work crush
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This is the problem and trust me,I suffer it too...the assumption that it will be negatively received.
First off it is unlikely anyone will know,second there is no reason to believe anyone would tease anyone and lastly who cares,you are leaving so what does it matter.
My work is very immature lol. Very. Everyone is best friends and teases each other like crazy. And we are all out in the open - we work just feet from each other. It is entirely possible that many people could overhear this exchange. And while I am quitting, I will most likely be back periodically to fill in for people, so I would hate for that story to get around that I gave him my number. I guess I had this idea that he might like me, but I never thought logically until this thread lol.Oh and btw,that is exactly what you say...it would be perfect.
Haha I would laugh too hard to actually get through the whole line!!
I am not being snarky but God forbid you take a chance...so much safer sitting in the corner hoping something magical will happen.
Christine,once and for all you are not ugly,you are not some freakishly big Gargantua,you are not a universal joke.
Believing all that has led you to act in ways (sometimes to the extreme) that discourage anyone to try to get to know you and as another poster said became a self fulfilling prophecy.
Forgetting for a moment my age I see nothing in your picture here that makes me go "Ewwww" and no one else,male or female,does either.
Accept that and deal with it,give yourself a fighting chance to realize what it is you hope for.0 -
Maybe have a friend pass him a note and he can check of yes or no for whether he wants to call you?This is the problem and trust me,I suffer it too...the assumption that it will be negatively received.
First off it is unlikely anyone will know,second there is no reason to believe anyone would tease anyone and lastly who cares,you are leaving so what does it matter.
My work is very immature lol. Very. Everyone is best friends and teases each other like crazy. And we are all out in the open - we work just feet from each other. It is entirely possible that many people could overhear this exchange. And while I am quitting, I will most likely be back periodically to fill in for people, so I would hate for that story to get around that I gave him my number. I guess I had this idea that he might like me, but I never thought logically until this thread lol.Oh and btw,that is exactly what you say...it would be perfect.
Haha I would laugh too hard to actually get through the whole line!!
The immature work place does sound like an excuse for not getting out of your comfort zone. Put yourself out there, girl! Don't miss your chance. You can be uncomfortable for a bit and maybe get a date out of it or have comfort and regret later while you're all alone.0 -
Could you email it to him?0
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Could you email it to him?
We don't have work email since we work in a kitchen.
Otherwise that would be an awesome idea! I creeped him on Facebook but I found out his full name via creeping on the work schedule so I am not about to friend him. I am so weird! 0 -
If you're really worried about it, print up a message to all your coworkers that says it's been so nice working with all you blah blah blah and put them in marked envelopes. Give him a more personalized note saying you really enjoyed working with him and will miss his company. Then leave your number and say it would be great to hear from him.0
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I have to say im with Carl on this one. You have to just do it.
You will get an adrenaline rush and think your about to pass out when it happens but that wears off. I PROMISE!
Keep whatever u do simple so theres no room for you to think uve failed.
Hes given u pet names so thats says he is interested in you. please dont take for granted what some women would die to have. Go for it and if your immature co workers tease you let it go. laugh with them. be red. be embarassed. I PROMISE YOU 100%. it gpes away.0 -
Could you email it to him?
We don't have work email since we work in a kitchen. Otherwise that would be an awesome idea! I creeped him on Facebook but I found out his full name via creeping on the work schedule so I am not about to friend him. I am so weird!
Just friend him- what is the worst that will happen? Oh he doesn't accept your friend request, life will go
On and no one will ever know about it.0 -
awww I like snickerdoodle. You should have asked if that was his favorite cookie.
Ditto! Snickerdoodles!
I would have loved it! Haha. Good luck! 0 -
If you want something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done.
^^This is one of my favorite quotes and helps to remind me quite often that life is about taking risks and trying new things. That is what we all want for you here Christine! You have such a support team cheering you on. You just need to pick a method mentioned and be determined to make it known to the guy that you'd like to continue communication even after you leave the job. Be brave and be bold! If nothing comes of it at least you know you tried!0 -
I think you just need to write your number on a piece of paper, walk up to him, hand it to him and say "I think you might need this" on your last day and turn around and walk away. Nobody will have a clue what you're doing, and you don't have to worry about feeling embarrassed because hell, if he doesn't like you, you never have to see him again.0
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I think you just need to write your number on a piece of paper, walk up to him, hand it to him and say "I think you might need this" on your last day and turn around and walk away. Nobody will have a clue what you're doing, and you don't have to worry about feeling embarrassed because hell, if he doesn't like you, you never have to see him again.
This makes a lot of sense. He should get the point that way. If he doesn't communicate with you after this move, he is not into you.0 -
Could you email it to him?
We don't have work email since we work in a kitchen. Otherwise that would be an awesome idea! I creeped him on Facebook but I found out his full name via creeping on the work schedule so I am not about to friend him. I am so weird!
You could ask multiple people for their fb info to keep in touch and include him.0 -
Well I just said hi to him and he ignored me...0
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You sure he heard you? I've unintentionally done that to people before because I didn't see/hear them.0
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Well I just said hi to him and he ignored me...
It is still the workplace,do not expect a "moment" give him your number when you are leaving.
If you never hear from him then so be it.
I was rejected once when a completely innocent statement I made was taken differently.
Got past that awkward moment with her but quietly to myself was WTF? I was not trying.
It sucked but I lived through it.0 -
Well I just said hi to him and he ignored me...
I'm sorry if that's true and he intentionally ignored you. However, my guess is you were so nervous that you were too quiet for him to hear, or he was just busy or the place was loud, because ignoring someone for no reason is very immature.0 -
We were walking past each other and I looked him in the eye and said "hi" and he didn't say anything back.0
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We were walking past each other and I looked him in the eye and said "hi" and he didn't say anything back.
I would bet money that he just didn't notice. I am guilty of this exact thing - to the point where people at work have complained about me being unfriendly simply because I got into "work mode" and don't really pay attention to my surroundings (ex: people greeting me).
You sound like you're copping out. If you're going to do that it's best to just own up to it than to find make believe excuses why you don't want to.0 -
well...last day of work today. Earlier in the day, he saw me and said, "hi, how are you today?". When I was leaving, I went up to talk to another coworker who I've known for years. He was standing right there next to him, and said something like, "oh, it's your last day?" and I said "yes," and then I said, "I just wanted to say that it's been great working with you." He said, "yeah, it's been great too, good luck with everything." I said bye and walked away. So nothing happened. Oh well, but just wanted to update ya'll.0
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