Excuses, excuses

_SpeshK_

My only question is..why the hell would you agree to a date if you're not interested enough to show up?
I might be inexperienced..lol..but if I'm not really into someone, I know pretty quickly after having a few conversations.
And I wouldn't agree to go out with someone that I wouldn't be "excited" to go out with.

NCTravellingGirl

My only question is..why the hell would you agree to a date if you're not interested enough to show up?
I might be inexperienced..lol..but if I'm not really into someone, I know pretty quickly after having a few conversations.
And I wouldn't agree to go out with someone that I wouldn't be "excited" to go out with.

You'd be surprised. A few months ago, this guy resurfaced in my life that I "dated" but never could tell if he was really interested or thought he SHOULD be. We had great chemistry though and could talk with amazing subtle innuendos for hours. We made plans for lunch (long weird story where he invited his PARENTS, OMG) and so while sitting in the restaurant waiting for them to arrive, he actually sent me a text saying that his mom had brought friend chicken so they'd already had lunch...needless to say, I pretty much told him that I hope he choked on his chicken (what a great joke) and to never contact me again. He didn't! The man was 44 years old and stood up a date to eat the food his mom brought, OMG, what was I thinking!

AZDizzy

I've had it done to me for mostly "work" issues.

I've only done it once. It was an online meet who I had been talking to for too long. My work called and a co-worker had a family-member dying. He had to fly out, they needed me to fly in. When I called to cancel, he said something about me not needing to make up a story and if I wanted to cancel just to say so. I sent him a picture text with me by the "welcome to Chicago O'hare airport" sign and a "can we reschedule?" Texted him when I got home but never heard from him again.

Sometimes, things come up and it's not BS! He didn't give me the benefit of the doubt and since my work schedule is a little...erratic, we definitely weren't a good fit!

oddyogi

First, if I really want to go out with a guy, I'm going to do everything within my power to avoid canceling the first date. If an emergency comes up, like my mom is rushed to the hospital, okay, the date is going to have to wait. But I hear stories all the time about someone canceling a date because of really lame reasons, like "I was busy all day, and I'm really tired," or "I have to be at work early tomorrow." That's all BS to me, and I guess it's because when I make a date with someone, that is my priority on that particular day. I will move things around in my schedule, and I will sacrifice an hour or two of sleep to go on a date with someone I really like.

Secondly, if a real emergency interferes with a date and I have to cancel, if I really like him, I am going to apologize profusely and try to reschedule.

I do think people, especially women, are frequently guilty of overanalyzing people's words and actions, but when I feel in my gut like someone is blowing me off, I ask myself "Would you do this to someone you really like?" If the answer is no, I write them off and move on.

I completely agree with you. I had a guy cancel a date on me a few months ago because it was a work night, and I told him I'd meet him for dinner but had to be home between 10 and 11 since I wake up at 0430 for work every day. He canceled because he said that "wasn't enough time" so that translated to me he thought we were going to hook up. After that I kind of blew him off because he kept mentioning how he used to work in the porno industry. Yeah.

Well we've never actually met, it was an online thing, so I wouldn't expect her to be "really into" me yet anyway. It's really more of a curiosity thing for me. And it just seems odd to me, I've never canceled on a first date. I figure what's the point of online dating if you're just going to waste time emailing someone just to cancel a date and never make any effort to meet them?

I could always tell from online dating if I would be interested in actually meeting the guy or not. Out of all of the guys I made contact with online, I only ended up meeting three. I was most excited to meet SL, and the butterflies haven't gone away since.

If she was really into you and the freak accident was true, I think she would have texted you while she was waiting in the hospital. It's what I would have done.

Tropical_Turtle

LOL I had one guy cancel a date on me 15 min before cause he was out getting his taxes done... At 8 oclock at night on a Sunday in November lol

lmao oh wow hope his timing has improved



I had a guy cancel on me telling me his wife would not let him leave. :noway: Geez if only I had known

catherine4211

My only question is..why the hell would you agree to a date if you're not interested enough to show up?
I might be inexperienced..lol..but if I'm not really into someone, I know pretty quickly after having a few conversations.
And I wouldn't agree to go out with someone that I wouldn't be "excited" to go out with.

You want to know why I did? Because I had new jeans I wanted to wear. Yes, I'm 43 and that is most likely the dumbest thing ever - but it's the truth. Then I faked a stomachache to get him to go home.

Jarnard

LOL I had one guy cancel a date on me 15 min before cause he was out getting his taxes done... At 8 oclock at night on a Sunday in November lol

That has to be true cuz there is no way in hell that woudl of been a good lie. lol

Jarnard

My only question is..why the hell would you agree to a date if you're not interested enough to show up?
I might be inexperienced..lol..but if I'm not really into someone, I know pretty quickly after having a few conversations.
And I wouldn't agree to go out with someone that I wouldn't be "excited" to go out with.

Some people have a hard time letting people down easy.

JanieJack

I don't make excuses.

I've had some lame ones (I have to work... then I see you on facebook with your kid and her friends at a sports bar) but usually they just say something's come up and they can't make it. I don't make lame excuses, but then I *rarely* cancel a date. If I've planned to do something with a friend/date/whoever I generally do everything in my power to hold to our arrangement. Unless he told me he was in his 40s and I discover he's in his sixties. That guy I cancelled on. lol.

I have an extremely busy social calendar with (usually) multiple invitations between me and my son and our various church groups. So I just don't accept dates with people I don't want to go out with. I always have a plan b and c so I'm not lying when I say, "Sorry, I have plans."

I've had guys cancel on me because they ask me if I am talking to anyone else (before we've even met!!!). I figure if they're asking, they want to know, so I tell them, and then they get mad at me and cancel because they don't want to be part of a "fan club". I think it's ridiculous. Obviously they're talking to other people as well...

I know!! This could start a whole new topic! I can't stand how men get mad at you for this, when they themselves are dating multiple women. Why would I stop dating others when I don't even know you?