
As for dating him I really would have no problem with it. I just wished he would have asked me normally instead of throwing it all on me with the "you want to date me huh" thing ...
However this shows you that even confident guys can be unsure lol
So, you go from FWB to dating, rather than FWB to relationship? Ermm, why?? :bigsmile:
lol darling I don't even know if were gonna start dating.... As for relationship dating is one its just the level of commitment has to be worked out.... I might see him tonight so I may have an update for you guys tomorrow. I'm gonna wait and see if he brings it up again tonight.. Hopefully its not some kinda **** move to boost his ego. Cause that wont end well lol0
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