Anyone else a loner?
Dimpszz
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I've never really been into clubs and partying. I'd rather stay home and cuddle up to a good book or watch a movie some nights. Since I'm in college, older family members tell me that its kind of weird but I'm fine with it. I guess I just like being in my own space sometimes rather than always being in a group. Anyone else like this? If so, how often do you "go out" for a night out on the town?
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Definitely a loner. I don't party, I don't club and I don't really drink. I guess it's partly because I was an only child and I learned how to be by myself at an early age. I become independent and that really hasn't changed later in life. Trust me many people think I am the "odd duckling"0 -
I am a loner too! My closest friends are all extremely social and love being out... I just don't get the same enjoyment from it as they do. It was hard a few years back when they were so focused are going out, at first they thought I was 'dissing' them but eventually they realised it was just who I am! I enjoy going out for dinner or A drink, but still hate going out to clubs or parties for all night things. I will go bar hopping only when really needed, like a friends birthday or major event... so maybe just a few times a year!0
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Yeah... I've known a few social geeks, but in general, we tend to be introverts. I'm a little more on the extreme side of introversion, though... more than a preference, I actually find it physically and mentally *exhausting* in most cases to be around more than a few people at a time, and even more so when there are strangers involved. I really can't think of many things I would find less appealing than wasting a night out clubbing or going to what most college students called a "party."
As introverts, we need that "alone time" to recharge just as much as the extroverts need to be around other people to bounce their energy off of.0 -
Yup I never really got into the social scene, sometimes I go out but most of the time its video games and internet both of which I can shut off when I get tiered of...unlike people.0
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I don't dig clubs either. I'm a bit of a loner but it's more because of my job sechdule. I work nights 11pm-7am Wed-Mon. My weekend is Mon/Tues. So a lot of my friends aren't up for going out since it's the start of their work week when I am off.0
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Definitely a loner. I don't party, I don't club and I don't really drink. I guess it's partly because I was an only child and I learned how to be by myself at an early age. I become independent and that really hasn't changed later in life. Trust me many people think I am the "odd duckling"
Yup me too! That last time I drank was Christmas, I don't have that many friends locally, but if/when I go out with them I'd rather go for coffee and cake, than out drinking. I don't mind going to the pub for a quiet one, but I am past the whole 8/9 pubs and a nighclub (though I did do that during uni but I think it was a requirement!!)
Give me a dvd marathon and a good book any day :laugh: Though this may contribute to the whole single thing......0 -
Yeah... I've known a few social geeks, but in general, we tend to be introverts. I'm a little more on the extreme side of introversion, though... more than a preference, I actually find it physically and mentally *exhausting* in most cases to be around more than a few people at a time, and even more so when there are strangers involved. I really can't think of many things I would find less appealing than wasting a night out clubbing or going to what most college students called a "party."
As introverts, we need that "alone time" to recharge just as much as the extroverts need to be around other people to bounce their energy off of.
That's a fairly good description of me, too. I can handle crowds all right, just can't imagine why I would want to when I would rather bbe at home. The one and only time I let myself be dragged to a club, I was miserable.
Alone time is absolutely essential to me. Unfortunately I'm not getting much these days. And its starting to wear on me. I need peace and quiet and nobody bothering me for a while! I wasn't an only child, but I am 7 years younger than my closest sibling, and grew up in the country with no friends nearby. Being alone never bothered me.0 -
Alone time is absolutely essential to me. Unfortunately I'm not getting much these days. And its starting to wear on me. I need peace and quiet and nobody bothering me for a while! I wasn't an only child, but I am 7 years younger than my closest sibling, and grew up in the country with no friends nearby. Being alone never bothered me.
My brother is 7 years older than me, so we had nothing in common as kids! Come stay with me Pin, I live alone (well dog and a cat) I have a very spare room and lots of books/dvds. I promise to fully ignore you :laugh:0 -
My brother is 7 years older than me, so we had nothing in common as kids! Come stay with me Pin, I live alone (well dog and a cat) I have a very spare room and lots of books/dvds. I promise to fully ignore you :laugh:
Ah, that sounds heavenly! I wouldn't mind conversing some, so long as you aren't asking me where your sneakers are or what's for dinner :laugh:0 -
its really great to see that I am not alone in the "loner" club
That's a fairly good description of me, too. I can handle crowds all right, just can't imagine why I would want to when I would rather bbe at home. The one and only time I let myself be dragged to a club, I was miserable.
Alone time is absolutely essential to me. Unfortunately I'm not getting much these days. And its starting to wear on me. I need peace and quiet and nobody bothering me for a while! I wasn't an only child, but I am 7 years younger than my closest sibling, and grew up in the country with no friends nearby. Being alone never bothered me.
This is so true! I feel like I have to have alone time or else I'll lose my mind. Being around a lot of people all the time just doesn't appeal to me0 -
My brother is 7 years older than me, so we had nothing in common as kids! Come stay with me Pin, I live alone (well dog and a cat) I have a very spare room and lots of books/dvds. I promise to fully ignore you :laugh:
Ah, that sounds heavenly! I wouldn't mind conversing some, so long as you aren't asking me where your sneakers are or what's for dinner :laugh:
I would make you noms and you could cuddle the dog. The weather is pretty rubbish though....0 -
My brother is 7 years older than me, so we had nothing in common as kids! Come stay with me Pin, I live alone (well dog and a cat) I have a very spare room and lots of books/dvds. I promise to fully ignore you :laugh:
Ah, that sounds heavenly! I wouldn't mind conversing some, so long as you aren't asking me where your sneakers are or what's for dinner :laugh:
I would make you noms and you could cuddle the dog. The weather is pretty rubbish though....
noms noms ..love it!
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I would make you noms and you could cuddle the dog. The weather is pretty rubbish though....
I can live with rubbish weather as long as I have noms and a cuddly pup :bigsmile:0 -
Right everyone bck to mine, I have a 2 spare rooms and a couch. We can ignore each other, cuddle the animals and watch hours of tv. Winner! *starts tidying house*0
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Right everyone bck to mine, I have a 2 spare rooms and a couch. We can ignore each other, cuddle the animals and watch hours of tv. Winner! *starts tidying house*
:laugh: I love that we're all in such agreement of what constitutes a good time!0 -
Being around lots of noise and large groups of people really exhaust me, so I try to avoid it. When I go out I try to pick restaurants that I've been to that I know are fairly quiet and/or likely have a more laid back crowd. Frequently those places will also have a lounge if I'm going for drinks with friends. It's much more relaxing than clubs.0
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I think I'll join you guys. I'm much happier by myself generally. I went on holiday on my own for the first time ever this year & it was utter bliss. I didn't have to worry about anyone else, it was all to my schedule. Can't think why I left it so long!!
Generally though, I don't think I could do my job if I wasn't introverted, I work away from home for 3 nights of the week & I think if I was highly social, I'd find it very frustrating being away in a hotel all that time. As it is, I spend it reading or crafting or doing something equally not very social :bigsmile:0 -
I think I'll join you guys. I'm much happier by myself generally. I went on holiday on my own for the first time ever this year & it was utter bliss. I didn't have to worry about anyone else, it was all to my schedule. Can't think why I left it so long!!
See I've never done the holiday on my own thing but I think I might this year, did you find it expensive being a solo traveller? I've been to the cinema on my own, but never to dinner.......... Maybe I should start taking myself out on dates :laugh:0 -
I wouldn't say I'm a loner as such, but I'm definitely not a social butterfly.
I'm most comfortable when surrounded with people I know well... family and my close friends. I love going out to pubs and clubs, but only if enough of my besties are coming with me, else I just feel slightly uncomfortable. I don't drink much anymore, so unless I'm in good company it makes a night out rather dull!
I'm awkward around new people and find it hard to 'click' with someone enough to consider them a friend... but when I do, there's no getting rid of me :bigsmile:0 -
I seem to be, I get so damn lonely I hate it. But i try to keep in contact with friends but nothing, also my family are great but they live miles away and my ONE friend is great but I would like to go out with people even if its just for coffee or the pub.
I get so lonely, lets hope things change. xxxx0 -
I’ve always been a loner. A little weird and out of step with everyone else. I’ve done the party/club thing—tried to fake it and fit in—but it’s always ended badly. So I’ve stopped trying. These days, I’d probably be a complete recluse if left to my own devices. My husband will drag me out of the house every once in a while, but I usually try to avoid social situations whenever possible.0
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same, even though I am married now w/kids. I still pefer to be at my house. i never cared for parties before then and I dont know.0
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I think I am too, I find social events scare me more than roller coaster rides and I interact with you guys better than I do to some people I have known for years. I always said I like to be around other people but just not to interact with them, I couldn't deal with living in the country where there are very few people, I love living in a town even though I don't really speak to that many people and am quite introvert0
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Being a loner is okay as long as you realize human beings need each other...we were meant to socialize...I have a brother who is a loner and sometimes I feel for him and others who don't socialize..it does not have to be all the time or a 'club' it helps broaden the mind, redcue cynacism, indifference releases energy and allows others to know you love them and care...sometimes the family and friends of 'loners' are not sure where you stand.
Hope does not offend just a view from the other side. I embrace all!
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I'm a personality type that comes across as an extrovert, but I'm not. Very introverted, though I love to meet new people and hear their stories, I just cannot handle it for long. I actually did a personality test and was INFJ. I love my home, my garden, my books, and my games. I know when I go to holiday parties and there's a lot of people around, I will usually escape outside or into another room for an hour or so to recharge and then go back to the hustle and bustle.
My major issue with socializing is my personality is off beat, I don't get regular jokes (usually one of my friends explains it to me), I don't understand the reasoning behind a lot of people's actions, and I enjoy completely different things than most of the people I know. So I'm left sitting there, completely confused by other's word vomit (lol). It's tiring, when I'd rather spend my time working in my house, yard, reading, etc.0 -
I like people, but I think I am a loner.
As long as I get some quality time with others, then I am fine being alone.
Regarding clubs, etc.... I have no idea how people can stay in them for hours. What the hell do you do for that long?0 -
I am kind of the same way. I have a hard time maintaining close relationships with people. I've always been known to be outgoing and extroverted, but the older I've gotten the more I've realized that I'm kind of...well..socially awkward.
I do like to go out, drink, club, party, etc, but I'm just as happy being home watching Netflix. Sometimes I get nervous when I'm about to go into social situations, but once I get there it all goes away. I noticed it was worst when I was heaviest- I guess I am just a bit self-conscious about my weight and physical appearance.0 -
Being a loner is okay as long as you realize human beings need each other...we were meant to socialize...I have a brother who is a loner and sometimes I feel for him and others who don't socialize..it does not have to be all the time or a 'club' it helps broaden the mind, redcue cynacism, indifference releases energy and allows others to know you love them and care...sometimes the family and friends of 'loners' are not sure where you stand.
Hope does not offend just a view from the other side. I embrace all!
I actually like clubs (Dancing) and crowds just fine, in limited amounts, but I do not want to have physically close relationships with more than a few people at a time and I find small group settings EXHAUSTING (large groups are fine because you don't have to interact with anyone, you can just watch them). I'm good for one or two at a time. But I'm good with my one close friend most of the time, really.
Its not that I'm GRUMPY and cynical per se (ok I am) but mostly I just don't care to spend more than a few hours a week with other people. Although frankly this probably is because I have to talk to other people at work all day and that uses up some of my tolerance. Its really not a big deal in my opinion - I have a friend who LOVES being around people constantly, she would happily eat every meal with someone else, she'd love to hang out with someone every day. The very thought makes me want to punch a baby. (punching babies is my thing this month I guess). That's fine, that's just HER thing - trust me, we think YOU extroverts are just weird weird weird.0 -
I hate crowds. And when's my birthday? New Year's Eve. Sucks for me.
My husband is the only one I can stand to be around 24/7. He's my best friend, and I don't have any other close friends. That makes me sad sometimes. It's cool to have female friends.0 -
I really enjoy clubs and crowded places when I'm in the mood for them, but otherwise I would count myself as a loner. I live alone and generally don't go out but maybe once a week, and other than that I'm either at work or sitting home alone.
I can't be around people all the time, and have to have at least 2 hours to myself a day. I really enjoy being alone, it keeps my social anxiety at bay and the rare times I do enjoy going out always feels great since I don't do it often like a lot of people.
It has had an effect on friendships and relationships, though, since some people don't understand needing time to yourself when nothing bad is going on. Some of us just like our own company!0
