Why are you not a catch?
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Because I'm immature, perverted, and slightly irresponsible when I drink. Not when I have a good man, though. I'll still be totally loyal. I'm just dumb, haha.
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Where do I start? Haha
- I am not the most outgoing person with strangers so I tend to make bad impressions on people until they get to know me.
- I sometimes get argumentative
- If I don't go out to the bar, which is never now since I'm back home, I go to bed at ten pm
- I am self-conscious about a lot of things, including my body
- I don't have the best body.
- I overanalyze everything. I mean everything.
- I have never been kissed and I am a virgin. Some guys, from what I gather, want sex very soon into the relationship. I am unable to provide that. I would have to feel comfortable first and trust the person and that can take time. Plus, I think sex is something special and not to be done so quickly.
- I live at home. I just graduated college, so it's a little legit but that can turn many people off.0 -
I ran track in high school and box now, so I'm light on my feet....0
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For the most part we have all identified characteristics or attributes about ourselves that we don`t like or we consider a wall between us and finding happiness with someone else.
Many of them are not cast in stone so how do we go about "fixing" them?0 -
I keep a messy house, sometimes very messy.
I am quiet, which keeps the guys away I think.
I am not nearly as ambitious as I used to be.
I'm a bit lazy.
I hate driving.
I'm not all that independent.
Hmm... this is depressing... take me back to the why I am thread :laugh:0 -
For the most part we have all identified characteristics or attributes about ourselves that we don`t like or we consider a wall between us and finding happiness with someone else.
Many of them are not cast in stone so how do we go about "fixing" them?
It's kinda hard to fix character traits, dont you think??
I could probably shut up a bit, not offer my opinion, do as I'm told, but wouldn't that just be compromising? I think we do that anyway in relationships. The main thing is finding someone you fit with. One man will find an independant woman attractive, while another guy would prefer someone needy. It's not a case of changing for sake of it, but compromisng when you find someone worth compromising for :flowerforyou:0 -
For the most part we have all identified characteristics or attributes about ourselves that we don`t like or we consider a wall between us and finding happiness with someone else.
Many of them are not cast in stone so how do we go about "fixing" them?
It's kinda hard to fix character traits, dont you think??
I could probably shut up a bit, not offer my opinion, do as I'm told, but wouldn't that just be compromising? I think we do that anyway in relationships. The main thing is finding someone you fit with. One man will find an independant woman attractive, while another guy would prefer someone needy. It's not a case of changing for sake of it, but compromisng when you find someone worth compromising for :flowerforyou:
Agree with you!
People have found me worthy enough to be a friend to them despite having these flaws so why not a relationship? But I think some things are worth fixing, for example, being self-conscious.0 -
For the most part we have all identified characteristics or attributes about ourselves that we don`t like or we consider a wall between us and finding happiness with someone else.
Many of them are not cast in stone so how do we go about "fixing" them?
It's kinda hard to fix character traits, dont you think??
I could probably shut up a bit, not offer my opinion, do as I'm told, but wouldn't that just be compromising? I think we do that anyway in relationships. The main thing is finding someone you fit with. One man will find an independant woman attractive, while another guy would prefer someone needy. It's not a case of changing for sake of it, but compromisng when you find someone worth compromising for :flowerforyou:
Hard but not impossible and if it is a roadblock in life why would we not want to I guess is my thoughts.
Was mainly referring to the being shy,not liking ourselves,over analyzing stuff that was mentioned so often.
That can be changed I believe.0 -
For the most part we have all identified characteristics or attributes about ourselves that we don`t like or we consider a wall between us and finding happiness with someone else.
Many of them are not cast in stone so how do we go about "fixing" them?
It's kinda hard to fix character traits, dont you think??
I could probably shut up a bit, not offer my opinion, do as I'm told, but wouldn't that just be compromising? I think we do that anyway in relationships. The main thing is finding someone you fit with. One man will find an independant woman attractive, while another guy would prefer someone needy. It's not a case of changing for sake of it, but compromisng when you find someone worth compromising for :flowerforyou:
Hard but not impossible and if it is a roadblock in life why would we not want to I guess is my thoughts.
Was mainly referring to the being shy,not liking ourselves,over analyzing stuff that was mentioned so often.
That can be changed I believe.
I'm working on my anxiety. Hello meds
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For the most part we have all identified characteristics or attributes about ourselves that we don`t like or we consider a wall between us and finding happiness with someone else.
Many of them are not cast in stone so how do we go about "fixing" them?
I've done about all I'm going to do. I've been through it all and I've come out strong. I love myself just as I am. The only thing I want to work on is my over thinking because it stresses me out. But I agree, a man will fit ME.
Don't get me wrong.. please don't imagine me as this whiney girl who is constantly me me me. Not at all.. as a matter of fact, Smiley has commented on how I don't keep tabs on him or try to control him. He's right. I'm over that crap. But there are certain things that I need to feel secure in my relationship. If my guy can't or won't provide, than he's not the one for me.0 -
i don't think i want to change the parts of me that might be the "not a catch" parts.
being emotionally detached can be a downfall, but it always means that i am not up the guy's butt!!! i don't always need to know where he's going, i trust him that he's being honest, i won't drill him later about where he's been........ maybe some guys need that, but if they don't they get it naturally from me. and while i might not whisper sweet nothings in your ear i'm a huge fan of ANYTHING intimate. so, my guess is that my enjoying the physical aspects of the relationship makes the detachment seem like less of a detachment. if that makes sense.
and my wanting things MY way on My terms..... is always there. so, from the beginning the guy can see it as a personality trait. he can either choose to take it or leave it. i can and will compromise and negotiate. i ALWAYS try to think of the other person, even if i want MY way. i typically do NOT get upset if i don't get my way, i just WANT MY WAY!!!
so, i'm very much ok with my things that can be seen as "faults." even the alcohol one. spend ONE date with me, and most guys get over it VERY VERY fast! i never need alcohol to make me brave. i don't need anything to calm my nerves. people and situations rarely make me nervous. i like to feel pain and pleasure in their pure states. i don't like to dull things up, not even a little. :-) adrenaline--- that would be my drink or drug of choice!!!0 -
Most of us have insecurities/flaws/things you don't like about yourself/call it what you want. So after reading everyone's posts I must say that I actually feel relieved and am reminded nobody is perfect (except for the few that might reply to this post that they are or are close
). I've recently accepted a few things about myself that I'm not a big fan of but they most likely arn't going to change. I'm way less stressed and much happier accepting these things realizing it's a part of who I am. I've been focused on radical acceptance and feel much better about me. Sounds cheesy maybe but works :blushing: 0 -
Everyone changes a little, if you say you dont you are lying.. At least in the honeymoon stages anyways, as you become more and more of yourself haha.0
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- I'm too independent
- I like animals more than people (I have no pet's though)
- I have hobby that takes quite a bit time (horses)
- My looks
- I'm stubborn
- I warm up slowly (been referred as an old diesel engine -> takes time to start, but when it runs, it won't die easily)
- I need my own time and space
- I have never been in a relationship
These are the ones I came up right now. There is plenty more though...0 -
I ran track in high school and box now, so I'm light on my feet....
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i'm an aquarius. LOL
i might be a lot of fun and know how to have a good time, but i'm emotionally detached.
i might have wild and crazy ideas, but i like things MY way, on MY terms.
it's like the good has some bad too :-)
oh and apparently my NOT drinking is a deal breaker for quite a few men :-)
Ha ha. I'm an Aquarius, too. I just mentioned that in my recent post. I've been trying to send Aquarius profiles to my new bf so he doesn't feel like I'm just stone cold.0 -
i have done the same. especially when it seems like we are experiencing differing vibes on something.... i will send links just so they can see that this is me. i'm not heartless i'm just not overly gooshie........ i'm very even keel, and even if i'm dying inside it probably won't show like that. apparently it helps for them to read a bit. i'm pretty text book for most descriptions of a female aquarius............
i'm glad i'm not the only one that does this, LOL!!!!0 -
1. I freakingly hate modern upbeat music (ya I would rather listen to the Beatles or Frank Sinatra than Taylor Swift or Bruno Mars, ugh!)
2. I'm a tomboy type
3. I'm a snobbish person in real life
4. I'm very picky when it comes to guys
5. I'm in an Asian country & am a half-Filipina but I'm not attracted to Filipino or other Asian men of all types unless they are mixed with other races (no racist involved here, I'm just saying my preference)
6. I don't go out much except when going to the gym, work or a jog
7. My self-esteem is very low
8. I'm a jealous type of girlfriend
9. I tend to feel insecure about other women
10. I can get moody anytime
11. I tend to lose my temper easily
12. I'm not feel comfortable with conservative people
13. I become an a**hole when angry
14. I'm a Catholic but religious stuff pisses me off
15. I'm a quiet type0 -
Probably my shyness... Although I am shy but not shy0
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I'm not "not a catch" - I'm just attracted to the wrong people. Nothing wrong with that - not looking for a wife.
Everyone here has stated unique qualities that make them who they are. These are not negatives - it's just that the people we tend to be most attracted to are overly judgmental.0 -
One of my best guy friend's always told me it would be a long time before I ever settle down because most men aren't looking for a girl like me until they get a little older... made me angry at the time (I was 27) and now I believe (I'm still single at 36!)...here's what he shared, and I do agree with them...
I'm too smart for my own good (being smart is a good thing but being too smart...scary)
I'm overly independent (I don't WANT to need anyone)
I earn more money that most
I am definitely an over analyzer... though I'm working on (thinking about, haha) letting go of that!
I take charge easily at work but not at all at home, something most people I work with are shocked at
I really do believe that God intends a man to be the head of the household, so I tend to look for strong, decisive men who turn out to be bad boys!
I am BUSY! I don't exactly have a ton of down time, but I fit in anything worth the time!
For my own personal list, I'd add that I'm actually overly submissive with strong men (don't get me started, haha) and also completely hard to approach because I give no signals yet I expect a man to make the first move.
Now I remember why I'm still single, haha!0 -
1. I freakingly hate modern upbeat music (ya I would rather listen to the Beatles or Frank Sinatra than Taylor Swift or Bruno Mars, ugh!)
I'm pretty sure most guys would see this as a huge positive.0 -
I have nooooo idea what I want.0
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Just overall too awesome. Too busy with my awesome career. To fast to catch on my awesome Buell. Spends too much time playing with my awesome dog.
You get the picture.0
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