work crush
christine24t
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I kinda thought this guy at my work was maybe flirting with me a while back, but tonight, he said, what do you need, snickerdoodle?" That' something you call your grandma right?? Or is supposed to be cute?
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I dunno, I'm not him. But... are you his grandma?
If he asks you that again say "You, pookums" and go from there.0 -
He was trying to be sweet with you.0
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"Snickerdoodle" is kind of awkward, but generally, I think that kind of infantalizing (or elderizing?) is flirty and sweet. I'd give it back to him- and agree that "pookums" would be funny.0
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is he an older fella? I've never even heard of that.0
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is he an older fella? I've never even heard of that.
Haha he is probably 29/30.0 -
He's flirting, albeit in an unusual way. Go for it!0
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Work crushes suck. It's like hell when they fail. You still have to see the person. Going through that now. It didn't even fail just too many outside problems to ever even start.0
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It sounds like he's awkwardly flirting with you. You rarely throw around pet names in a work setting. Be wary that this will be first of many pet names if you pursue it. He is most likely waiting to see if you'll respond with a pet name, as well. Good luck regardless!0
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awww I like snickerdoodle. You should have asked if that was his favorite cookie.0
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He was definitely flirting--go for it!0
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LOL... I am gonna make sure I never ever ever call any woman, snickerdoodle. It's such a strange word. Not to mention it just sounds weird.
Sugar Britches on the other hand!.... :bigsmile:0 -
I'd say it's an odd way of flirting. Based on your posts here though, I imagine you can be hard to approach because your own nervousness around guys you like has to be noticeable to those guys. Find a way to be receptive to any of his cutesy things and go with it. That is, if you're interested in going on a date with him.0
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I think that is an adorable name to call someone. I don't think it sounds Grandma - ish.0
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I'd say it's an odd way of flirting. Based on your posts here though, I imagine you can be hard to approach because your own nervousness around guys you like has to be noticeable to those guys. Find a way to be receptive to any of his cutesy things and go with it. That is, if you're interested in going on a date with him.
I am but I'm quitting in a week so I don't think there is enough time!
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I'd say it's an odd way of flirting. Based on your posts here though, I imagine you can be hard to approach because your own nervousness around guys you like has to be noticeable to those guys. Find a way to be receptive to any of his cutesy things and go with it. That is, if you're interested in going on a date with him.
I am but I'm quitting in a week so I don't think there is enough time!
You will still be in the same general living area though.
It is perfect,none of the problems with work place fraternizing so it is clear sailing. :smokin:0 -
I am but I'm quitting in a week so I don't think there is enough time!
Are you kidding? That's perfect. Makes things less complicated because there are no more workplace dynamics. If he doesn't ask you out, ask him out ASAP.0 -
I am but I'm quitting in a week so I don't think there is enough time!
Are you kidding? That's perfect. Makes things less complicated because there are no more workplace dynamics. If he doesn't ask you out, ask him out ASAP.
Yes, this ^^
Since I know you aren't the 'ask a guy out type' what about a joking approach and say something like "if you ever need someone to vent to about these co-workers (or X problem) here, you know I'll understand, so give me a call, here's my number ... "0 -
I am but I'm quitting in a week so I don't think there is enough time!
Are you kidding? That's perfect. Makes things less complicated because there are no more workplace dynamics. If he doesn't ask you out, ask him out ASAP.
Yes, this ^^
Since I know you aren't the 'ask a guy out type' what about a joking approach and say something like "if you ever need someone to vent to about these co-workers (or X problem) here, you know I'll understand, so give me a call, here's my number ... "
That's actually not a bad idea! I dont know that i could give him my number but i might say something to him on my last day like "good luck with this place! It's been nice working with you! Maybe I'll see you around!" Maybe then he might ask for my number! might be picking up extra work there so I will most likely be working there again but just not on a consistent basis!0 -
Since I know you aren't the 'ask a guy out type' what about a joking approach and say something like "if you ever need someone to vent to about these co-workers (or X problem) here, you know I'll understand, so give me a call, here's my number ... "
As a guy, if a woman did that move with me (no context), I would think she would be interested in me as just a friend, and I would perceive no romantic/sexual attraction from that. However, I always ask out any woman that I am interested in, provided I sense some level of interest on her part. And I am doing things to gauge interest.That's actually not a bad idea! I dont know that i could give him my number but i might say something to him on my last day like "good luck with this place! It's been nice working with you! Maybe I'll see you around!" Maybe then he might ask for my number! might be picking up extra work there so I will most likely be working there again but just not on a consistent basis!
Maybe. He could ask for your number then, maybe not. I have no idea why he hasn’t made a bolder move with you. But if you want absolutely clarity and certainty, ask directly for what you want.0 -
I am but I'm quitting in a week so I don't think there is enough time!
Are you kidding? That's perfect. Makes things less complicated because there are no more workplace dynamics. If he doesn't ask you out, ask him out ASAP.
Yes, this ^^
Since I know you aren't the 'ask a guy out type' what about a joking approach and say something like "if you ever need someone to vent to about these co-workers (or X problem) here, you know I'll understand, so give me a call, here's my number ... "
That's actually not a bad idea! I dont know that i could give him my number but i might say something to him on my last day like "good luck with this place! It's been nice working with you! Maybe I'll see you around!" Maybe then he might ask for my number! might be picking up extra work there so I will most likely be working there again but just not on a consistent basis!
I think you need to do more then just say "I'll see you around" since that would be something I would say to a co-worker that I was friends with that but not care to see outside of work. If you want to see him again, you are going to need to ask him for a form of communication, his number, his fb, anything where you or him would be able to get in contact with each other otherwise you might as well throw your hands up since saying that would not indicate you want to see him again or even like him enough that he would ask for your number (he is not a mind reader). Sorry if this sounds rude, but you need to do more if you really like him before you run out of time.0 -
That's actually not a bad idea! I dont know that i could give him my number but i might say something to him on my last day like "good luck with this place! It's been nice working with you! Maybe I'll see you around!" Maybe then he might ask for my number! might be picking up extra work there so I will most likely be working there again but just not on a consistent basis!
You've failed many times, although you don't remember,
You fell down the first time you tried to walk.
You almost drowned the first time you tried to swim...
DON'T WORRY ABOUT FAILURE....WORRY ABOUT THE CHANCES YOU MISS WHEN YOU DON'T EVEN TRY!!!!!!!!!! :noway:
Sending hugs and kisses, you got this. Go for it!!!!!0 -
You've failed many times, although you don't remember,
You fell down the first time you tried to walk.
You almost drowned the first time you tried to swim...
DON'T WORRY ABOUT FAILURE....WORRY ABOUT THE CHANCES YOU MISS WHEN YOU DON'T EVEN TRY!!!!!!!!!! :noway:
Sending hugs and kisses, you got this. Go for it!!!!!
I love this- it is great advice!!0 -
Oh. You're going to go up to him and say "see you around". How has that worked for you in the past getting someone's number/getting asked out?0
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Maybe. He could ask for your number then, maybe not. I have no idea why he hasn’t made a bolder move with you. But if you want absolutely clarity and certainty, ask directly for what you want.
It's probably because I look like *kitten* at work...work polo and khakis with my hair pulled back...it sucks because I can't make the best impression.Oh. You're going to go up to him and say "see you around". How has that worked for you in the past getting someone's number/getting asked out?
Not very much but I feel this is one of those situations where he could then take the opportunity to make a move, if he wants to. But if he was just being a nice co-worker then whatever I guess I know my answer.0 -
Maybe. He could ask for your number then, maybe not. I have no idea why he hasn’t made a bolder move with you. But if you want absolutely clarity and certainty, ask directly for what you want.
It's probably because I look like *kitten* at work...work polo and khakis with my hair pulled back...it sucks because I can't make the best impression.Oh. You're going to go up to him and say "see you around". How has that worked for you in the past getting someone's number/getting asked out?
Not very much but I feel this is one of those situations where he could then take the opportunity to make a move, if he wants to. But if he was just being a nice co-worker then whatever I guess I know my answer.
Saying kind of shyly and giggly "I`ll see you around" and then after a few seconds the guys runs to catch you and talk as you are walking away is a movie thing.
In real life it is a neutral send off.
At the least give him some sort of personal contact option Christine.
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At the least give him some sort of personal contact option Christine.
Please.
Haha and say "hey, i met you two months ago and this is crazy, but here's my number, call me maybe..."
But seriously, he works in an open area with a lot of other people around. So everyone would see me giving him my number or vice versa if he really wanted to. That is probably why it won't happen. Because everyone would rib him and me, and I don't think he would want to be teased especially considering that he is new.0 -
At the least give him some sort of personal contact option Christine.
Please.
Haha and say "hey, i met you two months ago and this is crazy, but here's my number, call me maybe..."
But seriously, he works in an open area with a lot of other people around. So everyone would see me giving him my number or vice versa if he really wanted to. That is probably why it won't happen. Because everyone would rib him and me, and I don't think he would want to be teased especially considering that he is new.
This is the problem and trust me,I suffer it too...the assumption that it will be negatively received.
First off it is unlikely anyone will know,second there is no reason to believe anyone would tease anyone and lastly who cares,you are leaving so what does it matter.
Honestly,this is just an exercise in excuse making to not be even a little proactive.
The white horse is not coming over the hill Christine,you have to open yourself up,we all do. :flowerforyou:0 -
At the least give him some sort of personal contact option Christine.
Please.
Haha and say "hey, i met you two months ago and this is crazy, but here's my number, call me maybe..."
Oh and btw,that is exactly what you say...it would be perfect.
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This is the problem and trust me,I suffer it too...the assumption that it will be negatively received.
First off it is unlikely anyone will know,second there is no reason to believe anyone would tease anyone and lastly who cares,you are leaving so what does it matter.
My work is very immature lol. Very. Everyone is best friends and teases each other like crazy. And we are all out in the open - we work just feet from each other. It is entirely possible that many people could overhear this exchange. And while I am quitting, I will most likely be back periodically to fill in for people, so I would hate for that story to get around that I gave him my number. I guess I had this idea that he might like me, but I never thought logically until this thread lol.Oh and btw,that is exactly what you say...it would be perfect.
Haha I would laugh too hard to actually get through the whole line!!0 -
So have people been overhearing him call you pet names too? I'm sure there will be some minute in the next week or so where you've got a private moment. Make the most of it
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