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jenbit
jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
edited December 2024 in Social Groups
First of all sorry I've been ghosting this weekend. My computer chrashed and had to be overhauled so I missed you guys lol.

Ok about FWB we went out together friday night where I danced with him and a bunch of his guy friends lol. We didnt even talk about the whole do you want to date me thing. Basically my male friends think I hurt his feeling by not responding to his questions earlier... We went to a really nice club on saturday. My sister, him and I.. Now he has never seen me in anything beyond "bar casual" (jeans and tanks )... I was wearing a skirt and heels on saturday which I never do lol. I thought he was gonna swallow his tongue when he saw me. This guy came up to me while we where there and I was nice until he started creeping ( and trust me you try to stick your hand down my skirt thats creeping ) FWB saw me push the guys hand away and was like lets go dance now.. So we ended up dancing for like 45 min at a time.... Dancing in a small skirt is very difficult BTW lol...We left the bar at 5 am to go back to the house... When we get there and were alone he asked me so whats with you and the Ow.. guy.. I told him I had just met him. Again no conversation about dating.. But where gonna meet up at my friends birthday party at the bar tonight so lets see... I'm at the point were I just wish he would mention it casually already lol ...


Sorry to ramble so much but I'm on lots of coffee and all of this keeps running around in my head
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  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    I think at this point, since he already asked you .. he is waiting for an answer! lol. I wouldn't bring it up again if I were him .. so just throw it out there if you want to!!!!
  • 2stepz
    2stepz Posts: 814 Member
    I agree... you're going to have to bring it up if you want this resolved.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    Sooo how do I casually bring it up in conversation
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    First of all sorry I've been ghosting this weekend. My computer chrashed and had to be overhauled so I missed you guys lol.

    Ok about FWB we went out together friday night where I danced with him and a bunch of his guy friends lol. We didnt even talk about the whole do you want to date me thing. Basically my male friends think I hurt his feeling by not responding to his questions earlier... We went to a really nice club on saturday. My sister, him and I.. Now he has never seen me in anything beyond "bar casual" (jeans and tanks )... I was wearing a skirt and heels on saturday which I never do lol. I thought he was gonna swallow his tongue when he saw me. This guy came up to me while we where there and I was nice until he started creeping ( and trust me you try to stick your hand down my skirt thats creeping ) FWB saw me push the guys hand away and was like lets go dance now.. So we ended up dancing for like 45 min at a time.... Dancing in a small skirt is very difficult BTW lol...We left the bar at 5 am to go back to the house... When we get there and were alone he asked me so whats with you and the Ow.. guy.. I told him I had just met him. Again no conversation about dating.. But where gonna meet up at my friends birthday party at the bar tonight so lets see... I'm at the point were I just wish he would mention it casually already lol ...


    Sorry to ramble so much but I'm on lots of coffee and all of this keeps running around in my head

    So let me get this straight...

    He asked you, you didn't answer his questions and you want him to bring it up?

    The ball is in your court. You're 31 years old, you should be capable of bringing up and maintaining an adult conversation.
  • Moe4572
    Moe4572 Posts: 1,428 Member
    I agree with the others...ball is in your court now :)
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    Do you want to date this guy or not? I wouldn't bring it up if you're still undecided.
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 944 Member
    Bars stay open til 5 am????

    Yes - you need to talk to him.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    Do you want to date this guy or not? I wouldn't bring it up if you're still undecided.

    Yeas I would be willing to ... and for the record he never asked me to date him His exact words were "you want to date me huh?"
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    Bars stay open til 5 am????

    Yes - you need to talk to him.

    Honey I live in Maimi we have bars that dont close at all
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    Do you want to date this guy or not? I wouldn't bring it up if you're still undecided.

    Yeas I would be willing to ... and for the record he never asked me to date him His exact words were "you want to date me huh?"
    In that case I would just turn it around on him. Just say the same thing he said to you, teasingly. Or next time he asks about other guys ask if he's jealous. He's the one that brought it up initially so just ask him if he wants to date you.
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 944 Member
    Bars stay open til 5 am????

    Yes - you need to talk to him.

    Honey I live in Maimi we have bars that dont close at all

    wow. I thought that was only in places in Nevada. Our restaurants here close at 9!!!
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    Bars stay open til 5 am????

    Yes - you need to talk to him.

    Honey I live in Maimi we have bars that dont close at all

    wow. I thought that was only in places in Nevada. Our restaurants here close at 9!!!

    lol Nope ... I've done this so I know ... If you go bar hopping right you can literally spend the whole weekend in a bar and never go home lol.....


    I'm trying to figure out how to bring this up tonight...... And yes I would date him as most have pointed out were practially daiting now... We spent 5 out of 7 night together last week lol
  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    Say ..

    Can I buy my boyfriend a drink??
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    Say ..

    Can I buy my boyfriend a drink??

    LOL yeah but hes not my boyfriend............... oh and as another little tidbit after I didnt repsond to his question on Monday. He told one of my gay guy friends on Wendsday that he didnt want to hurt my feelings but the general concunses is hes trying to save face lol
  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    Say ..

    Can I buy my boyfriend a drink??

    LOL yeah but hes not my boyfriend............... oh and as another little tidbit after I didnt repsond to his question on Monday. He told one of my gay guy friends on Wendsday that he didnt want to hurt my feelings but the general concunses is hes trying to save face lol

    EXACTLY! He will say .. who is yourboyfriend .. or am I your boyfriend or .. something of the sort?? It will open up dialogue .. seeeeee??
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    And what about him telling my boy that he doesnt want to hurt my feeling hmmmm... This is why I hesitate to respond
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    He obviously likes you because you guys spend so much time together.

    Just be blunt with it. If I were you, I'd say, "I've been thinking about the question you asked me, and yes I want to date you. How do you feel?"
  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    And what about him telling my boy that he doesnt want to hurt my feeling hmmmm... This is why I hesitate to respond

    He doesn't want to hurt your feelings .. I agree, I think he is just trying to save face. I just worry because you said you would answer him and you haven't. It has got to be knawing at him. It has to.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    Well were supposed to go out tonight so hopefully I can get the courage to bring it up to him..... I do like him but having been FWB this whole time I refused to let myself get emotionally involved with him because I didn't think it would lead anywhere..... However lately everyone seems to think were dating because we are always together. One of my guy friends already said you guys are both in denail cause your dating just without admitting it lol.....
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    Sooo update again.... I think you guys are wrong lol.... I was about to try and casually insert it into conversation last night while we were out when he brought up this other girl ..... Bam killed it all my confidence flew right out the window.... Then he found out I had went on a date with a guy friend (Mr. Nice guy) and he looked at me like I had lost my mind.... Mind you this date was like 4 weeks ago... He kept saying **** like why would you go out with HIM? I told him the guy asked me and he is a nice guy.... He was like yeah but you've completely blown my mind....... So now I think hes freaked out and I don't know what to do.... BTW as my contribution to TMI Tuesdays all of this stuff didn't stop us from going to my house last night after the bar closed and the back of my neck apperantly looks like a wild animal attacked it :blushing: :bigsmile: We might have gotten a little carried away.... Any ways now what? So fricken confused with this guy
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    Sooo update again.... I think you guys are wrong lol.... I was about to try and casually insert it into conversation last night while we were out when he brought up this other girl ..... Bam killed it all my confidence flew right out the window.... Then he found out I had went on a date with a guy friend (Mr. Nice guy) and he looked at me like I had lost my mind.... Mind you this date was like 4 weeks ago... He kept saying **** like why would you go out with HIM? I told him the guy asked me and he is a nice guy.... He was like yeah but you've completely blown my mind....... So now I think hes freaked out and I don't know what to do.... BTW as my contribution to TMI Tuesdays all of this stuff didn't stop us from going to my house last night after the bar closed and the back of my neck apperantly looks like a wild animal attacked it :blushing: :bigsmile: We might have gotten a little carried away.... Any ways now what? So fricken confused with this guy

    The longer you wait, the less chance you have.
    Quit being a wimp.
  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    All right sister. You need to pull up your pretty, wild big girl panties and ask. That is if you WANT to be exclusive with him. If you really want to ... you need to get on that *kitten*!!!
  • solman66
    solman66 Posts: 175 Member
    Sooo update again.... I think you guys are wrong lol.... I was about to try and casually insert it into conversation last night while we were out when he brought up this other girl ..... Bam killed it all my confidence flew right out the window.... Then he found out I had went on a date with a guy friend (Mr. Nice guy) and he looked at me like I had lost my mind.... Mind you this date was like 4 weeks ago... He kept saying **** like why would you go out with HIM? I told him the guy asked me and he is a nice guy.... He was like yeah but you've completely blown my mind....... So now I think hes freaked out and I don't know what to do.... BTW as my contribution to TMI Tuesdays all of this stuff didn't stop us from going to my house last night after the bar closed and the back of my neck apperantly looks like a wild animal attacked it :blushing: :bigsmile: We might have gotten a little carried away.... Any ways now what? So fricken confused with this guy

    ....so he brings up a date with another girl to see if you get jealous, then gets jealous when you mention you had a date with another guy and you DON'T think he wants to date you?
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    All right sister. You need to pull up your pretty, wild big girl panties and ask. That is if you WANT to be exclusive with him. If you really want to ... you need to get on that *kitten*!!!

    A whole lotta "YUP" in this piece of advice.
  • Steelheart7
    Steelheart7 Posts: 1,056
    Sooo update again.... I think you guys are wrong lol.... I was about to try and casually insert it into conversation last night while we were out when he brought up this other girl ..... Bam killed it all my confidence flew right out the window.... Then he found out I had went on a date with a guy friend (Mr. Nice guy) and he looked at me like I had lost my mind.... Mind you this date was like 4 weeks ago... He kept saying **** like why would you go out with HIM? I told him the guy asked me and he is a nice guy.... He was like yeah but you've completely blown my mind....... So now I think hes freaked out and I don't know what to do.... BTW as my contribution to TMI Tuesdays all of this stuff didn't stop us from going to my house last night after the bar closed and the back of my neck apperantly looks like a wild animal attacked it :blushing: :bigsmile: We might have gotten a little carried away.... Any ways now what? So fricken confused with this guy

    ....so he brings up a date with another girl to see if you get jealous, then gets jealous when you mention you had a date with another guy and you DON'T think he wants to date you?

    LOL .. I was thinking that too.

    BTW .. am I the only one that thinks that your symbol picture looks like a sideways gas pumpy thing?
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    Sooo update again.... I think you guys are wrong lol.... I was about to try and casually insert it into conversation last night while we were out when he brought up this other girl ..... Bam killed it all my confidence flew right out the window.... Then he found out I had went on a date with a guy friend (Mr. Nice guy) and he looked at me like I had lost my mind.... Mind you this date was like 4 weeks ago... He kept saying **** like why would you go out with HIM? I told him the guy asked me and he is a nice guy.... He was like yeah but you've completely blown my mind....... So now I think hes freaked out and I don't know what to do.... BTW as my contribution to TMI Tuesdays all of this stuff didn't stop us from going to my house last night after the bar closed and the back of my neck apperantly looks like a wild animal attacked it :blushing: :bigsmile: We might have gotten a little carried away.... Any ways now what? So fricken confused with this guy

    The longer you wait, the less chance you have.
    Quit being a wimp.


    But I'm good at being a wimp lol..........I know I know your right .... But why would he react all crazy to me going out with Mr. Nice guy..... and we had a discussion last night about people dating and I told him that I'm one of those people that when I'm dating someone I don't mess around with anyone else
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    Sooo update again.... I think you guys are wrong lol.... I was about to try and casually insert it into conversation last night while we were out when he brought up this other girl ..... Bam killed it all my confidence flew right out the window.... Then he found out I had went on a date with a guy friend (Mr. Nice guy) and he looked at me like I had lost my mind.... Mind you this date was like 4 weeks ago... He kept saying **** like why would you go out with HIM? I told him the guy asked me and he is a nice guy.... He was like yeah but you've completely blown my mind....... So now I think hes freaked out and I don't know what to do.... BTW as my contribution to TMI Tuesdays all of this stuff didn't stop us from going to my house last night after the bar closed and the back of my neck apperantly looks like a wild animal attacked it :blushing: :bigsmile: We might have gotten a little carried away.... Any ways now what? So fricken confused with this guy

    ....so he brings up a date with another girl to see if you get jealous, then gets jealous when you mention you had a date with another guy and you DON'T think he wants to date you?


    Then he kept going with Not that I care but why would you go out with Mr. Nice guy.... You've completly blew my mind.... Then when I told him that it was the FIRST date I had ever been on ... He didn't believe me ..... Then he asked me if I had sex with the guy...... 1 None of his buiesness and 2 I didn't ..... And thank god my hair has grown out enough to cover my neck cause apperantly according to the maintainence guy at work I look like I was attacked or mugged...... He has this habit of marking me (not that I'm complaining lol )_
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    But I'm good at being a wimp lol..........I know I know your right .... But why would he react all crazy to me going out with Mr. Nice guy..... and we had a discussion last night about people dating and I told him that I'm one of those people that when I'm dating someone I don't mess around with anyone else
    So you had a conversation about other people dating but you couldn't find a good time to bring it up?

    I think the question should be why would he react all crazy to you going out with Mr Nice Guy if he DIDN'T want to date you?
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    Find some kahunas and ask him out.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    Sooo update again.... I think you guys are wrong lol.... I was about to try and casually insert it into conversation last night while we were out when he brought up this other girl ..... Bam killed it all my confidence flew right out the window.... Then he found out I had went on a date with a guy friend (Mr. Nice guy) and he looked at me like I had lost my mind.... Mind you this date was like 4 weeks ago... He kept saying **** like why would you go out with HIM? I told him the guy asked me and he is a nice guy.... He was like yeah but you've completely blown my mind....... So now I think hes freaked out and I don't know what to do.... BTW as my contribution to TMI Tuesdays all of this stuff didn't stop us from going to my house last night after the bar closed and the back of my neck apperantly looks like a wild animal attacked it :blushing: :bigsmile: We might have gotten a little carried away.... Any ways now what? So fricken confused with this guy

    ....so he brings up a date with another girl to see if you get jealous, then gets jealous when you mention you had a date with another guy and you DON'T think he wants to date you?


    Then he kept going with Not that I care but why would you go out with Mr. Nice guy.... You've completly blew my mind.... Then when I told him that it was the FIRST date I had ever been on ... He didn't believe me ..... Then he asked me if I had sex with the guy...... 1 None of his buiesness and 2 I didn't ..... And thank god my hair has grown out enough to cover my neck cause apperantly according to the maintainence guy at work I look like I was attacked or mugged...... He has this habit of marking me (not that I'm complaining lol )_

    Sorry got cut off before I finished posting..... to continue

    Then he tells me that the sexiest thing to him is familiarity... I dont know what to make of this guy he is very hot and cold sometime almost like he keeps pulling back..... And I KNOW you guys are right and I need to bring it up to with him and talk about this but everytime I think I'm ready to he does something like bringing up another women....
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