When you guys are wrong your wayyyyy wrong
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Wait .. you changed your name .. I get all confused!0
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I don't understand what Army guys angle is here?? He keeps showing up and you leave with a FWB everytime and now he wants a date?
I've been out with him once before.... And he was out of town for 3 weeks so we havent had muh time to hang. But I think your talking about Mr. Nice guy and Power plant lol.. Mr. Nice guy knows all about my having a FWB and in his exact words his new goal in life is to make me forget abotu my FWB. My only concern with Mr nice guy is I'm worried about our personalities meshing. He seems shy and well lets face it the last thing I am is shy. Now Power plant is a different story. He is sarcastic funny and has known me for years. Infact he was my FWB before my last boyfriend and I later found out that he had real feeling for me but didn't want to say anything because I has just split with my husband and he thought I wasn't ready for a relationship.. We have recently started hanging out again so we will see what happens there.... Like I told my sister I'm not letting my situation with FWB keep my from finding a guy who can truely hold my attention and that I wan to go out with. But he is fun to keep around for now. I also told FWB the same thing this weekend
Wow, you got a real **** show going on here!!! I had no idea there was even more guys in the mix. It almost seems like you run a speed dating thing every night and your the only girl! I just picture a line of all these guys waiting for 5 minutes with you.
LOL No thats not quite how it goes... I usually try to keep from having more the 1 around at the same time but sometime **** like friday happens where they all tell me they are coming out.. I really try to spend 1 on 1 time with each of these guys and if they ask me on a date (like MR nice guy) I make sure it is just us so that I can really get to know the person....
Oh and I dont do gangbangs lol they always sounded like to much work. Again I may be flirting with all of them but I am only sleeping with the 1 and if I decide to start sleeping with someone different then I would no longer be sleeping with FWB anymore.0 -
I honestly don't know how you do it! I would get all territorial .. lol.
But I have no right to be territorial lol thats what FWB mean... I had one of my boys say that the problem is I'm to guy like in my ability to seperate sex and everything else... Maybe he is right
are you an aquarius by any chance??
i was chatting with a guy on OKC months ago. he was telling me that he was supposed to have a date with a girl that afternoon, but he canceled with her because he has met up with his FWB the night before and had sex. he felt it was wrong to have lunch with the girl after having sex with the FWB. after chatting for a bit, turns out, this guy has been having sex with the FWB for a couple years. they always turn to one another. and if he was truly honest with himself he was into her as way more than a friend. she would have sex with him while she was dating other guys, and he just kinda pined away for her.
he'd distract himself with other girls if his FWB was in a relationship, but from the way he talked it was obvious he was hung up on her..........0 -
I honestly don't know how you do it! I would get all territorial .. lol.
But I have no right to be territorial lol thats what FWB mean... I had one of my boys say that the problem is I'm to guy like in my ability to seperate sex and everything else... Maybe he is right
are you an aquarius by any chance??
i was chatting with a guy on OKC months ago. he was telling me that he was supposed to have a date with a girl that afternoon, but he canceled with her because he has met up with his FWB the night before and had sex. he felt it was wrong to have lunch with the girl after having sex with the FWB. after chatting for a bit, turns out, this guy has been having sex with the FWB for a couple years. they always turn to one another. and if he was truly honest with himself he was into her as way more than a friend. she would have sex with him while she was dating other guys, and he just kinda pined away for her.
he'd distract himself with other girls if his FWB was in a relationship, but from the way he talked it was obvious he was hung up on her..........
Actually I'm a Leo lol.......
I went out with him and some of his boys last night to watch the game (YAY HEAT)0 -
I'm so confused... Sounds like it's getting messy...
I would try not to read too much into it. Keeping it simple is the point of FWB, isn't it?0 -
I'm so confused... Sounds like it's getting messy...
I would try not to read too much into it. Keeping it simple is the point of FWB, isn't it?
I've come to the conclusion that she likes the drama.0 -
I have learned on this board that everything I thought I knew about FWB is wrong ... turns out, FWBs DO sleep over, and it IS okay to demand that a FWB not sleep with other people. I kind of thought that was called having a boyfriend. Apparently not.0
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I'm so confused... Sounds like it's getting messy...
I would try not to read too much into it. Keeping it simple is the point of FWB, isn't it?
I've come to the conclusion that she likes the drama.
^^^ AGREED!0 -
I have learned on this board that everything I thought I knew about FWB is wrong ... turns out, FWBs DO sleep over, and it IS okay to demand that a FWB not sleep with other people. I kind of thought that was called having a boyfriend. Apparently not.
that to me would be a boyfriend without the title "boyfriend" so, maybe people make themselves feel less scared by leaving it as FWB?? maybe boyfriend girlfriend would be too much of a commitment, or mean something serious? i dunno. i've never done the FWB thing.0 -
OMG I had to keep checking you weren't me. I am in the EXACT same situation as you.
We agreed to stop as we were holding each other back. A week later we had sex on the beach. It was awesome. My friends are convinced I'm in love with him, but he's a great mate and I want him to meet someone almost as badly as I want to meet someone.
It's going to get tricky as hell when one of us finds a partner.0 -
I have learned on this board that everything I thought I knew about FWB is wrong ... turns out, FWBs DO sleep over, and it IS okay to demand that a FWB not sleep with other people. I kind of thought that was called having a boyfriend. Apparently not.
As I said before,ask 100 guys what a FWB is and I think most will say it is a woman they are friends with and have a mutual agreement to satisfy sexual desires with no strings attached.
Sex is an act and that is the extent of it other then maybe some casual encounters otherwise now and then.
Ask 100 ladies and you will likely get multiple answers from that to basically a boyfriend without calling him that and no wonder why so many get hurt or feel cheated on when the guy does the same with someone else.
Jen seems to be able to handle it but I still say 90% of women should never attempt to do this.0 -
I have learned on this board that everything I thought I knew about FWB is wrong ... turns out, FWBs DO sleep over, and it IS okay to demand that a FWB not sleep with other people. I kind of thought that was called having a boyfriend. Apparently not.
As I said before,ask 100 guys what a FWB is and I think most will say it is a woman they are friends with and have a mutual agreement to satisfy sexual desires with no strings attached.
Sex is an act and that is the extent of it other then maybe some casual encounters otherwise now and then.
Ask 100 ladies and you will likely get multiple answers from that to basically a boyfriend without calling him that and no wonder why so many get hurt or feel cheated on when the guy does the same with someone else.
Jen seems to be able to handle it but I still say 90% of women should never attempt to do this.
Thanks Carl and for the record we never agreed not to sleep with anyone else while sleeping with each other ... thats my personal choice..
Also I don't think its all that dramatic its mostly just fun....But I understand for alot of people its a difficult concept to get .0 -
Also I don't think its all that dramatic its mostly just fun....But I understand for alot of people its a difficult concept to get .
As long as you're having fun and being smart about it, nobody else really needs to get it, as far as I'm concerned :flowerforyou:0 -
Also I don't think its all that dramatic its mostly just fun....But I understand for alot of people its a difficult concept to get .
Honestly Jen,it is that no one wants to see you get hurt and given the situation you describe many or most ladies likely would eventually.:flowerforyou:0 -
Also I don't think its all that dramatic its mostly just fun....But I understand for alot of people its a difficult concept to get .
Honestly Jen,it is that no one wants to see you get hurt and given the situation you describe many or most ladies likely would eventually.:flowerforyou:
Awww you guys are so sweet:blushing: ya'll are making me feel loved...0 -
I don't buy it. If he is so interested in this girl why is he jumping you on the couch?? Nope. I still don't think we are wrong.
Because she's an easy lay? He's a guy, she gives it up.
But see this anserws your other question about what I wanted out of the situation..LOL
I like sex and I dont see anything wrong with it.... I will remind you he is the only person I'm sleeping with... Until I find a guy that I really want to date there is no reason not to have my fun.......
Once again read Tracy Mcmillians "why your still not married" and stopping sleeping with scumbags just cause they have a penis, geez get a vibrator or something.0 -
:ohwell: What the... I don't even...Once again read Tracy Mcmillians "why your still not married" and stopping sleeping with scumbags just cause they have a penis, geez get a vibrator or something.0 -
I have learned on this board that everything I thought I knew about FWB is wrong ... turns out, FWBs DO sleep over, and it IS okay to demand that a FWB not sleep with other people. I kind of thought that was called having a boyfriend. Apparently not.
As I said before,ask 100 guys what a FWB is and I think most will say it is a woman they are friends with and have a mutual agreement to satisfy sexual desires with no strings attached.
Sex is an act and that is the extent of it other then maybe some casual encounters otherwise now and then.
Ask 100 ladies and you will likely get multiple answers from that to basically a boyfriend without calling him that and no wonder why so many get hurt or feel cheated on when the guy does the same with someone else.
Jen seems to be able to handle it but I still say 90% of women should never attempt to do this.
Thanks Carl and for the record we never agreed not to sleep with anyone else while sleeping with each other ... thats my personal choice..
Also I don't think its all that dramatic its mostly just fun....But I understand for alot of people its a difficult concept to get .
I understand FWB. This isn't it.
Question: Where are your kids while all this is going on?0 -
I have learned on this board that everything I thought I knew about FWB is wrong ... turns out, FWBs DO sleep over, and it IS okay to demand that a FWB not sleep with other people. I kind of thought that was called having a boyfriend. Apparently not.
As I said before,ask 100 guys what a FWB is and I think most will say it is a woman they are friends with and have a mutual agreement to satisfy sexual desires with no strings attached.
Sex is an act and that is the extent of it other then maybe some casual encounters otherwise now and then.
Ask 100 ladies and you will likely get multiple answers from that to basically a boyfriend without calling him that and no wonder why so many get hurt or feel cheated on when the guy does the same with someone else.
Jen seems to be able to handle it but I still say 90% of women should never attempt to do this.
Thanks Carl and for the record we never agreed not to sleep with anyone else while sleeping with each other ... thats my personal choice..
Also I don't think its all that dramatic its mostly just fun....But I understand for alot of people its a difficult concept to get .
I understand FWB. This isn't it.
Question: Where are your kids while all this is going on?
Oh god I never explained that... My ex-husband and I have split custody so they spend 1 week at my house and 1 week at his house. I never go out when their awake and my sister lives with me so if I go out when their home they have family in house... If the kids are home he leaves before they up and they have never even seen him ....
Oh and for Dave I've been married I dont want to be again. I have a vibrator and use it thanks. Also he isnt a scumbag we BOTH agreed to this arangement and it works for me0 -
Also I don't think its all that dramatic its mostly just fun....But I understand for alot of people its a difficult concept to get .
Honestly Jen,it is that no one wants to see you get hurt and given the situation you describe many or most ladies likely would eventually.:flowerforyou:
Yeah, honestly this doesn't sound like it is headed anywhere good. I don't believe in FWB but this situation sounds especially messed up. You have to draw concrete lines for it to work - having him stay over and stuff is not really a FWB to me. Don't let this hold you back from meeting someone great! Don't give a guy everything he gets in a relationship without asking for the rest of it unless you are 100% comfortable with it, which it sounds like you are wishy-washy about if I understand.0 -
I have learned on this board that everything I thought I knew about FWB is wrong ... turns out, FWBs DO sleep over, and it IS okay to demand that a FWB not sleep with other people. I kind of thought that was called having a boyfriend. Apparently not.
As I said before,ask 100 guys what a FWB is and I think most will say it is a woman they are friends with and have a mutual agreement to satisfy sexual desires with no strings attached.
Sex is an act and that is the extent of it other then maybe some casual encounters otherwise now and then.
Ask 100 ladies and you will likely get multiple answers from that to basically a boyfriend without calling him that and no wonder why so many get hurt or feel cheated on when the guy does the same with someone else.
Jen seems to be able to handle it but I still say 90% of women should never attempt to do this.
Thanks Carl and for the record we never agreed not to sleep with anyone else while sleeping with each other ... thats my personal choice..
Also I don't think its all that dramatic its mostly just fun....But I understand for alot of people its a difficult concept to get .
I understand FWB. This isn't it.
Question: Where are your kids while all this is going on?
Oh god I never explained that... My ex-husband and I have split custody so they spend 1 week at my house and 1 week at his house. I never go out when their awake and my sister lives with me so if I go out when their home they have family in house... If the kids are home he leaves before they up and they have never even seen him ....
Oh and for Dave I've been married I dont want to be again. I have a vibrator and use it thanks. Also he isnt a scumbag we BOTH agreed to this arangement and it works for me
I think you should put your priorities in a row. Why should your children be the responsibility of your sister?0 -
I have learned on this board that everything I thought I knew about FWB is wrong ... turns out, FWBs DO sleep over, and it IS okay to demand that a FWB not sleep with other people. I kind of thought that was called having a boyfriend. Apparently not.
As I said before,ask 100 guys what a FWB is and I think most will say it is a woman they are friends with and have a mutual agreement to satisfy sexual desires with no strings attached.
Sex is an act and that is the extent of it other then maybe some casual encounters otherwise now and then.
Ask 100 ladies and you will likely get multiple answers from that to basically a boyfriend without calling him that and no wonder why so many get hurt or feel cheated on when the guy does the same with someone else.
Jen seems to be able to handle it but I still say 90% of women should never attempt to do this.
Thanks Carl and for the record we never agreed not to sleep with anyone else while sleeping with each other ... thats my personal choice..
Also I don't think its all that dramatic its mostly just fun....But I understand for alot of people its a difficult concept to get .
I understand FWB. This isn't it.
Question: Where are your kids while all this is going on?
Oh god I never explained that... My ex-husband and I have split custody so they spend 1 week at my house and 1 week at his house. I never go out when their awake and my sister lives with me so if I go out when their home they have family in house... If the kids are home he leaves before they up and they have never even seen him ....
Oh and for Dave I've been married I dont want to be again. I have a vibrator and use it thanks. Also he isnt a scumbag we BOTH agreed to this arangement and it works for me
I think you should put your priorities in a row. Why should your children be the responsibility of your sister?
I'm sorry what..... My children are dead asleep at midnight they never even know I'm gone . My sister watches the house and them because she doesnt want to go out. And before you try spouting some psycho babble my kids are both in gifted education, happy healthy little ones who are my priority. Do you even have kids. Or are you one of those people that think life ends when children are born.0 -
Jen don't you know, you should be sitting at home knitting at that time.
The slut shaming from some people is INSANE. (and this is the minority) God forbid a woman find a situation that works for her, that allows her to have sex!
I have a similar situation. I have my friends saying very similar things to me that Jen is getting on here. It's frustrating.0 -
The slut shaming from some people is INSANE. (and this is the minority) God forbid a woman find a situation that works for her, that allows her to have sex!
I don't believe in casual sex, but if you want to have it, fine, I won't judge. But when someone (not saying this situation in particular) develops something more with that person, or is spending the night, or is kind of taking you out on dates but not really or is in a half-a$$ed relationship with that person, then something needs to be said, at least in my opinion.
I have friends in this situation and honestly, it is embarrassing to watch.0 -
Damn I agree. So what her sister watches her kids when she goes out. Other parents don't get babysitters? That's just asinine.Jen don't you know, you should be sitting at home knitting at that time.
The slut shaming from some people is INSANE. (and this is the minority) God forbid a woman find a situation that works for her, that allows her to have sex!
I have a similar situation. I have my friends saying very similar things to me that Jen is getting on here. It's frustrating.
Jen my feeling is that if there were really no feelings at all you wouldn't be analyzing it. When I have a FWB that I don't have feeling for I usually forget about them until the tequila kicks in. I could be totally wrong about that but it's just my opinion.
And I also have no desire to remarry. I would much rather have fun with whomever I like.0 -
I think what Carl was saying is pretty bang on. There is one small thing I'd say though and that's women seem to be getting better in these situations at least locally to me anyway. I've heard of quite a few instances where it's the guy that's got attached and it seems to be occuring more often than it used to.
I've had experience from both sides. I saw a couple of girls a few months back alongside each other that was like a FWB arrangement. I made it clear I didn't want a relationship with them and they still wanted to see me so we just kept it going, I'd stay the night, have dinner and go out with them on a night out. To me that's the friendship part, even if there wasn't any sex I'd probably have done most of those things with them anyway.
Both of them got really attached to me and tried to ask me out, honestly if it was another time I might have gone out with one of them properly but at that time I didn't want that. When both of them said they wanted more I made it perfectly clear I still didn't want more, that I thought they were great but I just wasn't in a place where I wanted more with anyone.
Then there's the flip side, I started seeing my best friend for a few months and we had all of the above and even more (when you stay at someone's house every night for a couple of months you're crossing the line..) Won't go into much detail on it but we basically were going out to everyone we knew but when we talked about it she really didn't want that. She said she'd seperated the friend stuff from the sex and that was the way it had to stay. I'd properly fallen for her so I had to cut off contact for a while, she wouldn't speak to me anyway when I stopped letting her get what she wanted saying she needed to "move on."
Can literally work both ways and to me it just depends on how mature you are and your ability to seperate feelings.0 -
LOL I love you guys ...BTW I don't knit I sew...0
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