Too skinny is way worse than too fat

catherine4211

So.......this is about the guy I had asked to meet for a drink. The pictures I had seen of him made him look quite chunky. No biggie. So when I walked in I almost didn't recognize him he was so skinny. Too skinny. Like disgusting skinny. It totally turned me off. So I'm telling you guys out there that might not be in perfect shape that you are just fine as you are!!!!!

We got along just fine but there was zero attraction on my part. Part of that is that I'm in love with the ex-non-boyfriend boyfriend. But the skinny thing really bugs me. I swear I could have crushed him. Felt like I hugged my 95 year old grandma. I won't even get started on how much he drank.

oddyogi

Yeah.. I love my men to have a little bit of meat and muscle on them!

disneywm76

I agree. I tend to not be as attracted to slender guys. Now, broad shoulders with a little extra......yummy!

DMZ_1

I'm normal weight, so I don't think any one has ever thought of me as too skinny.

I think the majority of men often prefer too skinny women over too fat women.

Online pictures can be deceiving, which is one of the pitfalls of online dating.

catherine4211

I'm normal weight, so I don't think any one has ever thought of me as too skinny.

I think the majority of men often prefer too skinny women over too fat women.

Online pictures can be deceiving, which is one of the pitfalls of online dating.

This wasn't online dating (I gave up on that YEARS ago).....he's a brother of a co-worker. The pics I had seen were from facebook.

porcelain_doll

I think the majority of men often prefer too skinny women over too fat women.

Based on what I have read in other threads, it seems to be the opposite of this.

TheKitsune6

I think the majority of men often prefer too skinny women over too fat women.

Based on what I have read in other threads, it seems to be the opposite of this.

Actions speak louder than words. Guys can say what they prefer all day long but look at the crazy skinny *****es with boyfriends vs almost any single girl you know (generalization, but keep in mind statistics not totality of a statement)

Duckz1

Interesting... I like 'em tall and skinny. I've had a couple boyfriends who were over 6' tall and around 150-160 lbs. To each her own

dbrightwell1270

I think the majority of men often prefer too skinny women over too fat women.

Based on what I have read in other threads, it seems to be the opposite of this.

Actions speak louder than words. Guys can say what they prefer all day long but look at the crazy skinny *****es with boyfriends vs almost any single girl you know (generalization, but keep in mind statistics not totality of a statement)

If that's the basis for reasoning, I see a lot more rail thin guys with big women than I see fat men with any woman.

TheKitsune6

I think the majority of men often prefer too skinny women over too fat women.

Based on what I have read in other threads, it seems to be the opposite of this.

Actions speak louder than words. Guys can say what they prefer all day long but look at the crazy skinny *****es with boyfriends vs almost any single girl you know (generalization, but keep in mind statistics not totality of a statement)

If that's the basis for reasoning, I see a lot more rail thin guys with big women than I see fat men with any woman.

Sure, but you probably see more slightly overweight men with beautiful women than you see skinny dudes with beautiful women.

DMZ_1

Who you prefer vs. who you actually end up with up can be different things.

shammxo

I've dated really skinny, muscular, and overweight. My guy right now is REALLY skinny. He weighs less than me. I guess I'd like him with a little more meat on his bones, but I like him nonetheless.

I don't think it's fair for men to say women should look a certain way, so I don't want to do that to men. A lot of guys (including mine) have a really hard time putting on any weight. Just as hard of a time as I have losing it. It's a double standard, and I don't want to be a hypocrite.

flimflamfloz

I see a lot more rail thin guys with big women than I see fat men with any woman.

Eh! They do what they can...

jesusHchris

I try to not concern myself too much with what the opposite sex thinks of my body. Operative word here, of course, is "try". I focus more on how I feel about myself when I look in the mirror or hike up a hill.

I've found that there will always be a group of people who like or dislike whatever body type I have, especially when combined with the personality I radiate. Being too skinny might disqualify me from one chick's fantasy while injecting me directly into another. Same thing with being ripped and opening jars with my abs.

farmers_daughter

I agree. I tend to not be as attracted to slender guys. Now, broad shoulders with a little extra......yummy!

Were we sisters in a past life? LOL

TheKitsune6

Same thing with being ripped and opening jars with my abs.

Oh hey, my washer is broken. Help a girl out?

catherine4211

I think that if he had totally knocked my socks off I wouldn't care that he's too skinny.

christine24t

I think the majority of men often prefer too skinny women over too fat women.

Based on what I have read in other threads, it seems to be the opposite of this.

I think men say they would rather have a girl with curves/is bigger but in actually most would rather have a skinnier girl

Mellie289

Yeah.. I love my men to have a little bit of meat and muscle on them!

^Exactly! That's much more attractive.

Most of the men I know like very thin women. There have been some arguments on FB where they have gotten offended that a model who looked anorexic was called that by female friends because they felt like their preference in women was being attacked. I think generally, they like women with curves, but will go for a rake thin woman over one who is overweight, although there are a few exceptions I can think of (again, speaking of MY friends here, not generalizing).

MissingMinnesota

Every person is different in what they are attracted to. I prefer skinny guys over bigger guys.

Carl01

The problem is that no two people see or define skinny or fat the same way.
Hell I bet 90% of all ladies see themselves as "fat" in some way,so no wonder many think guys like rail thin...they view so many others as such in comparison to themselves.

To me Twiggy,the Olson twins,Victoria Beckham etc are what I call rail thin and thus undesireable.

The_Iron

We need some flow charts in this thread.

AnnaPixie

I think the majority of men often prefer too skinny women over too fat women.

Based on what I have read in other threads, it seems to be the opposite of this.

I think men say they would rather have a girl with curves/is bigger but in actually most would rather have a skinnier girl

If that were the case then no person bigger than 'skinnier' would be in a relationship!!! :huh:

JanieJack

I think the majority of men often prefer too skinny women over too fat women.

Based on what I have read in other threads, it seems to be the opposite of this.

I think men say they would rather have a girl with curves/is bigger but in actually most would rather have a skinnier girl

If that were the case then no person bigger than 'skinnier' would be in a relationship!!! :huh:

From what I've observed, most guys prefer the skinnier girl but will take what they can get in terms of balancing beauty, personality, and accessibility.

I, personally, prefer a broader man (I hate the Miss Piggy/Kermit the Frog syndrome) but I'd say 90% of guys who find me attractive are super-thin guys. Seems like the broader guys end up with the thinner women.

AnnaPixie

I think that if he had totally knocked my socks off I wouldn't care that he's too skinny.

That's the perfect point. Once the initial physical (sexual) attraction is out the way (probably 2 minutes later), then the person needs to be backing up any physique with something more!!

You could have the perfect bod and be a total bore! Or you could be overweight and be the best company.

I know which I would prefer :smokin:

JanieJack

I think that if he had totally knocked my socks off I wouldn't care that he's too skinny.

That's the perfect point. Once the initial physical (sexual) attraction is out the way (probably 2 minutes later), then the person needs to be backing up any physique with something more!!

There was one rail-thin guy I met from Match (who looked bigger in his pics) that, through our conversation I developed an attraction for by the end of the first date. It didn't last though- because I caught him in a few dumb lies and that killed it for me. Just some anecdotal evidence that sometimes we can become attracted to a person who isn't our preferred physical type.

catherine4211

Every person is different in what they are attracted to. I prefer skinny guys over bigger guys.

Skinny like when you hug them you feel the bones in their back??? It felt like I was hugging my 95 year old grandma.

La_Amazona

I like lean.. But my version of lean might be skinny to someone else.

My guy now is 6'5, broad shoulders, big wide back, big athletic legs and big arms. To me, he's bigger than my regular lean but I'm a huge admirer of his body now.

Funny thing is to me, usually guys of his build are attracted to petite women (from what I can tell). But Hulk loves my soft parts. So did my lean ex bf. It's been a huge surprise.

toots99

I prefer bigger guys to skinny (I not thin and fit, mind you, but skinny). I dated a skinny guy a few months ago and I felt like I could break him if things got heated. The next guy I dated? Pretty big guy (overweight, not muscular). But I was way more attracted to him.

But like someone else mentioned, I don't care as long as he knocks my socks off.

Mellie289

The problem is that no two people see or define skinny or fat the same way.
Hell I bet 90% of all ladies see themselves as "fat" in some way,so no wonder many think guys like rail thin...they view so many others as such in comparison to themselves.

To me Twiggy,the Olson twins,Victoria Beckham etc are what I call rail thin and thus undesireable.

You're right Carl - I used to think I was fat when I was young, fit and quite thin compared to now. I'd love to have that body again!. Women are conditioned from young to think they always need improvement in things like their weight. The idea of dating a skinny guy makes me feel like I will appear much fatter standing next to him.

Your examples are also what I think of - women who are so underweight, their rib and collar bones jut out of them, and their arms are so thin, it looks like skin over bone with no underlying muscle tone. It looks unhealthy - like they've just starved themselves to a such a skinny state, they've lost so much muscle mass. That is unattractive to me in both men and women. There are thin models, actresses, etc. I also see that don't have that starved look about them, so I'm not against thin women generally - I just oppose when it's taken to an extreme that looks (and most likely is) unhealthy and that is being held up as the ideal for women to attain.

Laura_Suzie

I'm not "skinny" by any means (I don't consider myself fat either though) and I prefer skinny or average sized guys over "big" guys. The only problem with skinny guys is sometimes they can make you feel big...

I wouldn't totally write off bigger guys though. I would date someone a little chunkier, as long as they were NOT unhealthily, grossly obese. For example, when I was a junior in high school there was this senior who sat behind me in study hall. He was over 6 foot tall and easily around 300 lbs. He added me on FB and would message me late at night and tried to give me his number. Eww, no thank you. Not only was he not my type physically, he was also a jerk... anyway I totally got off topic. What I'm trying to say is personality is a big factor and also a little bit of a belly is fine. You don't have to look like an Abercrombie and Fitch model. haha