When you guys are wrong your wayyyyy wrong

jenbit

Ok so anyone who read my previous thread knows the male opinion on my FWB and I.... You guys think he's emotionally invested in me...
Well your WRONG....lol

Saturday night a group of about 30 of us went out....It was great we were all having a blast. This girl showed up and FWB gravitates to her... Well I'm off in party land while he is over there flirting and as me and some of the group walk by we see their making out ...... The funny thing was it didn't even slow me down.. I kept right on parting and having a blast... I was also flirting with some band boys but thats besides the point... Anyway several people came up to me to ask me if I was upset and the thing was I wasn't.... I mean if I had real feelings for the guy and saw him making out with someone else you would have thought it would have ruined my night..

he comes up to me dead drunk(turns out he had been drinking crazy amount of tequilla ) after she left and we went to the next bar with some of the group.... Now here where **** gets funny... He became a total @$$hole at the second bar... He became convinced my sister was in over her head and kept trying to get her away from the guy she was making out with......
So I drag him off to another room to find out what the hell is wrong with him and as I'm basically lecturing him he pins me up against the wall and well I'll just say I didn't have sex in the bar lol...... I ended up taking his car keys from him cause by this point he can barely walk.. I pour him into his car and drive him to my house... Well he passed out in the car so I had to practially carry him into the house and pour him into the bed where of course he wrapped around me like a leach lol...

We wake up on Sunday and it turns out he remembers nothing after leaving the first bar.... After I give him a highlight of his misdeeds he starts apologizing to everyone..... He and I end up hanging out my house til 7 pm talking about this chick and how into her he is... So I started giving him advice and we had a frank conversation about the fact that if either of us starts dating someone we will still be friends....Then for some reason midconversation he jumps me on the couch....(that man is confused)
We ended up going out again on sunday and monday and both nights he slept over... And he keeps giving me updates on him and this girl...

LOL I know its alot to process Imagine it from my end.....:huh:

Oh and to vodka I love attention but thats not the reason I have a bunch of guys around ....lol

Steelheart7

I don't buy it. If he is so interested in this girl why is he jumping you on the couch?? Nope. I still don't think we are wrong.

jenbit

I don't buy it. If he is so interested in this girl why is he jumping you on the couch?? Nope. I still don't think we are wrong.

Really I mean he is a guy ,sex is sex ....... What I dont get is why he keeps sleeping over...
BTW you sound like my best friend and his friend she thinks I scare him and hes running to this girl cause thats what he thinks he deserves(she isnt real popular with our group of friends lol)

mrmanmeat

Honestly,

I'm confused as to what you're trying to get out of this situation.

slay0r

Now THAT is confusing lol.

Glad you still partied on though, like a true animal, we definitely need to party!

That said though, I think you're right but I haven't seen the guy. I know from my perspective I've liked a girl but the chemistry elsewhere has been amazing but then I've met someone that's more of a match personality wise and you've got a bit of a dilemma. I think he doesn't know what to do because you probably blow his mind a little in some areas but he probably likes the other girl in different ways. It's a tough one. As long as you aren't emotionally invested it doesn't really matter from your end as long as he's safe etc./



My weekend was more low key than usual, no ridiculous outings

Friday night I watched England win against Sweden in the Euro's. Was pretty damn tense and I had bets on England so I was going maaaad when they pulled it back from 2-1 down to win 3-2. Ended up staying out til 4am celebrating lol.

Saturday I Woke up after 5 hours sleep in a really good mood and wanting to get out and do something, so that's exactly what I did! I went and saw the Dalai Lama, yes the one and only. He wanted to speak to people under 25 to influence them and since I'm 24 I jumped at the chance, what a speaker. I don't normally appreciate everything like that and I do have a really short attention span so any man that can talk for 2 hours as powerfully as he can and keep my attention throughout is a pretty influential guy..

Friends birthday saturday night but I didn't go mad for some reason :S We went to See Pharoahe Monch on Saturday night (is he more known in the US?) He was pretty awesome considering it's not my usual style of music that I'd listen to.

TOO LOW KEY. Someone come and shake me up a bit to get me ready for next weekend. Just booked some mad festivals and things over the next month ^_^

dbrightwell1270

Honestly,

I'm confused as to what you're trying to get out of this situation.

me too.

mrmanmeat

I don't buy it. If he is so interested in this girl why is he jumping you on the couch?? Nope. I still don't think we are wrong.

Because she's an easy lay? He's a guy, she gives it up.

jenbit

I don't buy it. If he is so interested in this girl why is he jumping you on the couch?? Nope. I still don't think we are wrong.

Because she's an easy lay? He's a guy, she gives it up.

But see this anserws your other question about what I wanted out of the situation..LOL

I like sex and I dont see anything wrong with it.... I will remind you he is the only person I'm sleeping with... Until I find a guy that I really want to date there is no reason not to have my fun.......

Carl01

I still think he is interested in you as far as having feelings.
I also think he is a train wreck of a person that your life would be better off without him in but not my say obviously.

jenbit

I still think he is interested in you as far as having feelings.
I also think he is a train wreck of a person that your life would be better off without him in but not my say obviously.

Awwww Carl thats why we you.... your always looking out for us....


Also I'm supposed to go out with Mr Nice guy this week and Power plant guy too.....

Roadie2000

You two have a very complicated relationship. I'm not even gonna try and pretend like I get it.

poncho33

I don't think were wrong at all. He gets to have you without trying and pursue whoever he wants. Take away his freebee and he will start pursuing you. Then again I'm with everyone else and am confused by what you want??? If you like sleeping with him good for you and do what you want. But if you have feelings for him I think your going to get hurt if things continue as they are.

jenbit

You two have a very complicated relationship. I'm not even gonna try and pretend like I get it.

I know but technically its not a relationship lol......Is it bad where I'm at the point that I just find this whole situation funny

AnnaPixie

I dont get this guy at all! But I've never known FWBs see each other as often as you two do, so I guess its just an unusual situation?

I thought he was emotional about you too, but perhaps he just doesnt have emotions!! Some people are like that. Perhaps you just have a more comfortable bed than his!! *shrug*

As long as you're happy Jen, and seemingly unbothered by his antics, then ........whatever! :flowerforyou:

jenbit

I dont get this guy at all! But I've never known FWBs see each other as often as you two do, so I guess its just an unusual situation?

I thought he was emotional about you too, but perhaps he just doesnt have emotions!! Some people are like that. Perhaps you just have a more comfortable bed than his!! *shrug*

As long as you're happy Jen, and seemingly unbothered by his antics, then ........whatever! :flowerforyou:

Here is the thing I truely view him as a friend and I may have some feeling for him but thier not butterflies in the pit of my stomach falling in love feelings.... Basically I just want his body.... I like hanging with him because we have fun and I'm a socaible creature... His antics as you put it Anna actually make me laugh most of the time .Plus when I need to him to be ge is my creeper repellent lol

Steelheart7

I honestly don't know how you do it! I would get all territorial .. lol.

jenbit

I honestly don't know how you do it! I would get all territorial .. lol.

But I have no right to be territorial lol thats what FWB mean... I had one of my boys say that the problem is I'm to guy like in my ability to seperate sex and everything else... Maybe he is right

sunnymel126

Jen, I don't understand this relationship of yours but I sure like hearing about it! haha

jenbit

Jen, I don't understand this relationship of yours but I sure like hearing about it! haha

Hey always happy to entertain lol.... Besides hearing your guys mostly unbaised opinion of this whoe thing helps keep me leveled lol

mrmanmeat

I don't buy it. If he is so interested in this girl why is he jumping you on the couch?? Nope. I still don't think we are wrong.

Because she's an easy lay? He's a guy, she gives it up.

But see this anserws your other question about what I wanted out of the situation..LOL

I like sex and I dont see anything wrong with it.... I will remind you he is the only person I'm sleeping with... Until I find a guy that I really want to date there is no reason not to have my fun.......

If you came across as having a FWB I'd understand. But you're trying to make this more than that. You don't go out with a FWB. You call them up, say hey, I need relief. Wham, bam, thank you ma'am, on with your life.

This is not your situation, so again, I'm confused as to what you're trying to get out of this situation.

sunnymel126

Jen, I don't understand this relationship of yours but I sure like hearing about it! haha

Hey always happy to entertain lol.... Besides hearing your guys mostly unbaised opinion of this whoe thing helps keep me leveled lol

I still think he wants you. I just think he's a little crazy and confused.

jenbit

I don't buy it. If he is so interested in this girl why is he jumping you on the couch?? Nope. I still don't think we are wrong.

Because she's an easy lay? He's a guy, she gives it up.

But see this anserws your other question about what I wanted out of the situation..LOL

I like sex and I dont see anything wrong with it.... I will remind you he is the only person I'm sleeping with... Until I find a guy that I really want to date there is no reason not to have my fun.......

If you came across as having a FWB I'd understand. But you're trying to make this more than that. You don't go out with a FWB. You call them up, say hey, I need relief. Wham, bam, thank you ma'am, on with your life.

This is not your situation, so again, I'm confused as to what you're trying to get out of this situation.

See FWB has this all important word in it Friend... I like hanging with the guy. Previous FWBs and I used to hang out before we would go to one of our houses...... In fact I rarely have the wam bam kind of day... though I have done it with curent FWB and previous ones....Mostly we meet up somewhere first and hang out before the good stuff happens lol...... If not its just a booty call

mrmanmeat

I don't buy it. If he is so interested in this girl why is he jumping you on the couch?? Nope. I still don't think we are wrong.

Because she's an easy lay? He's a guy, she gives it up.

But see this anserws your other question about what I wanted out of the situation..LOL

I like sex and I dont see anything wrong with it.... I will remind you he is the only person I'm sleeping with... Until I find a guy that I really want to date there is no reason not to have my fun.......

If you came across as having a FWB I'd understand. But you're trying to make this more than that. You don't go out with a FWB. You call them up, say hey, I need relief. Wham, bam, thank you ma'am, on with your life.

This is not your situation, so again, I'm confused as to what you're trying to get out of this situation.

See FWB has this all important word in it Friend... I like hanging with the guy. Previous FWBs and I used to hang out before we would go to one of our houses...... In fact I rarely have the wam bam kind of day... though I have done it with curent FWB and previous ones....Mostly we meet up somewhere first and hang out before the good stuff happens lol...... If not its just a booty call

So what are you confused about then?
He's treating you like a friend w/ benefits (in your eyes, not mine).

He's talking about a girl he likes to you, then sleeping w/ you.

As I said, I'm confused as to what you're expecting out of this.

jenbit

I don't buy it. If he is so interested in this girl why is he jumping you on the couch?? Nope. I still don't think we are wrong.

Because she's an easy lay? He's a guy, she gives it up.

But see this anserws your other question about what I wanted out of the situation..LOL

I like sex and I dont see anything wrong with it.... I will remind you he is the only person I'm sleeping with... Until I find a guy that I really want to date there is no reason not to have my fun.......

If you came across as having a FWB I'd understand. But you're trying to make this more than that. You don't go out with a FWB. You call them up, say hey, I need relief. Wham, bam, thank you ma'am, on with your life.

This is not your situation, so again, I'm confused as to what you're trying to get out of this situation.

See FWB has this all important word in it Friend... I like hanging with the guy. Previous FWBs and I used to hang out before we would go to one of our houses...... In fact I rarely have the wam bam kind of day... though I have done it with curent FWB and previous ones....Mostly we meet up somewhere first and hang out before the good stuff happens lol...... If not its just a booty call

So what are you confused about then?
He's treating you like a friend w/ benefits (in your eyes, not mine).

He's talking about a girl he likes to you, then sleeping w/ you.

As I said, I'm confused as to what you're expecting out of this.

I think you might have missed the last thread where several people said that he had feeling for me and yada yada lol.....

My only confusion with this is if I was all wrapped up googly eyed over some guy I sure as hell wouldn't want to be sleeping with someone else lol

poncho33

I don't understand what Army guys angle is here?? He keeps showing up and you leave with a FWB everytime and now he wants a date?

oddyogi

Even if no one is invested emotionally in this I still think someone is going to get their feelings hurt.

And please please please tell me you weren't drinking and driving!

jenbit

I don't understand what Army guys angle is here?? He keeps showing up and you leave with a FWB everytime and now he wants a date?

I've been out with him once before.... And he was out of town for 3 weeks so we havent had muh time to hang. But I think your talking about Mr. Nice guy and Power plant lol.. Mr. Nice guy knows all about my having a FWB and in his exact words his new goal in life is to make me forget abotu my FWB. My only concern with Mr nice guy is I'm worried about our personalities meshing. He seems shy and well lets face it the last thing I am is shy. Now Power plant is a different story. He is sarcastic funny and has known me for years. Infact he was my FWB before my last boyfriend and I later found out that he had real feeling for me but didn't want to say anything because I has just split with my husband and he thought I wasn't ready for a relationship.. We have recently started hanging out again so we will see what happens there.... Like I told my sister I'm not letting my situation with FWB keep my from finding a guy who can truely hold my attention and that I wan to go out with. But he is fun to keep around for now. I also told FWB the same thing this weekend

jenbit

Even if no one is invested emotionally in this I still think someone is going to get their feelings hurt.

And please please please tell me you weren't drinking and driving!

Oh no hun when I firgured out that I was going to have to drive his car I stopped drinkg for about an hour and a half and started downing water. I was completely sober by the time I left the bar. They have cops right outside that bar lol... Thanks for your concern though :flowerforyou:

poncho33

I don't understand what Army guys angle is here?? He keeps showing up and you leave with a FWB everytime and now he wants a date?

I've been out with him once before.... And he was out of town for 3 weeks so we havent had muh time to hang. But I think your talking about Mr. Nice guy and Power plant lol.. Mr. Nice guy knows all about my having a FWB and in his exact words his new goal in life is to make me forget abotu my FWB. My only concern with Mr nice guy is I'm worried about our personalities meshing. He seems shy and well lets face it the last thing I am is shy. Now Power plant is a different story. He is sarcastic funny and has known me for years. Infact he was my FWB before my last boyfriend and I later found out that he had real feeling for me but didn't want to say anything because I has just split with my husband and he thought I wasn't ready for a relationship.. We have recently started hanging out again so we will see what happens there.... Like I told my sister I'm not letting my situation with FWB keep my from finding a guy who can truely hold my attention and that I wan to go out with. But he is fun to keep around for now. I also told FWB the same thing this weekend

Wow, you got a real **** show going on here!!! I had no idea there was even more guys in the mix. It almost seems like you run a speed dating thing every night and your the only girl! I just picture a line of all these guys waiting for 5 minutes with you.

mrmanmeat

I don't buy it. If he is so interested in this girl why is he jumping you on the couch?? Nope. I still don't think we are wrong.

Because she's an easy lay? He's a guy, she gives it up.

But see this anserws your other question about what I wanted out of the situation..LOL

I like sex and I dont see anything wrong with it.... I will remind you he is the only person I'm sleeping with... Until I find a guy that I really want to date there is no reason not to have my fun.......

If you came across as having a FWB I'd understand. But you're trying to make this more than that. You don't go out with a FWB. You call them up, say hey, I need relief. Wham, bam, thank you ma'am, on with your life.

This is not your situation, so again, I'm confused as to what you're trying to get out of this situation.

See FWB has this all important word in it Friend... I like hanging with the guy. Previous FWBs and I used to hang out before we would go to one of our houses...... In fact I rarely have the wam bam kind of day... though I have done it with curent FWB and previous ones....Mostly we meet up somewhere first and hang out before the good stuff happens lol...... If not its just a booty call

So what are you confused about then?
He's treating you like a friend w/ benefits (in your eyes, not mine).

He's talking about a girl he likes to you, then sleeping w/ you.

As I said, I'm confused as to what you're expecting out of this.

I think you might have missed the last thread where several people said that he had feeling for me and yada yada lol.....

My only confusion with this is if I was all wrapped up googly eyed over some guy I sure as hell wouldn't want to be sleeping with someone else lol

I didn't miss it. I saw it.

You established that he didn't. Correct?

mrmanmeat

I don't understand what Army guys angle is here?? He keeps showing up and you leave with a FWB everytime and now he wants a date?

I've been out with him once before.... And he was out of town for 3 weeks so we havent had muh time to hang. But I think your talking about Mr. Nice guy and Power plant lol.. Mr. Nice guy knows all about my having a FWB and in his exact words his new goal in life is to make me forget abotu my FWB. My only concern with Mr nice guy is I'm worried about our personalities meshing. He seems shy and well lets face it the last thing I am is shy. Now Power plant is a different story. He is sarcastic funny and has known me for years. Infact he was my FWB before my last boyfriend and I later found out that he had real feeling for me but didn't want to say anything because I has just split with my husband and he thought I wasn't ready for a relationship.. We have recently started hanging out again so we will see what happens there.... Like I told my sister I'm not letting my situation with FWB keep my from finding a guy who can truely hold my attention and that I wan to go out with. But he is fun to keep around for now. I also told FWB the same thing this weekend

Wow, you got a real **** show going on here!!! I had no idea there was even more guys in the mix. It almost seems like you run a speed dating thing every night and your the only girl! I just picture a line of all these guys waiting for 5 minutes with you.

They call those gangbangs.