Text conversation - tell me what you think

JanieJack

So you are telling me that he feels no emotions for me? He treats me like a freaking princess. If he was only using me for sex period we would do the deed and I'd go home. Or he'd go home. He actually got upset one night when I had to go home. Granted yes you are all correct in the fact that we are not in a relationship but I hardly think he thinks of me as just for sex. I have had a FWB before. The only time we contacted each other was for sex. Period. I would say this is more like yes, we are friends, but we are also having sex. We started out as friends to begin with. The sex stuff happened in time. It was not right away.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I am not saying he has no feelings or emotions for you.

What I'm saying is his feelings/emotions for you are not what you want, and will likely never be.

A guy who 6 months ago I would have labeled my "2nd best guy friend" moved away and has absolutely no contact with me anymore. We did everything together. He taught my son so much. I knew he wasn't interested in a romantic relationship, but we shared so much of our lives together that I figured a couple years from now when "he was ready to settle down" I'd be the one he chose. But I won't be. I was a gap filler (as someone else on this forum so painfully but accurately put it). I was a pretty face to hug and have adventures with. But when he had no more use for me, he moved on and I was hurt.

christine24t

Well of course I want him to fall for me. I think he's awesome. I just don't see how sex plays into this? We do lots of stuff that do not include getting naked.

If he has already stated he doesn't want to date you for what ever reason he is thinking of this as a friends with benefit situation. Which mean no emotions involved. While you are wanting to change a friends with benefit into a relationship. To me I see you are just setting yourself up to be hurt. Neither you is in the wrong but you are not seeing things eye to eye.

So you are telling me that he feels no emotions for me? He treats me like a freaking princess. If he was only using me for sex period we would do the deed and I'd go home. Or he'd go home. He actually got upset one night when I had to go home. Granted yes you are all correct in the fact that we are not in a relationship but I hardly think he thinks of me as just for sex. I have had a FWB before. The only time we contacted each other was for sex. Period. I would say this is more like yes, we are friends, but we are also having sex. We started out as friends to begin with. The sex stuff happened in time. It was not right away.

I guess the only thing you can do now is to ask. You could say something like "lately I've been getting a different vibe from you about this. I know you said before you didn't want to date me, but the way you act sometimes makes me wonder. I'm just curious, what's up?" You might like his answer, or maybe not. It might end your FWB but it might get you where you want to be.

But I think if he wanted you, he would make a move to make it official. But I think because he is getting everything you get in a relationship, there is no reason for him to do that. I'm not saying FWB is bad, but it often think it leads to situations like the one you're in right now. He's treating you like he's in a relationship, but you're not, so it gets tricky.

TheKitsune6

Well of course I want him to fall for me. I think he's awesome. I just don't see how sex plays into this? We do lots of stuff that do not include getting naked.

If he has already stated he doesn't want to date you for what ever reason he is thinking of this as a friends with benefit situation. Which mean no emotions involved. While you are wanting to change a friends with benefit into a relationship. To me I see you are just setting yourself up to be hurt. Neither you is in the wrong but you are not seeing things eye to eye.

So you are telling me that he feels no emotions for me? He treats me like a freaking princess. If he was only using me for sex period we would do the deed and I'd go home. Or he'd go home. He actually got upset one night when I had to go home. Granted yes you are all correct in the fact that we are not in a relationship but I hardly think he thinks of me as just for sex. I have had a FWB before. The only time we contacted each other was for sex. Period. I would say this is more like yes, we are friends, but we are also having sex. We started out as friends to begin with. The sex stuff happened in time. It was not right away.

You are deluding yourself. You want very badly for something to be true so you're looking for any indication that it might despite him telling you baldly to your face what's really happening.

And before you get snippy with me again let me remind you:

Just wanting honest opinions. Good or bad. I can take your honesty.