Grammar and Spelling
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For those wondering if this prevalent among women in their online profiles. I posted the profile of one of my OKC matches last night. The other match started with "I have zero tolerance for typos, spelling or grammatical errors in profiles or messages. Please learn to proofread and present yourself professionally."0
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For those wondering if this prevalent among women in their online profiles. I posted the profile of one of my OKC matches last night. The other match started with "I have zero tolerance for typos, spelling or grammatical errors in profiles or messages. Please learn to proofread and present yourself professionally."
yes because one must be professional when looking for romance :laugh:
sorry but this lady sounds like a biyatch i wouldnt be surprised if she and her grammar books regularly sit at home alone on the weekends0 -
For those wondering if this prevalent among women in their online profiles. I posted the profile of one of my OKC matches last night. The other match started with "I have zero tolerance for typos, spelling or grammatical errors in profiles or messages. Please learn to proofread and present yourself professionally."
Did you send her your resume and a picture of you in business casual?!0 -
For those wondering if this prevalent among women in their online profiles. I posted the profile of one of my OKC matches last night. The other match started with "I have zero tolerance for typos, spelling or grammatical errors in profiles or messages. Please learn to proofread and present yourself professionally."
Did you send her your resume and a picture of you in business casual?!
She had a PhD in Sociology. I'd prefer not to be associated with junk scholars.0 -
For those wondering if this prevalent among women in their online profiles. I posted the profile of one of my OKC matches last night. The other match started with "I have zero tolerance for typos, spelling or grammatical errors in profiles or messages. Please learn to proofread and present yourself professionally."
Did you send her your resume and a picture of you in business casual?!
She had a PhD in Sociology. I'd prefer not to be associated with junk scholars.
Ouch! :laugh:
Just for the record, I would never go so far as to say something that condescending, especially not on a dating site :frown:0 -
and arent there more important things to have a zero tolerance policy about? liars, cheaters, IV drug users etc :laugh:
i think people become super picky as a way to give themselves a valid excuse to not enter a relationship0 -
Mind you, it did make me laugh, and still does, when I was seeing a guy who text me to say he fancied Quisinots for breakfast - he meant Croissants!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
:laugh: That's brilliant, Anna! My little sister's ex once came running in great excitement to tell her that there was a man selling 'Creepies' and they should have one for breakfast... he meant 'Crepes'! Needless to say, crepes are now referred to as 'Creepies' in our household :happy: And that was the straw that broke the camel's back for my fluent-French-speaker sister in that relationship.
To answer the OP's question, for me, it is a deal breaker, or pretty close to being so. I will of course make allowances if English is not someone's first language (my spelling and grammar in my non-native languages can be pretty dubious...) and for the odd typo/predictive text mishap, but generally speaking 'text speak', street slang and carelessness with language really turn me off. Language and communication are very important to me - one of my passions in life, really. Someone who feels the need to abbreviate or bastardise every word is unlikely to be a match for me. I'm polysyllabic and proud of it!
Oh, and a personal pet peeve? The plural of 'you' is 'you', NOT 'yous' *shudder*0 -
Oh, and a personal pet peeve? The plural of 'you' is 'you', NOT 'yous' *shudder*
I'm with you there, I actually had someone ask "Where are yous going?". *shudder*0 -
I see that it seems alot of women find this as a turn off. I dont get it, i think its being way too picky and if they dont date someone based on spelling then they are just silly. I would hate to see what else they are picky about. People are not perfect and guess what, you women who are like this are not either. What ever happened to good old days when people looked for loyalty, chemistry, and being treated well was important and be happy if they found it. Now there are 300 things on a list that a guy must be or not be to be dateable.0
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What is petty to you is not to another, and vice versa. Spelling and grammar tend to be indicative of how much education an individual has received, which goes back to our previous conversation in which I pointed out that I prefer men with a high level of education. As stated before, it's not that I look down on a man for having poor grammar skills (which, may I point out, yours is not bad at all), it's more that it's very hard for me to feel a strong connection to him.
You may still think it's petty, but I'm sure you have "deal breakers" that I would find to be just as trivial :flowerforyou:
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Probably-- if I were a skilled mathematician and dating profiles were written in mathematical equations.So would you rule someone out for having poor math skills? It's something we learned in school and don't use as frequently as past generations.
The deal is: if he can't see and appreciate the humor when I point out a hilarious typo in a book, we're probably not on the same wavelength generally. This has proven true for me many times.
That said... if I meet a guy and am very taken with him after we've spent some time together, I am not likely to dump him because he's bad at spelling. So long as he's smart enough to use spell/grammar check...0 -
I see that it seems alot of women find this as a turn off. I dont get it, i think its being way too picky and if they dont date someone based on spelling then they are just silly. I would hate to see what else they are picky about. People are not perfect and guess what, you women who are like this are not either. What ever happened to good old days when people looked for loyalty, chemistry, and being treated well was important and be happy if they found it. Now there are 300 things on a list that a guy must be or not be to be dateable.
You're misunderstanding. It isn't "oh I like him but he can't spell, so he's out." It's "hmm.. his spelling and grammar are pretty terrible. This is something I value. Is that an indication that we're incompatible on a higher level?" Often, it actually is.0 -
I see that it seems alot of women find this as a turn off. I dont get it, i think its being way too picky and if they dont date someone based on spelling then they are just silly. I would hate to see what else they are picky about. People are not perfect and guess what, you women who are like this are not either. What ever happened to good old days when people looked for loyalty, chemistry, and being treated well was important and be happy if they found it. Now there are 300 things on a list that a guy must be or not be to be dateable.
You're misunderstanding. It isn't "oh I like him but he can't spell, so he's out." It's "hmm.. his spelling and grammar are pretty terrible. This is something I value. Is that an indication that we're incompatible on a higher level?" Often, it actually is.
You are difeerent than most that post the same thing on here. You seem nice and grounded so im sure that it was based on other things as well such as connecting intellectually with him. Its the princess wannabees that think they are too good for everyone that i have a problem with. Im from the country and many of my guy friends are single and they are really nice guys who are intelligent, funny, loyal, sweet, and some makes alot of money but they tend to have that country accent and vocabulary and so many women will not give them a chance. There was one recently who posted she would never date a guy who drinks diet soda instead of the regular one. Oh my.0 -
The thing is, you dont exactly meet someone in a bar, chat the night away, and give them a spelling test!! :noway:
I mean, if the chemistry is there, you're attracted to each other, the conversation is flowing and you're talking world issues, rocket science and calculus (or whatever floats your boat) , but then he sends you a text the next day and writes' r 'instead of 'are', are you really going to sack him?? :laugh:
Anna, I agree, but I think it's much more obvious in online dating when you see the profile. Sometimes they are indecipherable!
Not a deal breaker for me but I am sure spelling has interfered with my dating. I have dyslexia. Spell check doens't always catch it and some sites don't offer it. Regardless, I think it is is rather funny the spelling police who usually can spell the word but not know how to utilize it in a sentence. I pride myself on being articulate. My spelling issue does not make me uneducated, ignorant, or stupid. It just means I have dyslexia.
I think if it's so bad that you can't figure out what they are trying to say... it's not petty at all. But I posted this topic because many woman have spelling mistakes are a deal breaker written in their profiles... this would make me hesitant to write them because I have the occasional spelling error or long *kitten* sentence.0 -
For those wondering if this prevalent among women in their online profiles. I posted the profile of one of my OKC matches last night. The other match started with "I have zero tolerance for typos, spelling or grammatical errors in profiles or messages. Please learn to proofread and present yourself professionally."
Did you send her your resume and a picture of you in business casual?!
She had a PhD in Sociology. I'd prefer not to be associated with junk scholars.
Ouch! :laugh:
Just for the record, I would never go so far as to say something that condescending, especially not on a dating site :frown:
By the way sociology is not a junk degree. But that does show your ignorance. And I have most of my masters in counseling and work with the severly mentally ill. I wonder if you consider that a junk career and a throw away population?0
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