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I hope you have a great weekend. Sorry about the bad timing with your period
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So if I am to understand this correctly, I should put off asking a girl to be my gf so that I can keep sleeping with other girls... and she would understand that?
No no no that's not the point. I'm not sleeping with other men. I'm socializing/flirting with them.
I already made an agreement with SL awhile back that we would remain monogamous.
That just means we can't have sex (or shouldn't) with anyone else, not that we can't go on dates with anyone else.
Wait a minute... didn't you gals say an emotional affair is worse than a physical one, I'd just be out sleeping with girls, while your looking for an emotional connection... which is worse??0 -
So if I am to understand this correctly, I should put off asking a girl to be my gf so that I can keep sleeping with other girls... and she would understand that?
No no no that's not the point. I'm not sleeping with other men. I'm socializing/flirting with them.
I already made an agreement with SL awhile back that we would remain monogamous.
That just means we can't have sex (or shouldn't) with anyone else, not that we can't go on dates with anyone else.
Wait a minute... didn't you gals say an emotional affair is worse than a physical one, I'd just be out sleeping with girls, while your looking for an emotional connection... which is worse??
Jeebus.. NO.. just hanging out with someone isn't looking for an emotional connection.0 -
So if I am to understand this correctly, I should put off asking a girl to be my gf so that I can keep sleeping with other girls... and she would understand that?
No no no that's not the point. I'm not sleeping with other men. I'm socializing/flirting with them.
I already made an agreement with SL awhile back that we would remain monogamous.
That just means we can't have sex (or shouldn't) with anyone else, not that we can't go on dates with anyone else.
Wait a minute... didn't you gals say an emotional affair is worse than a physical one, I'd just be out sleeping with girls, while your looking for an emotional connection... which is worse??
You said "I should put off asking a girl to be my gf so that I can keep sleeping with other girls... and she would understand that?"
This translates to "I like the chick and I'm going to purposely keep stringing her along so that she sticks around. Yet, I'll be sleeping with these hotties over here too."
I wouldn't string anybody along.. but if I'm unsure of the other person's feelings early on, why would I stop dating others? Now if I knew guy was into me by actions and his words, and I kept dating him stringing him along while dating others.. then it'd be wrong. Especially if I made it seem he was the only one I was seeing.0 -
Hint around it and you will land him by weekends end!!
Question: Do you women really need a validating discussion that labels you bf/gf???
YES!! Nothing worse than assuming he's your bf when in reality you're just an option...
Figured.... just seems pretty playground like everytime I've asked.
I don't consider it "validating." I just want to know there was genuine intent and thought behind it ... that you made a decision and acted on it, rather than, as I said before, stumbling into it.
I dated a guy a few months back who wanted to, shall we say, increase the physical pace of our "relationship." I told him I don't do certain things until I'm with someone exclusively. He looked at me and said "Okay, let's shake on it." I mean, really?
I get that it can seem childish to ask "Will you be my girlfriend?" I guess that depends on the delivery, too. If you're dating a woman who likes romance, she'll love that you asked instead of just assuming. But there are other ways to do it. You can simply say "I really like you, and I don't want to see other people anymore. Do you feel the same way?" If she says yes, boom, you're boyfriend and girlfriend.0 -
You said "I should put off asking a girl to be my gf so that I can keep sleeping with other girls... and she would understand that?"
This translates to "I like the chick and I'm going to purposely keep stringing her along so that she sticks around. Yet, I'll be sleeping with these hotties over here too."
I wouldn't string anybody along.. but if I'm unsure of the other person's feelings early on, why would I stop dating others? Now if I knew guy was into me by actions and his words, and I kept dating him stringing him along while dating others.. then it'd be wrong. Especially if I made it seem he was the only one I was seeing.
What she said.. although he and I have been seeing each other for about 5-6 weeks now, it's never been more than casual with occasional "serious" talks that lasted no more than a few minutes.
I'm not stringing him along and I'm pretty sure he's not stringing me along, but just in case, if someone asks me out on a date I'm going to accept because it's an opportunity to maybe meet someone that I like better (doubtful--hasn't happened) or in the worst case scenario it's a good dinner.
I like him a lot but I'm not pressuringing him about a relationship because I know he's hesitant, and I'm hesitant as well due to my recent divorce. That's why I'm taking things slowly and "dating around."0 -
So if I am to understand this correctly, I should put off asking a girl to be my gf so that I can keep sleeping with other girls... and she would understand that?
No no no that's not the point. I'm not sleeping with other men. I'm socializing/flirting with them.
I already made an agreement with SL awhile back that we would remain monogamous.
That just means we can't have sex (or shouldn't) with anyone else, not that we can't go on dates with anyone else.
Wait a minute... didn't you gals say an emotional affair is worse than a physical one, I'd just be out sleeping with girls, while your looking for an emotional connection... which is worse??
You said "I should put off asking a girl to be my gf so that I can keep sleeping with other girls... and she would understand that?"
This translates to "I like the chick and I'm going to purposely keep stringing her along so that she sticks around. Yet, I'll be sleeping with these hotties over here too."
I wouldn't string anybody along.. but if I'm unsure of the other person's feelings early on, why would I stop dating others? Now if I knew guy was into me by actions and his words, and I kept dating him stringing him along while dating others.. then it'd be wrong. Especially if I made it seem he was the only one I was seeing.
So buffcupcake for instance knows she wants to be with SL... yet she hasn't asked him to be her bf and is dating/not putting all eggs in one basket... I fail to see how that is any diff. then the guy not asking and sleeping around while dating someone with promise?? You can go with the social norm of the guy should ask... but that is bs... this isn't the day of Peggy Sue anymore.0 -
So if I am to understand this correctly, I should put off asking a girl to be my gf so that I can keep sleeping with other girls... and she would understand that?
No no no that's not the point. I'm not sleeping with other men. I'm socializing/flirting with them.
I already made an agreement with SL awhile back that we would remain monogamous.
That just means we can't have sex (or shouldn't) with anyone else, not that we can't go on dates with anyone else.
Wait a minute... didn't you gals say an emotional affair is worse than a physical one, I'd just be out sleeping with girls, while your looking for an emotional connection... which is worse??
You said "I should put off asking a girl to be my gf so that I can keep sleeping with other girls... and she would understand that?"
This translates to "I like the chick and I'm going to purposely keep stringing her along so that she sticks around. Yet, I'll be sleeping with these hotties over here too."
I wouldn't string anybody along.. but if I'm unsure of the other person's feelings early on, why would I stop dating others? Now if I knew guy was into me by actions and his words, and I kept dating him stringing him along while dating others.. then it'd be wrong. Especially if I made it seem he was the only one I was seeing.
So buffcupcake for instance knows she wants to be with SL... yet she hasn't asked him to be her bf and is dating/not putting all eggs in one basket... I fail to see how that is any diff. then the guy not asking and sleeping around while dating someone with promise?? You can go with the social norm of the guy should ask... but that is bs... this isn't the day of Peggy Sue anymore.
Something is wrong with our communication because you're completely misinterpreting the situation.0 -
So if I am to understand this correctly, I should put off asking a girl to be my gf so that I can keep sleeping with other girls... and she would understand that?
No no no that's not the point. I'm not sleeping with other men. I'm socializing/flirting with them.
I already made an agreement with SL awhile back that we would remain monogamous.
That just means we can't have sex (or shouldn't) with anyone else, not that we can't go on dates with anyone else.
Wait a minute... didn't you gals say an emotional affair is worse than a physical one, I'd just be out sleeping with girls, while your looking for an emotional connection... which is worse??
You said "I should put off asking a girl to be my gf so that I can keep sleeping with other girls... and she would understand that?"
This translates to "I like the chick and I'm going to purposely keep stringing her along so that she sticks around. Yet, I'll be sleeping with these hotties over here too."
I wouldn't string anybody along.. but if I'm unsure of the other person's feelings early on, why would I stop dating others? Now if I knew guy was into me by actions and his words, and I kept dating him stringing him along while dating others.. then it'd be wrong. Especially if I made it seem he was the only one I was seeing.
So buffcupcake for instance knows she wants to be with SL... yet she hasn't asked him to be her bf and is dating/not putting all eggs in one basket... I fail to see how that is any diff. then the guy not asking and sleeping around while dating someone with promise?? You can go with the social norm of the guy should ask... but that is bs... this isn't the day of Peggy Sue anymore.
Something is wrong with our communication because you're completely misinterpreting the situation.
Well I can't speak for your situation I only know small details of your deal with SL... I was just playing devils advocate to the eggs in one basket deal0 -
See .. give the boys an inch and they take a mile!! :grumble:
Is that why some of them think 4 inches equals 7?
:huh:
There's an awesome story here somewhere. Reveal yourself!0 -
Well I can't speak for your situation I only know small details of your deal with SL... I was just playing devils advocate to the eggs in one basket deal
Oh, you!
Well I like SL a lot. I think he likes me a lot. He's not too open with his feelings. Barely open at all actually. So this is me guessing since he keeps spending time with me. For all I know I could just be company since he's new to the area.
I'll post updates as they come.
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