Weekend Updates
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I think the real advice people should give here is: don't fall in love so early. Don't think he is the one.Thats what I was thinking and I know how rare it would be to have found someone perfect for me in the 2.5 weeks I have been on the site. But he SEEMS so great for me and says he feels similarly. Neither of us have talked about whether we are seeing other people and no one is talking about being exclusive.
If you're happy seeing the guy though, there is nothing wrong with seeing just him.
Dating is such a pain, you don't HAVE TO juggle with 4 different dates at the same time, just focus *casually* on him and see how it goes.
I'd rather do something else than spend my evenings on various dates constantly and keep tabs on 4 guys/girls personally... 1 is just fine, you see him when you've got some time, see if you still enjoy it (Good) or not (Next!).0 -
I think the real advice people should give here is: don't fall in love so early. Don't think he is the one.Thats what I was thinking and I know how rare it would be to have found someone perfect for me in the 2.5 weeks I have been on the site. But he SEEMS so great for me and says he feels similarly. Neither of us have talked about whether we are seeing other people and no one is talking about being exclusive.
If you're happy seeing the guy though, there is nothing wrong with seeing just him.
Dating is such a pain, you don't HAVE TO juggle with 4 different dates at the same time, just focus *casually* on him and see how it goes.
I'd rather do something else than spend my evenings on various dates constantly and keep tabs on 4 guys/girls personally... 1 is just fine, you see him when you've got some time, see if you still enjoy it (Good) or not (Next!).
Thank you. I think that is a good way of putting it. I didn't cancel my account on Match.com, I am still talking casually with people. I didn't say love. It is way too soon for that. But attraction mentally and physically yes!0 -
I think the real advice people should give here is: don't fall in love so early. Don't think he is the one.Thats what I was thinking and I know how rare it would be to have found someone perfect for me in the 2.5 weeks I have been on the site. But he SEEMS so great for me and says he feels similarly. Neither of us have talked about whether we are seeing other people and no one is talking about being exclusive.
If you're happy seeing the guy though, there is nothing wrong with seeing just him.
Dating is such a pain, you don't HAVE TO juggle with 4 different dates at the same time, just focus *casually* on him and see how it goes.
I'd rather do something else than spend my evenings on various dates constantly and keep tabs on 4 guys/girls personally... 1 is just fine, you see him when you've got some time, see if you still enjoy it (Good) or not (Next!).
This is excellent advice. Juggling and remembering who is who in those early stages can be more work than it's worth especially if your mind might be on someone else. But proceeding slowly and realistically with the one you like is best.0 -
He seemed so OLD, and that is not meant that he IS old at 44. Some people just aren't living life!
Welcome to MY world!!! :laugh: I dunno what happens to a lot of men over 40 :sad:
You guys need to meet some of my coworkers. The 40-some, 50-some, 60-some, and even 70-some year old people are certinally still living life. Heck, two weeks ago I cut out early from something and was told "What the night is still young!?" by someone who is probably over 70. He goes hiking and running every weekend too so he always gives me comments of "if I have enough energy, you have to have enough energy." lol
Guess it's just where you are finding these people and what their life style is. I'm 24 but 40+ and even 60 doesn't seem old to me because I joke and kid with them every day.
Now if I could only find people closer to my own age & life stage...0 -
My weekend was ok but I had to work which sucked. Friday night I went on a second date from Match.com which was great. Saturday I worked and then relaxed and took some time for myself. Sunday I went on another second date from Match.com which wasn't bad.
I really like this one guy I met and I am thinking about not seeing anyone else... Is it too soon to put all my eggs in one basket? I have only been on 3 dates with the guy I am really into... Advice?
Didn't you just start online dating? If so... I'd say it would be pretty rare that you struck gold this early, I wouldn't lock in just yet.
I agree, you shouldn't just focus on just him yet, give it at least a month.
I'm with the other two. Give it at least a month to get to know him.
I am going to go against the grain and say if you feel that you want to just focus on the one guy then just focus on the one guy. Just don't make it into something serious before both you are ready. I am not the kind of person that can date multiple people at the same time even if they are casual.0 -
For weekend update: I went back home to see my family and celebrate the fourth of July. Saw a bunch of High school friends who had also decided that was a good time to visit their family too. It's funny how people change, I saw guys who were always 110% about looks being much more casual, laid back, and "eh", and I saw women who had been always against the idea of children (or even marriage for that matter) married and thinking about finding a place where they could eventually raise kids! I saw several other 180s and then what was funny is that I'm more or less similar to how I was in comparision. I've changed someone, especially in abilities, but not quite the 180, 360, turnabouts.
I also ended up running into the guy I liked all throughout college. If I could have a do-over, I would seriously have put myself out there more to at least have asked him out. I didn't back then. We are states away (he's probably seeing someone too) so I'm not going to now. But man, I still like him and sadly he hasn't done a 180 or some major change that would cause me to see him in a different light. Truthfully catching up and running across him kind sucked only because, yeah it was great to see him - great to catch up and talk, but it makes me want to date, have a relationship. But I don't want to date just anyone or date to date. I want a connection - something.0 -
Hope you (and your aunt’s family) are doing ok. {{{{hugs}}}}thank you for everyone's condolences ....0 -
If you're happy seeing the guy though, there is nothing wrong with seeing just him.
Thank you. I think that is a good way of putting it. I didn't cancel my account on Match.com, I am still talking casually with people. I didn't say love. It is way too soon for that. But attraction mentally and physically yes!
I am mentally and physically attracted to seemingly awesome guys all the time. Then I get to know them for a few dates and see that they still let their ex run their lives. Or they don’t know how to resolve conflict. Or they have a gambling problem they didn’t tell me about. Or they were trying to quit smoking when they met me but right now it’s a stressful time and they fell off the wagon. Or… any number of things. No one’s saying you have to date around, but I do recommend keeping your feelings in check. Speaking from experience here, lol!0 -
Hehe last night I was out with a guy and we were swapping dating stories…I told him how frustrating it was to live in Shreveport where no one dresses up for anything, even church, and related the story of when one guy took me to one of our swankiest restaurants. I was in a fabulous snakeskin dress (see updated profile photo) and he showed up in shorts, sandals, and an “old man shirt.” My date asked me “What’s an old man shirt?” As I was trying to gracefully explain, in walked an older man with a short sleeved gauze shirt, 2nd button open (chest hair and big necklace visible). We had a good laugh and set up a swanky date (dressy) for when we both get back from our respective trips.I know I shouldn't but I take offense to the talk about men over 40....
My only issue with older men is how they dress.
Unfortunately, I don’t think there’s a polite way to help a guy update his wardrobe. I think you kinda have to take the bad (clothes) with the good (guy).0
