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  • lizzybethclaire
    lizzybethclaire Posts: 849 Member
    Yup, I’m a loner to the point where my hubby thinks I am anti-social. I want to go out and make friends, but I definitely need and want my alone time.
  • lizzybethclaire
    lizzybethclaire Posts: 849 Member
    I'm a personality type that comes across as an extrovert, but I'm not. Very introverted, though I love to meet new people and hear their stories, I just cannot handle it for long. I actually did a personality test and was INFJ. :) I love my home, my garden, my books, and my games. I know when I go to holiday parties and there's a lot of people around, I will usually escape outside or into another room for an hour or so to recharge and then go back to the hustle and bustle.

    My major issue with socializing is my personality is off beat, I don't get regular jokes (usually one of my friends explains it to me), I don't understand the reasoning behind a lot of people's actions, and I enjoy completely different things than most of the people I know. So I'm left sitting there, completely confused by other's word vomit (lol). It's tiring, when I'd rather spend my time working in my house, yard, reading, etc.

    This is me. I usually need to take a walk during parties. Crowds suffocate me.
  • airbent
    airbent Posts: 150 Member
    Loner for sure. I quite like people but I can only handle them in small doses, so parties and large groups tend to wear me out mentally/emotionally. And no matter who I'm with, even people I love/like/enjoy being around, I always reach a point where I just need some 'me' time to recharge my batteries. Plus I deal with a lot of social anxiety and awkwardness so alone time calms me and lets me equilibrate. Not a lot of people get that, sometimes they take it personally, so it's hard out here for an introvert. :P
  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    I hate crowds. And when's my birthday? New Year's Eve. Sucks for me.

    My husband is the only one I can stand to be around 24/7. He's my best friend, and I don't have any other close friends. That makes me sad sometimes. It's cool to have female friends.

    Ew, it sucks that your birthday is NYE! Butnhkw sad is it that the accountant in me thought, cool, barely made the tax deduction for that year :laugh:

    I'm the same with my husband. We spend a lot of time together and I don't (usually) want to kill him. But, he's also learned to read me and knows when I want to be left alone.
  • Pookylou
    Pookylou Posts: 988 Member
    At work today one of the guys was asking me what I was doing this evening and I said the usual watch a movie/read/walk the dog, he said to me in the most surprised tone you really do enjoy your own company don't you? Well yes I am with me all the time...... You've kinda got to!
  • Bastiencade
    Bastiencade Posts: 81
    At work today one of the guys was asking me what I was doing this evening and I said the usual watch a movie/read/walk the dog, he said to me in the most surprised tone you really do enjoy your own company don't you? Well yes I am with me all the time...... You've kinda got to!

    Exactly, I don't get how people feel the need to be around others at ALL times. My older brother goes into a depression is someone isn't around him at all times, and I just can't seem to get why being alone bothers people. It's very peaceful, you can do whatever YOU like without having to worry about someone else.
  • EvanKeel
    EvanKeel Posts: 1,904 Member
    At work today one of the guys was asking me what I was doing this evening and I said the usual watch a movie/read/walk the dog, he said to me in the most surprised tone you really do enjoy your own company don't you? Well yes I am with me all the time...... You've kinda got to!

    Depending on the tone of their voice and my interpretation of the exchange, I might be inclined to counter with "Yes, I've found it more satisfying than attempting to justify my existence by gaining the approval of others in soul-cursh, decibel orgies of bad dancing, but your complete lack of judgement is appreciated."
  • Pookylou
    Pookylou Posts: 988 Member
    I think he meant it with love (he is my dads age) I think he is worried about me dying alone, eaten by the cat. But yeah I don't get how some people need to be surrounded by others all the time. Don't they read??
  • Dimpszz
    Dimpszz Posts: 40
    I think he meant it with love (he is my dads age) I think he is worried about me dying alone, eaten by the cat. But yeah I don't get how some people need to be surrounded by others all the time. Don't they read??

    Lol thats hilarious. but maybe they don't read. I've noticed that a lot of introverts tend to be avid readers! I love it.
  • Femmekid
    Femmekid Posts: 424 Member
    I'm definitely a loner. & due to my tomboy-ish ways (I love video games & football) it's really hard to find friends that I have stuff in common with. Even harder since I moved to another state a little less than 2 years ago for my boyfriend of 4+ years. I mostly only hang out with my boyfriend. We're both homebodies. It's definitely lonely sometimes not having any friends outside of work and being so far away from all of my family. I have never been very good at making friends.
  • rprussell2004
    rprussell2004 Posts: 870 Member
    I watched a TED talk recently about the value of introverts. It was good.

    Here it is:

    http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts.html

    Enjoy... alone.
  • LexxyV
    LexxyV Posts: 60 Member
    I am definitely in the loner category , I like my alone time- I have gotten myself to be more social though I will go to this meet up weekly - but it fits my interest- its a knitting/ crochet meet up... I guess I can't say I am too much of a loner though I am married but my hubs and me are the same we enjoy the same things so I spend the loner things I like to do with him as well lol

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