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Go for it! And don't forget about filling us in!0
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Dammit! Kids are so complicated these days. Just F'n talk. It ain't that hard.0
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Dammit! Kids are so complicated these days. Just F'n talk. It ain't that hard.
lol I know it sounds that easy on the computer. But I have this major problem with embaressment and I dont like even looking like I make a fool of myself :blushing:0 -
Ok so as promised an update...... I did end up hanging out with him last night at the bar. Problem was we ended up there with a bunch of other people not condicivite to that kind of conversation lol... Well one of my dearest friends was there and she took me aside . She is the girl who introduced me to FWB. I told her what was going on and what he had said the other night.... This is what she told me.
"Listen FWB is always going around telling people he doesnt want a relationship and how he loves being single. The truth is he wants a relationship badly and hes afraid to get hurt."
He was kinda distant last night at the bar though we did dance and laugh alot. We went back to the house for about an hour before he left. However he made sure to tell me he was coming out with us on friday..
(BTW we were both flirting pretty bad with other people which is perfectly acceptable seeing as we arent currently dating..... I actually got a cute army boys number lol he thought I was 23 and when I told him how old I was he was like age is just a number )0 -
Dammit! Kids are so complicated these days. Just F'n talk. It ain't that hard.
This x100!! If you want a relationship with him who cares how he asked you!! I say the next move is on you.0 -
"Listen FWB is always going around telling people he doesnt want a relationship and how he loves being single. The truth is he wants a relationship badly and hes afraid to get hurt."
He was kinda distant last night at the bar though we did dance and laugh alot. We went back to the house for about an hour before he left. However he made sure to tell me he was coming out with us on friday..
Him being distant I think kind of proves the fact that he is afraid. You didn't answer him and now he doesn't know how to behave.0 -
"Listen FWB is always going around telling people he doesnt want a relationship and how he loves being single. The truth is he wants a relationship badly and hes afraid to get hurt."
He was kinda distant last night at the bar though we did dance and laugh alot. We went back to the house for about an hour before he left. However he made sure to tell me he was coming out with us on friday..
Him being distant I think kind of proves the fact that he is afraid. You didn't answer him and now he doesn't know how to behave.
Yeah but he told me to think about it lol. Shouldn't I be allowed some time to think about it.0 -
"Listen FWB is always going around telling people he doesnt want a relationship and how he loves being single. The truth is he wants a relationship badly and hes afraid to get hurt."
He was kinda distant last night at the bar though we did dance and laugh alot. We went back to the house for about an hour before he left. However he made sure to tell me he was coming out with us on friday..
Him being distant I think kind of proves the fact that he is afraid. You didn't answer him and now he doesn't know how to behave.
Yeah but he told me to think about it lol. Shouldn't I be allowed some time to think about it.
"time" is arbitrary. He probably thinks you're blowing him off. Tell him if you do or don't, it's cruel for you to drag it out. Especially considering you had a whole hour at his house
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"Listen FWB is always going around telling people he doesnt want a relationship and how he loves being single. The truth is he wants a relationship badly and hes afraid to get hurt."
He was kinda distant last night at the bar though we did dance and laugh alot. We went back to the house for about an hour before he left. However he made sure to tell me he was coming out with us on friday..
Him being distant I think kind of proves the fact that he is afraid. You didn't answer him and now he doesn't know how to behave.
Yeah but he told me to think about it lol. Shouldn't I be allowed some time to think about it.
"time" is arbitrary. He probably thinks you're blowing him off. Tell him if you do or don't, it's cruel for you to drag it out. Especially considering you had a whole hour at his house
I am not trying to bew cruel I am seriously thinking about what I want to do. Plus I have this worry that he just wants to know for an ego boost....
Also the hour he was at my house we were otherwise occupied lol:bigsmile: :smokin: and he only left because I had to work this morning early...
He made sure to tell me he is coming out on Friday night and he knows I'm off this weekend so hopefully tomorrow we can get down to brass tacks .....
(BTW if this is for an ego boost he will so fast he might break the space time barrier)0 -
Hmm.. although he said take time to think about it, I think the longer you think about it the less confident/more hurt/more defensive and distant he is going to get. Normally when you've been spending time with someone for as long as you and he have been, you know whether this person is a good match for you or not without having to give too much thought.
I guess maybe the thought isn't whether or not you're good for each other, but whether or not you want to give the "single" life up.0 -
down to brass tacks .....
is this some sort of new "move" I am not aware of .. ?? hahahahaha0 -
Hmm.. although he said take time to think about it, I think the longer you think about it the less confident/more hurt/more defensive and distant he is going to get. Normally when you've been spending time with someone for as long as you and he have been, you know whether this person is a good match for you or not without having to give too much thought.
I guess maybe the thought isn't whether or not you're good for each other, but whether or not you want to give the "single" life up.
I honestly think it will come up some time Friday night.... He asked me if I was going to sticks. He knows I'm going and he is gonna meet me there. He also knows I'm off this weekend and I have no kids this weekend. And yes for the curious I will say yes I am willing to date him. lol0 -
And yes for the curious I will say yes I am willing to date him. lol
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!0 -
Maybe this was asked and I missed it but if you "move" to a dating situation what happens with the sex?
If you stop that now that you are pursuing a relationship you are going to confuse the hell out of the guy.
If it continues as it is are you going to be satisfied emotionally?0 -
Maybe this was asked and I missed it but if you "move" to a dating situation what happens with the sex?
If you stop that now that you are pursuing a relationship you are going to confuse the hell out of the guy.
If it continues as it is are you going to be satisfied emotionally?
Why would I stop having sex....
No what would more happen is if we move into a dating situation it becomes a monagomous (sp?) relationship and as for emotionally satisfied we have spent several nights just talking until we fell asleep. It would simply involve finding out it we like and like everyone said we already spend alot of time together so I dont see that increasing by much if at all.. Maybe we actually go on a date or 2 rather than just hanging at the local bar.0 -
Maybe this was asked and I missed it but if you "move" to a dating situation what happens with the sex?
If you stop that now that you are pursuing a relationship you are going to confuse the hell out of the guy.
If it continues as it is are you going to be satisfied emotionally?
Why would I stop having sex....
No what would more happen is if we move into a dating situation it becomes a monagomous (sp?) relationship and as for emotionally satisfied we have spent several nights just talking until we fell asleep. It would simply involve finding out it we like and like everyone said we already spend alot of time together so I dont see that increasing by much if at all.. Maybe we actually go on a date or 2 rather than just hanging at the local bar.
Just asking and suspect that there are many ladies that are perfectly cool with casual sex in a FWB arrangement but then also pivot 180 degrees and not be comfortable with it in a relationship status where there are emotions allowed.
Am I wrong ladies?0 -
Maybe this was asked and I missed it but if you "move" to a dating situation what happens with the sex?
If you stop that now that you are pursuing a relationship you are going to confuse the hell out of the guy.
If it continues as it is are you going to be satisfied emotionally?
Why would I stop having sex....
No what would more happen is if we move into a dating situation it becomes a monagomous (sp?) relationship and as for emotionally satisfied we have spent several nights just talking until we fell asleep. It would simply involve finding out it we like and like everyone said we already spend alot of time together so I dont see that increasing by much if at all.. Maybe we actually go on a date or 2 rather than just hanging at the local bar.
Just asking and suspect that there are many ladies that are perfectly cool with casual sex in a FWB arrangement but then also pivot 180 degrees and not be comfortable with it in a relationship status where there are emotions allowed.
Am I wrong ladies?
I don't know about most other ladies but I'm ok with it0 -
Maybe this was asked and I missed it but if you "move" to a dating situation what happens with the sex?
If you stop that now that you are pursuing a relationship you are going to confuse the hell out of the guy.
If it continues as it is are you going to be satisfied emotionally?
Why would I stop having sex....
No what would more happen is if we move into a dating situation it becomes a monagomous (sp?) relationship and as for emotionally satisfied we have spent several nights just talking until we fell asleep. It would simply involve finding out it we like and like everyone said we already spend alot of time together so I dont see that increasing by much if at all.. Maybe we actually go on a date or 2 rather than just hanging at the local bar.
Just asking and suspect that there are many ladies that are perfectly cool with casual sex in a FWB arrangement but then also pivot 180 degrees and not be comfortable with it in a relationship status where there are emotions allowed.
Am I wrong ladies?
Hmmmm, I think I said this before, my take is that there are ALWAYS emotions involved in regular sex with the same person. The transition between FWB and Dating would therefore be an allowance to have them and use them. So, in essence, the relationship will change. You know, like you go from not asking what he's doing on a friday night, to asking!
I mean, its not like the two people change, only that barriers are let down on both sides!! I kinda think that a lot of FWB situations are mainly a defence of not getting hurt anyhow.............but that's another topic! :bigsmile:0
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