Need men to translate date code...
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It's nice to see this thread take on a life of it's own. :laugh:
The conundrum is do we over-analyze and perhaps misinterpret things in the beginning? Or do we ignore possible red flags and then get the head slap later when if we had PAID ATTENTION we would have seen the signs? :noway:
She had another date...and I think at this early stage my interpretation is he comes on strong and must burn out fast. Don't know. Only time will tell...she likes him, she's having fun. She's going to tell him to slow his roll. And we'll see.
Thanks for the interesting debate.
This statement gives me a question I would like to use as a separate thread,do yo mind if I quote it?0 -
It's always like that, but it's actually quite cool! :laugh:It's nice to see this thread take on a life of it's own. :laugh:
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Thanks for the interesting debate.0 -
It's nice to see this thread take on a life of it's own. :laugh:
The conundrum is do we over-analyze and perhaps misinterpret things in the beginning? Or do we ignore possible red flags and then get the head slap later when if we had PAID ATTENTION we would have seen the signs? :noway:
She had another date...and I think at this early stage my interpretation is he comes on strong and must burn out fast. Don't know. Only time will tell...she likes him, she's having fun. She's going to tell him to slow his roll. And we'll see.
Thanks for the interesting debate.
This statement gives me a question I would like to use as a separate thread,do yo mind if I quote it?
Spinoffs welcome.0 -
It's always like that, but it's actually quite cool! :laugh:It's nice to see this thread take on a life of it's own. :laugh:
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Thanks for the interesting debate.
Yes it is. :drinker:0 -
Concur. just because he's dated "A LOT" doesn't mean he he's a serial dater, he could have just failed to make a deeply meaningful connection.0
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Concur. just because he's dated "A LOT" doesn't mean he he's a serial dater, he could have just failed to make a deeply meaningful connection.
Yes, but...do you TELL someone you dated "A LOT" if it's just an innocent comment. It comes across more as a warning. Personally.0 -
Concur. just because he's dated "A LOT" doesn't mean he he's a serial dater, he could have just failed to make a deeply meaningful connection.
Yes, but...do you TELL someone you dated "A LOT" if it's just an innocent comment. It comes across more as a warning. Personally.
It depends on the overall context.
"I have dated a lot,but am looking to find something long term"
"I have dated a lot and like the attention"
"I have dated a lot so if you don`t meet my wants quickly I don`t need you and will move on"
What was the flow of the conversation in which the statement occurred?0 -
It's nice to see this thread take on a life of it's own. :laugh:
The conundrum is do we over-analyze and perhaps misinterpret things in the beginning? Or do we ignore possible red flags and then get the head slap later when if we had PAID ATTENTION we would have seen the signs? :noway:
She had another date...and I think at this early stage my interpretation is he comes on strong and must burn out fast. Don't know. Only time will tell...she likes him, she's having fun. She's going to tell him to slow his roll. And we'll see.
Thanks for the interesting debate.
For me, it's hard to say what I think without hearing the actual conversation. Some of it could be what Carl said above me, and some of it could be "i date a lot, so don't be surprised when you find out I have other girlfriends/ditch you right away." For me, it would depend on the vibe i'm getting.0 -
Yes, but...do you TELL someone you dated "A LOT" if it's just an innocent comment. It comes across more as a warning. Personally.
The last year or so I really didn't date. I was pining away for two of my guy friends who both let me know about 4 months ago that I'd never have a chance. I set up a Match.com profile and since then have averaged 1-4 dates per week, most one-and-dones. Some 2-3x and two guys more than that. I'm not saying that to brag, but just to say this guy probably has dated WAY more than me, and even *I* have told guys I've dated as kinda a hint that I don't see anything long term with him or a warning that there's plenty of other guys to choose from and I'm not desperate enough to put up with boorishness or disrespect.
So, if a guy told me that after we'd gone out once or twice, I might still go out with him just for fun. But even if I'm open to something developing, I'll keep in mind that he probably doesn't see anything long term with me.
Oh, and I agree with Mom2rh... in my (limited) experience, the guys that come on really strong, really fast also burn out really fast and suddenly.0 -
Hey I just re-read what I wrote, and I hope you didn't think I was implying something wrong with your friend. I was really just trying to say it's probably the guy's warning that he's not gonna be Mr. Relationship.
I'm curious... what did your friend think? Did she have a nonchalant opportunity to ask for clarification?0
