Why are you not a catch?
MissingMinnesota
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Well since we have "Why are you a catch?" with everyone saying their good features maybe we should discuss our negative points also.
For me,
-I am a type A personality and not really go with the flow
-I can be really quiet when meeting someone for the first time one on one, even though in a group I am very out going
-I am a virgin (since everyone else was stating how much they love sex)
-I am too much of a tom boy
-I do not keep up with most current events
-I can be full of myself when it comes to my job, as I know I am awesome at it.
For me,
-I am a type A personality and not really go with the flow
-I can be really quiet when meeting someone for the first time one on one, even though in a group I am very out going
-I am a virgin (since everyone else was stating how much they love sex)
-I am too much of a tom boy
-I do not keep up with most current events
-I can be full of myself when it comes to my job, as I know I am awesome at it.
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Now why would I do that???
There's no such thing!!!0 -
Just kidding...
I'm not going to say "I'm not a catch because" though...
I'm goig to say "I'm a bit hard to be with because":
I'm an overthinker. Seriously.
I'm stubborn.
I'm emotional, sometimes TOO emotional.
I'm pretty immature.
I like to party.
I have a slight lisp. (shhhh don't tell anybody)
My teeth are a bit crooked because when I was a teen I wore braces but refused to wear my retainer. My teeth have shifted a bit.
I'm impulsive (this can be good AND bad).
I'm loud.0 -
I started to answer this question in the other thread:
I'm nervous around new people
I'm an awful conversationalist
I am not outgoing
I'm not a thrillseeker
I'm as stubborn as they come
I'm not overly romantic
I'm told I don't express emotion that well (I still don't believe this one)
And I look like a card carrying member of the Lollipop Guild.0 -
I'm not going to say "I'm not a catch because" though...
I just couldn't think up another topic name since I just wanted to do the opposite of other post.
Another reason.
I am not creative.0 -
I am not a life of the party sort of person.
Probably come across as too much of a country bumpkin.
Crooked teeth (long,expensive process in the works to get fixed).
My sense of humor is somewhat sarcastic rather then telling jokes.
Not really shy but not overly outgoing around new people.
For starters.0 -
I'm not going to say "I'm not a catch because" though...
I just couldn't think up another topic name since I just wanted to do the opposite of other post.
Another reason.
I am not creative.
Hahaha!!
And apparently another reason for me...
I can't follow directions.
Well damn, we're screwed.
(another reason- self loathing)
Damnit!
(potty mouth!!)
I'm just going to stop now.0 -
I'm an overthinker. Seriously.
I'm stubborn.
I'm emotional, sometimes TOO emotional.
game, set, match.0 -
I have kids
I am short
I am shy
I do not have a nice rack
I do not like to party0 -
As I recently found out, apparently an unattractive part of my personality is that when I'm with a guy I'm seeing and his friends, I play the dude card too well... Like his friends will love me but to the point where even though I look, sound and act like a girl, guys treat me like one of the guys. Ugh annoying.
I've always taken on that role though because I've been heavy my entire life so when guys were hitting on my single-blonde-hot-skinny-mini-eat-whatever-crap-they-want-don't-exercise-and-somehow-still-look-like-models friends, I would play wingman for the 'bros'. Pointing out hot chicks, doing shots, and being sociable. I would always gloss over any of them remotely being into me because usually that never happened.
Apparently, this most recent guy wasn't comfortable with how comfortable his friends were with me. I don't want to be the hoodie girl.0 -
I'm an overthinker. Seriously.
I'm stubborn.
I'm emotional, sometimes TOO emotional.
game, set, match.
Que QUE??0 -
I'm shy. lack confidence in lots of things. it mainly comes from my mind that I am still 400+ lbs. way too fat and unattractive. I know I am not but when I look in the mirror I still see that huge guy.
because of this people that don't know me I can sometimes come across as cold, uninterested, almost anti-social.
I think people can be intimidated by my size so I avoid eye contact sometimes.
I am pretty stubborn and hard headed about certain things. when I make up my mind about something I have a hard time changing
Some folks get discouraged, sad and beat themselves up over gaining 1/2 a pound on the scale. I don't. I instead I get cranky and beat myself up for missing out on a workout. sometimes I wonder if it's a little too much.
When I do get to know someone I have a hard time knowing when to shut up.
I like debating about fun nerdy, geeky subjects but not politics. it bores me.0 -
i'm an aquarius. LOL
i might be a lot of fun and know how to have a good time, but i'm emotionally detached.
i might have wild and crazy ideas, but i like things MY way, on MY terms.
it's like the good has some bad too :-)
oh and apparently my NOT drinking is a deal breaker for quite a few men :-)0 -
i'm an aquarius. LOL
i might be a lot of fun and know how to have a good time, but i'm emotionally detached.
i might have wild and crazy ideas, but i like things MY way, on MY terms.
My bf is an aquarius and I'm beginning to see why! I'm a Taurus and though I don't follow my horoscope faithfully it's interesting to see how right (and scary) it is. Blah!0 -
oh and apparently my NOT drinking is a deal breaker for quite a few men :-)
I get this too. Not that I don't drink but I am not a big drinker since I usually get sick and actually more out going when I don't drink. I will tell guys I didn't drink while doing something that usually requires drinking (I didn't drink at the nascar race this weekend) and get a "I don't even know how we can be friends" It is usually a joke but to me there has to be some truth to it.0 -
I'm shy. lack confidence in lots of things. it mainly comes from my mind that I am still 400+ lbs. way too fat and unattractive. I know I am not but when I look in the mirror I still see that huge guy.
because of this people that don't know me I can sometimes come across as cold, uninterested, almost anti-social.
I do this too! Beating myself up over these huge ridiculous workout routines I plan for myself. I think though it is just setting yourself up for failure. Little mini goals of I'm going to walk here instead of driving or park further away makes a difference. Cliche but consistency is key!
Also, maybe you should take a step back and start smiling at strangers. I have a tendency to go into restaurants and places like subway etc. and be really rude to the staff because I feel like they are judging me for anything I pick. If you step out of yourself though and keep reminding yourself that you're your own worst critic, maybe a smile to a stranger will help you out.
It's not fair to anyone to prejudge someone else that they are prejudging you. More than often, they are not!0 -
oh and apparently my NOT drinking is a deal breaker for quite a few men :-)
Oh, I forgot this one!
But on the positive side, it also means I will always be the designated driver.0 -
I'm not a catch because I'm that awesome like the other thread that peeps can't be around me as it hurts their self esteem
Seriously though prob cause I can be too nice, not a push over though.
I like Xbox
I'm sometimes too loud/extroverted
I jump into things too quickly!0 -
My late wife always told me (with much frustration ) that I always saw her through rose colored glasses and the rest of the world in black and white with no shades of grey.
On the other hand gals (I not gonna comment on other guys) I haven't read anything here yet that actually answers the question. Nothing I've read would prevent me from having a good time with any of you.0 -
Interesting topic since I'm doing thinking about this very subject as a result of being tired of being single, lol.
So.. here goes..
- I'm stubborn... like REALLY stubborn
- I'm not the best at expressing what's on my mind in general
- I overanalyze and read into things too much sometimes
- I'm a black & white kinda person.. there is no gray (aka middle ground.. it's either all or nothing)
- I'm shy & tongue tied when I first meet somone.. takes me a long time to "warm up" to someone
- My finances are an absolute train wreck.. in the process of being fixed but still a mess0 -
I come across as rather boring or overly conservative at times. I don't drink anything, even a single beer, if I have to drive later.
I don't like to do things that center around food or alcohol because I can undo two-weeks worth of diet and exercise in just a few hours if given the opportunity. I also don't like dining out because of the portion sizes and using butter and other crap to add flavor.
I am very analytical and often argumentative.
I have a lot of insecurities involving being 400+ pounds for a long time. As a defense mechanism I am often stand offish. I also don't pick up signals from women very well because I think any woman who is talking to me is being nice and polite because women generally act more nice and polite. I can't imagine she could possibly be interested in more than small talk.
I like to do a lot of things that are primarily solo activities like running or lifting weights. I also do longer runs on the weekends. During the summer, I try to have them done early morning to avoid the heat. That often means going to bed by 10 pm on a Friday and/or Saturday night.0 -
*I'm far too emotional.
*Over think stuff WAY too much.
*Huge neat freak; which can drive some crazy.
*I'm kind of demanding. And stubborn. I want it my way far too much.
*Am a fairly untrusting person.0 -
I am very shy.
I am a devoted fan of heavy metal
I am an animal fanatic.
I have been hurt in past relationships so not exactly full of trust.
I have a weird sense of humor.0 -
I'm a conundrum.
I'm a PhD student who thrives off country music. This is evidently unheard of.
I am (still) over 250 lbs, tho I tend to carry it somewhat well and remain active.
I am strangely middle-of-the-road on many things; some even contradict.
I am extremely self-aware, but I'm also very self-deprecating and self-punishing.
I'm a farm girl who won't drink beer. Can't stand it. Whiskey on the other hand...
I logically think through every decision I need to make, but then I follow my instincts anyway.
I have no idea where I'm going in life. I just make the best decision I can at every juncture and trust that the result will be beneficial.
I'm not religious, but I do believe in destiny and angels.
I love who I am... I just have severe doubts about anyone else being able to do the same.0 -
I'm not a catch at times because...
I'm afraid of committment
Guys are annoyed by the fact I'm trying to lose weight
I've worked in the Criminal Justice system for 9 years and that intimidates some (probably the ones I don't want anyway)
I rarely get close to people because I fear rejection and it hurts more the closer you are to someone
I can't/suck at cooking0 -
So I've been told.... I do what I want when I want with no consideration of anyone around me.
Could also add I'm blunt, I don't pick up on peoples feelings, I will do anything I think is funny, Oh I'm sure the list goes on....0 -
you sound awesome:)
I'm shy. lack confidence in lots of things. it mainly comes from my mind that I am still 400+ lbs. way too fat and unattractive. I know I am not but when I look in the mirror I still see that huge guy.
because of this people that don't know me I can sometimes come across as cold, uninterested, almost anti-social.
I think people can be intimidated by my size so I avoid eye contact sometimes.
I am pretty stubborn and hard headed about certain things. when I make up my mind about something I have a hard time changing
Some folks get discouraged, sad and beat themselves up over gaining 1/2 a pound on the scale. I don't. I instead I get cranky and beat myself up for missing out on a workout. sometimes I wonder if it's a little too much.
When I do get to know someone I have a hard time knowing when to shut up.
I like debating about fun nerdy, geeky subjects but not politics. it bores me.0 -
- Horrible anxiety about dating and becoming intimate with someone
- Overweight and sedentary (trying to change!)
Honestly, can't think of any others. These are the main, blaring reasons I hold myself back and sabotage relationships.0 -
I am not a catch because:
I am single mom guys find that unattractive
I am more friendship material then love material
I am to nice as people tell me0 -
This one's easier:
I can be pretty quiet, not very outgoing, sort of lazy, I smoke when I drink, and I drink a lot.0 -
- I'm very independant. I don't NEED help with much of anything.
- I'm loud
- I see things as either right or wrong... I can agree to disagree but no one will change my opinions.
- I don't fit into any "type"... I'm very old fashioned and girly but I can also be a dominatrix... this tends to confuse guys A LOT!
- When something is important to me I won't compromise
Those are the big ones :drinker:0
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