Should I follow my head or heart?
Laura_Suzie
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Okay so here's the situation: I'm an actress and I'm thinking of auditioning for a performing touring group. Getting into this group would mean the world for my career BUT it would ruin every chance of having a social/love life because I would have to devote all my time to it. AND I would probably never see the guy I've been crushing on for almost 3 months ever again... but then again, he's an actor too and showbusiness is a small world.
So if you were in my situation, would you choose your career or your personal life? (and none of these "You have to make your own decisions" answers that everyone I've asked so far has given me...)
So if you were in my situation, would you choose your career or your personal life? (and none of these "You have to make your own decisions" answers that everyone I've asked so far has given me...)
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Career ... definitley career.0
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If I remember correctly, you are still pretty young. Definitely career!!!0
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Career...and you are far too young & beautiful to put that on hold for a crush. I bet you find your special someone along the way.0
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Chose the man...
Then hear the guy tell you only 3 months later: "Look, my career is important and... so I've decided to go on tour with this company. Hope you understand!". Then you cry.
Yeah. Basically, career. Otherwise you're gonna start making babies and give up on all your dreams, which sucks. And you're going to meet so many interesting people that this dude isn't going to matter anymore after a while.
Oh, and these people who say "You have to make your own decisions..." are idiots. If we can't leverage the experiences of others and consider their opinions in our decision making process, then it's World War 2 all over again!0 -
Again, at18, CAREER!!!0
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Career!0
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Career for 20 years, save money, retire, get laid along the way, then find a life partner.0
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Your young in a profession that celebrates that so go with the career. If the guy was meant to be you will meet again later.0
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I chose heart over career once in my life. It was the wrong choice. I'd go with career. Especially at 18.0
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at 18? Career for sure.....take the chance you have, and maybe someone special will cross your path.0
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Definately career. Enjoy crushes along the way, but establish your career.0
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Take the chance to travel, especially as you are still young.0
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Career. Especially when you're deciding between your LIFE and some guy you've had a crush on for three months
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Career.0
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Career. Here's why:
You are just crushing on the guy. There have been no declarations of feelings between the two of you. It would be different if you were involved with him and it was to the point of moving in/marriage. What happens if you do tell him and he is not interested? Then you missed a golden opportunity for your future.0 -
I'd say career because your young...0
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for sure career - get your house in order before you move on with the relationship aspect (especially if its a crush)0
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Make yourself the priority...career!!0
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You're just auditioning, right? Do that, then we'll talk.0
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Career!0
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Career. You're young, take the time to see what's out there (people, places, opportunities, etc.). And break a leg! :drinker:0
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Career- hands down the best decision! If your feelings are strong enough on both sides, then a relationship could develop as you are chasing your career.0
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Career...
there will be plenty of men along the way and when you meet the right one he'll be devoting himself to you.0 -
Audition for sure.
The guy who you are crushing on is nothing. There's not a real relationship there.
Best wishes!0 -
Audition for sure.
The guy who you are crushing on is nothing. There's not a real relationship there.
Best wishes!
^^^ this. A crush is nothing to stay for. Go see the world :flowerforyou:0 -
On your tombstone, would you rather have it read "I wish I had spent more time acting" or "I spent my life loving" ?0
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Career for sure at this point in your life!
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If you'd love the work then go for the audition.
When I was a year older than you I dropped out of med school. Best decision I ever made as my heart just wasn't in it. Twenty years later I made massive sacrifices to re-train in a career I love. Second best decision I ever made.
If this career is what you are passionate about then go for it. If you know the sacrifices it demands are such that you won't enjoy life then best face up to this now. Work occupies so much of our lives - do something you love.
The guy is a red herring - not worth waiting for as you are not in a relationship and may never be.0 -
If you'd love the work then go for the audition.
When I was a year older than you I dropped out of med school. Best decision I ever made as my heart just wasn't in it. Twenty years later I made massive sacrifices to re-train in a career I love. Second best decision I ever made.
If this career is what you are passionate about then go for it. If you know the sacrifices it demands are such that you won't enjoy life then best face up to this now. Work occupies so much of our lives - do something you love.
The guy is a red herring - not worth waiting for as you are not in a relationship and may never be.
Are red herrings rare or something?0 -
career..
i can attest to the bitterness that befalls you when you give it all up for love
only to be hurt and taken for granted later
then you're minus love and the career you adore0
