Friends With Benefits
leanandmean2012
Posts: 179 Member
just doesn't work nowadays, kinda annoying if u ask me lol I like tha gray area, now it's either black or white
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ehhhh?? Explain yourself?? What's not working about it?? :bigsmile:0
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The "Friends" end up not being reliable lol Tired of people talking instead of doing. lol0
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Friends with benefits can work.
Keep it shallow/light, don't think about the future... don't think at all, actually, no sleepovers. And don't try to convince yourself it's something more than it is.
The minute you have to start thinking about what you're doing, it isn't fun anymore.
ETA: It's supposed to be like a "relationship" but with no extra work. You don't have to call that person at the end of the day. You don't have to meet their parents.0 -
I just don't get it. If I'm really friends with a guy...and I want to sleep with him I think it should be the full meal deal relationship. Otherwise just friends.
Meh doesn't work for me.0 -
It's difficult when every girl you meet falls madly in love with you.0
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A few of my friends are out of work, with the tough economy and all. They are in a bad spot when it comes to benefits. I'm lucky to work for a large company - health, dental, life insurance, the whole deal.
I wouldn't stop being friends with them over it though, that's just crazy talk.0 -
A few of my friends are out of work, with the tough economy and all. They are in a bad spot when it comes to benefits. I'm lucky to work for a large company - health, dental, life insurance, the whole deal.
I wouldn't stop being friends with them over it though, that's just crazy talk.
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The "Friends" end up not being reliable lol Tired of people talking instead of doing. lol
OIC. Then find another who is more available!
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It's difficult when every girl you meet falls madly in love with you.
Gotta love that ego! :flowerforyou:0 -
Yeah, pretty much. It's just like any other friend but at the end of the day (or any other time of the day) you may or may not have sex with them. Some people have workout buddies, some have sex buddies. You just have to like each other enough to have sex with each other, but not so much that you want to date. Sometimes that's the complicated part.Friends with benefits can work.
Keep it shallow/light, don't think about the future... don't think at all, actually, no sleepovers. And don't try to convince yourself it's something more than it is.
The minute you have to start thinking about what you're doing, it isn't fun anymore.
ETA: It's supposed to be like a "relationship" but with no extra work. You don't have to call that person at the end of the day. You don't have to meet their parents.0 -
Mine has worked pretty well so far. I do kind of hope he becomes unnecessary though.0
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IMO the best FWB comes from an ex or someone you had a ONS with in the past. You know your ex is an ex for a reason but the sex may have been good.
Friends turned FWB is a like playing with a hornets nest! Baaaad idea.0 -
IMO the best FWB comes from an ex or someone you had a ONS with in the past. You know your ex is an ex for a reason but the sex may have been good.
Friends turned FWB is a like playing with a hornets nest! Baaaad idea.
I wouldn't agree that an ex works well, because unless there are reasons you have to maintain contact (like kids or something), I think there should be a clean cut. Of course, I'm talking about a LTR. If you're only together for a couple weeks, sure.
But yeah, ONS usually work for FWB if the hookup was good.0 -
It's difficult when every girl you meet falls madly in love with you.
Gotta love that ego! :flowerforyou:
Sad but true. It's not always an ego thing. :-(0 -
IMO the best FWB comes from an ex or someone you had a ONS with in the past. You know your ex is an ex for a reason but the sex may have been good.
Friends turned FWB is a like playing with a hornets nest! Baaaad idea.
I wouldn't agree that an ex works well, because unless there are reasons you have to maintain contact (like kids or something), I think there should be a clean cut. Of course, I'm talking about a LTR. If you're only together for a couple weeks, sure.
But yeah, ONS usually work for FWB if the hookup was good.
Yeah I was only meaning like an exgf/bf.. not an ex spouse.0 -
Friends turned FWB is a like playing with a hornets nest! Baaaad idea.
hmmm! seems to me that FRIENDS with benefits should be with FRIENDS??? Otherwise it would be called 'ex with benefits' or 'stranger with benefits' :laugh:
How have I got that so wrong .....:noway:0 -
Friends turned FWB is a like playing with a hornets nest! Baaaad idea.
hmmm! seems to me that FRIENDS with benefits should be with FRIENDS??? Otherwise it would be called 'ex with benefits' or 'stranger with benefits' :laugh:
How have I got that so wrong .....:noway:
Yeah. . this one had me a bit perplexed too :huh:0 -
IMO the best FWB comes from an ex or someone you had a ONS with in the past. You know your ex is an ex for a reason but the sex may have been good.
Friends turned FWB is a like playing with a hornets nest! Baaaad idea.
I wouldn't agree that an ex works well, because unless there are reasons you have to maintain contact (like kids or something), I think there should be a clean cut. Of course, I'm talking about a LTR. If you're only together for a couple weeks, sure.
But yeah, ONS usually work for FWB if the hookup was good.
Yup, not sure the exes thing works either. I thought the husband was trying to Reconciliate after his EA and so happens that he just wanted a kind of "Friends with Benefit" thing going. All the sex, minus the responsibility or the kids, etc. Totally broke my heart, over and over again. But hey, the sex was fantastic!0 -
Friends turned FWB is a like playing with a hornets nest! Baaaad idea.
hmmm! seems to me that FRIENDS with benefits should be with FRIENDS??? Otherwise it would be called 'ex with benefits' or 'stranger with benefits' :laugh:
How have I got that so wrong .....:noway:
Well yeah of course, Anna! What I am saying is taking an already made friendship and turning it into a FWB. It would be almost like screwing your sibling.0 -
Friends turned FWB is a like playing with a hornets nest! Baaaad idea.
hmmm! seems to me that FRIENDS with benefits should be with FRIENDS??? Otherwise it would be called 'ex with benefits' or 'stranger with benefits' :laugh:
How have I got that so wrong .....:noway:
Well yeah of course, Anna! What I am saying is taking an already made friendship and turning it into a FWB. It would be almost like screwing your sibling.
OMG...I never thought of it like that...:laugh: That is creepy to say the least...:laugh: :drinker: :laugh:0 -
Friends turned FWB is a like playing with a hornets nest! Baaaad idea.
hmmm! seems to me that FRIENDS with benefits should be with FRIENDS??? Otherwise it would be called 'ex with benefits' or 'stranger with benefits' :laugh:
How have I got that so wrong .....:noway:
Well yeah of course, Anna! What I am saying is taking an already made friendship and turning it into a FWB. It would be almost like screwing your sibling.
Then there is no such thing as a FWB,a person (probably the lady) is regarded as a fvck buddy and the other (probably the guy) is considered a boyfriend without using the word or having to break up.
Ladies just need to understand where in the picture they really are to the guy.0 -
Friends turned FWB is a like playing with a hornets nest! Baaaad idea.
hmmm! seems to me that FRIENDS with benefits should be with FRIENDS??? Otherwise it would be called 'ex with benefits' or 'stranger with benefits' :laugh:
How have I got that so wrong .....:noway:
Well yeah of course, Anna! What I am saying is taking an already made friendship and turning it into a FWB. It would be almost like screwing your sibling.
Ooooo Josh, the way you said my name with an exclamation mark, made me go all tingly!!! :laugh:
I hear what you're saying. There are friends and there are FRIENDS tho! There are friends that fancy each other but dont really see a future together. And there are friends that just don't see each other sexually. The latter would be the sibling type friends, right? :bigsmile:0 -
LOL yes, Anna. Friends With Benefits are indeed "friends" (**** buddy). :laugh:0
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How the heck did this turn into a thread about SWBs? (siblings with benefits)0
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I just don't get it. If I'm really friends with a guy...and I want to sleep with him I think it should be the full meal deal relationship. Otherwise just friends.
Meh doesn't work for me.
Not for me, either. I personally think the concept screws with people's hearts and minds in ways they don't realize.0 -
How the heck did this turn into a thread about SWBs? (siblings with benefits)
It was Josh, he thinks incest is best!!! :laugh: :laugh:0 -
@ Joshua -the-Iron-tall-man :bigsmile: so, are you saying that any female friend you have is like a sister to you? Or do you posess a friend that you find sexually attractive, but you know that a relationship wouldnt work with them? You know this, because you've known them a while as a friend. But still, you find each other attractive, and you think why not? You can laugh together and drink together and enjoy each others company, but you both know where you stand in terms of it never being more than a freind with benefits!
And, of course, you are both single.......
Eh?
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I just don't get it. If I'm really friends with a guy...and I want to sleep with him I think it should be the full meal deal relationship. Otherwise just friends.
Meh doesn't work for me.
Not for me, either. I personally think the concept screws with people's hearts and minds in ways they don't realize.
If you both agree on the concept, then it works fine. it can get messy if one of the friends develops romantic feelings and the other one doesnt :flowerforyou:0
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