How is your week? Any random news?
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I saw him as a totally different person. Of course there are several reasons why and I'm not going to be naive enough to think it is perfect or ideal. But, I just couldn't believe how many of those "new" flirty, butterfly, sexual, happy feelings erupted. It was familiar, but it was brand new. Anyway, we will be seeing each other tomorrow and so I'm not sure where things are heading, but I know I will keep my head on straight and hope that I can be logical and discerning while I'm getting used to this new phenomenon. Wish me luck, all!
Awwww good luck Kelsey, I hope it works out for you :flowerforyou:0 -
I saw him as a totally different person. Of course there are several reasons why and I'm not going to be naive enough to think it is perfect or ideal. But, I just couldn't believe how many of those "new" flirty, butterfly, sexual, happy feelings erupted. It was familiar, but it was brand new. Anyway, we will be seeing each other tomorrow and so I'm not sure where things are heading, but I know I will keep my head on straight and hope that I can be logical and discerning while I'm getting used to this new phenomenon. Wish me luck, all!
Awwww good luck Kelsey, I hope it works out for you :flowerforyou:
Thank you, Anna! BTW I was going to FR you the other day but you have expressly forbidden it on your profile! :ohwell:0 -
My ex showed up at my house at three o'clock this morning. My daughter had been visiting him and he got into fight #1000000000 with the current GF, so he thinks it would be a good idea to drive 2400 mile cross country to my front door.
I did not let him in.
He is leaving his truck at the airport and flying home to clean up his affairs, then he is coming back here to start over.
He wants that to include buying a house. With me. But he "understands" if I dont want to get back together.
Tha hell???0 -
My ex showed up at my house at three o'clock this morning. My daughter had been visiting him and he got into fight #1000000000 with the current GF, so he thinks it would be a good idea to drive 2400 mile cross country to my front door.
I did not let him in.
He is leaving his truck at the airport and flying home to clean up his affairs, then he is coming back here to start over.
He wants that to include buying a house. With me. But he "understands" if I dont want to get back together.
Tha hell???
Da *kitten*?0 -
My ex showed up at my house at three o'clock this morning. My daughter had been visiting him and he got into fight #1000000000 with the current GF, so he thinks it would be a good idea to drive 2400 mile cross country to my front door.
I did not let him in.
He is leaving his truck at the airport and flying home to clean up his affairs, then he is coming back here to start over.
He wants that to include buying a house. With me. But he "understands" if I dont want to get back together.
Tha hell???
Da *kitten*?
This is crazy! Lol....0 -
I saw him as a totally different person. Of course there are several reasons why and I'm not going to be naive enough to think it is perfect or ideal. But, I just couldn't believe how many of those "new" flirty, butterfly, sexual, happy feelings erupted. It was familiar, but it was brand new. Anyway, we will be seeing each other tomorrow and so I'm not sure where things are heading, but I know I will keep my head on straight and hope that I can be logical and discerning while I'm getting used to this new phenomenon. Wish me luck, all!
It's hard to be logical and discerning when you're lonely, and around someone with whom you've been in a romantic relationship who has now apparently "changed". Uh huh. Maybe.
I will say I went through a similar situation. It didn't involve alcohol or any type of substance abuse. It did involve me fooling myself into believing my ex's behavior and approach to life had really changed for the better. People are quite good about being who you want them to be for short periods of time (weeks, sometimes even months). And I wanted to believe she had changed so badly! It would have made things so much easier! But with my ex, the old behaviors always came back. In short, I wasted probably 4-5 years "forgiving" her, when I should have moved on with my life sooner.
Even now when I see her she can be incredibly charming. And we had some great times together, when she acted normally. It's such a pity it didn't work out. But I know to avoid that siren song. It's hard, because I'm lonely.
Perhaps it's not your case. I can't comment on living with an alcoholic, other than assuming it must have been hell. Maybe if he's truly over his disease, you can start to build a completely new kind of relationship together. Happy endings are always nice.
Just make sure you stay "logical and discerning." And do what's best for you.
Good luck.
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All's good here in the convent.... :sad:
LOL I feel ya!
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My ex showed up at my house at three o'clock this morning. My daughter had been visiting him and he got into fight #1000000000 with the current GF, so he thinks it would be a good idea to drive 2400 mile cross country to my front door.
I did not let him in.
He is leaving his truck at the airport and flying home to clean up his affairs, then he is coming back here to start over.
He wants that to include buying a house. With me. But he "understands" if I dont want to get back together.
Tha hell???
Da *kitten*?
I hate how you women just take men for granted. Here she finds a guy who drives clear across the country for her and you both seem ungrateful. How many ladies would kill for a guy who would do this just to see her. You should both be ashamed!0 -
My ex showed up at my house at three o'clock this morning. My daughter had been visiting him and he got into fight #1000000000 with the current GF, so he thinks it would be a good idea to drive 2400 mile cross country to my front door.
I did not let him in.
He is leaving his truck at the airport and flying home to clean up his affairs, then he is coming back here to start over.
He wants that to include buying a house. With me. But he "understands" if I dont want to get back together.
Tha hell???
Da *kitten*?
This is crazy! Lol....
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I hate how you women just take men for granted. Here she finds a guy who drives clear across the country for her and you both seem ungrateful. How many ladies would kill for a guy who would do this just to see her. You should both be ashamed!
This is a level, right?
The guy's clearly unstable.
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My ex showed up at my house at three o'clock this morning. My daughter had been visiting him and he got into fight #1000000000 with the current GF, so he thinks it would be a good idea to drive 2400 mile cross country to my front door.
I did not let him in.
He is leaving his truck at the airport and flying home to clean up his affairs, then he is coming back here to start over.
He wants that to include buying a house. With me. But he "understands" if I dont want to get back together.
Tha hell???
yeah, right! :huh: Have his truck stolen from the airport so he can't drive to you again!!
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My ex showed up at my house at three o'clock this morning. My daughter had been visiting him and he got into fight #1000000000 with the current GF, so he thinks it would be a good idea to drive 2400 mile cross country to my front door.
I did not let him in.
He is leaving his truck at the airport and flying home to clean up his affairs, then he is coming back here to start over.
He wants that to include buying a house. With me. But he "understands" if I dont want to get back together.
Tha hell???
Da *kitten*?
I hate how you women just take men for granted. Here she finds a guy who drives clear across the country for her and you both seem ungrateful. How many ladies would kill for a guy who would do this just to see her. You should both be ashamed!
I really hope you're being sarcastic.0 -
My ex showed up at my house at three o'clock this morning. My daughter had been visiting him and he got into fight #1000000000 with the current GF, so he thinks it would be a good idea to drive 2400 mile cross country to my front door.
I did not let him in.
He is leaving his truck at the airport and flying home to clean up his affairs, then he is coming back here to start over.
He wants that to include buying a house. With me. But he "understands" if I dont want to get back together.
Tha hell???
Da *kitten*?
I hate how you women just take men for granted. Here she finds a guy who drives clear across the country for her and you both seem ungrateful. How many ladies would kill for a guy who would do this just to see her. You should both be ashamed!
I really hope you're being sarcastic.
you'll never know for sure, will you?0 -
I hate how you women just take men for granted. Here she finds a guy who drives clear across the country for her and you both seem ungrateful. How many ladies would kill for a guy who would do this just to see her. You should both be ashamed!
This is a level, right?
The guy's clearly unstable.
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Bwahahaha! Yeah, what was I thinking!?? I would love someone like this in my life! Oh wait....I've had instability....um, no thanks! This was a great laugh! LOL!My ex showed up at my house at three o'clock this morning. My daughter had been visiting him and he got into fight #1000000000 with the current GF, so he thinks it would be a good idea to drive 2400 mile cross country to my front door.
I did not let him in.
He is leaving his truck at the airport and flying home to clean up his affairs, then he is coming back here to start over.
He wants that to include buying a house. With me. But he "understands" if I dont want to get back together.
Tha hell???
Da *kitten*?
I hate how you women just take men for granted. Here she finds a guy who drives clear across the country for her and you both seem ungrateful. How many ladies would kill for a guy who would do this just to see her. You should both be ashamed!0 -
I hate how you women just take men for granted. Here she finds a guy who drives clear across the country for her and you both seem ungrateful. How many ladies would kill for a guy who would do this just to see her. You should both be ashamed!
This is a level, right?
The guy's clearly unstable.
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Actually, it seems more like this guy is using.....
These actions scream substance abuse to me. Clearly irrational at a very high level. Stay clear of him right now and I wouldn't let my daughter be near him either.0 -
Joined Match.com almost 2 weeks ago. I have had 3 dates this week. All of them went surprisingly well. Even went on a second date last night. Having a good week other than the fact that I have worked a lot. As a matter of fact I get to work all weekend too! 0
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I hate how you women just take men for granted. Here she finds a guy who drives clear across the country for her and you both seem ungrateful. How many ladies would kill for a guy who would do this just to see her. You should both be ashamed!
This is a level, right?
The guy's clearly unstable.
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Actually, it seems more like this guy is using.....
These actions scream substance abuse to me. Clearly irrational at a very high level. Stay clear of him right now and I wouldn't let my daughter be near him either.
Ding ding ding. He is a recovering drug addict. Sober for four years but there is still a lot of chaos around him. So he is back in NY now, has a custody hearing with the current ex next week and just called to let me know that he has over nighted me the keys to his truck so I can pick it up at the airport.
Sigh. My stomach is in knots and I really don't need this haboob in my life.0 -
I hate how you women just take men for granted. Here she finds a guy who drives clear across the country for her and you both seem ungrateful. How many ladies would kill for a guy who would do this just to see her. You should both be ashamed!
This is a level, right?
The guy's clearly unstable.
--P
Actually, it seems more like this guy is using.....
These actions scream substance abuse to me. Clearly irrational at a very high level. Stay clear of him right now and I wouldn't let my daughter be near him either.
Ding ding ding. He is a recovering drug addict. Sober for four years but there is still a lot of chaos around him. So he is back in NY now, has a custody hearing with the current ex next week and just called to let me know that he has over nighted me the keys to his truck so I can pick it up at the airport.
Sigh. My stomach is in knots and I really don't need this haboob in my life.
Wow, I'm sorry to hear you have so much *kitten* going on. Would you go as far as a restraining order?0 -
I saw him as a totally different person. Of course there are several reasons why and I'm not going to be naive enough to think it is perfect or ideal. But, I just couldn't believe how many of those "new" flirty, butterfly, sexual, happy feelings erupted. It was familiar, but it was brand new. Anyway, we will be seeing each other tomorrow and so I'm not sure where things are heading, but I know I will keep my head on straight and hope that I can be logical and discerning while I'm getting used to this new phenomenon. Wish me luck, all!
It's hard to be logical and discerning when you're lonely, and around someone with whom you've been in a romantic relationship who has now apparently "changed". Uh huh. Maybe.
I will say I went through a similar situation. It didn't involve alcohol or any type of substance abuse. It did involve me fooling myself into believing my ex's behavior and approach to life had really changed for the better. People are quite good about being who you want them to be for short periods of time (weeks, sometimes even months). And I wanted to believe she had changed so badly! It would have made things so much easier! But with my ex, the old behaviors always came back. In short, I wasted probably 4-5 years "forgiving" her, when I should have moved on with my life sooner.
Even now when I see her she can be incredibly charming. And we had some great times together, when she acted normally. It's such a pity it didn't work out. But I know to avoid that siren song. It's hard, because I'm lonely.
Perhaps it's not your case. I can't comment on living with an alcoholic, other than assuming it must have been hell. Maybe if he's truly over his disease, you can start to build a completely new kind of relationship together. Happy endings are always nice.
Just make sure you stay "logical and discerning." And do what's best for you.
Good luck.
--P
Aghhh I know what you mean, all too well. I'll keep everyone updated on my goings on.0 -
When it rains, it pours!! I'll have more details Wed.0
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I have moved!!! I'm still settling in of course and trying to get school stuff done. I've been hitting the gym extra hard again and I feel fabulous. I've missed everyone!!! I dont have Internet service besides phone so I hardly get on.
Anyway... Single peep type of news. I met a chap and went out but eh.. Not feeling it too much. BUT I have a blind date tonight with a cute Italian guy (never dated an Italian and I'm SO excited ha!!). We are doing dinner/ drinks. I said I was going to take it easy but it's hard with cute boys around! :bigsmile: Anyway.. I'll try to get on as soon as I'm settled in!0 -
I have moved!!! I'm still settling in of course and trying to get school stuff done. I've been hitting the gym extra hard again and I feel fabulous. I've missed everyone!!! I dont have Internet service besides phone so I hardly get on.
Anyway... Single peep type of news. I met a chap and went out but eh.. Not feeling it too much. BUT I have a blind date tonight with a cute Italian guy (never dated an Italian and I'm SO excited ha!!). We are doing dinner/ drinks. I said I was going to take it easy but it's hard with cute boys around! :bigsmile: Anyway.. I'll try to get on as soon as I'm settled in!
Sounds like you're settling in very well!
Update us on the Italian guy when you can! I've never dated one of those either! :laugh:0 -
Just getting home... Oooh laaa laa!! That's not Italian but I'm very pleased. Italian has black hair, light skin and blue eyes... He's only 28 but he seems sweet and really into me. Woot!!!0
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He said I felt more like a friend than a girl he would date. I told him I understood, but truthfully I'm a bit bummed. I don't know how not to be 'the friend' and be 'the date'. I tend to like people a bit slower and usually the people I tend to like are people I have interacted with a number of times in real life. I kinda of deleted my profile for online dating after this cause if I get told I'm "a friend", too platonic, or get another hook up only comment I'm gunna have a hard time with having hope.
Maybe online dating isn't gunna work for me ever.
Well, I wouldnt get too despondent about a 'friend' comment. I think he just means he didnt feel the sexual chemistry he was looking for. But all people have different perceptions of that, so it's not 'you', it's him!!
What I always try and tell myself, after every date, is that the feeling of rejection isn't 'real'. It's two people meeting up to establish if there is anything between them. If there isn't, then, so what!? You and the next guy could well hit it off!! None of us hit it off with every person we meet, even in the course of a normal day. Just let it go and please dont change yourself. YOUR Mr Right is walking home from another date right now thinking "I wish I could find someone that could get to know me and take things slow, sexual chemistry is sooooo overrated!". :flowerforyou:
Thanks soo much! 0 -
Just getting home... Oooh laaa laa!! That's not Italian but I'm very pleased. Italian has black hair, light skin and blue eyes... He's only 28 but he seems sweet and really into me. Woot!!!
Awesome! Glad you had a good time!0 -
I have moved!!! I'm still settling in of course and trying to get school stuff done. I've been hitting the gym extra hard again and I feel fabulous. I've missed everyone!!! I dont have Internet service besides phone so I hardly get on.
Anyway... Single peep type of news. I met a chap and went out but eh.. Not feeling it too much. BUT I have a blind date tonight with a cute Italian guy (never dated an Italian and I'm SO excited ha!!). We are doing dinner/ drinks. I said I was going to take it easy but it's hard with cute boys around! :bigsmile: Anyway.. I'll try to get on as soon as I'm settled in!
Everything sounds great :bigsmile: We miss you too :flowerforyou:0 -
I went to the marriage of a Nigerian friend this weekend, I was scared I would get bored (I don't really do marriages) but to my surprise in the church we started dancing around clapping our hands and singing while the groom and bride were shaking their booties in rhythm, and a crazy priestess (?) was telling really ridiculous stories while trying to sell some book she had written. It was hilarious.
Then I experienced Nigerian cuisine (yummy) while pretty much everyone was dressed traditionally, listening to an unfunny MC telling the worst jokes ever (which was funny in itself) and everyone was dancing and dancing again. I felt like the token white guy! :laugh:
I had a blast (who would have thought!).0 -
I went to the marriage of a Nigerian friend this weekend, I was scared I would get bored (I don't really do marriages) but to my surprise in the church we started dancing around clapping our hands and singing while the groom and bride were shaking their booties in rhythm, and a crazy priestess (?) was telling really ridiculous stories while trying to sell some book she had written. It was hilarious.
Then I experienced Nigerian cuisine (yummy) while pretty much everyone was dressed traditionally, listening to an unfunny MC telling the worst jokes ever (which was funny in itself) and everyone was dancing and dancing again. I felt like the token white guy! :laugh:
I had a blast (who would have thought!).
Sounds like fun! I've never been to a Nigerian wedding either. I think you should have invited me Or did you take your g/f?? :bigsmile: 0 -
Was there with another friend of that friend, who happens to be my friend.0
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